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Reading through other comments, it seems like your issue is with the porn and not with the masturbation itself, is that accurate? Because masturbation is normal and healthy, unless it's impacting fun…
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A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse. We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon. W…
Suggestions are like Forex signals - doing the exact opposite is where the real money is — I was in a Discord channel with 90K+ designers and every time someone dropped their landing page or website, it felt like getting advice from someone selling Forex signals. Doing the opposite would a…
I got ghosted and I feel blindsided — I (26F) met a guy (26M) 3 months ago who was in every sense of the word my dream guy. We spent 1 week together before he left back to his country. Ever since we have Facetimed every single day, and we…
Website Rebrand and Redesign Advice — First Let me say: I have absolutely no eye for design. If it is more complex than a stick figure, I cant imagine it in my mind. However, I do know of already existing designs that I love and want to r…
Helping my partner — I (40f) looove my partner (36m). We've been together almost 9 months. When he isn't triggered, he presents as very secure. Loving, consistent, communicative, vulnerable, empathetic, self-reflective. …
When does maximising space/reducing elements go too far? — I'm working on an eCommerce site at the moment, and when it comes to the product category pages, I've had some feedback from my senior to suggest that space needs to be used more efficiently. To name…
Feeling stuck between a promo and burnout - advice? — I'm approaching 5 years at my current company (2 years as junior, 3 as mid-level) and am submitting a promotion case for Senior. I won't hear back for a couple months - my director feels optimistic, b…
Should we use Grafana open source in a medium company — I work at a medium-sized company using New Relic for observability. We ingest over 4TB of data monthly, run 20+ services across production and staging, and use MongoDB. While New Relic covers logs, me…
How did you find working in Avada? Would you charge more? — Im creating a site audit for a potential client about some SEO work. The last agency he was with builty a pretty site that doesnt and hasnt shown up anywhere in 4 years its been live. Were going to…
Different Businesses Need Different Content Formats – Here's Why (i will not promote) — Hey everyone! One thing I see often overlooked is the fact that **not all businesses need the same type of content formats**. Depending on your target audience and the type of business you run, the …
Built a fast multi-host terminal log viewer with timeline histogram – looking for feedback — Hey all – I’ve been working on Nerdlog: an open-source fast terminal-based log viewer loosely inspired by Graylog/Kibana, having a similar timeline histogram on top, but designed to be snappy, lightwe…
Kimp or similar design subscription services, what’s your experience been like? — I’ve been looking into design-on-demand subscription services lately like Design Pickle, Flocksy, Penji, and others, and recently came across Kimp. The pricing is much more accessible than what I saw …
Equity with new cofounder and fundraising. I will not promote — I'm starting a tech startup company. Currently outsourcing the tech team to build the app - every tech person I met wanted to be paid cash and wanted to take up to a year to get the platform up and ru…
Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I’m in the process of building an exciting startup focused on **fantasy football** and I’m looking for a **technical co-founder** to join me and help bring this idea to life. The core i…
Is WooCommerce the Right Fit for Your Wholesale Business? — If you're a wholesaler considering WooCommerce for your B2B operations, it's essential to weigh its capabilities against your business needs. Here's a concise breakdown based on insights from Qoblex :…
I need you advise am i a UX Jnr Midwieght or more? — **Hi everyone, I need some advice.** I’m currently a Junior UX Designer (30years old) in the UK at one of the top for new broadcasting companies such a Sky BBC ITV etc. **A bit about my background:*…
How to Build a Site for Both Art and Ecommerce? — Hi everyone, I’m a freelance graphic designer and currently have my portfolio site on Squarespace, which also includes a small e-commerce shop for art prints. I originally chose Squarespace because …
For those of you that run an ecommerce business from home, which insurance company do you use for your Home and Auto? — I had some issues with getting home insurance just because my business is located at my home. Additionally, I'm an Uber driver and that needs to be on there as well. For some reason this complicated…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
Are PageBuilders (PageFly, Gem PageBuilder, etc.) worth it? — Hi guys. I want a unique and custom layout for my e-commerce, and the possibility to build custom pages such as landing pages, unique pages for products, seasonal pages, etc. I saw a few posts from p…
WooCommerce CSS Best Practices with Block Editor — I need advise/help with best practices when implementing CSS for WooCommerce using the block editor. WooCommerce warns against writing CSS based off the block name classes but the current default Gut…
Shopify POS exchanges on discounted items — Hello shopify community, I've been scouring the internet for a solution but no good solution exists. I am wondering how other brick and mortar merchants are dealing with this. This needs to be addres…
Discuss SaaS idea - API wrapper — Hello everyone! I am building a tool that turns *any* API (yours or third-party) into a full SaaS website,. with a UI, user auth, billing, and deploy, in one click. It is a no-code solution, where yo…
UX App Designers... Quick Questions — I've always been intrigued by designers who specialise in mobile apps, whilst I have worked on 2 or 3 in the past; I primarily work on Enterprise and SaaS desktop offerings. So my question is, do you …
Would people pay $5 to protect a restaurant reservation from no-show fees? Testing a micro-cancellation MVP. (i will not promote) — Hi all - I'm working on a simple MVP and looking for early feedback: **Problem**: Some restaurants on Resy and Tock now charge $50–$100 per *person* if you cancel too late or don’t show. Totally fair…
Personalised auto mails for retention — People, have you ever wondered if in Shopify you can set the rough aging/by when the product will potentially end and needs a refill (such as for shampoos, oils) and this will auto trigger mails to us…
POYLANG FREETitle: – Any Downsides I Should Be Aware Of? — Hi everyone, I'm new to WordPress and have just launched a website that I’d like to make bilingual. Here’s what I need: * Only **some** of the pages/services need to be translated; * A **blog** with…
We Fired a Developer But Not Because He Was Bad, But Because He Wasn't Right. Only 2 Legit Reasons to Fire Anyone. (i will not promote) — After building a small team and running a startup for a while, We’ve come to a hard conclusion: There are only two legitimate reasons to fire someone. 1. They are not the right fit for the company.…
Theme Suggestions- simple, visual oriented, for events/non-profit — Hello! I run a small nonprofit that produces low or no cost music shows for the community. Part of our mission is to be as supportive as possible to the creatives "on both sides of the stage"... So w…
Need recommendations : TMS or similar solution for a GatsbyJS site — Our GatsbyJS website (in the works to be migrated soon-ish) is partially translated into 5 languages (French, Spanish, German, Japanese, Mandarin) with just a few pages being translated into 5 other l…
UX/UI for advanced manufacturing equipment is horrible — First time posting in this sub - I’m a manufacturing engineer and just felt like I needed to point out an opportunity for any entrepreneurial UX/UI designers out there. I work in the advanced electro…
How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote) — Experienced founder & CEO here. I'm gonna tell you how my business got straight cash (like literally millions) from the gov and how you can do that too. I've bootstrapped my last german education bu…
docker_pull.py: Script to pull lots of container images in parallel — [https://github.com/joshzcold/docker\_pull](https://github.com/joshzcold/docker_pull) Not sure who needs this, but I wrote as part of my work and this task seems to be lacking from the docker cli or …
What Next? — Question. I've been creeping on this group for a while as I look to possibly start my own company. I think I have a good product idea but it's a large multi piece product that would require a lot of u…
Invoice app that includes COO? — Hey y'all, I'm looking for an order invoice generator app that has the option to actually include the COO (country of origin) of the product on the invoice. Shopify's Order Printer app doesn't include…
Any experience running and managing many locations on POS? Switching from Square and I’ve got questions — Shopify POS as a refreshing breath of fresh air over Square on many points. However, they seem to fall short on some really obvious things. That make me think maybe I’m the crazy one and just don’…
What are some innovations that could work — As the title say what are some kind of new innovative products that you think could work and needs ideas upon. Please share. Like I had one on making street lights with solar battery and air purifier.…
Solo founder here—bootstrapped a travel startup, no bookings yet. Influencer model failed, paid ads feel too risky. What would you do? — Hi everyone, I’m a solo founder of hopmytrip.com trying to build a travel group tour platform—basically fixed-date trips to places like Bali, Thailand, and Vietnam, where people from any country can …
Spending more to potentially make more — It's hard to explain what I do but recently I spent around 2.5K to create a video game on the platform Roblox, the game is doing well and at it's current rate I would make my money back in around a mo…
Do push/pull dynamics happen even when you’re not participating in them? — I (F, 32, originally AP, now definitely more secure) have just gone through a very confusing dating experience. 3 months ago I started seeing this man (34 met on Hinge). He started off very interested…
Automated Texting for Customer Orders — Looking for an automated texting service that isn't bloated with unused features. Basically we are a small family farm that texts customers on any given day to collect orders. Would like a service tha…
[Product Survey] Help us understand your auth/DB platform choices (Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, Clerk, and more) — Hi everyone! 👋 I’m a Product Manager working with a developer friend on a new backend-as-a-service solution, and we’d love your feedback. Whether you’ve used Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, Clerk, Authn …
Just Launched My Dev Tools Website - Looking for Your Feedback! 🚀 — Hey Reddit! I’m excited to share my new website with everyone here! It’s designed to be a one-stop destination for all your dev tool needs. I know there are similar sites out there, but I’ve often fo…
My clients says my store looks closed from the outside.. — I run a high-end furniture store and some of my clients said that the store looks closed from the outside. My store needs to look elegant so I can’t buy some cheap « open » neon-sign. Do you sugg…
What every DevOps needs to know about DevSecOps — The FREE open-source dynamic DevOps roadmap content is extending more and more. One recent contribution was adding more content to the "growth" section of DevSecOps. ![breaking down security silo](ht…
Looking for Shopify Apps to Sell Products from Other Shopify Stores — Hi everyone! I'm looking to expand my Shopify store's product offerings by selling products from other Shopify stores. Ideally, I'd like to integrate their products into my store seamlessly, handle …
Source things from china — Hi everyone, if anyone needs help to import things from china to any country, kindly DM me!! Im a small business owner and would like to help other businesses who want to get things from china but are…
Financial struggles for Small business owners — I'm conducting a survey to understand the financial struggles of a small business owners and their needs for fractional CFO services. Your feedback will guide the development of tailored Fractional …
>If we believe with perfect faith that our desire is already ours in the subconscious mind, why would the subconscious mind not just assume the act has already been finished in the past rather than wo…
Love the list of basic needs in the first question. I’ve never seen it put like that before, and have always questioned myself. Now I know for sure. This is great. Thank you.
You completely missed the point. You don’t need all the woo to get money, which is important in this world. Get your money first. Then once you have more than enough to last you a life time, you c…
Just found this sub, I know I'm a little late commenting. One thing that I think can be added in relation to how emotional neglect can cause PTSD: People think of PTSD as something that is a threat …
>Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using sle…
Respectfully, this is what happens when you only focus on material aspects and totally disregard the "spiritual woo woo." I'm not saying everyone ever needs to be enlightened, but there's a reason why…
Reddit has been very clear that commercial apps like Apollo, RIF, etc will not be whitelisted on accessibility grounds. Seems like you’re the one not telling the whole story > “We’ve connected with …
Aww im sure you would be able to find a partner that love you despite your autism. My ex is autistic too. He broke up with me and didnt even explain the reason behind the breakup. It hurts so much. …
DevOps evolves around 3 key principles: 1. Automation 2. Monitoring 3. Integration The rules are simple: # Automation Don't ever do anything by hand. The only allowable manual action is configurin…
None of it *should* stop you from moving forward and healing, but for some people it still nevertheless does. I'm sorry, I know you said this more than half a year ago but I'm going through my situati…
Shut up ew that's so loser energy. He needs to get over his loser ex, idc if he's a man, he needs to get out there, because his pathetic ex loves playing head games with him. Stop discouraging ppl fro…
No way bro, he needs to keep making posts and keep on crying about his ex. That is clearly the best strategy to get over her.
If you left your ex then don’t go back because you’ll look like a chump… admit your mistake, move on and grow… if your ex dumped you then face it… you got dumped… examine yourself, grow and move on… …
Try therapy. Just remember that therapy can take a long time and be expensive. If you haven't already in the meantime, try looking for parenting classes. Or try parenting forums, if a specific p…
I reread what the OP wrote. They haven’t even started the training yet. She will continue to have these negative thoughts because they are doubts and unbelief from her SM. And she will continue to fe…
It’s so funny how you act like you are an expert at this, but your profile tells a complete other story. A quick look at your profile shows someone who constantly asks for reassurance, needs help unde…
That’s nice to know that it works for you also in third person point of view. :) I was trying to say with it, that it’s easier to make sure to not merely think of it, but get the feeling of it being t…
Thank you. I will ask the op to insert these links into her other post. They are a good addenda and are a beneficial part of the record. We may make her post a part of our index as well. It is a very…
She’s the one that started it. It is true that it’s preventing her from progress, and she needs to know it. As of 2025, there is no irrefutable proof. If you’re going to call something “daft,” call …
Don’t know for DA, but I’m FA and I do this. Usually it has nothing to do with the person themselves, I’m just tired and cannot sustain that level of engagement long term. I’m also super sensitive to …
Thanks for all of the above. I can relate in that I may on occasion turn inward a bit when I’m super tapped out socially or like physically don’t have the reserves left, but I socially exhaust a lot l…
I'm FA and I identify with this. I value my alone time, and generally speaking, consider myself an introvert. A recharge period is definitely necessary, not just after a social interaction but at the …
Hey there! It’s great that you’re so self aware. I would say (since you asked for advice!) is that you could work on your anxious type behaviours, otherwise they tend to just push us avoidants away ev…
I get where you are coming from. I feel like though, at least for me, it can be a false sense of security trying to overanalyze things. It is masking the fear of being rejected if I ask a partner some…
>I have had conversations with my partner over time about attachment styles, and they eventually determined that the descriptions of Avoidant Attachment sounds awfully familiar to them. They have star…
This can be an avoidant thing, but it's also very much an introversion thing. How do you feel about these periods? Do you feel a sense of whiplash, that you're suppressing your needs to meet theirs?…
I align with this. My bf and I don't text all day (usually a phone call at night and a few texts during the day if anything significant or interesting happened) and we see each other once to twice a…
I disagree with comments saying it’s a “vulnerability hangover” bc that implies they shared too much too soon in a way that crosses their own boundaries. This just sounds like recharging their social …
It is extremely difficult to *start* the healing process while in a relationship as you would be required to balance other factors (is the other party willing to work too? What is their level of healt…
Fearful avoidant is much harder to fix than dismissive avoidant, because you have the problems of the anxious and the avoidant. To fix the anxious - I only know about this in theory/hypothetically si…
Now THIS is the kind of conversation we need to be having. As a fearful avoidant who leans both anxious and dismissive avoidant I have to say I love this sub but I’m getting tired of the victimhood co…
Avoidants might seem less irritating, but they have far less chance of ever being happy. They don’t want to change. They think their partner having basic needs is “needy.” They blame the anxious partn…
Oh, no. Sorry, that's what I thought I was responding to is what DAs say about AAs. My (admittedly still in my hurt/bitter phase) take is that AAs say "please consider my needs I've told you about" …
Then the question becomes- why are you still in a relationship that’s not meeting your needs?
Irritating the ones you love, polysecure (because it deals with a lot of attachment education), women who love too much, polyvagal theory and exercises, legit anything to do with different therapies— …
I respect how politely you've addressed this. But please see the other perspective too: 1. Most people are told by their avoidantly attached partner that they're clingy when they're just trying to n…
I do understand and I can agree it’s not a behavior that can cultivate a long standing relationship with someone who is secure or anxious. But the same can be said about other attachments aswell (no…
'Anxious attachment people can and often do cross boundaries to soothe their anxiety, disregarding their partners very real very understandable need for personal space (regardless of if they are avoid…
I never said they tried, but who wants to find out that someone else emotional regulation depends on your constant presence. Again I’m talking about anxious attachment because secure people are secu…
Look for mediation. Communicate your needs - do they know you don’t like texting and prefer to take things slow? Often people are actually open to meet your need if you tell them what it is…
Love the question!! You don’t need a relationship to grow, that’s the beauty of it (you can but it will be slower, depending on what kind of partner you end up with) You could try to explore being mo…
I think your question is valid. You showed vulnerability by posting it here. I’m sorry so many adults in this sub choose to use their inside voice when responding. I think it would be different if we …
And so we are able to appreciate, give compassion on both sides AND understand our own needs. It works in every way! Well played!
Yes! And communicate our needs and be able to hear theirs. Aka, being healthy instead of toxic 😆
One thing I'll say is that in the early stages of dating you aren't actually seeing a person's natural "energy"; you're seeing their energy when they're flying blind under the pressure of courtship an…
Interesting that you have this experience and your therapist is suggesting that you’re now leaning anxious. I wonder how often this happens with DAs that are becoming secure, such as yourself. In m…
One way to avoid over reliance on a therapist is to internalize a new set of secure parents that fulfill your needs and re-wire your internal map. The protocol, if you want to learn more about it, is …
I don't think it's hate, it's just a 'ok that's done now' door close moved on. Heidi Priebe on YT (video: avoidant blindspot) talks about the idea in her videos about avoidant behavior of having the …
I think what others are saying unless someone says I hate you, then it's based on your feelings. Feelings are 100% valid but not facts. I'm anxiously attached and felt many people have disliked me ov…
I'm pretty sure my ex bf was FA. He claimed he was anxious but the trauma he experienced and his behaviors leading up to our breakup kind of point to FA. He broke up with me for just shutting down. Li…