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Struggling with the idea of "creating" someone's feelings for me

Struggling with the idea of "creating" someone's feelings for me — I’ve been reading Nevilles "Awakened Imagination" lecture and there’s a part that’s been sticking with me. He tells a story about a woman who imagined receiving loving letters from her estranged famil…

r/nevillegoddardpost4/7/2026
START HERE !!!

START HERE !!! — # Step-by step short guide r/Sbreggo So you just found this sub but you don't know anything about "The Gateway Experience", follow these steps and read all the suggested documents to avoid asking the…

r/gatewaytapespost1/19/2024
FAQs about r/AnxietyHelp

FAQs about r/AnxietyHelp — Hi guys, One of the mods here suggested creating a FAQ page for our subreddit to help eliminate confusion. **Why was my post removed automatically?** It wasn't! It has been sent to our mod queue fo…

r/Anxietyhelppost3/25/2025
I've been out of the coding loop for awhile. What is the best static website framework / scaffolding / generator that works with VSCode? I don't need react or any other bells and whistles. I'm just testing out creating various HTML/CSS styled elements.

I've been out of the coding loop for awhile. What is the best static website framework / scaffolding / generator that works with VSCode? I don't need react or any other bells and whistles. I'm just testing out creating various HTML/CSS styled elements. — I am really just trying to play around with HTML/CSS to create various client-side styled elements. For example, one project is just to create a more enticing email signature. Another project I am cre…

r/web_designpost4/14/2025
How does one go about creating these sorts of animations?

How does one go about creating these sorts of animations? — Sorry in advanced if this is a stupid question. I am such a noob when it comes to this sort of stuff. I came across this website ([https://animejs.com/](https://animejs.com/)) which has a really cool…

r/web_designpost4/18/2025
Lessons Learned from Recreating a Styled Dialog

Lessons Learned from Recreating a Styled Dialog

r/web_designpost4/22/2025
Am I crazy? Growing from a single freelancer to an agency with a team

Am I crazy? Growing from a single freelancer to an agency with a team — Hi everyone - quick background: I'm a freelance web designer/developer who's been doing this thing now for almost 15 years. I've done it under a studio name, but it's always just been me, with some oc…

r/web_designpost4/23/2025
Re: multi-page forms (like intake, application forms, etc.). Designed to collect PII (personal identifying information) before showing later pages of the application/form. The website has no preview pdf of the entire application. Any way for site visitors to preview page 2, etc. without giving PII?

Re: multi-page forms (like intake, application forms, etc.). Designed to collect PII (personal identifying information) before showing later pages of the application/form. The website has no preview pdf of the entire application. Any way for site visitors to preview page 2, etc. without giving PII? — Any known workarounds? Any known hacks or online tools to preview the entire form without creating an account using PII ?

r/web_designpost4/25/2025
Is there a better way to create posts that actually match your brand?

Is there a better way to create posts that actually match your brand? — As a solo builder, I’ve been working on a small idea I think might be useful — especially for startups and B2B teams trying to stay consistent with branded content on instagram. The problem: Creatin…

r/digital_marketingpost4/30/2025
Are UX Engineer jobs unpopular?

Are UX Engineer jobs unpopular? — I work as a Sr. UX Engineer at a global company, we are creating an internal Design System UI library. I work with code (React and SCSS) but also as a UX UI Designer on other projects in other teams. …

r/UXDesignpost5/2/2025
Is there a UX role in existence that doesn't involve so much documentation?

Is there a UX role in existence that doesn't involve so much documentation? — So I come from a background in design. I was a bit of a generalist before—branding, logos, layouts, art direction—and while that was fun, it started to feel fragile. Like I was always one trend away f…

r/UXDesignpost5/2/2025
My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote

My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote — Hey All, A few months ago, I shared my story here (original Reddit post in comments) about starting an IT consultancy business in the Netherlands with a friend right after graduation. At that time, w…

r/startupspost5/2/2025
How did you find working in Avada? Would you charge more?

How did you find working in Avada? Would you charge more? — Im creating a site audit for a potential client about some SEO work. The last agency he was with builty a pretty site that doesnt and hasnt shown up anywhere in 4 years its been live. Were going to…

r/SEOpost5/3/2025
City links

City links — I've done a fair amount of searching and reading on this topic but I've not seen any examples of creating links for cities on a website that is one page. I run a business that provides repair work a…

r/SEOpost5/3/2025
Why would startup hire me as an intern? I will not promote

Why would startup hire me as an intern? I will not promote — Hi guys, I recently joined a startup as a marketing intern. My focus is mostly creating video content for their TikTok and youtube. In the LinkedIn post, I saw that they had a lot of interest from…

r/startupspost5/3/2025
To all e-commerce store owners: What tool do you wish existed to make managing your store easier?

To all e-commerce store owners: What tool do you wish existed to make managing your store easier? — Hello to all e-commerce entrepreneurs! 👋 In the fast-paced world of digital commerce, we know there are many daily challenges — whether it's managing orders, handling customers, shipping, analyti…

r/ecommercepost5/3/2025
What is your social media content creation workflow?

What is your social media content creation workflow? — Im running an ecom business with 700k plus revenue. Ive never did much on social media or video content creation. There is a lot of value in creating explainer videos for potential and existing custom…

r/ecommercepost5/3/2025
From AI Creative Studio to AI Influencer Platform – Would You Follow One?

From AI Creative Studio to AI Influencer Platform – Would You Follow One? — Hey everyone, After 6 weeks of feedback and testing, we’ve officially pivoted from an all-in-one AI creative studio to a focused AI Influencer Studio. We realized most users weren’t just generating …

r/digital_marketingpost5/4/2025
Why do people in LOA communities ALWAYS go to Reddit for their problems when JM advised against that?

Why do people in LOA communities ALWAYS go to Reddit for their problems when JM advised against that? — Hello everyone. I've been into JM's (and NG's) teaching for quite some time. I enjoy it thoroughly and dipped my toes into the subreddits, so hence why I'm here instead of the NG subreddit since I wo…

r/JosephMurphypost5/4/2025
🧵 UI/UX Designers & Developers — Do You Actually Buy UI Kits?

🧵 UI/UX Designers & Developers — Do You Actually Buy UI Kits? — Hi all ???? I'm a designer creating some Figma UI kits (dashboards, mobile applications, and landing page templates spring to mind) and I'm conducting some market research prior to launch. I'd appre…

r/UXDesignpost5/4/2025
🧵 UI/UX Designers & Developers — Do You Actually Buy UI Kits?

🧵 UI/UX Designers & Developers — Do You Actually Buy UI Kits? — Hi all ???? I'm a designer creating some Figma UI kits (dashboards, mobile applications, and landing page templates spring to mind) and I'm conducting some market research prior to launch. I'd appre…

r/web_designpost5/4/2025
Question about 404's

Question about 404's — Explain to me like im 5: I just do not understand why google shows me 404s when the URLs listed in GSC as 404s were never posted anywhere. I accidentally created a duplicate URL once, which then mad…

r/SEOpost5/5/2025
What are good examples of “How will you acquire users?” i will not promote

What are good examples of “How will you acquire users?” i will not promote — From what I hear, YC advice kinda scoffs at paid ads — the logic of “you need to own your acquisition” makes sense to me, but I wonder what’s the answer they’d love to see? Offline events? Founder pe…

r/startupspost5/5/2025
Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote)

Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I’m in the process of building an exciting startup focused on **fantasy football** and I’m looking for a **technical co-founder** to join me and help bring this idea to life. The core i…

r/startupspost5/5/2025
Advice on Partnering with UK Freelancers for a Marketing Agency – Need SEO, PPC, Content Writers, and More

Advice on Partnering with UK Freelancers for a Marketing Agency – Need SEO, PPC, Content Writers, and More — I’m in the process of starting a marketing agency and looking for some advice on where I can partner with skilled freelancers (based in the UK) for the following roles: • SEO/CRO Specialist: Someone …

r/digital_marketingpost5/5/2025
How to Build a Site for Both Art and Ecommerce?

How to Build a Site for Both Art and Ecommerce? — Hi everyone, I’m a freelance graphic designer and currently have my portfolio site on Squarespace, which also includes a small e-commerce shop for art prints. I originally chose Squarespace because …

r/Shopifypost5/5/2025
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

r/ecommercepost5/5/2025
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

r/Shopifypost5/5/2025
Grouping products for a gift box

Grouping products for a gift box — Looking into creating a gift box. Would like to source from different suppliers and looking for a company that offers packaging and fright forwarding. Any suggestions are welcome Thanks

r/ecommercepost5/5/2025
using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads

using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads — I recently led a Reddit content repurposing campaign that got over **4 million impressions** and **hundreds of new user signups** for my client. Here's exactly how I did it. # Why Reddit, and why use…

r/digital_marketingpost5/5/2025
Warning: Aggressive Tactics from Paperstack – A Cautionary Tale for Store owners seeking funding

Warning: Aggressive Tactics from Paperstack – A Cautionary Tale for Store owners seeking funding — Hey fellow builders, I want to share our recent experience with [Paperstack](https://paperstack.ai/), an e-commerce financing provider, to caution others who might be considering their services. We …

r/ecommercepost5/6/2025
Most commonly used technologies

Most commonly used technologies — I use Laravel + Inertia.js + vue to create websites, the websites I've created are usually with this stack since it's more of a platform then a website like a landing page. My question is for creatin…

r/webdevpost5/6/2025
ChatGPT Plus vs Claude Pro – Which is Better for a UI/UX Designer?

ChatGPT Plus vs Claude Pro – Which is Better for a UI/UX Designer? — Hi everyone! I’m a UI/UX Designer looking to subscribe to either ChatGPT Plus or Claude Pro, and I’m trying to figure out which one would be the better fit for my workflow. I want to use the AI mai…

r/UXDesignpost5/6/2025
Where does one begin with an website and app based business

Where does one begin with an website and app based business — As the title mentions, I've been working on a business plan that I have been cooking up for some time now. The business would be a service / listing based website that would have to be integrated with…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
Are there any free themes or plugins that facilitate creating layouts and styles for custom post types?

Are there any free themes or plugins that facilitate creating layouts and styles for custom post types? — I am trying to build a website that is very simple in terms of content and styling. The only catch is that it has a custom post type. I created the custom post type and fields using the free version o…

r/Wordpresspost5/7/2025
Looking to Start Small Scale PCB Assembly/Manufacturing. Where Should I Begin?

Looking to Start Small Scale PCB Assembly/Manufacturing. Where Should I Begin? — Hi everyone, I’m planning to start small scale PCB manufacturing with a budget of $100k. I have experience testing circuits on breadboards and assembling Drone flight controllers and LoRaWAN systems,…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
Combining MPA and SPA?

Combining MPA and SPA? — I'm creating an application for a construction company, enabling them to report about different sectors of the construction process (tender procedure, quality assurance, safety checklist, complexity,…

r/webdevpost5/7/2025
Struggling with content ideas for your next LinkedIn Post? Drop your keyword, and I’ll give you 3 content ideas you can use today.

Struggling with content ideas for your next LinkedIn Post? Drop your keyword, and I’ll give you 3 content ideas you can use today. — Creating content is exhausting—not because writing is hard, but because knowing what to talk about is the real challenge. Drop your niche and keyword in the comments, and I’ll reply with 3 fresh…

r/digital_marketingpost5/7/2025
Everything to learn about Headless wordpress and integrating react

Everything to learn about Headless wordpress and integrating react — Hello fellow devs, I'm looking to expand my skills as a full-stack developer and dive into React.js, Tailwind, and related tools. I know WordPress can be used as a headless CMS, but I'm a complete be…

r/Wordpresspost5/7/2025
Upload 1000 images with excel the same title at once in a single post.

Upload 1000 images with excel the same title at once in a single post. — I’m building a website where I’ll be uploading 1,000 named images. I want to automate the process of creating posts such that: • The post title matches the image name • The featured image is automat…

r/Wordpresspost5/7/2025
Getting SaaS app rolling

Getting SaaS app rolling — Hey guys, So after about 1 yrs and a 1/2 I am finished building my first SaaS and a high level MVP done. Also my first round funding is secured. Now to be clear, I have done marketing, gathering pro…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
Add Border to an Inverted border-radius

Add Border to an Inverted border-radius — You loved this inverted border radius generator, but it lacked support for borders, so I added this feature where you can give it a border that works as a background image, which means it can accept c…

r/webdevpost5/7/2025
Small Business Case Study: How We Grew Our Instagram & TikTok with an AI Social Media Assistant (No Ad Spend!)

Small Business Case Study: How We Grew Our Instagram & TikTok with an AI Social Media Assistant (No Ad Spend!) — **Post Body:** Hi everyone! I co-own a small business (a boutique cafe + online store) and wanted to share our experience using an **AI “social media assistant”** to grow our Instagram and TikTok. W…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
How can I let devs update their lower environment terraform while protecting production environments?

How can I let devs update their lower environment terraform while protecting production environments? — I know the title is a rather open ended question, but let me lay out where I am now, in the hopes of getting ideas on how to do this better. For a given service, we'll have one directory for environm…

r/DevOpspost5/7/2025
Strange Issue with WPBakery Page Builder in Editor

Strange Issue with WPBakery Page Builder in Editor — 3 Admins on same WP Site (site is up to date). Editing or Creating new Page -> 1 Admin sees WPBakery Page Builder Header etc. - the others don't. In Browser Dev Console nothing to see. Tried it via …

r/Wordpresspost5/7/2025
Best ways to acquire leads?

Best ways to acquire leads? — Hey guys I run a digital media production agency which specializes in creating videos for businesses. And I’m trying to figure out outside of network events and ads how do I find potential clients wha…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
Best ways to acquire leads?

Best ways to acquire leads? — Hey guys I run a digital media production agency which specializes in creating videos for businesses. And I’m trying to figure out outside of network events and ads how do I find potential clients wha…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
What's your marketing strategy?

What's your marketing strategy? — If you want to supercharge your sales, you need a robust sales funnel to convert prospects into buyers. And this includes creating killer content which will help move your prospect down the funnel. …

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
Seeking honest feedback on an early mockup for a sustainable toothbrush brand

Seeking honest feedback on an early mockup for a sustainable toothbrush brand — Hey everyone! I’m working on creating a sustainable toothbrush brand and I’m still in the early stages. The name, logo, and product design aren’t final yet. Before I move forward, I’d love to hear yo…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
AI is creating some crazy new verticals and opportunities

AI is creating some crazy new verticals and opportunities — Knot (known for their card-on-file and transaction data APIs) just dropped a preview of something called AgenticShopping It’s an API that lets AI agents — or any app, really — actually complete purch…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
Tried all the steps to bootstrap, without funding. I will not promote.

Tried all the steps to bootstrap, without funding. I will not promote. — I will not promote. So I spent a lot of time in the local world volunteering. All with the spoken language of "here's how you get your startup funding". So I've helped with community projects, other s…

r/startupspost5/7/2025
If you are new here..

>If we believe with perfect faith that our desire is already ours in the subconscious mind, why would the subconscious mind not just assume the act has already been finished in the past rather than wo…

r/JosephMurphycomment5/31/2020
If you are new here..

I am so excited to be here! I plan to make my way through the index exactly as instructed. I stumbled here by accident, and it turned out to be exactly what I needed in the moment (and exactly what I …

r/JosephMurphycomment9/30/2020
'Getting into DevOps'

This month I focused on releasing videos that focused on tools for Kubernetes such as Kustomize and Helm. Here are the videos: Kustomize: [https://youtu.be/spCdNeNCuFU](https://youtu.be/spCdNeNCuFU)…

r/DevOpscomment11/1/2022
Analyzing Astrology (Natal) Charts

Late reply, but FYI for anyone reading this from here on...every two hours will change your rising sign and rotate your whole chart another 30 degrees. So while all the planets will still show up in t…

r/AstrologyChartSharecomment1/18/2024
My arguments against manifestation

1. Mental thoughts don’t become physical reality. Beliefs do. Repetitive mental thoughts turn into beliefs. 2. People in your world reflect your beliefs. Perhaps upon meeting someone you had an origi…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/23/2025
Before you make that post about some avoidant ex ask yourself……..

Yes I agree it’s an important topic. My issue with how you’re addressing it is that you’re creating some sort of behavior hierarchy that simply doesn’t exist. I’m not AP, for the record. I am in the…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/23/2025
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago.

Not sure why people down voted you. FA stands for Fearful-avoidant aka a disorganised attachment style. People who have this attachment style likely grew up in emotionally/physically abusive household…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/18/2025
Cannot stay attracted to dating app matches

Limerence had me creating elaborate imaginings around our connection (which in reality was quite formal) and who they were as a person. In reality, there really wasn't a connection, this person isn't …

r/attachment_theorycomment4/29/2025
Jira time logging for DevOps

I inflate the story point values of every task by about double usually, and don't do anything with those tasks that produce timestamps that contradict those story points. I also break projects down to…

r/DevOpscomment5/3/2025
Virtualization is hurting my mental state.

Start focussing on the higher level things. Where something runs isn't where you get your sense of accomplishment it is from the broken thing no longer being broken, or creating something new. I sta…

r/DevOpscomment5/3/2025
Devops not using Docker (or Podman), what does your stack look like?

The ostensible answer is to just go back in time to before docker --- create VM images, run them in something like proxmox, and configure with something like Ansible on startup.  At some point you'r…

r/DevOpscomment5/5/2025
Looking for marketing strategy tips for our startup

I’ve been deep into building marketing systems lately, and one thing that really helped me was creating a set of AI prompts to make launch planning, SEO prep, digital marketing , dev and code way too …

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/6/2025
Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search

This is super impressive! I relate to that frustration with fragmented UK property data soooo much. I'm actually working on automating my own property investing workflow (tho not nearly as sophisticat…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Anyone here navigating entrepreneurship with ADHD? How do you manage focus, procrastination, and distractions?

Oh man, I feel this post in my bones! As someone with ADHD who built a whole business helping other ADHD entrepreneurs (Scattermind), I can tell you you're definitely not alone. The "100 ideas but ca…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
💾 Why You Should Consider MinIO Over AWS S3 + How to Build Your Own S3-Compatible Storage with Java

More interesting would be how to correctly set it up in a (K8s) cluster, especially given that it's recommended to have exclusive usage of the node with the MinIO workers. Not trying to slander your …

r/DevOpscomment5/7/2025
People who are making real money on Roblox, what do you do?

I’ve seen a few folks do well on Roblox by creating engaging, unique experiences. It’s all about understanding the audience and iterating fast. If you can tap into what players love, the platform offe…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search

This is super impressive! I relate to that frustration with fragmented UK property data soooo much. I'm actually working on automating my own property investing workflow (tho not nearly as sophisticat…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Anyone here navigating entrepreneurship with ADHD? How do you manage focus, procrastination, and distractions?

Oh man, I feel this post in my bones! As someone with ADHD who built a whole business helping other ADHD entrepreneurs (Scattermind), I can tell you you're definitely not alone. The "100 ideas but ca…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
What I learned building a quoting system for a construction company doing $10M+ a year

I used to work for a company that is exactly this. Excel did all the quoting. Worked fine especially because all of the trades use their own format/layout for project quotes. I once gave a machine le…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Talk to my CIO or nah?

The first thing your cio is going to do is message your ask what’s going on. When he doesn’t know he is going to ask you what’s going on. You’re just creating a headache, the size of which varies wide…

r/DevOpscomment5/8/2025
Fellow DAs, do you sometimes experience people taking it personally when you need space to be by yourself?

Your comment along with the following elaboration below is really eye opening to me. I have a very hard time creating that space for myself in a healthy way and still be reassuring and loving towards …

r/attachment_theorycomment5/10/2025
Fellow DAs, do you sometimes experience people taking it personally when you need space to be by yourself?

And THIS is why I just say I have to work, work on, work out, .....its simple, no one reading into it, or creating their own childhood stories out of my normal turn toward silence upon exiting. 

r/attachment_theorycomment5/13/2025
Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA

The demonization of avoidant people really annoys me. I'm fearful avoidant so I see all perspectives in this and yeah avoidance is hurtful, neglect is painful, creating space through fights is toxic a…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/20/2025
Excessive Rumination

Love this comment. I’ve found it to be so true. For a regular ex I was with for nearly a decade and we had a fairly normal/stable/secure attachment to each other, maybe a little bit dependent on each …

r/attachment_theorycomment6/2/2025
Manifestation coach hired me and fucked me over

Time to move on, dude... You're lucky you got the money you did. A lot of talented creatives never see a nickle from their work... at least in this lifetime. But you have, and obviously what you've do…

r/JosephMurphycomment6/25/2025
FA Ex who semi-ghosted me sent me this message 2 months later

Seems like a person who got spooked and having escaped unscathed has calmed down, reflected, and realized that perhaps their anxiety was irrational. And that is a good indicator that when times get to…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/1/2025
How to manifest for beginners

a huge game changer for me was getting obsessively specific about exactly what i wanted - not just "i want a better job" but detailed visualizations about walking into my dream office, the conversatio…

r/Manifestationcomment7/15/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

I hear you. And appreciate what you're saying. Thing is, DA's have a bad habit of ignoring an expressed need from a partner or hearing it as "neediness" or clinginess. Expressing a need can be seen …

r/attachment_theorycomment7/17/2025
This is what happens when your FA ex comes back

I just broke up with an FA 3 weeks ago. After 4 years of a hard pattern playing on repeat. The only difference is improvements were being made but mostly because I was working really hard to heal my o…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/9/2025
DAE feel like they want to be in a relationship but don’t really know how to? Intimacy problems?

I can see your point with a lot of this. As someone who's worked a lot on myself emotionally, it feels like if I see someone else hasn't quite done the work or isn't emotionally and mentally there, th…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/13/2025
Mass produced emotional security/intelligence?

Yes, I replied to another comment above with links to articles and further discussion on this topic. You made a unique point that other commenters haven’t pointed out about the racial and gender base…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/14/2025
I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been.

Truly incredible. Your outlook on life and on yourself is amazing. I’m inspired by the work you’ve put in to creating the life and the mindset you want. Thank you for sharing!!

r/HealMyAttachmentStylecomment8/17/2025
Women I’m dating is afraid I’ll lose interest when I learn who she really is. Seeking FA perspective.

In my possession, I have a lot of antique guns passed down from family members. Like the Derringer my great grandmother carried as a traveling nurse in the early 1900's. And the 38 special her daughte…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/18/2025
What makes an anxious attached person feel loved?

Though as I can guess from any other attachment style (or even mental health issue/relational pattern in general) every person is different, I imagine clarity and communication are key here. I would o…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylecomment8/19/2025
Help me to recognise my attachment style please!

FA's can really lean into DA and bail when true intimacy is on the table. Committing to a relationship can really freak them out. ***To an outside observer***, FAs look like they can discard just as e…

r/attachment_theorycomment9/4/2025
A little look into how fearful avoidants operate (aka, how one of my relationships ended - twice - because I was unaware of my patterns)

That makes sense. What is confusing for me is how FAs know the difference between something like core value differences and if it’s FA tendencies creating reasons why there isn’t a connection. The …

r/attachment_theorycomment9/7/2025
Anxiety only triggered in romantic relationship, how to manage it?

This is a great question. I was in therapy for 10 years and also went to countless coaches and therapists. There are a handful of things that actually helped me significantly: 1. Creating deep, meani…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment9/10/2025
Does anyone else feel like they cannot truly love? All I know is limerence and anything beyond that is excruciating

You are unconsciously putting distance between yourself and others and it's tricking your brain into thinking love isn't possible. You probably need therapy to learn to be vulnerable, as avoidance sys…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylecomment9/18/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

What you are experiencing is limerance; this involves idolising another or a relationship because creating a fantasy in which you are happy and can control ( because it's not reality) feels safe. The…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment9/21/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

What do you want out of this? That's the starting question. This person said they didn't want a relationship? Do you want a relationship? This person has free access to you whenever they like, how d…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment9/21/2025
Practicing acceptance while anxiously attached?

I had to read your post about this same topic in another sub to get more context, so that way I could provide more specific advice. A lot about what you are dealing with is perspective and the narr…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment9/22/2025
The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment.

My partner is FA and I am a DA leaning earned secure. He definitely brought out some things in me that I had yet to address. We lived together for 1.5 years. Much of it was tumultuous. I moved out aft…

r/attachment_theorycomment9/27/2025
A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic.

There are a lot of people who don't understand trauma and vulnerability.  Then there are people who have some understanding but do not understand how to interact in an appropriate way that is empathet…

r/experiencerscomment10/1/2025
Any support groups out there for preoccupation with dating?

I would also be wary of relying too much on support groups, as they can become dysfunctional if not managed well. Before this sub became moderated, it basically functioned as an echo chamber where unh…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment10/7/2025
How to be comfortable in new, developing relationships without devaluing them for not being as deep as a past relationship (phantom ex?)

This is probably true, I just don't think I'll ever be ready if I don't start speaking to people and creating new experiences. I don't necessarily mean dating when I say meeting new people, even frien…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylecomment10/7/2025
How to deal with triggering situations

You’re really doing great - this is just so hard! I’m gonna say something that might sound counterintuitive and blasphemous, but I hope you’ll stick around to read my long winded explanation of why 😅…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment10/9/2025
How to soothe myself when they say they aren't upset.

How long have you been married? If you know he can be relaxed or at ease and his resting face is serious looking (which I imagine is the case for most people), why do you need additional reassurance? …

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment10/13/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

I think that you are more attached and trauma bonded than not. And that is why you are having trouble letting go of him. You are afraid of being on your own. However, that is also what you need for yo…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment10/15/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

When we are undergoing a tough time and have a lot of stress it is super hard to see the positive sometimes. That is normal. Sometimes we have to make sure we made space for ourselves to grieve whatev…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment10/16/2025
Finding proof that you were right to be anxious

Here are some CBT exercises worth trying: Cognitive Restructuring:  Identify automatic negative thoughts and challenge them by looking for evidence for and against them, considering alternative expl…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment10/22/2025