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I am working as an Officer in Govt of India with a "perfect" secure life, but my soul wants to drop it all for the Himalayan rivers, mountains, Yoga. Am I alone? — I am writing this from a busy city. I have a very secure, well-paying government job. By society's rules, I should be perfectly happy and satisfied. But whenever I find a quiet moment, my mind travels…
This is a support sub. Be kind to each other. — Almost everyone who comes here is here because they are going through a very painful and difficult time. We're not all at our best. If you go into someone's topic, remember that they came here askin…
Can Manifestation Really Help You Get Full Marks in an Exam If You Only Wrote Part of the Answer? — Hey everyone, I have a question that might sound a bit out there, but I’m curious to hear if anyone has had a similar experience. I recently took an exam where I only managed to write answers for ab…
[Showoff Saturday] Indoor football arena website made in html and css and 11ty static site generator. No frameworks. Nearly perfect page speed scores. Just showing what’s possible with only the fundamentals. — Here’s the site https://thefootballfactorynj.com The biggest problem we had to solve was consolidating all the dozens of pages they had for each age group and camp or league to sign up. We made the…
5 Best SQL Books for Web Development - JV Codes 2025 — Welcome to the [SQL Books](https://jvcodes.com/category/free-books/sql-books/) section on [JV Codes](https://jvcodes.com/)! If you’re starting with SQL or want to strengthen your skills, you’re in the…
Cannot stay attracted to dating app matches — I've never been in a relationship but I've been working on myself a lot and trying to put myself out there to find love. And I've just noticed a pattern of mine. But I just keep losing interest or ge…
Anyone up to date about what's happening with TikTok? — I recently started a new venture (media publishing company) that would be a perfect fit for promoting content on TikTok. The MVP is almost finished and I’m looking to start posting and funneling my a…
How do I put together a multi-product design system as a sole designer? — Hi all, my UX design journey has been chaotic but I suspect that’s normal. I was in visual/web design for about 8 years then 2 years ago I got my first UX role (after trying to pursue and study UX f…
Why am I losing keywords? — I'm a bit lost. For the past 6 months I have been working on improving the rank of my website. When I first started, I just left an agency that wasn't doing a great job. When I switch from them, they …
Can we all just take a moment to appreciate how awesome Shopify is? — Over the years, we've tried countless solutions to see if they could replace Shopify for us. WooCommerce, Magento, ClickFunnels, Convertri, hell even SquareSpace. This is only served to make us appr…
What are the best channels to promote your product this year? — What are the best channels to promote your product this year? I know every product and audience are different, so there is no perfect answer. But what would you guys say are the best channels to be a…
Client has disappeared from map pack for target keyword ("More Results" button missing, only top 3 displayed) — ISSUE: I have a high profile client, with a competitive brand, authoritative website & highly optimized GBP, of which they have dozens of real locations, including this one. I have been working with t…
Description liquid block not working — Im trying to fix this error where the shopify API doesnt seem to work when I add a description liquid block. All the other block seem to have proper code and work perfectly fine. Please dm me out of t…
Voice-to-text recs for sales professionals — Happy Monday killers! Hope everyone's crushing their quota this quarter. So, I've been in sales for about 5 years now, mostly SDR roles, and I'm starting to feel it. My wrists are *screaming*. All th…
I made $32 after 16 months of coding. Was it all a waste of time? — Over the last 16 months, I’ve done something that sounds cooler than it really is: I built a SaaS. In my free time, at night, on weekends, while everyone else was at the beach or watching Netflix, I …
Unique Field Guard For ACF — https://preview.redd.it/a99i8tsrl5ze1.png?width=2632&format=png&auto=webp&s=837f17d2a06d91e3e0a14803dbefe7e1c4f897aa Hey WP family! I recently built a plugin I’ve been working on that solves a headac…
Proud of my results as a non expert and want to share and say thanks! — I posted about my SEO efforts about 5 months ago and I had such a warm response from everyone that I kind of wanted to provide an update. I had both shared my results and asked for advice on next step…
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My current case study - Instagram Automation - is working! But how to make money? — I have a company that is doing quite well and I often have time left over. During this time, I try my hand at various case studies. This time it was Instagram's turn. I had often seen videos about Mak…
Solo founder here—bootstrapped a travel startup, no bookings yet. Influencer model failed, paid ads feel too risky. What would you do? — Hi everyone, I’m a solo founder of hopmytrip.com trying to build a travel group tour platform—basically fixed-date trips to places like Bali, Thailand, and Vietnam, where people from any country can …
How to get the perfect job — Hi there, My biggest dream is to get the perfect job in the perfect city. But I don’t have a specific job nor a specific city in mind, I juste want what is best for me in my career. So can I simply …
I made a Chrome extension to fix my broken sleep schedule — I’ve been working on my Chrome extension called [LateControl](https://chromewebstore.google.com/detail/latecontrol-bedtime-block/pmbngcejicfbdbofhbkpknpkhmanemml?utm_source=item-share-cb) that basical…
Offering FREE Virtual Admin Help to Small Business Owners (Inbox, Research, Socials & More!) — Hey amazing business owners! I’m Bella — a dedicated and detail-obsessed Virtual Assistant with a heart for helping small businesses stay organized and thrive. 💕 Right now, I’m offering FREE servic…
Semrush 7 days free trial: how hard is it to avoid payment? — Hi, long story short: I'm applying for a new job and I really need to use some SEO tool to perform a case study. I will need to use it only for a week max, since I have to complete the case study in a…
This Jetpack bug is so frustrating — Exactly what the title says. I have been with Wordpress for about a year and a half. Great platform for blogging. It's not perfect but I really have nothing major to complain about when it comes to t…
Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…
This is what happens when your FA ex comes back — This is my personal experience for those who are curious. Of course everyone will be different but I thought it might help those who are waiting or wishing (APs I'm talking mostly to you) Firstly the…
DAE feel like they want to be in a relationship but don’t really know how to? Intimacy problems? — I mean in terms of intimacy. When I think about being in a relationship, the concept of having someone in my corner that I can cuddle with, do things with, nurture and support and generally love—that …
I regressed so much this year — This year has been brutal since the beginning. Every single aspect of my life increased my anxiety. Multiple health issues in the family, some of them still ongoing and very serious, financial concern…
I think I'm in the process of healing, but it hurts so much. Feeling very forgotten and abandoned tonight — I truly recognize and see how much I've grown and how far I've come. I have so much self awareness, gotten good at soothing myself, talking to myself, even managing anxiety attacks. It's not always pe…
This situation is too messed up — Hi everyone, I (20F) really need some guidance about my SP (19M). We’ve been on and off for the past 2.5 years, and our relationship has always been very messy constant fights, unnecessary arguments, …
How do you stop feeling of needing to be perfect? — I have no problem getting dates, but things always seem to end after 1-3 months. Sometimes, it was my decision to break up or it was theirs but I didn't disagree. But I've had guys dump me when I thou…
I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
Do fearful avoidants "split" or "idealise" and then "devalue" when triggered? Or is it more likely to be a sign of something else? (Eg BPD/NPD?) — I am curious about whether "splitting" is something that is an FA behaviour or if it's a separate issue associated with other mental health disorders. As an FA, do you feel yourself "idealising" or p…
For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…
Both best friends got engaged — I (27F) have never been in a relationship and struggle to form emotional attachments at all. I've gone on dates and forced myself to keep seeing a guy because he's perfectly nice and there's nothing w…
For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…
A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…
Mission success (progressive goal structure for social media growth) — Hi everyone, I just reached my first success story which was reaching 10k followers on TikTok. I used the progressive goal structure process and initially started with 5k and then moved to 10k. Li…
Found out he has a wife back home. Now what? — Went on a couple of dates with this guy (31M) who travels to my country every few months for work. Told me he’s single and hasn’t been in a serious relationship for the last 3 years. Dates were good, …
Should I meet up with my ex? — Back in November 2024, I went on a couple of dates with a guy from my friend group, “Frank” (41M now). Looking back, it’s obvious to me that he was a rebound, but I genuinely didn’t realize it at the …
Avoidant Attachers ONLY: What makes an online group a safe space, in your opinion? — The goal of this sub is to hold a safe space for the group of people who use avoidant attachment strategies that are overly dehumanized and villainized elsewhere. The opposite of the YouTube, TikTok, …
Avoidant wins! 🎉🎊 — Meant to put this in thr weekly vent but it's kind of late now. It's amazing what consistency of safety can do to your nervous system. So the main reason I have no real friends is because I fear the e…
The Shift at Age 30: Did you feel a stronger connection to your Ascendant or your Sun sign as you got older? — There is a common belief in astrology that we grow into our Ascendant sign as we get older, especially after our Saturn Return. Over the years of studying and observing birth charts, I've seen so many…
Do zodiac compatibility charts actually work in real relationships? — I have been curious about zodiac compatibility charts and how muchthey matterin real relationships. Many astrology sites talk about certain signs being perfect matches while othersare challenging. Fo…
Her body😫 — Weird confession and I promise I’m not a misogynist. I really miss her body more than anything right now it was LITERALLY PERFECT You guys have no idea. I feel like I won’t have another baddy like h…
The Cheat Code to the Universe — After 5 years of meditating and studying this, I have been unable to disprove that there is a Cheat Code to the Universe and that is to Relax & Be Nice in all situations. I would like to discuss this …
Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…
Do you think we’re all in the same physical reality? — Or are we just communicating from other dimensions via the interwebs? The interdimensional webs? Some of this reality seems perfectly suited for my experience. Songs, synchronicities, etc. it all seem…
“My father always wanted to be the corpse at every funeral, the bride at every wedding and the baby at every christening.” - Alice Roosevelt Longworth — Written by Alice Roosevelt about her father, Teddy. I feel like this quote perfectly captures the dynamics of having an nParent. Whenever sympathy, positive attention or adoration is being doled out …
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hey! thanks mention this video, I just checked it out, or actually still am, 45 minutes into, not finished yet. not at all slick, nor perfect, however is some useful content.
Hi, I’ve been lurking for a couple weeks now and finished my first reading of POSM at this sub’s suggestion last weekend and The Feeling is the Secret not long after. The concept is completely underst…
>If we believe with perfect faith that our desire is already ours in the subconscious mind, why would the subconscious mind not just assume the act has already been finished in the past rather than wo…
Yep! Practice makes perfect. Deep relaxation is important. You have to relax and go to sleep, consciously. It's generally recommended to do it during a WBTB phase. That is, attempt it after 4-6 hours …
you can train your body where you can actually move around and not just lay there , it takes about 1 or 2 months to perfect it took like 1 months for me , if you do this , then you will also learn ho…
Yea I can’t believe that 8 months ago I would have killed to get my ex back. Yeah no thanks . Very happy with myself and my life and the stars aligned perfectly for that child to leave my life. Univer…
Best advice EVER. Thank you, yes, we are all flawed ...in relationships, esp Break ups, the parties both act like victims...sheesh, none of us are perfect.
Astral projection was always a part of me even in my youngest of days. Falling asleep trying to wake myself up. With time and I must confess it Keeps perfecting in me..I have died and was defibrillate…
Astral projection was always a part of me even in my youngest of days. Falling asleep trying to wake myself up. With time and I must confess it Keeps perfecting in me..Decades ago I died and was defi…
It worked out. I reached out when I felt ready to but not because I wanted him back but because I finally realized my wrongs and wanted to own up to them. He isn’t perfect but I felt better equipped f…
I broke up but she didn't want to get back. It's my fault but she wasn't a Saint either. Immaturity on both ends. I have paid for my mistakes in heartache and tears. I hope you get the person who ch…
Agree. This looks different for everyone and no one is perfect or does everything right every time during this process. Give people a break- unless they ask, you don’t have to open your mouth before…
per checking The most stable marriage model verified by PYTHON: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FKtw-PiQH2A](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FKtw-PiQH2A) It seems the most stable marriage is to find …
Singular they when you don’t know the gender of the person in question is perfectly grammatical. As to the second point, I concede.
It's because it's not about those details but about immersion into the scenario. Someone can have a mental argument in there without seeing other people. They followed the argument because of the imme…
Another thing that you can do is umbrella affirmations. They are more general: something like: my life is amazing, i am living my best live. everything in my life is perfect. Basically they imply tha…
what has happened to me, is not that, but it was test delayed or cancelled or something, so my improper studies was ok, and got another chance. so in my opinion, I would not focus on outcome you desc…
Agreed. I try not to be swayed by how it was received by a person and read into the intent of the post. But it's not a perfect science and we all have f/t jobs and lives and such.
Yes, the moments before falling asleep and waking up have you naturally in your alpha state, but they're not recommended because they can disrupt your sleep (nightly method) or lead to inconsistency (…
In the index it states that your desires will come to you in a way that seems perfectly natural, as if it would have happened anyway. So with that in mind it would be hard to give proof of the LOB.…
This is a bad 'technique' if you want to call it that. It turns the LOB's practice into a value system. That will distort and ultimately destroy you. The LOB is a law of physics and does not depend …
Hey I understand what you are saying. I’m with you. It’s a battle of who is more damaged. I look at it this way. No matter what the DA or AA has done, both attachment styles are insecure. Digging to f…
I love listening to music and analysing the attachment style the song is coming from. Since learning about attachment theory I analyse it in music, films/TV, personal relationships. I find it fascinat…
It absolutely can. Also can I just say all hats off to you, that is such a well reflected and intelligent post. Well done. I'm so proud of you how you kicked those people out. >Have any of you exp…
Oh, this is a cool topic, there is nothing cooler than the fucking time that is chasing us. I was just in the middle of my first mission related to a new job. At that time I was already quite burnt…
I think the idea that you can sniff out red flags like a bloodhound after a bad relationship is largely untrue. People lie. They present perfectly to you in the beginning. The insight you gain from a …
FA here. All of my romantic interests have ended in a fiery blaze outside of my most recent with another avoidant. Practice being present and breathing. Learn to communicate your needs and wants. Take…
Well, I could read several books on attachment theory and the words made sense but I couldn’t put it into practice. I was an Anxious Preoccupied and reading about how I had a fear of failure, rejectio…
i met my now husband on a dating app. “the wild” is a really hard place to meet people these days. most people who are looking for love are on dating apps, including people you meet in “the wild” that…
By ‘phantom ex,’ I mean that the most recent crush is serving as an idealized image of someone they can never have, which makes it easier to compare others to this unrealistic standard. It’s common in…
i had similar requirements and decided on nomad : https://developer.hashicorp.com/nomad/docs/job-specification/scaling nomad seems to be perfect alternative if you don’t need cnis, pv, pki and hundre…
That take hits harder than most AI doom threads. >“In most non-tech organizations, internal dev and sysadmin is like janitorial services…” And that’s exactly why LLMs don’t have to be perfect, they …
You apply as much as it makes sense for the people and time. Making those decisions for now while maintaining a long view is an important part of DevOps. It's a process that introduces people into th…
Oh man, I feel this post in my bones! As someone with ADHD who built a whole business helping other ADHD entrepreneurs (Scattermind), I can tell you you're definitely not alone. The "100 ideas but ca…
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Man, this post hits SO hard. Running a business is absolutely brutal, and I think we need more honesty about the real toll it takes on founders. I've gone through some of these exact same experiences…
Oh man, I feel this post in my bones! As someone with ADHD who built a whole business helping other ADHD entrepreneurs (Scattermind), I can tell you you're definitely not alone. The "100 ideas but ca…
Waterfall in all it's forms is a problem. Hand off between teams are never smooth. DevOps principles recommends integrating all stakeholders in the process. An isolated software developer building a p…
Lol I actually understand perfectly. I have an anxious attachment and the tnought of being abandoned is just as terrifying to me. And actually no, I wouldn't do the same thing bc I'm not avoidant.
This is a very interesting experiment 😅😅 Please don’t discourage OP. I’m def following him to see how things pan out. I personally think he should eventually talk about therapy with his gf. I also…
Honestly, yours is the best comment here. Online pop psychology has REALLY distorted what secure attachment is. To some, it’s some sort of stoic perfection where your actions must always match their i…
I don’t think there’s any reason to leave if you’re happy. More just don’t expect things to be perfect. Recovery is a journey. I had anxious attachment and consider myself secure now, but not eating o…
Wow that's like a perfect song to represent avoidant... "I want to feel the same as you, but I don't"
In a perfect world that's how it would play out, but usually, someone gets hurt.
You don’t need to fix anyone or stay with anyone who hurts you. But what does attachment style have to do with whether it’s “in someone’s nature to hurt you”? No one is perfect and everyone hurts peop…
I literally felt the same, and so needed a second opinion. Here's what Claude Opus 4 had to say (after copy pasting it): Why does this reddit post feel like an ad? My spidy sense is tingling: Yo…
Attachment issues aren't medicated: source I work with people with insecure an attachment. Psychologists/ therapists don't prescribe medications anyway, at best they can give you a referral to a psych…
While I agree with the idea of having empathy for others, that empathy should also extend to ourserlves. If someone is unaware and hurting us, we still get hurt. I think at the end of the day, we ha…