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Being on disability has helped me heal so much faster

Being on disability has helped me heal so much faster — I've felt quite bit of a guilt applying for disability and gaslighting myself that it's "not so bad" and "I keep taking money for people who actually need it" while i kept being in a constant deep pai…

r/CPTSDpost4/8/2026
19 F how do i be less codependent and seeking of external validation

19 F how do i be less codependent and seeking of external validation — I am not a very busy person as I am still seeking work and not yet able to go to uni so I spend a lot of time by myself or with my friends or boyfriend. im not sure if im codependent towards my partn…

r/Codependencypost3/9/2026
For those who have accepted / semi- accepted being alone... what are you filling your time with now?

For those who have accepted / semi- accepted being alone... what are you filling your time with now? — I have semi-accepted that there's a chance I will not find the type of person who fits my life. I'm not saying I deleted the apps ...the apps are still there, but no match does not make me feel sad …

r/datingoverfortypost3/17/2026
This sub is making me really sad

This sub is making me really sad — I have my own fair share of problems but reading here makes my problems seem not so bad at all... When i read here about people that have witnessed their parents murder somebody and such stuff, its j…

r/CPTSDpost4/4/2026
First Connection After

First Connection After — Not quite divorced yet, 9 months into a 12 month waiting period, but had my first new emotional connection recently. Man it has fucked me up. While I think I have been ok with the divorce for a while …

r/Divorcepost4/8/2026
it's been a few weeks since

it's been a few weeks since — I had to split from my husband of almost 14 years. He had stopped loving me quite a while back and I got tired of trying to reignite his love for me. I don't think that it was possible but it didn't s…

r/BreakUpspost4/13/2026
DAs, do you find that you avoid things in wider aspects of life, not just relationships?

Let me preface this by saying there's a lot of overlap to all these labels we give ourselves. That said based on current attachment theory I'm FA-leaning avoidant becoming more securely attached. I …

r/attachment_theorycomment11/30/2025
I feel so alone

Learning to love myself was very difficult for me. Thankfully, I also have a therapist who calls me out and really pushes me. The first 5 months were difficult, but it started getting better each week…

r/Divorcecomment3/11/2026
"No one is coming to save you" Yeah, I know, because I saved myself.

So don't dig. Rest a bit. It's not so bad down here. Theres...uh dirt...and cute worms...and sometimes a butterfly floats overhead. I'm not sure what happened so I'm not confident telling you that y…

r/CPTSDcomment3/14/2026
For those who have accepted / semi- accepted being alone... what are you filling your time with now?

Original copy of post by u/c6h12o6ph: I have semi-accepted that there's a chance I will not find the type of person who fits my life. I'm not saying I deleted the apps ...the apps are still there, …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/17/2026
5th house stellium yet unlucky?

I think your Saturn in Leo in the 1st house (I always use whole sign system) may counteract your 5th house placements. Yes, Sagittarius is expansive and it's connected to optimism, but Saturn in the 1…

r/AskAstrologerscomment3/22/2026
Lucid Dreaming competition announcement

It's not so bad after you get used to it. Relic of the old internet :)

r/LucidDreamingcomment3/23/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 24, 2026

Hey man, I've been there. After 5.5 years of being together with someone, being alone scared me shitless. But let me tell you, leaving me was the best thing my ex ever did for me. Turns out it's not s…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/24/2026
Divorce is Finalized BUT… WTF is wrong with me?

The issue is that you have no respect for yourself. You're ok with her walking all over you. You let her have her cake and eat it too. For years. And now you still are. You've gotten used to bein…

r/Divorcecomment3/25/2026
Is constantly being able to lucid dream considered uncommon?

Ooh never thought trauma could cause it. Interesting.. would make a lot of sense for me as well, along with underlying conditions lol. Its not so bad.

r/LucidDreamingcomment3/29/2026
You cannot fix them - you are not special

Sorry for asking but this seems relevant - what'd he do? Also - it feels very relatable. I noticed how my ex treated her ex, sure he turned out to be a pos but there were some pretty inexcusable or d…

r/BreakUpscomment3/30/2026
Chemistry on first date but no energy

Do not force yourself to date. If it feels like a chore don’t do it. I see so many men like you fall into a trap to just settle with first woman who attaches because as you said you just miss your old…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/2/2026
Have you ever dumped someone you really love?

TLDR is its complicated, and if you want to read a fantastic book on abuse, its causes, and how to spot the warning signs instead of this rambling, read “Why does he do that” by Lundy Bancroft. The bo…

r/BreakUpscomment4/3/2026
I’m afraid to go back to my therapist

It's possible that your therapist has become a conditioned anxiety cue. You saw her when you were deeply depressed, so seeing her again may bring back memories of those awful depressed feelings. If th…

r/therapycomment4/4/2026
Can someone help me decipher what Saturn is doing in my chart?

Saturn is doing quite a damage, in your natal chart ( as usual). Essentially the position in the The third house is not so bad, but the main thing is that he opposes your Mars from the Capricorn, and…

r/AskAstrologerscomment4/5/2026
Wife asked for divorce in January, three months trying to reconcile then received a text yesterday morning.

Maybe she thought someone was better out there, went to find out only to find it’s not what she expected so now she thinks maybe you’re not so bad after all.

r/Divorcecomment4/5/2026
My Mom Kept Killing Our Pets

Yeah, my parents started getting us pets when we were around 5ish or so. No matter what I did, they’d always turn up dead via “mysterious” circumstances that weren’t so mysterious once I was older and…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/7/2026
Personal and thread updates, observations, selfies and photos, and other small shares HERE this week, please.

That’s not so bad. It’s where are you from? Oh I live in town, no where were you raised? Oh in Indiana. NO. Where did you come from? I was born and raised in Indiana and then I- NO WHERE ARE YOUR PARE…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/8/2026
Looking for advice regarding my marriage

Regarding your “marriage counselor” Would it be ok if a boyfriend beat his gf and it’s not so bad if he stopped after marriage? Cause they are saying the same thing.

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/8/2026
How do I (35F) tell my dad (70F) we want to severely limit time with his wife (70F)?

My dad’s ex was a bit like this, not as bad, but the very self centred and dominant personality was unbearable over time.  However, it was the price we had to pay for a relationship with him. I guess…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
I 18F want plastic surgery for chronic pain, but my parents 47F, 59M are against it

Your own child's comfort and well being < Having a huge boobs. If they wanna distance themselves... Maybe that is not so bad idea.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
I have a demonic entity attached to me and I don't know what to do anymore.

Something I found that weakened a demonic presence I once had in my apartment was to turn it into a joke. Instead of fearing it, I learned to laugh at it. During one of our final face-offs, it reveale…

r/energy_workcomment4/10/2026
Is my (29 F) BF's (31 M) Witching Hour Sex-Pest Alter Ego Something Worth Tolerating?

100% sometimes I'm like this and I hate it but my girlfriend likes it and doesn't care so it's not so bad in my case. I can wake up in the morning and not remember a thing, sometimes it feels like a …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/12/2026
I asked 20 shifters what finally worked for them and here is what they told me

But does reality shift only works when you are asleep like it feels you are in a nightmare but you can move around like a lucid dream but you keep changing to new places teleportation sometimes worse …

r/realityshiftingcomment4/13/2026