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Curious about “episodic engagement” — anyone relate?

No it's not a boundary at all for me and same for most avoidants I've known. It's only annoying if it's so much when I'm not answering that it's an overwhelming pile up. Or if it's a lot of "are you o…

r/attachment_theorycomment1/21/2026
How do you move past genuinely anxiety provoking stimuli

How do you move past genuinely anxiety provoking stimuli — No matter how much healing I try to do on my own this is the issue I always come back to. I can get out of my head and stay secure UNTIL something happens that is genuinely, objectively anxiety provok…

r/AnxiousAttachmentpost4/5/2026
Nmother treats me like she's a clingy girlfriend.

Nmother treats me like she's a clingy girlfriend. — I constantly feel like I am never safe around my mother, and that I have to be her parent (grounded, able to control my emotions, realistic, etc) in order to prevent her from losing her mind with anxi…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/9/2026
Opinion?

Opinion? — yesterday I wrote to my mum to remind her about my child's birthday as it seemed to me she forgot, which she did. I've been reading a lot of Pete walkers work recently about narrcasistic parents, defl…

r/CPTSDpost4/13/2026
Ending a 1-year relationship: Self sabotage or gut instinct?

Probably not! Thank you for sharing—are you ok? I can’t imagine adding abuse into the mix

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/4/2026
My partner’s 18-month cough is affecting our relationship but she refuses to discuss it

*I* have a persistent cough, and I have had it for over a decade. My wife had many of the same inclinations as you. While well meaning, most were not very helpful. On a high level, I can tell you tha…

r/relationshipscomment3/12/2026
r/relationship_advicecomment3/16/2026
Am I expecting too much after the worst time of my life?

It’s been 2 months. Why are you twisting yourself in knots over an alcoholic who gave you an STD? Are you ok?? I know it’s rough out there, but single is better than this. He’s not trying to see yo…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/21/2026
I found my new therapists old racist twitter account.

Again….what? > 1. a woman who is a schoolteacher especially in a rural or small-town school 2. a person who exhibits characteristics attributed to schoolteachers. Are you ok? What are you even talk…

r/therapycomment3/25/2026
My boyfriend (39M) threw his bag at my (33F) face, refused to apologize "because he thought I would block it", then stormed out to leave after I said I just wanted to be alone

My relationship with my husband has a playful bullying component, and we have accidentally hurt each other over the past 25 years. And then we've taken responsibility, apologized and learned from it t…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/28/2026
I can't tell if it's maturity, cynicism, or apathy

Girl are you ok? Attacking someone as a mother because they’ve had some bad relationships is really low.

r/datingoverfortycomment3/31/2026
Fantasies about being rescued?

God I always imagined a super specific scenario where for one day of the year, your mental traumas would show up physically. So people who are verbally abused at home would appear broken and bruised. …

r/CPTSDcomment3/31/2026
r/relationship_advicecomment4/1/2026
How do you move past genuinely anxiety provoking stimuli

Text of original post by u/Musician-Kind: No matter how much healing I try to do on my own this is the issue I always come back to. I can get out of my head and stay secure UNTIL something happens tha…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment4/5/2026
r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/9/2026
My (22F) boyfriend (26M) got very upset when I unexpectedly started my period

"Hey Babe. Do not worry. Are you ok? yes? alright. let's just change the sheets and go back to bed. I'll treat you to whatever you're in the mood for in the morning." ONLY CORRECT ANSWER!

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
Contacting the affair partner?

She gave me her phone to look through after confessing. The fucking guy had snapped her it was unread still. Saying something like hey I haven’t heard from you in a little while are you ok? I replied …

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/11/2026
r/Psychonautcomment4/11/2026
Question for the ladies on FB dating

Hey are you ok? I mean related to your ER trip.

r/datingoverfortycomment4/12/2026
I made it 47 days of no contact. Then I texted him last night. Biggest mistake of my life.

What does lesbian dv relationships and divorce have do with “men don’t change” ?? I never said men don’t fall in love.. are you ok? You just deflected. But I’ll humor you. There’s a lot of reasons wh…

r/BreakUpscomment4/12/2026