The Happiness Trap

It's great you have self-awareness, that's a big step! In FAs, deactivation can come from both abandonment and engulfment triggers. It may be good to think about what goes through your mind before you…

DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…

This was a very volatile week for me, with several important new insights. Context: I'm DA (40M), on a healing journey for 4.5 months now, my aim is to reconnect with my wife (41F) who is FA, togethe…

I didn't do any therapy, but I discussed my situation a lot on Reddit and answered many questions about my experience as a DA, which helped me a great deal in terms of understanding myself. My discuss…

This is very familiar to me,even though I don't do formal therapy. I also notice the feeling of connection/rupture now and the associated mood swings, even though my mood was perfectly stable before m…

„The Happiness Trap“ and „Self Compassion - the antidote to shame“