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19 years. 11 years no contact. 1 year of healing — f (42) & f(39) TL;DR: 19 years ago I met a girl (Cassandra) in a chatroom. We had an intense on-and-off situationship for \~7 years — romantic and flirty when it was on, sweetly charged even when pl…

How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …

This is a support sub. Be kind to each other. — Almost everyone who comes here is here because they are going through a very painful and difficult time. We're not all at our best. If you go into someone's topic, remember that they came here askin…

Multiple dreams/goal at the time — Hi everyone, im new here. I work the book Psycho-cybernetics for almost 2 years and last week i bought POSM and i LOVE it, i almost finished it and will start re-reading it. My question is, since i h…

Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading — # 6th Kill: $20,000 Money Mission **Mission**: To make $20,000 from futures trading **What I achieved:** I made $20,000 from futures trading **How long did it take:** 5 and a half months **Backgro…

Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs? — My (FA) therapist and I (lol) may have noticed a pattern with my partner (DA); after an increased amount of quality time together (compared to our usual 1+ times per week), or increased amount of mess…

Can we talk about how bad the current Shopify Admin UI is? — How has this continued to be a thing, and how did this get approved internally? The Shopify Admin UI is a complete mess. It's genuinely hard to believe this shipped — and worse, that it's still the c…

Am I crazy? Growing from a single freelancer to an agency with a team — Hi everyone - quick background: I'm a freelance web designer/developer who's been doing this thing now for almost 15 years. I've done it under a studio name, but it's always just been me, with some oc…

Helping my partner — I (40f) looove my partner (36m). We've been together almost 9 months. When he isn't triggered, he presents as very secure. Loving, consistent, communicative, vulnerable, empathetic, self-reflective. …

What parts of digital marketing are most valuable to learn in 2025? — I'm gonna begin learning digital marketing (as I'm already doing non-digital marketing) but I don't feel like (and don't have enough time & energy to) learning all kinds of it, I mean for instance SEO…

Anyone up to date about what's happening with TikTok? — I recently started a new venture (media publishing company) that would be a perfect fit for promoting content on TikTok. The MVP is almost finished and I’m looking to start posting and funneling my a…

Tired of UX advice accounts that never show their own work.. — I’m a product designer and I post my work on Instagram and Linkedin. Lately, I’m getting tired of all the design accounts with thousands of followers that just post tips, rules, or “ do this, not that…

Validate an idea for me - a web page recording chrome extension — Couple of years ago there was this extension called Nimbus, people used it take video captures of websites. Since it was hard to capture a smooth scrolling view of a website by just scrolling down and…

Why am I losing keywords? — I'm a bit lost. For the past 6 months I have been working on improving the rank of my website. When I first started, I just left an agency that wasn't doing a great job. When I switch from them, they …

Minimal or No Design Emails Will Almost Always Outperform Designed Emails — For most ecom owners, either spending the time yourself or paying a professional to intricately design each of your emails has to be one of the worst ROI decisions possible. I'm not exactly sure wher…

What will it take? — Seriously… What does it take to land a UX role these days? My wife is graduating with her masters in UX from a good program but it seems that the industry is evolving and everyone is making it seem …

Freelancers – the only person that can evaluate your pricing is the buyer (not Reddit) — *(TL;DR at bottom)* Questions like this pop up on this subreddit every few weeks: > How much should I charge for a basic website? Or: > Is $500 for a single-page Figma design a good price? ...and…

How to Wreck Your Career: a cautionary tale from someone who has 5 years of experience.. — Context:- I am a 31 year old UX designer with a masters degree in industrial design from one of the top design schools here in India. I have almost 6 years of experience on the paper of which I hav…

how to push article from 2nd to 1st page — hi i wrote an article 2 days ago and searched for the keyword with incognito ,found my site on the second page no15 i almost did everything for on page SEO what else should i do? thanks

Do you guys make money? — I have been web developing since 2022 and I saw almost no opportunities at all for a job or any freelance work. How do you guys actually make contracts or find any work at all? Or do you just do web …

Why do most tech billionaires avoid flashy lifestyles—are there any who embrace extravagance? I will not promote — I’ve always noticed the contrast between how different the tech entrepreneurs are compared to the others who are in finance, fashion, entertainment, or property. It is almost the expectation in the ot…

Need Advice: 3x Salary Offer for Fullstack Role, But It’s a One-Man Show. Go for it? — Hi. Everyone. Please bear with me, I hope this is the right place to ask. I’m currently a jr web developer and have been working in my first proper dev job for almost a year. The pay is on the l…

Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups (I will not promote) — **Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups** These are a few things I have come to learn while doing "startups," maybe it will help some entrepreneurs in their startup travels.…

Duplicate Websites: One Ranks, One Tanks — I own two small‑town dental practices and spun up two nearly identical websites for them. Same structure, images, and copy, just different color schemes and logos. The site for Practice A ranks nicely…

Common sense from an actual founder [fully boostrap 10M$ company] about startup studios' playbooks [i will not promote] — I don't post on reddit but I've recently seen an increased influx of post or people talking about X or Y playbook about how you should startup. i will not promote Let me get this straight, I won't cr…

using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads — I recently led a Reddit content repurposing campaign that got over **4 million impressions** and **hundreds of new user signups** for my client. Here's exactly how I did it. # Why Reddit, and why use…

SEM Competition is fading — I work in home furnishing which is almost all chinese import. Over the last week we've seen our CPMs drop 30%. Its like everyone is pulling back due to Tariffs. Has anyone else seen that?

Impressions dropped significantly. Can not figure out reason — I have very new site launched at start of feb. It is app content made available through site. When I launched my site I had almost 15k public pages ready as the content was from app now just available…

A great copywriter is worth their weight in gold — I've been building brands for 15 years. If you just got your first $20k-$100k budget to build your brand/web/app, let me humbly offer you a tip: # In 2025, the #1 thing that will affect how 'pro' you…

Rejected in the final interview after a month long process — This is honestly just a rant post, because I feel completely deflated at this point. I’ve been actively looking for a job for over a year now, moved to Spain three months ago to start a new life, and…

I feel like I can build anything! I will not promote — I’ve been “vibe coding” since January 2024, at first it was just copy and paste between ChatGPT/claude and VS Code.  I started making web apps, then mobile apps, etc. Struggling I must say but eventu…

Besides Java and SQL, what other computer languages are essential and almost ubiquitous in the world of web development? — I've noticed that Java and SQL are almost ubiquitous languages throughout the web development industry. What other computer and programming languages do you perceive as ubiquitous or essential in the …

Why almost all of libraries are free? — Like in the title. I am geniunly baffled why most of libraries are free to use. Things like react, angular, react query, redux, zustand etc... they all probably took loads of time to develop and stil…

Business told me they would ship my package today, should I contact them tonight? — Ok so basically I’m in a bit of a time crunch but I ordered a package based on the stated TAT of the company. The business owner told me she would have the package shipped out by today yesterday and i…

Rate my pagespeed results — I think pagespeed is more important than page design for seo score. In these days, almost every website is like a power point slide and their pagespeed result are between 30 and 60. As a wordpress sit…

Duolingo leader throws shade at r/UXDesign — You all might remember this thread a few months ago, [debating Duolingo renaming UX to “Product Experience.”](https://www.reddit.com/r/UXDesign/comments/1j3hvkw/duolingo_renames_ux/) The VP Mig announ…

Underestimated fulfillment in my eCommerce startup, nearly paid the price — When I launched my first eCommerce brand, I thought fulfillment was "easy" find a product, set up a store, ship orders. Simple, right? I couldn’t have been more wrong. As soon as we got traction, thi…

My current case study - Instagram Automation - is working! But how to make money? — I have a company that is doing quite well and I often have time left over. During this time, I try my hand at various case studies. This time it was Instagram's turn. I had often seen videos about Mak…

Solo founder here—bootstrapped a travel startup, no bookings yet. Influencer model failed, paid ads feel too risky. What would you do? — Hi everyone, I’m a solo founder of hopmytrip.com trying to build a travel group tour platform—basically fixed-date trips to places like Bali, Thailand, and Vietnam, where people from any country can …

Modern web dev has me on the ropes — I'm a FED, and I've been helping build websites for 15+ years. Started on LAMP stack, did some Wordpress stuff, but mostly my bread and butter has been FED-heavy, building UIs with HTML, JS, CSS/SASS …

ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD? — I wrote this short article about TDD vs BDD because I couldn't find a concise one. It contains code examples in every common dev language. Maybe it helps one of you :-) Here is the repo: https://githu…

Need help with some direction — So to keep it short, I need some extra income. I work full time as a software developer, but I now own a house and my bills keep going up, and my salary isn’t. I’ve always had the idea of freelancing…

Every day I try to do things right. Every day they say no. Now I duct-tape and maintain the mess I warn them about — Hey folks, Just wanted to drop this little gem of corporate masochism So I work at this company where we develop software for real state agencies, in this 'properties' sql table we have a field cal…

Where do you look for solutions for your pain points? — Hello guys This is not another post asking you for your biggest pain points. I already offer a service to solve certain pain points that companies of all sizes have. After working for years for diff…

Question about desktop/mobile compatibility — I’m working on a portfolio site. I’ve had plenty of mobile/desktop compatibility issues already but that’s part of the fun :) Currently i have almost everything in place and working. Except from th…

Source things from china — Hi everyone, if anyone needs help to import things from china to any country, kindly DM me!! Im a small business owner and would like to help other businesses who want to get things from china but are…

Found out my friend and her coworkers are stealing money from their job — My friend works at a small franchise location that is a self serve food place. The amount of staff is small (8) and I recently found out that the they all essentially steal money. The owner doesn’t li…

I DID IT! Put in my notice today, focusing on my agency full time. — I've been working 70+ hour weeks for the last 16 months, working a full-time job as VP of Marketing for a Fortune 500 company while also getting my side hustle marketing agency off the ground. My agen…

Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…

Think I found a secure woman, and almost immediately self-sabotaged. — In my social club, there’s a woman who had consistently shown signs that she was into me. I was direct and asked her out. She said she was interested but couldn’t date for a few months because her j…

In an avoidant-anxious friendship, how much space should I be giving before I reach out? — The last 2 posts on the sub are about friendship and that encouraged me to post here as well. This is my friend of 5 years. We’ve gone from talking almost everyday to me being given the silent treat…

Well. I've learned something new today. I had no idea. I've always known when I'm dreaming. Always. I've always known it's my dream, I've always had control. On the rare occasion I haven't contr…

>If we believe with perfect faith that our desire is already ours in the subconscious mind, why would the subconscious mind not just assume the act has already been finished in the past rather than wo…

Haha what an honour to be compared to Uncle Iroh! 😆 yes I understand and I debated whether to put that in, however there are some people who get frustrated with their attempts and prayer can actually…

Hm. I wonder if that could be it. But I'm also super new to spirituality. How do I overcome this? I'm wondering if also maybe it was because it was the first time I was trying to separate my conscious…

Ah I c haha, sorry. Well honestly might be better off apart than together it sounds like. I have never done AP following a guide but I've meditated a lot for the past 12 years (almost every night bef…

I always get stuck in that phase were I am relaxed, the body sleeps, mind stops thinking just some hallucinations of continuously shape-shifting colors, breath slow, feel as if i am almost floating wi…

Thank you all. I am new here and hope to learn as much as i can Edit: I’d like to add how i ended up here. Just the other day i was in a state a where i nearly achieved what i believe could of been m…

I'm someone who doesn't really visualize. Like I don't see anything when I attempt to. I feel like this kinda creates a barrier in terms of I'm not sure if I'll just snap into a moment where I'll be a…

I have been trying to Lucid Dream for a couple of years and almost gave up until I found this thread. I read about reality checks and started doing them . Last night I finally had a dream in which I …

Hi! Just saw this post (I know late to the game) I felt a pulling almost like a dragging thru a tunnel back to my body. Is that what you experienced? This happened 2x in one night for the first time i…

I had a really concerning dream just now and fear of my boyfriend didn't wake me up something bad was going to happen to me.. It started off in a house I've never seen before the kitchen was upstairs…

Thank you. It is two months since she left me, been together almost 13 years. I am still devestated, but I also want to be where you are now in life.

What about for those who have almost nightly lucid dreams without intention?

Im almost crying to how helpful this is

i stopped attempting lucid dreaming almost a year ago so thanks.

I contacted mine with a text and she didn’t respond back, it’s been 21 days. I know she probably saw it and I want anyone who reads this…DON’T! Because it’s been about 3 years about 2 with no contact …

I have this exact same experience. Almost always as soon as I realize I am having a lucid dream I wake up. Last night I was able to control my dream for perhaps the second time ever. This was for a ve…

Hi I started with JM and I was convinced to switch to NG Then I was guided back to POSM I can say that some techniques of NG helped But most of all, POSM seems clearer than ever after my detour in…

no, you are missing the HUGE part of what I said "and not do any of those things enough to want to get back together". It is almost UNIVERSAL unless you did truly heinous shit like rape / abuse, etc. …

Oh man, I was redirected here by another sub and almost thought this didn’t apply to me. I was like, oh fuck, the whole way through.

Hello all, I am new to this site but I have been lucid dreaming since I was eight years old. I am now almost 66 years old. I had nightmares as a child. I decided that if I had a nightmare I would wak…

So my long story short.. yes I reached out after almost a year and not with any love or dating intentions. We started to reconnect and things started to happen for us again. We’ve been back to togethe…

I hear you buddy. I loved my ex so much, and still love her, even though I could never take her back. But what really hurts is as you described - she blind-sided me and could not care less. I, on the …

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

I have gotten to a stage wher my body is asleep and Ican feel a humming almost but I still feel stuck I tried the levitation the rolling the hand rubbing none of it seemed to work and by the time I co…

PLEASE READ IF YOUR LOOKING INTO ASTRAL PROJECTING. About 2 months ago I was looking extremely deep into astral projecting, once I seen what it was I was instantly drawn to it and thought it was inter…

ive had these for years while being consciously aware that im asleep. and its like i can induce them like a wave and anticipate their onset. it feels almost like a tremor that starts in the back of my…

The longer I hang out here, the more astounded I am how easy it is for people to throw around 'break up/divorce/dump him/her'. Almost as if they found some wicked satisfaction in pushing real people i…

True. About 7 weeks almost NC. I can feel it leaving. Sure I still feel down sometimes. But I haven’t felt as deep anymore. I’m loving and picking myself first now. I can feel the detachment. It isn’t…

I do agree, but I’m my experience my thoughts change naturally. It’s like I’m just happy, and I don’t even know the reason - happens due to reprogramming. I kind of forget about it. It’s not constantl…

This has happened on two occasions now, where I would get premonitions of locations and I was in the setting. I remember in this quick premonition I saw red and green. Months later I realise the locat…

I should have clarified, the "blowing hot and cold" is effectively the post quality cool down, which usually occurs after a period of us being emotionally and physically close. That cool down can happ…

This is 100% a pattern for avoidant attachers. It’s referenced as the “vulnerability hangover” in our own spaces. It’s almost like taking an ice bath. You can do it for a while, like 10-20 minutes, an…

FA leaning more towards DA here, when I’m dating and we spend a lot of time together or talk/text a bunch I typically take time to myself after. It can be pretty overwhelming “dealing” w my partners i…

What is the consensus on telling someone they have a victim mentality? I feel like that is an instant tell that someone is an abuser. It could be true, but coming from almost anyone but a therapist - …

Omg twins. Hi! Yeah I hadn’t been in a romantic relationship at all for six years before I finally tried with this FA guy. In my last real relationship I was targeted by a psychopath and it fucked me …

If you want to talk, I invite DMs but I'm only here sporadically. I'm a healed avoidant. I say that, but it's not black and white. I measure now for mostly secure. I still experience the initial resp…

This is the one. I'd also add that attachment doesn't just stop at partners — it's also at play at work, friendships, family relationships/siblings, and even children. It's really fucking hard to be …

It's not relevant what anyone is telling avoidants if you're not an avoidant... to think it is is slipping back into this competitive mentality where you're dissecting whose fault it is. It doesn't ma…

'You almost certainly both are' <-- Ah, the whole 'wrestle with a pig in mud' defence. And, no.

I think about this almost every single day

i wish i could lucid dream. i’ve tried for almost 3 years straight now and i haven’t managed to do it when i want. i managed to do it once but as soon as i realized i was awake i freaked out and fell …

Feel all the emotions! But, when only the good keeps you stuck on rumination, remind yourself of why it couldn't/ didn't work out! It's very easy CBT, that is incredibly effective and offers a peace …

I've been experiencing something similar, broke up in December. In my mind, it's almost as if the person I knew and loved severed (like from the show Severance) themselves and returned from a trip as …

I almost commented on this earlier in the week because I was dating someone who made me feel the same way but I’ve since ended things and I’m pretty sure what you’re feeling is a sign of incompatibili…

One thing I'll say is that in the early stages of dating you aren't actually seeing a person's natural "energy"; you're seeing their energy when they're flying blind under the pressure of courtship an…

I was dismissive avoidant for more than 20 years of marriage. A few months ago, some things changed in my life, including a strange dream, and almost since the day after that enlightening dream, I ha…

This is interesting.  I think maybe for a DA who is doing the work to change and heal, you finally open up and once you are open you have a lot to unpack.  My guess is that you've repressed a lot of e…

Oh, this is a cool topic, there is nothing cooler than the fucking time that is chasing us.  I was just in the middle of my first mission related to a new job. At that time I was already quite burnt…

Hi there, i know it's only been a day, but are there any updates? Reading this, i feel a pit in my stomach for you and hope that he's just busy. It's almost like getting the news that someone you love…