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Congratulations! It comes as a most welcome coincidence since, these past days, I've been thinking about doing exactly that. I'm a man in his 20s and I'd love to start a family with the ideal soulmate…

START HERE !!! — # Step-by step short guide r/Sbreggo So you just found this sub but you don't know anything about "The Gateway Experience", follow these steps and read all the suggested documents to avoid asking the…

my mind knows I’m trying to “trick” it — i was reading the power of your subconscious mind by dr. joseph murphy and found it super interesting. it talks a lot about how feeding certain thoughts to your subconscious can shape your reality, ki…

Feeling stuck between a promo and burnout - advice? — I'm approaching 5 years at my current company (2 years as junior, 3 as mid-level) and am submitting a promotion case for Senior. I won't hear back for a couple months - my director feels optimistic, b…

How to Build a Site for Both Art and Ecommerce? — Hi everyone, I’m a freelance graphic designer and currently have my portfolio site on Squarespace, which also includes a small e-commerce shop for art prints. I originally chose Squarespace because …

I was partially refunded for a 13$ order on Shop a day or so ago, but the order status still says “Ordered” instead of “Partially Refunded”? — I also haven’t received an email confirming my refund. Is it processing or what? I’d atleast expect my order status to update. I am in contact with the seller, and I cancelled the order, he partially…

Would people pay $5 to protect a restaurant reservation from no-show fees? Testing a micro-cancellation MVP. (i will not promote) — Hi all - I'm working on a simple MVP and looking for early feedback: **Problem**: Some restaurants on Resy and Tock now charge $50–$100 per *person* if you cancel too late or don’t show. Totally fair…

Got hacked and now stuck in the verification process — So long story I got hacked due to a data breach. Which resulted in my sites password being taken down and about $6000 in fraudulent charges were purchased. I successfully refunded and cancelled those …

Seeking WordPress Booking Plugin with Stripe Integration for Card Authorization Without Immediate Charge (no-show fee) — **TL;DR:** *Need a WordPress booking plugin that works with Stripe to: require credit card at booking, do €0 authorization, allow in-person payment, and charge 10% no-show fee later.* I'm currently…

How to remove Fraudulent Orders from Shop account? — So the question is as above. Back in March, I got fraudulently charged by a 'Elite Chimney LLC' for about $6100+. These were not placed by me or by any one I know, it just showed up one day. I manage…

Being an Entrepreneur is bloody hard — That's a quote from Dan Pena and it's absolutely right. The bum boys on Instagram, YouTube and all the rest that pretend like it's easy are 1000% full of it. The true life of a business person and e…

Do push/pull dynamics happen even when you’re not participating in them? — I (F, 32, originally AP, now definitely more secure) have just gone through a very confusing dating experience. 3 months ago I started seeing this man (34 met on Hinge). He started off very interested…

[Product Survey] Help us understand your auth/DB platform choices (Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, Clerk, and more) — Hi everyone! 👋 I’m a Product Manager working with a developer friend on a new backend-as-a-service solution, and we’d love your feedback. Whether you’ve used Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, Clerk, Authn …

Semrush 7 days free trial: how hard is it to avoid payment? — Hi, long story short: I'm applying for a new job and I really need to use some SEO tool to perform a case study. I will need to use it only for a week max, since I have to complete the case study in a…

Problems updating to Rank Math Pro — Hi, I have the free version of rank math. I bought the pro version and I am having some problems installing it. I downloaded the file and uploaded it to wordpress but I'm getting a message asking if…

Next Anx Attachment healing group in 7 hours — UPDATE: Apologies - I need to cancel today's January 18th meeting. I'm not feeling well and need to call it an early night. Sorry for the late notice! ------- The next weekly Anxious Attachment heal…

My dad (56M) cut me off (21) for sleeping over at my boyfriend’s house. Now he’s blowing up at me and ruining our relationship beyond repair. — \-Sorry had to repost due to not having line breaks. I’ve always had a complicated relationship with my dad. He’s very controlling and has always been a “helicopter” parent when I was growing up. I a…

Update to my previous post. Tis not a good one. — [https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1q4sw3v/before\_i\_43m\_delete\_her\_44f\_number\_and\_move/](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1q4sw3v/before_i_43m_delete_her_44f_n…

As an East Asian, I feel discriminated by colleagues — I feel I have experienced a lot of discrimination in the workplace due to my race, but I feel like it's also getting worse as the years go by. Actually, so many things, like the propensity for cancel…

I (26F) told my boyfriend (26M) I sometimes miss the freedom of being single and he broke up with me on my birthday — I (26F) have been with my boyfriend (26M) for about 2.5 years. A couple nights ago we were lying down together and having a really open conversation about different things going on in our lives. The …

Sunken Cost Fallacy — Married for almost 27 years. Got married at the ripe age of 19. Funny thing, I thought it was a mistake on my wedding night when he got out of bed to jack off because I was so exhausted from the long …

My Mom Doesn’t Remember My Attempt — (trigger warning) When I was 21, I was back home for a bit and things escalated between me and my mom. One night, we got in a big fight and I got so depressed and mad that I od on pills (tbh idk what…

I (36F) want to eat dinner together every night. Husband (37M) is resisting. — We’ve been together for 5 years, we plan to go to therapy. I just feel like I’m losing it. Is this asking too much? I would like to eat dinner together every night, sitting at the table together. We…

unpopular opinion virtual therapy is better than in person — Fight me but virtual therapy > in person therapy and here's why: No commute = save 1-2 hours per session Can do it from bed if you're having a bad mental health day No awkward waiting room small talk …

Struggling with Chinese In Laws — Hi everyone, I’m looking for some perspective or advice because I feel pretty overwhelmed. I recently moved to China with my husband (he’s Chinese), and we’ve only been here for about a month. His pa…

How do I (39F) forgive my husband (39M) for making a fake vet appt for our senior dog? — My husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for 4, and have 2 kids with another on the way. We have also been best friends since we were in middle school up until we started dating. A …

Does my chart suggest or explain my commitment issues? — I do pretty alright in friendships, however in romantic relationships I have a tendency of breaking up around month 3. This is almost always due to me becoming ‘bored’ of my partner, feeling that we d…

I 49M am confused at her 43F behaviour — I started seeing this woman three weeks ago. We went out for a first date after chatting a few days and it went really well we did a few different things and and spent the entire evening together and …

I burned out so badly I couldn't get out of bed for two weeks and the recovery taught me everything about my limits — Last year I hit a wall that I didn't see coming. I thought I was fine. I was working sixty hour weeks, maintaining an active social life, going to the gym, keeping up with everything. I felt like I wa…

Are you lost? START HERE! — # Step-by step short guide So you just found this sub but you don't know anything about "The Gateway Experience", follow these steps and read all the suggested documents to avoid asking the same que…

Can anyone provide some insight? — I (45F) recently met a 47M online. He told me early on that he had just gotten out of a 10-year relationship about 7 months ago and wasn’t necessarily looking to jump into anything serious, but was op…

32F-Marriage/Spouse prospects — Have been looking for a partner from last 6 years. 2 proposals came close to marriage around 2023-24 but got cancelled. Both were very materialistic. I really feel aversion now towards arranged marr…

My mom cheated. She refuses to understand why we are upset at her — # Trigger warning for suicidal content My mom cheated. Looking back, I’m not entirely sure I’m surprised that she did, but I was still so shocked when I got the news. For most of my adult life, my …

I (36M) feel like I ruined a 3.5 year relationship and don’t know how to move forward — I (36M) feel like I ruined a 3.5 year relationship and don’t know how to move forward I’m 36 and feel like I completely blew up my life and I’m struggling to move forward. I was in a 3.5 year relati…

I was wrong (manifested money, skill, and tickets)💀 — This is so crazy. A while ago, I was asking for help here and expressing my frustration that nothing was working for a situation i wanted to change and i was not manifesting anything. I think the mods…

How do I break up with my therapist? — NAT: I’ve only been keeping the current therapist I have because I was out on a short-term disability leave for anxiety and PTSD and she was helping me in providing therapy notes and needed documentat…

Leaving, but it is complicated — This may or may not be in the right sub. I'm not sure if I fit into al-anon, nar-anon, or NAMI, but what I am struggling with right now does fall under the work I've been doing to break codependent tr…

Are you lost? START HERE! — # Step-by step short guide So you just found this sub but you don't know anything about "The Gateway Experience", follow these steps and read all the suggested documents to avoid asking the same que…

fiancee of 3 years just broke up — im just whining, its all my fault but I can't live with it. i helped him escape from his murderous transphobic mother and we started living together. shortly after he let his military father take him …

He broke up because of my anxious attachment, how can I Deal with This? — Hey. My ex boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. I am 26 years old and it was my first relationship. It only lasted for 3-4 months sadly, we knew each other for 6 months in total. We started textin…

Relationship with a narcissist — Soooo… crazy story you might wanna get some popcorn! I met my ex boyfriend around 5 years ago. We met on Tinder! We went on several dates and really started liking each other but something about his …

I (M31) lost the best person I'll ever meet (F26) — tw: depression, suicidal thoughts and self harm I was trapped in a horrible relationship I felt I could not get out of. I posted about that here recently. tldr: 6 years of constant crises in which I …

Should i Be that hurt??? — I just needed somewhere to vent, not even sure who’s gonna see this or respond, or even look at this whole thing tbh lol I’m 24M, she’s 23F. We met on a dating app Jan 15, 2026, made it official Feb…

I can't tell if it's maturity, cynicism, or apathy — If someone isn't into me? Fine. It doesn't even really sting anymore. I don't feel any type of way about it. Not even "Well I'm glad they told me now" (even tho I guess I am). It doesn't even really r…

manifestation + past changing — Hi to all of you!! It’s my first ever time writing something on Reddit. Well, I have actually been reading many stories to find courage, but I am new to being the one with the story hahah. Okay, so I …

How Many Times Can You Break Up Before It Sticks? — I’m having a really hard time getting over my ex, and I don’t know how to move on. We met 4 years ago and dated for about a year. The relationship ended largely because of me—I’m bipolar, but at the …

Should I still go on a date with someone who might be going back to their ex? — I (50F) recently matched with a guy on Hinge and we set up plans to meet this week. Previously, he told me that he recently had gotten out of a 25 year-plus relationship. This morning, he sent me a te…

Therapy brought up a childhood memory and now I feel completely wrecked — Yesterday in therapy we ended up talking about one specific memory from my childhood. My father, who was a military officer, got drunk with his coworkers, came home, and apparently had something like…

Therapist no shows a lot. Am I overreacting? — I’ve been seeing my therapist almost two years and I really like her (telehealth). She’s great and we connect really well and she has helped me with a lot. But she’s been inconsistent in the past. Th…

Do you end or cancel dates early? — 42F here. I was married at 20, divorced at 37, so I never did the dating scene when I was younger, much less OLD. I started OLD after the divorce, had a couple bf's, taken breaks, re-learning what I w…

UPDATE: I found out my fiancé slept with his ex a year into our relationship 3 years ago — [Here is a link to my original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/s/2ArIlwSYpf) A while back I posted about a relationship filled with betrayal- sexual, financial, and emotional. We t…

what has happened to me, is not that, but it was test delayed or cancelled or something, so my improper studies was ok, and got another chance. so in my opinion, I would not focus on outcome you desc…

I've been there! I'm bordering between being a DA and a FA, personally.  For me, it happened somewhat quickly after I opened up to my therapist and it was i n t e n s e. Like, I had never in my life…

honestly, it's pretty situational and depends on the person and the relationship, but in general with interpersonal stuff that i have dobuts over, i try to not take any action immediately and instead …

Ahah sorry for the confusion 😁 We were dating and I thought he wanted a relationship, as he said that. Then he said he can’t commit and wanted to stay casual and I said that was ok with me, but I wo…

>wanted to stay casual  Idk what that means, exactly. Dating someone... but not really ? The specific rules or the framework of this concept are unclear because "casual" can mean anything, including:…

I'm definitely not a philosopher by any means, but here are my thoughts. The article references previous research by Monroe & Malle (2009), where it's said that people's concept of free will consists …

Every post in this sub lately has been so aligned with what I struggle with! I'm FA inching toward secure, and I relate to this a lot. There are phases where I feel more resilient, but if one person c…

Was doing therapy with a probable FA in their 40s & was permissive with my schedule because they had financial concerns & single parent. Too permissive. They late cancelled on about 38%, said they…

Why would an avoidant push me away, but then orbit me for almost 2 years — even while committed to someone else? I feel ashamed for being stuck on this.. I (32F) had a short but intense connection wi…

Wow, you have done a significant amount of research. I am just now learning about these Avoidant Attachment Styles. I'm not real sure what my SO has, and I'm also not sure which attachment style I hav…

I can certainly identify with this sort of feeling, and unfortunately in my case, the realities of what was happening when my partner at the time wasn't responding were exactly the worst thing. That …

I’ve been dating someone whose behavior seems to text book match a lot of what I have read about Dismissive Avoidant and Fearful Avoidant. They are somewhere in between the two, but I would say mostly…

We have been dating for about four months now. In the beginning three weeks we could only meet once, because he was away and then I was away. So we had really intense feelings for each other but could…

Thanks! > Resentment and being shut down are usually because things have built up over years. I wonder if you asked her if she’d be open to writing out all the hurt and what she’d need to feel safe a…

I have been dating a guy for a couple months. I can’t tell if I am getting in my head and overthinking things, or if he is not that interested. I am having a conversation with him about this as soon a…

UPDATE: Apologies - I need to cancel today's January 18th meeting. I'm not feeling well and need to call it an early night. Sorry for the late notice!

Sure! You can avoid sounding critical when what you say stays with your own experience. When he says something like "we'll see" and plans change the problem most likely isn't that you didn't meet but…

Like 6 months 😱 it’s minimal convo & I tried to space out texts to not overwhelm him, so it’s not felt that long, plus I’ve been trying to be gentle for his avoidantness…and even did a mini no contac…

My ex broke up with me a month ago. We had a powerful connection but life goals and bad timing meant it likely wouldn't work, there was zero toxicity. We'll talk again sometime in the future, it proba…

Usually worrying about saying the wrong thing, speaking in future tense ways as well. Almost like the other person is talking to you like we're already in a relationship even though it's still early …

Feeling included? Transparency? He admits he handled things wrong in the past.. but hasn’t done much in regard to her and that situation. I understand he gets anxiety and like all of us has trauma and…

It's been a tough time this past week. Last week I finally got around to starting to thrive in Sunny San Diego with a good handful of dates in January and more scheduled, spending time with family, bu…

Aww, boo. Someone got sick so I had to cancel my murder mystery dinner party that's tomorrow since the game requires that all people are present. And that someone is -her-. And while I don't mind a c…

Bummer and I understand that sometimes these games require an exact number of people. But next time if someone cancels maybe you could have someone as a backup / willing to sub in if needed? Obviously…

One of my dates this weekend cancelled. A friend of hers passed away earlier this week and she's, very understandably, not in the mood to inject more people into her life at the moment. She said she…

I have been stuck in the loop of, organising dates and being ghosted or cancelled on. Or just absolute silence/ghosting on their end with the conversation. It’s part and parcel with online dating, I t…

I feel like you could probably stand to cut them off sooner. If someone cancels on me for a first date, even with a seemingly good reason, I usually break things off. If they cancel after a 2nd date w…

Completely fair! For the initial first date, I do two chances for cancelling, or three if they have children. Not wanting to sound like a monster, I do have different expectations when they have chi…

I'm dating a guy, and while he has been mostly consistent with our plans, he's attentive and cute (and great in bed), we mostly had short dates or sleepovers. This weekend would have been the first on…

What’s everyone doing for the Super Bowl? I have plans but it is so absolutely freezing I kind of want to stay home and rot. Don’t want to cancel at the last minute though.

>Are there some guys who genuinely want women as friends like this (in this kind of setting)? Yes, sure? E; To expand a bit. I met a woman at a meetup, but already started seeing someone else inste…

Hard pass for three reasons: He didn't tell you he wanted to cancel, he waited until you contacted him. If you had taken him at this word, he would've stood you up for his other plans. He didn't ap…

I don't observe super bowl Sunday, but FWIW Yesterday my plans got canceled and I thought it would be really nice to have restful day at home but it was, in fact, soul crushing. I think we need to pus…

Personally I wouldn't. The fact he didn't apologise and then goes "I've been cool and honest with you" is a red flag to me. He doesn't respect your time. I've had a guy cancel our second date last min…

Initially he said, coffee date. His cancellation text then became a 'hang'. The 'something fun' was earlier on. When I asked him what he meant, genuinely, he said 'not hook up if that's what you're th…

It sounds like you get really emotionally invested in these dates. You can't let that happen. They are all people that you barely know. If you have some routine that you enjoy (I dunno, pickleball eve…

Second date planned. 90% sure (not quite 100%) I don't feel attracted enough for a relationship, but there's a lot of positives and I had a good time on date 1. I always stress for days before rejecti…

Other party canceled on our weekend plans because they got sick and spent a few days recovering. We're still in contact almost all day, and it doesn't seem like they're less enthusiastic, but I feel l…

It’s a more intentional app. It does take some getting used to because you don’t talk whatsoever before agreeing and paying to go on a date. I think you get penalised for cancelling so it forces users…

Well, I spoke too soon. Date canceled for this weekend.

It was full cancel / "I don't think we're compatible" type message.

Oh no! We had some inclement weather on this side of the pond, flights were delayed and cancelled, all of that. I'll look into rescheduling immediately. Hopefully the latte is still hot?!

Mentioned it a few hours before yesterday's post expired, but my date canceled for this weekend/doesn't think we're compatible. Happy I at least have other things going on in my life to distract fro…

Almost three months from the breakup I thought would kill me and I have been on the apps scrolling for about a month (too soon I know but what can ya do). I have turned down a handful of dates and act…

LITERALLY! Two guys asked for my instagram; one cancelled the date three hours beforehand and never followed up to reschedule, and the other just liked about 25 pictures and never planned a date even …

What’s stopping you from cancelling?

Cancel. It’s not fair to anyone to force it when you really aren’t feeling it

I went on a date with a guy this summer, about four months after my breakup. My friend met me after the date and said I seemed really excited, and maybe I was. He’s physically attractive and very nice…

Hmmm... I don't know. Here are some thoughts. There should be no debate about the fact that he's been chasing you, I don't know how else you can interpret his actions after you stopped responding. Y…

That’s a bit of a leap from what I wrote. I’m not drawn to unreliability. If anything, that was part of what gave me pause, although I’d describe it more as not taking initiative than being unreliable…