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>Its pretty obvious IMO that he wanted it to be kept private It's not even remotely "obvious". You called it a "diary". It isn't a "diary". It's nothing of the sort. It's a collection of apothegmata…

SEO Results in 2-3 Months — I run a small business and am looking for someone to help transform my website through SEO, which up until now has had very little traffic. In the past I have mostly relied on word of mouth and target…

Freelancers – the only person that can evaluate your pricing is the buyer (not Reddit) — *(TL;DR at bottom)* Questions like this pop up on this subreddit every few weeks: > How much should I charge for a basic website? Or: > Is $500 for a single-page Figma design a good price? ...and…

Anyone else noticed a drop in Search Console Clicks despite better rankings? — I've got three sites where the average position and impressions have improved considerably in the last month, but Search Console is showing less clicks. Obviously this is because the CTR is down, how…

Offering Options to offshore engineer. I will not promote — I have a startup. obviously. anyhow, my company is in Canada. I have this developer in Vietnam, and he is pretty good! I pay him decently for his hours, but as a founder, I feel like i want to offer …

Behavioral psychology ruined most UX tips for me (in a good way). — I used to follow every UX “rule” simplify, reduce clicks, make it obvious. Then I started reading more psychology, and things flipped. Stuff like loss aversion, commitment bias, and the labor illus…

Local/regional prediction market app/site.i will not promote — The title is an open suggested startup idea Cater for particular country/region for MVP Best target country should be the highest gambling culture but at the same time had less regulated policies I …

iPad or Android Tablet? — We are about to begin the process of switching over to Shopify for our website and brick-and-mortar store. When we've talked to Shopify associates, they've told us there is no difference between using…

Question about 404's — Explain to me like im 5: I just do not understand why google shows me 404s when the URLs listed in GSC as 404s were never posted anywhere. I accidentally created a duplicate URL once, which then mad…

Client has disappeared from map pack for target keyword ("More Results" button missing, only top 3 displayed) — ISSUE: I have a high profile client, with a competitive brand, authoritative website & highly optimized GBP, of which they have dozens of real locations, including this one. I have been working with t…

Co-Founder wanted — Me: a decade in acquisition marketing for top brands in Europe. Responsible for P&L, decided if I’m responsible anyways, might as well be responsible for the whole damn thing, and the benefits it come…

A customers perspective of those horrible cart conversion emails — Usually a website does a poor job of informing me what shipping will be. I must add items to a cart and hit checkout and type in an address to see what shipping would be. However, this process results…

Help Me Understand Relation Between Guest Posting and Google's TOS — I'll start off by quoting Google's Spam Policies: https://developers.google. com/search/docs/essentials/spam-policies >Advertorials or native advertising where payment is received for articles that i…

Why ex-tech creators are bad fit for conferences? — I haven’t been to many design-related conferences throughout my career, but I decided to give a CoCreate Conference a shot. I won’t go into the event organization here – just the speakers. From what I…

Show Collection on Home Page based on Customer Tag — I could use some help. I'm using the Dawn theme. I would like to show on the homepage a specific collection section if the customer has a specific tag on their customer account. Obviously they would…

using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads — I recently led a Reddit content repurposing campaign that got over **4 million impressions** and **hundreds of new user signups** for my client. Here's exactly how I did it. # Why Reddit, and why use…

Impressions dropped significantly. Can not figure out reason — I have very new site launched at start of feb. It is app content made available through site. When I launched my site I had almost 15k public pages ready as the content was from app now just available…

A great copywriter is worth their weight in gold — I've been building brands for 15 years. If you just got your first $20k-$100k budget to build your brand/web/app, let me humbly offer you a tip: # In 2025, the #1 thing that will affect how 'pro' you…

iThomas.dk - New site don't get traction? — I launched my site on March 1st, but I’m still struggling to gain traction and would really appreciate a second pair of eyes. A quick check using site:ithomas.dk shows that most of my pages are index…

What are the Benefits of AI in eCommerce that actually influence why we buy? — I was reading up on how ai taps into emotions like FOMo urgencye or even guilt to push you closer to a purchase. and it’s not always obvious it’s subtle stuff like “only a few left prompts or remindin…

Thoughts on Password Protection for Portfolios? — I wanted to share my solution based on feedback from hiring managers being frustrated with portfolios that are password protected (especially when you can’t find the password on your resume). Ideall…

How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote) — Experienced founder & CEO here. I'm gonna tell you how my business got straight cash (like literally millions) from the gov and how you can do that too. I've bootstrapped my last german education bu…

Am I overreacting? — My husband and I own a small business that is doing pretty well. It is very 50/50 and we are equally as important in this business. He constantly refers to things as “my employees “ or “my drivers,” o…

Any experience running and managing many locations on POS? Switching from Square and I’ve got questions — Shopify POS as a refreshing breath of fresh air over Square on many points. However, they seem to fall short on some really obvious things. That make me think maybe I’m the crazy one and just don’…

The successful are not here — After years of watching YouTube videos about startup / founder stuff and reading blogs, Reddit, and the horrible place that is LinkedIn, I came to realize that 99.9% of advice (especially in the SaaS …

Time Tracking App for Productivity Freaks (web app, mobile / desktop) — Hi guys, first time posting in this sub! and first time finally getting a project to a point where I think other people can use it. (Usually I'll build, then half way through just stop) .. I'm callin…

Change variant in bulk — Hello, new to shopify. There are 72 variants to my products e.g small, medium large etc. I would like to add stock to the products how ever I obviously do not want to have to go through 72 options …

how do you manage cache browser control- after version update? — here's the problem- obviously we don't want to screw up our clients when they are working, so a new version should be in a manner that won't cause conflicts in the previous version, which has loaded …

FA trying to be more secure, need some insigh on relationship to have "fresh eyes" on it and not just my insecure one — Hi, So, I'm FA and my partner is secure. We're living together and are together for 9month now, it's going good and we're doing our best in the healthiest way to navigate the complicated stuff (I hav…

Excessive Rumination — Dear all, I've recently found myself reminiscing on a brief encounter I had with someone two years ago, in which we both massively triggered one another's attachment wounds (me being anxious, & her …

Feeling smothered by an AP friend… — This is part reflection/observation, and part question at the bottom. It’s interesting and a bit funny to me, I rarely feel avoidant in my attachments. The test I took for this sub, showed all secur…

A little look into how fearful avoidants operate (aka, how one of my relationships ended - twice - because I was unaware of my patterns) — When I was 21 and *severely* fearful avoidant I dated a secure guy who was wonderful in every way, but obviously not for me. I did everything stereotypical of a fearful avoidant attachment does in a…

Help me to recognise my attachment style please! — I (26F) am struggling with this a lot, since my patterns of romantic behavior don’t seem to fit neatly into any of the four categories (AA, FA, DA, SA). On the one hand, I clearly crave intimacy and…

Having trouble differentiating between anxious attachment / normal needs, feeling lost and alone — First Reddit post here! (It's a long one, I just really need a place to put it all down and get some support, so thank you). I (19F) got out of my first long term relationship about 3 months ago. It l…

What would one call this attachment style? — I feel as tho I'm a pretty particular mix, cause I'm not exactly healthy, but the other labels don't exactly resonate either. I suppose it roots from two main things. One, I was bullied and ostracized…

How do you get over the need to be asked/the other person to initiate to prove you are wanted? — I think sometimes I get too fixated on people not being the one to initiate something I want with them which makes me feel they probably don't really wanna do it with me. Like asking to hang out, play…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

READ THIS if you want to POST here — This is a new thread with the SAME GUIDELINES as the previous post which is now archived. THIS THREAD IS ONLY FOR APPROVAL TO POST. You don’t have to be an approved user to comment or lurk. ONLY som…

how to deal with an avoidant's freeze response in hard times? — my partner is FA, I've known him for a long time. He has made a lot of effort and has changed for the better. He's the more secure one between the two of us honestly, and he's pretty good at fighting …

I earned secure attachment in 4 months... — I can't believe I'm writing this. I did this without dating a secure person and without spending money on courses/apps. I promise I'm not selling anything. Big disclaimers: * I am only mostly secure…

Master’s degree, big scholarship, and leaving a toxic situation — Background: I was keen to leave my toxic family situation for years but let’s just say it wasn’t happening. I got a good job in my hometown, I found someone I loved who was desperate to marry me, I …

Avoidance seeking help: what if he’s not avoidant like me, but he actually just has a girlfriend he didn’t tell me about? — Been in contact with a guy for about 6 months now who has been pursuing me the entire time, subtly. When we first met, I had just broken up with my ex a couple of months prior to that (6-month long…

How do you know what’s secure and what’s not in a partner? — So I am anxiously attached, I’ve done a ton of work and I think I present as fairly secure now (?) but when I’m triggered it’s a mess in my brain. My question for the anxiously attached and those who …

Both best friends got engaged — I (27F) have never been in a relationship and struggle to form emotional attachments at all. I've gone on dates and forced myself to keep seeing a guy because he's perfectly nice and there's nothing w…

contemplating root of avoidance — I have been considering why some of my relationships work while others make me disconnect. I think the root is a desire to feel deeply understood and seen. I recently had a connection with someone I…

What qualities to look for in a therapist — Previously, I had been working with a somatic therapist for 6 years (on trauma healing, not specifically attachment related) and a few months ago they closed their practice for personal reasons on *ve…

how to be "chill" in early stages of dating? — hi everyone! something i struggle with in the early stages of dating is obsessing over/thinking about the other person constantly. i know this is not a healthy habit, but i have trouble getting myself…

Bf of 14 months hasn’t said I love you — My bf (35M) and I (33F) met December 2024 on a dating app and became exclusive immediately after our first date. On our first few dates he asked what I was looking for and I said I was looking for som…

32(F) really need advice about feelings for friend — I have developed feelings for a friend (M30) over time. He has given me indications in the past that he might be interested in dating me, but I didn't want to get my hopes up too much. I have been try…

Should I meet up with my ex? — Back in November 2024, I went on a couple of dates with a guy from my friend group, “Frank” (41M now). Looking back, it’s obvious to me that he was a rebound, but I genuinely didn’t realize it at the …

I'm not sure about my attachment style but I want to discover it right now 'cause I want to start healing!!!!!! — Sorry for the long text, I want to be thorough. So, I just ended my first ever relationship. I'm 20, I'm a lesbian from a conservative background and had a lot of internalized homophobia and religiou…

Okay, thanks. About all I know in regards to this it's that I'm a Leo. Lol the post that you shared this link to I had asked my mom what time I was born and she told me 10:58 p.m.. I just looked at m…

You obviously have not read posm and do not know what the posts and training in he index is all about because you dont read and then think about what you read. Dumb. Banned 7 days.

>Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using sle…

>Before you ban me, please understand that I’m not trying to argue with you, I was just pointing out that claiming people can’t think critically is not a wise move because it can easily be said of yo…

I've never attempted astral projection while awake, usually I do it by accident when I'm sleeping and I always run into these human -shaped white light creatures (I don't know how else to describe the…

I had a really concerning dream just now and fear of my boyfriend didn't wake me up something bad was going to happen to me.. It started off in a house I've never seen before the kitchen was upstairs…

I won’t lie, I’m working on improving myself strictly for myself, but there are those “what if” moments where I think that somehow me improving myself will win my ex back when that obviously isn’t the…

Definitely trying, but I’m still at the I ruined my kids life because I couldn’t handle staying with their dad when he made it very obvious that he wanted to be with men, not his wife. So the feelings…

Yeah, it's fucking hard. I don't think I'll ever get closure because she's never been the sort of person to really make an effort to give that to me. I obviously can't be inside her head and speak for…

Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It's pretty obvious from reading that garbage he wrote up there.

The average woman has a significantly easier time finding new relationships than the average man. It's not nice to admit it, but it's the clear and obvious explanation of why men who do the dumping of…

Also there seems to be an overreliance on arbitrary "rules" like "age gap bad" (obviously some age gaps really are bad but five years in your 20s shouldn't be such a big deal IMO) or "high school swee…

None of this announcement caters to how the 'bad actor' is receiving anything. The onus is entirely on the person giving feedback. Even the sentence 'if someone reports something' ends with 'and it se…

I totally agree that there is a general trend to project personal issues and give drastic advice, especially since... well, it's not your life. I particularly notice it when it comes to fear of a par…

That's not answering her question and you are being a corrupt liar. You would download 10 languages and 20 skills in a heartbeat if you could do it to your brain just like you could load programs onto…

From my experience the way he described it was the confusing part, especially considering the dozen translations there are of this book. Personally I think that a few things he is not right about w…

Ahh words! Jokes aside:TY for the response! Personally I am saddened at the new rules as I feel phone addiction (and by extension pron accessibility) is a prevalent issue, and one worthy of r/Decidin…

When I said self hate, I meant those posts which very obviously points to OP not having a desire to be better. It refers to posts just venting and talking about how useless and worthless they are, how…

You obviously didn't understand my comments. I didn't say I am building up, I never said 10 years and I didn't mention all the other shit I got for myself. If you want to live like you do and not have…

You obviously did it wrong. And now you mad as fuck trying to shit on people who got it right. It’s okay, we get it since many of us been there for a brief moment too. But instead of actually learning…

1. Mental thoughts don’t become physical reality. Beliefs do. Repetitive mental thoughts turn into beliefs. 2. People in your world reflect your beliefs. Perhaps upon meeting someone you had an origi…

Hahah. This souphead makes me laugh. I love it when failures do all they can to prove why something doesn't work - based of the fact that it so clearly was applied wrong 🤡 And I do agree, being con…

"Point 1: Simple. Maladaptive daydreaming (MD) is a proposed mental disorder where someone excessively daydreams in a vivid and immersive way, **often to the point of neglecting real-life responsibili…

Thank you. I will ask the op to insert these links into her other post. They are a good addenda and are a beneficial part of the record. We may make her post a part of our index as well. It is a very…

Then why does MC recommend NC during SP missions? Because, many times, that is the appropriate conventional action, at that moment. Either because they are increasingly fearful of you, or unfairly ho…

>She’s the one that started it. What are you, 2 years old ? You don't put forth circular arguments in proper debates about anything, ever. That is corrupt and basically lazy. > >As of 2025, there …

>The objective of LOB or LOA is to build lasting faith, not just temporary faith, over the long term to effect change subconsciously in the face of obstacles in life no matter what negatives are in th…

Before you post about an avoidant ex, ask yourself: Did you guilt trip them into only sleeping 4 hours a night because you need constant reassurance for hours on end? Did you blow up and verbally a…

I don't think there's a simple answer here, but my personal experience is that if I'm deactivating before having sex with someone, then it's probably just a lack of attraction/chemistry. If I deactiva…

Incredible work! It's a complete game changer and very, very simple CBT exercise! It obviously doesn't just have to be for break ups, but for everything! All our emotions are valid and all our emoti…

>I get why this sub advocates for SM methods over CM methods, and I absolutely agree that it’s better for beginners, but the problem with exclusively doing this is that you can do all of the work laid…

>Not saying you’re entirely wrong but that wasn’t the point of the ladder experiment. The point of the ladder experiment was to teach about awareness. > Ah. Conscious awareness. Complete rubbish and…

To answer: They will escalate negative behavior towards you if you’re not respecting their distance or wishes for disengagement. I once told an ex, “If you keep staying with me I will treat you worse …

I didnt get attached after a week, I liked him obviously but it was only after talking every day for weeks on end that I got attached

The distance didn’t make it harder in my opinion. At the beginning of a relationship you’re getting to know the other person. Thats incredibly easy to do with texting, calls, video chats etc.  We cou…

In a way, you can't spot them right away obviously, but once Ur dating or in a relationship with them oh boy, U definitely can. Even caring about their health like some avoidants feel some shame if Ur…

Well, that's a completely different topic altogether. It's not always obvious if it's a lack of interest or an avoidant attachment, but other times, it is obvious.

There is obviously some way in which this happens. If there wasn't, it wouldn't be possible to write a book called POSM and to have it work for untalented beginners for generations. If you read the i…

Sensitive when it comes to their own struggles and issues. Much less towards others’ (generally, not everyone obviously) IMO

As a previous DA, I did not feel guilt once I disengaged from someone because I had reasons for not wanting to be with them anymore. Those reasons may be very immature they may not make a lot of sense…

>Note: It's at that point when most secure people will leave a relationship with an insecure attacher, when their reasonable requests start getting shot down. That's what I was going to say too. If y…

And...your title is misleading. JM says don't discuss your problems with others *at the conventional level*,. If you discuss it with others in terms of the LOB, it is fine. He didn't literally say w…

Any large change can be broken down into a series of small changes. I’d spend more time at first supporting current practices and understanding why they work for the team, then you can start to come u…

I hear attachment styles in songs all the time but the #1 most obvious is “Fences” by Our Last Night. 

Umm.. I think your % is off and there are way more lurkers here and some real people out there. I thought about doing posts, a podcast, or a book as an entrepreneur about how hard it was for years ru…

For me, it’s been about building a personal brand and a company brand as two distinct things. They’re obviously connected with shared values and vision, but they serve different purposes My personal …

If you want another arguement, people in the clothes industry say that 2x your landed cost is wholesale, and 2x the wholesale to get your MSRP. This is obviously also super product dependent, and it …

Haha, I'm not looking for an applause, just sharing what worked for me. Maybe it might help someone else, maybe it might not. Anyhow, for me, bending over backwards would be to give into their needs …

The way I identify a DA early on is by watching their actions. Very often they are very very intense at the begining, some even lovebombing, and then all of the sudden they dissappear for a couple of…

Thank you for sharing. Do you think 3 months is enough to spot one? Or is it not enough? The example you gave is pretty obvious to me tbh someone who needs to ghost me for some time before coming back…