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Seeking a reality check and validation on a “Trauma bond” and how I was treated — This is my first Reddit post so bare with me. Also pre-warning, some notes of DV And Emotional Abuse. I’m posting this because I need an unbiased reality check. I asked an AI to help me organize myse…
Bundle pricing and host suggestions — Sup y'all, I'll start by mentioning that I did read through the FAQs regarding pricing as a web developer. This post is regarding bundling and host selection. I recently worked with my brothe…
Is there a better way to create posts that actually match your brand? — As a solo builder, I’ve been working on a small idea I think might be useful — especially for startups and B2B teams trying to stay consistent with branded content on instagram. The problem: Creatin…
Why you should always schedule your job interviews in the early morning. — I got reminded today of a very important tip when you're setting up interviews. \>> Do not set up job interviews at the end of the work day. In short, there have been studies done on judges that sho…
Am i charging too much — $500 for two well-written SEO posts / pages per month. Just curious what ya'll are charging for content nowadays with AI and stuff.
What to Say When You’re Not the Cheapest Option (And Someone Pushes Back on Price) — I will not promote. This is a best practice I've found in my own works.So, you’re having a great conversation with a potential client and then you get hit with that line: “I know someone who can do it…
Would you buy a sub $500 eye tracking glasses on par with leading research-grade glasses? — I’ve been doing research into eye tracking for UX research the past couple months and something that continues to boggle my mind is the price for a lot of eye tracking glasses. Most of them are $3000 …
Landing page review for a brand new ecommerce store — Hi all, Beginning of this year, me and my best friend decided to launch a pickleball brand that focus more on feminine side (you see what I mean when you visit the website), as we see the market is f…
City links — I've done a fair amount of searching and reading on this topic but I've not seen any examples of creating links for cities on a website that is one page. I run a business that provides repair work a…
I built a VSCode extension that shows array sizes directly in your code—would love feedback from other devs! — Hey everyone! I’ve been working on a VSCode extension called **Array Size Extension**, and I wanted to share it with you all to get some feedback or maybe help out others who run into the same proble…
Gallery plugin - preferably free — Hello, I'm looking for a gallery plugin with lightbox. I want the plugin to be able to show small images as thumbnails and big images in the lightbox. I currently have FileBird plugin and I use …
Stategies for scaling out MySQL/MariaDB when database gets too large for a single host? — What are your preferred strategies when a MySQL/MariaDB database server grows to have too much traffic for a single host to handle, i.e. scaling CPU/RAM or using regular replication is not an option a…
How to approach colleagues ‘improving’ my copy with unedited Chat GPT? — Hi all, I’m a new and junior member of a very small team, we are overstretched and have far too much on the go at any given time, which inevitably leads to shortcuts being taken. I’m no stranger t…
Do any of you find that search ads work better for your store than shopping? — I just launched Google ads April 29. My shopping ads are getting lots of impressions but few clicks. Like 3.5k daily to 6-10 clicks with a budget of $15 and not spending it all. My search ads at $10 a…
Best Practices for the List View — Hi all, While using Wordpress in the past few years, I've developed the habit of renaming my element bocks in the List View sidebar to make navigating the page easier for myself and hopefully others.…
Need feedback for my new one. — Hey y'all, so I am trying to build a Micro SaaS for generating high-converting ad creatives/posts for platforms such as FB, Instagram, etc. The app uses OpenAI's latest image generation model and n8n …
I’ve failed at startups, lived on the road, and I still believe I’m successful — I was 19 when I started my first startup. I led a team of 15 people, wanted to change the world. And I failed. At 21, back in 2016, I left home without any money, hoping that traveling would help me …
Do push/pull dynamics happen even when you’re not participating in them? — I (F, 32, originally AP, now definitely more secure) have just gone through a very confusing dating experience. 3 months ago I started seeing this man (34 met on Hinge). He started off very interested…
how do you manage cache browser control- after version update? — here's the problem- obviously we don't want to screw up our clients when they are working, so a new version should be in a manner that won't cause conflicts in the previous version, which has loaded …
Need help with some direction — So to keep it short, I need some extra income. I work full time as a software developer, but I now own a house and my bills keep going up, and my salary isn’t. I’ve always had the idea of freelancing…
Scaling a Faceless YouTube Channel into a small business. — Around a Month ago, I started mentoring a few people on how to start a YouTube automation channel/business with no real launch, just looking to help a handful who was serious about building something …
Where do you look for solutions for your pain points? — Hello guys This is not another post asking you for your biggest pain points. I already offer a service to solve certain pain points that companies of all sizes have. After working for years for diff…
Why hold out hope for other people to meet my needs when it feels more productive and ultimately better to want nothing from other people? — I try my best to be the most attentive friend I can be no matter my internal state. I don't mind doing this for the people I value, and it makes me feel better to be helpful to other people, although …
Seeking self-closure — To give a brief overview. Had a multi year situationship with someone I had fallen for, a fearful avoidant. Much pulling and pushing until it ended by her pushing everything away. A year later she st…
Help me to recognise my attachment style please! — I (26F) am struggling with this a lot, since my patterns of romantic behavior don’t seem to fit neatly into any of the four categories (AA, FA, DA, SA). On the one hand, I clearly crave intimacy and…
Having trouble differentiating between anxious attachment / normal needs, feeling lost and alone — First Reddit post here! (It's a long one, I just really need a place to put it all down and get some support, so thank you). I (19F) got out of my first long term relationship about 3 months ago. It l…
I have become obsessed with finding someone. — After my breakup in winter of last year, I went through a long period of mourning and not knowing what to do or how to move forward. Now, over the past 2-3 months, I have become obsessed with finding …
What would one call this attachment style? — I feel as tho I'm a pretty particular mix, cause I'm not exactly healthy, but the other labels don't exactly resonate either. I suppose it roots from two main things. One, I was bullied and ostracized…
Overcoming my anxious attachment — Hi I've successfully combated my attachment style and offer some of the resources I've found. I've dealt with anxiety and insecurity across my romantic and platonic relationships throughout my life. …
How do you get over the need to be asked/the other person to initiate to prove you are wanted? — I think sometimes I get too fixated on people not being the one to initiate something I want with them which makes me feel they probably don't really wanna do it with me. Like asking to hang out, play…
Life is too short to live in fear — Life is too short to live in fear. The fear of saying the wrong things and earning their scorn. The fear of ~~asking for~~ loving too much and being branded 'suffocating' again. The fear of a co…
Working on becoming secure has made me more susceptible to toxic relationships — I think. Here's the thing, I'm fearful avoidant, and before I was aware of attachment styles at all the moment a person I was interested in made me feel at all rejected in the slightest (took too lo…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
Maintaining this piece of positivity — Alright gang, I hope everyone is well. I’m getting a lot better with my attachment. I’m so proud of myself for times recently when I’ve had a thought about wanting to play into games or behave in cert…
How do i stop the cycle of freaking out when im away from my partner? — When me and my partner dont see eachother for a long time, i just shut down. Everyday were apart the urge to pick apart every message is so strong and eventually when its too much, i just break down. …
Studying attachment theory — I’ve been studying attachment theory for a couple of months now, and I’ve only recently started to REALLY look into it. I started reading a book called Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for…
The monster jar theory of FA or avoidant attachment. — So I was talking to a friend of mine and supporting her and my own feelings of shame and I was reiterating somethjng that isn’t anything new at all but hit on an analogy that really worked for both of…
How does the process look transitioning from dismissive avoidant to secure? — I'm 44 and have slowly worked out there's something up with me, to finding out about this term and seeing a lot of myself in fellow sufferer's description of it. My life is full of unrealistic expe…
The pain of being unmet... — I'm never sure whether to consider myself anxiously attached, or mostly secure, because I generally do fine if I feel really loved in my relationship. But where I fall apart easily is when I don't. I …
What do secure bids for connection and co-regulation look like? — I am a dismissive avoidant trying to get better about reaching out to others for connection, co-regulation, emotional support, etc. I am really struggling to figure out what's normal/healthy/reasonabl…
Anxious Attachment Injury - Nervous System Stuck in Fight/Flight — TW: attachment injury, trauma-bond withdrawal, panic attacks, obsessive rumination I think I’m in severe attachment-injury / trauma-bond withdrawal and I’m struggling to function. I’m asking for nerv…
My Experience Being an Avoidant Woman — I 27(f) am a lesbian who has a fearful avoidant attachment style. I have almost no control over my attraction; I can be really into/attracted to and excited about someone but then something happens/th…
Deactivation or undisclosed breakup? — I'm a FA woman...in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant....all was good, until past Christmas holidays , his bday and all situations when they deactivated.. he was the one who planned being wit…
Please help my friend and I decide if we're unreasonable. How much time do you spend with your partner or spouse and if you live separately or together. — My best friend and I are pretty similar. I'm single, she's married. I was dating a guy similar to her husband off and on for fourteen years but everything came to a head at the end of 2024 and we went…
Trying to navigate a "casual" relationship — Hi everyone, I (30F, trans) have been talking to/seeing a woman (24F, cis) for about 5 months. The chemistry is legitimately the strongest I’ve ever experienced - emotional, intellectual, creative, s…
I'm so tired of people. — For reference, a couple of years ago, I was in an abusive relationship that kinda changed who I am. I won't go into too much detail, but let's just say that I used to be outgoing and fun, but also I h…
32(F) really need advice about feelings for friend — I have developed feelings for a friend (M30) over time. He has given me indications in the past that he might be interested in dating me, but I didn't want to get my hopes up too much. I have been try…
I'm not sure about my attachment style but I want to discover it right now 'cause I want to start healing!!!!!! — Sorry for the long text, I want to be thorough. So, I just ended my first ever relationship. I'm 20, I'm a lesbian from a conservative background and had a lot of internalized homophobia and religiou…
How can I become more consistent in my relationships? — I recently learnt I'm fearful avoidant and I've been in therapy for 3 years so I know how I stopped being inconsistent in many areas of my life I used to be – I learnt to be consistent with studying b…
How can I become more consistent in my relationships? — I recently learnt I'm fearful avoidant and I've been in therapy for 3 years so I know how I stopped being inconsistent in many areas of my life I used to be – I learnt to be consistent with studying b…
Are pre-birthday discards the norm? — I’m trying to understand this through attachment theory because I genuinely don’t know what just happened. We’re both women. I was 23 with a grad degree, she was 38 and just got her culinary degree w…
Did this a bit back in high school a few years ago, but just sort of fell out of it. This popped up on my front page and I'm gonna give it another try. I just hope lucid dreaming doesn't affect sleep …
Too much woo woo.
>Hi everyone, > >I am new here.. i got the link of this group through the NG sub.. i am glad i found it.. i have been reading the posts and the content in the index.. i have started reading the P…
>If we believe with perfect faith that our desire is already ours in the subconscious mind, why would the subconscious mind not just assume the act has already been finished in the past rather than wo…
I had the same problem after my first experience and gave a bit of advice here: https://youtu.be/vYpT0C2wYBw In short, don't seek it again too much and just carry on doing what you were doing! Be pat…
Either way, just don't think about it too much. Simply get up as you usually would. Your physical body should be sleepy enough to not get up. Be detached from your physical body~
Try to focus more on leaving the body and doing what you want to do in the Astral rather than focusing too much on separating.
I attribute my LD to the episode ‘What was in Blue’s Dream’ from Blue’s Clues. Home sick one day from school, watched this episode, dreamed that episode that night then not only did I know I was dream…
Yeah, this is not true and not really good advice. In fact, it’s mental bullshit that feeds the ego of a person. People are bitter and want their ex to feel bad and regretful because it makes them fee…
this resonates too much with me. I want to cry but I can't
Try focusing on your environment and not getting to excited . Tell yourself you want to explore your surroundings before and during . Don’t go straight into getting excited and trying to control every…
Don’t be scared or put too much pressure on yourself . It’s a beautiful experience and a great way to face those fears you are concerned about. Don’t meet your demons with violence , you will find tha…
Don’t Try focusing on controlling too much immediately or getting Carried away trying to do influence it strongly at first . Try just remaining calm by focusing on your environment and exploring as yo…
Yes!!!! You said it! I agree. I believe that too much Disney and dumb Hollywood films has gotten people thinking that relationships work after they have been broken… answer is no. Also people who play…
I am sorry but when you are experiencing an astral projection you know it right away because your consciousness stay awake and powerful, I remember my first time as teenager, the first feeling that ov…
Everything is temporary people don't remember things the way things actually happen most the time. Putting too much emphasis on how somebody remembers you would be spending your wheels. In other words…
When a guy wants to be with a woman, he will move mountains to make that happen. If you want me to translate his behaviour for you, it goes something like "he's just not that into you". Judging by y…
Because they were taking over the sub. If everybody who made a masturbation post had read earlier threads about it and would only post not covered issues we would have only 1% of the posts and nobody …
Tbh you’re allowed to have your viewpoints but this is attention seeking behavior judging by your posts meant to get a reaction out of the people here. Also, why go on a Murphy sub for this? You alrea…
If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, LO…
>So the formula that always works is: Getting to know yourself well + analyzing and understanding where your issues come from + realizing your weaknesses and what you need to change in your life + sta…
FA leaning more towards DA here, when I’m dating and we spend a lot of time together or talk/text a bunch I typically take time to myself after. It can be pretty overwhelming “dealing” w my partners i…
Not OP, but I really appreciate you sharing this perspective here. I (FA) have been in relationships in the past with DAs and FAs, and have always felt like there was something wrong with me for not f…
I disagree with comments saying it’s a “vulnerability hangover” bc that implies they shared too much too soon in a way that crosses their own boundaries. This just sounds like recharging their social …
Fearful avoidant is much harder to fix than dismissive avoidant, because you have the problems of the anxious and the avoidant. To fix the anxious - I only know about this in theory/hypothetically si…
Irritating the ones you love, polysecure (because it deals with a lot of attachment education), women who love too much, polyvagal theory and exercises, legit anything to do with different therapies— …
I think I sometimes do feel like it’s a little bit of whiplash, but I think it’s more so when they haven’t been making time for themself or are burning the candle at both ends with work, etc, and we m…
You can’t, just ride it out for a bit. It’s only been a week. Clearly you like them enough to come here and ask this question to see if you should stay or go. Just tell them straight up if texting to…
One thing I'll say is that in the early stages of dating you aren't actually seeing a person's natural "energy"; you're seeing their energy when they're flying blind under the pressure of courtship an…
That makes sense. I usually go on a second date if I'm not quite sure about their energy yet. But I'm usually pretty good at knowing if I will want to go further with someone by the second date. I'm g…
ChatGPT has been my T lately haha, so I don't have attachment to it. And reddit and other communities are my support system I guess. I am a DA-leaning FA who has always felt a lot of self hatred and s…
Haha didn’t work with mine, he would have been sooooo happy if I just didn’t text… he was such a little scamp. He had an excuse for everything… when it came to missing my call or not texting, the list…
I'm so sorry, this sounds so hard. If you can, I think it would be amazing to focus on yourself right now and what you need. My long distance boyfriend dumped me out of the blue after one disagreement…
Yeah. He realized it was too much for him and just dipped. I’m so sorry. This isn’t your fault at all, but I wouldn’t commit myself to someone I only hung out with for a week in person. I literally bl…
I’m FA and my current relationship has me feeling like I’m losing my mind half the time. I’m really into him, but when conflict hits, I shut down, even though he actually tries to talk things through.…
It ended with “you can’t always read their mind”. Sounds like the original commenter is similar to me or has been through stuff. But if you happen to be disorganized and also have bdp (I don’t think…
*”It shifts your worldview to think that some people can love and care about you, but still feel nothing about hurting you. It’s a type of coldness that feels evil and makes it hard to navigate the w…
Is anyone aware of any apps that help DA’s? Something that could be used in conjunction with in-person therapy? The couples type apps are too much pressure, so looking for something that can help avoi…
“I’m sorry you feel hurt because of me” is not the same as “I’m sorry I hurt you” I dunno maybe I’m reading too much into that statement
All idle time is learning time. You're in a highly demanding field, you won't learn too much.
Focus on showcasing your cloud support experience and how it relates to DevOps principles. Your background gives you a solid foundation in understanding cloud infrastructure, troubleshooting, and work…
Yep, Redshift observability is one of those things that should be easier, but ends up buried in system tables and tribal knowledge. Some practical tips that might help: 1. Build a lightweight monito…
Hey. These titles are often interchangeable but can mean different things for different organisations, depending on their role responsibility expectations, product/services. As such I wouldn't focus…
The advice to not discuss negative aspects of your personal relationships with others is good advice. It is also good advice to not jump on the bandwagon against someone else's SO because when they re…
Hey thanks for posting this. I started my entrepreneurship journey around an year back and the struggle to focus and manage distractions is so real. I have not been diagnosed officially but have read …
Without extending the response too much, take a look at Atlantis or Digger, this will allow you to control changes and request approvals to proceed, a big difference is that you merge on the PR and no…
Hey there, first off, I really feel your burnout. I've been in that same spot where you have something with potential, but just don't have the energy tank to push it forward. It's brutal. A few thoug…
Someone had mentioned here that they do a "Do nothing day" every week. Try that. Our minds need boredom and nowadays there's too much overstimulation (thanks social media!) that we don't let ourselve…
*" I am VERY familiar with the law and with NG's teachings, so no need to reiterate basics and quotes please - I'm asking about your real experiences. What made you actually believe and know? "* Repe…
>There is nothing conventionally rational about the LOB. Yet it works. There's just too much evidence out there to deny it and you've had it happen in your life often enough. That's why even after 6 y…