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**PART 2 OF 2:** **My Acid Trip:** This is honestly a long backstory but I'll make it short as hell. Basically around 2018 I was in an *extremely* dark place, and very depressed for a very long…
Music / Art creation — Does anyone here use the LOB for music creation? Not as much for improving your technique on certain instruments, but rather the actual process of making music. Anything from songs, pieces, riffs, bea…
I just proved that a crappy industry is literally pissing away money — I constantly preach about template fraud and those "pretty but useless" websites that don't deliver actual business results. This week, I decided to prove my point. I spotted a security product in th…
Why do so many retail & shopping sites hide the item details/description? — I’ve noticed this on a number of sites, and I’m fairly certain it hasn’t always been this way. "Hide" is probably a strong word, but basically retailers making the details/description of a product a c…
When does maximising space/reducing elements go too far? — I'm working on an eCommerce site at the moment, and when it comes to the product category pages, I've had some feedback from my senior to suggest that space needs to be used more efficiently. To name…
Announcement Regarding Community Safety — Dear SEO Members, We are reaching out to address a serious issue that affects the safety and well-being of our moderation team and our community as a whole. It has come to our attention that the CEO …
How to handle versioning in Figma? — I joined a project where the figma doesn’t match what is in the field for a mobile application. The project wants to re-baseline the app to what is in the field and keep up to date in the future. F…
Can someone explain to me why my competitor is ranking second on Google when the homepage is just the shop with no text and his menu has the shop and a contact us page? — I’ll DM links if that’s allowed and anyone would like to see both sites. I’m currently building out a site (it’s basically finishing just setting up payment gateways and adding product to the shop on…
Etsy integration that allows products not listed on my Shopify store? — Hi all, I'm trying to get started with Etsy integration with my Shopify store... Would like some suggestions on which app to use. I've looked around myself and maybe I'm misunderstanding how this who…
UX/UI for advanced manufacturing equipment is horrible — First time posting in this sub - I’m a manufacturing engineer and just felt like I needed to point out an opportunity for any entrepreneurial UX/UI designers out there. I work in the advanced electro…
Title tags for product landing pages vs the actual products — I have a niche information architecture problem that I'd like to hear your views on. The website that I help to manage basically has 2 halves: product landing pages, and the actual, sign in-only prod…
Time Tracking App for Productivity Freaks (web app, mobile / desktop) — Hi guys, first time posting in this sub! and first time finally getting a project to a point where I think other people can use it. (Usually I'll build, then half way through just stop) .. I'm callin…
SEO is updated on my Shopify page, but the text on the page hasn't changed. How do I fix this? — Hey everyone, I recently updated the SEO settings on a specific page of my Shopify store, including the title, meta description, etc. Everything looks good in terms of SEO, and the SEO score is solid…
2 Domains - 1 Primary, and 1 Linked/Routed to Other — Hello, So I bought 2 domains recently, and have tied my landing page (via Carrd) to one of the domains directly. The 'secondary' domain, I have routed to the primary (so if you type the secondary dom…
Wordpress Staging vs. LocalWP for website redesign — Hey everyone, I’m working on a full redesign and cleanup of an existing WordPress website, and I want to make sure the development process doesn’t hurt the site’s current SEO at all — both during deve…
Unsent letter to a prior ex, in the midst of a current breakup. — I am in a crash course on my own nervous system while in the midst of a breakup with a dismissive avoidant man I've loved for almost five years. I'd known about the anxious-avoidant trap for some time…
Both best friends got engaged — I (27F) have never been in a relationship and struggle to form emotional attachments at all. I've gone on dates and forced myself to keep seeing a guy because he's perfectly nice and there's nothing w…
Update: Self-help group for anxious attachment — Thank you to everyone who responded to my [**prior post**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AnxiousAttachment/comments/1plm1g1/selfhelp_group_for_anxious_attachment/) re starting a self-help group. (Yes, The…
“Codependent no more” book club — Does anyone wanna do a “codependency no more” book club w me? I’ve been listening to the book on audio so it’s been kind of hard to absorb all the information so I thought maybe if we did a book club …
Book club — Update 3: here’s the link: [https://discord.gg/JQm7FtB5H](https://discord.gg/JQm7FtB5H) Does anyone wanna do a “codependency no more” book club w me? I’ve been listening to the book on audio so it’s …
Decided it’s time to call out blatant misrepresentation regarding our sub — Slide 2 is a post made elsewhere that exaggerates and distorts what was actually said. Slide 3 is the actual conversation in the comments including their “reaction” at the bottom. PLEASE DO NOT go …
RULES: PLEASE READ — *POST REMOVAL: Understand that all posts are instantly removed into a queue to await mod approval. Please allow 24 hours, though usually it is much less. Your post will either be approved, or you will…
What's your experience been with an activity on a first date ? — What I mean by that is a first date that involves some type of activity such as mini golf, yoga, museum, etc. Pretty much a first date that excludes the usual drinks, dinner, or coffee., interview-sty…
March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…
Why Being Ok With Not Having Your Desire Manifests It Faster — It’s a very contradictory thing in manifesting where you desire something, but you’re told to let it go and not care about whether or not you have it (because in 4D you already have it). But let’s fo…
Why Manifesting From Desire Creates Anxiety — I had a realization while trying to manifest a new job. I noticed that every time I get a notification or an email, I feel a wave of anxiety. Which is strange, because I’ve already done the “work.” I…
For Those Struggling With REBAL Build — [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mhyR\_YzKMe0&list=LL&index=104](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mhyR_YzKMe0&list=LL&index=104) Hey all! I wanted to share a meditation I use to form my REBAL. I thoug…
My husband (29M) and I (29F) have a dead bedroom because he says I dont initiate — My husband (29m) and I (29f) have been together for 8 years, married for 1. For the past 3 months we went from a very active sex life to a dead bedroom out of the blue. Every other aspect of our relat…
OKAY LISTEN Y'ALL. — I don't know which tag this would come under but I just have to say this because the amount of 'im gonna give up' , 'its not working' ' what am I doing wrong' posts am seeing is insaneee. First of all…
Understanding Infidelity — Last year, I (25M) broke up with my now ex girlfriend (26F). We were together for 3 years and were living together at the time, but I discovered that she was cheating on me with a coworker of hers for…
Reactive Abuse is the Worst — I always thought reactive abuse is the worst and is always the action I did where I convinced myself I was the Narc. I always regretted it and was never proud I did it. I apologized for doing it but s…
Endogenous DMT activation in sleep? Spontaneous breakthrough-like state with fractals, death sensation, head pops, high-pitched noise — [](/r/DMT/?f=flair_name%3A%22Experience%22)So this is going to sound stupidly insane but… I need to put it somewhere for someone who might understand. Background: had a 6g mushroom trip a while back.…
Major John Liu Fugh — I came across this guy during my general reading. This is Major John Liu Fugh. He was the first Chinese American who was able to attain rank of General in the US army. He was born in China and his …
[Update] She [F25] withdrew consent after the act, how do I [M26] move on from this? — Hey everyone First, thank you for all the messages and the support I talked with my best friend about everything, she was already aware of everything because of that girl and chose to take her side. …
Considering divorce from my husband. I need perspective. — Hey everyone, I've been lurking, but it's my first time posting, so sorry if this is inappropriate. For starters, I'm not asking for advice, as in "what to do", but more like perspective in case I'm …
Still hurts after many, many years — My wife and I have been married for 35+ years. Prior to getting engaged we dated seriously for nearly 5 years. Throughout our dating relationship, things always went well and I thought she was the per…
Cure Avoidant Attachment by Watching TV — Can watching TV help treat a dismissing attachment pattern? In Dr. Dan Siegel’s book "Mindsight,” he presents a case study involving Stuart, a 92-year-old attorney with dismissing attachment. Stuart,…
Carl Jung wasn't a psychologist. He was a shaman. — Carl Jung quietly wrote one of the most profound esoteric texts of all time, at least in my own personal opinion. Seven Sermons to the Dead was written in 1916, privately shared between a handful of J…
I manifest through Frequency Training Daily! — Frequency is the composite of your Identity, Beliefs and Intentions. When you train these 3 things daily: Your subconscious beliefs change and then because your beliefs changed, you feel differen…
Appalachian mountains - orb activity uptick near equinoxes? — I've lived in the mountains of Appalachia (specifically WNC) for a few years now. Last year, in May, my partner and I moved to a cabin half-way up a mountain, with views of the mountains across from u…
Can innocence grow, or do we just have whatever we have naturally? — What is the actual meaning of innocence? I have read that in mooladhara, innocence combined with wisdom creates a sense of safety. How does innocence arise naturally and is it something we can lose or…
Breaks are as important as the attempt - from an experienced shifter ⋆˚꩜.ᐟ — hi gorgeous souls! I have seen some posts about people feeling demotivated after a lot of failed shifting attempts and I wanted to give a bit of advice on how to navigate this as somebody who used t…
What Is the Point of Just Observing Thoughts in Meditation? — People often say that in meditation, you should just observe your thoughts and let them come and go without getting attached to them. But I don’t fully understand what this observation actually does.…
I Changed Myself and Got it All — Hello, I’ve been wanting to write this post for a very long time. Grab a snack and come along for the ride! **The Beginning: April - October 2022** I discovered Neville 4 years ago; after a year of …
I wanted to discuss letters 3 to 5 of Moral Letters. — I just finished letters 3 to 5 of Letters From a Stoic by Seneca. I wanted to summarise what I got from them, and talk with y'all about the parts I didn’t fully understand. If I misrepresented or mis…
"Men Can't Be Men Anymore" — A week ago, I [posted about the Louis Theroux documentary on the “Manosphere,”](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/1rtveyg/the_manosphere/) noting my surprise at the scale of the phenomenon, u…
Spent money on clothes, grooming, and a Miami photoshoot for dating apps. Still getting weak matches. What am I missing? — I’m frustrated because I actually put real effort into this. I didn’t just throw up random selfies and then complain. I bought better clothes, changed my hair, spent money on grooming, flew to Miami,…
You're not trying to text them. You're trying to soothe yourself. There's a difference and it changes everything. — Every "just checking in" text. every perfectly worded message rewritten 20 times. every "I just want closure" conversation you've rehearsed in the shower. it was never really about them. it was about …
i (19f) cant have sex with my (19m) boyfriend and its causing issues — me and my boyfriend have tried to have sex multiple times but it never seems to work and it makes me feel awful. the problem we always run into is that we’re in the moment, he tries to insert himself,…
Wife cheated after 7 years of long distance and 3 years of marriage — Met my now wife 10 years ago online. I live in Europe and she is from the US. We talk for a year and things start to get romantic. I visit her for the summer and we decide to start dating and go long …
We are just 3d Printers — I get it now Our subconscious or minds or whatever it is that we are, are in the 4d. Potentially higher but let's just say the 4d. Time is not a constraint there, you can have many things in an insta…
Hi, I’ve been lurking for a couple weeks now and finished my first reading of POSM at this sub’s suggestion last weekend and The Feeling is the Secret not long after. The concept is completely underst…
>If we believe with perfect faith that our desire is already ours in the subconscious mind, why would the subconscious mind not just assume the act has already been finished in the past rather than wo…
Hi there - you may want to post this as a new thread (a toplevel post) or as a comment in the weekly check-in thread since not many people are going to see it here. I think basically all parents who …
What are the actual steps for someone who is doing this for the very first time? Pls reply
Just wanted to say that my first lucid dream was successful with the "piano key" method. I forget the actual terminology but basically you wake up in the middle of your sleep (3-5 hours) and you're no…
I did this and its been 3 months She called me few times, i picked some and ignored some. Finally yesterday she again called and i picked this time to see the actual situation. There's no sign of get…
DevOps evolves around 3 key principles: 1. Automation 2. Monitoring 3. Integration The rules are simple: # Automation Don't ever do anything by hand. The only allowable manual action is configurin…
I get extremely anxious during the day thinking about if I did my SH sessions correctly. During the actual session I am relaxed though.
Will start reading the LOB on the Index, thought reading the actual books was more beneficial to start with, thanks a lot for pointing me in the right direction.
It literally is, look at that essay you wrote. You’re overcomplicating things and applying 3D thinking to something that really has little to do with the 3D. The 3D is merely the result of all of this…
You put yourself in the mindset to take inspired action and you achieved your goals. Sounds like manifestation to me. This sub encourages action. As for SP...I might get banned for saying this b…
I’ll take a crack at it Point 1: The answer is sm vs cm thought. Daydreaming is not focused with intent, the mind often wonders and you still feel it’s not true in the end or with emotions that are …
Okay logic and science- so your RAS reticular activating system is basically the minds way of filtering and processing the insurmountable data that it takes in from the environment 24/7 as well as pro…
Well, you’re posting here and clearly don’t like the dynamic or you wouldn’t be asking us if we think it’s normal. I’m just saying that it’s not a dynamic that most people enjoy or find tolerable and …
I feel you. I’ll give you my experience as a FA then suggestions. - I also transitioned from anxious to avoidant our the years. I was never full on AA but more anxious leaning FA as a child. Now I l…
It was difficult untill last summer when I joined a men’s group, and got some feedback to my story… at the same time I was deeply committed to learning about avoidant’s and how they manage (or more to…
Omg I think you just gave me a key to bring to therapy. Thank you! This resonates with me so much! I for sure victimize myself, but when you added the part about why do it beyond the point of the actu…
Long distance doesn’t work. It also extends the timeline on the relationship as if you’ve been together a long time. But if you string the actual interaction together, it’s not very long at all. So re…
honestly, it's pretty situational and depends on the person and the relationship, but in general with interpersonal stuff that i have dobuts over, i try to not take any action immediately and instead …
As the others mentioned fixing your app is priority number one, however, I find it very weird that just one request blocks your whole server. You should try to find the bottleneck before moving clouds…
I have a 100% automated account for bluesky and youtube, instagram and tiktok is like 70% automated. instagram I don't automate the actual uploads etc, only content creation, they will limit your acc…
Helm. Kube manifests are already simple enough, I don't understand how abstracting them even further is a good idea. There are a ton of community chats and most of them that I came across were not gre…
Have you looked into how you express your own avoidant tendencies? The way you're rationalizing behavior that is proven to harm relationships and people (e.g. silent treatment and witholding resolutio…
I agree with this, but also want to point out some DAs don’t actually communicate a boundary. I had two ex’s who were DA and I can lean anxious. Both were very inconsistent in communicating “I need sp…
Attachment issues only appear because of a relational issue at some point in life. It's not innate, you're not born with it (even if people can have certain tendencies) and it only exists in the act o…
The normal stereotype is that non-secure men lean avoidant and non-secure women lean anxious. I would bet a lot of money that these days there are more avoidant women and the number is on the rise. T…
>Whatever the actual proportion is, I bet there is definitely a rise in non-secure attachment overall. Yeah, agreed. People keep citing these dated and dubious "statistics" that 50% of the populati…
😂😂 I didn’t say that. This is why I’m saying you don’t have a point you’re just arguing with yourself. I didn’t say the most toxic thing APs do is having “too much empathy”. I’ve never mentioned AP…
The thing is the more I have aged and worked on myself getting higher self esteem and confidence, the more I have self reflected and become more aware of myself, the more I have slowly recognised the …
Reducing therapy as a concept to a script of a two person conversation is a misunderstanding of what therapy is and what makes it effective. Here are three links for you about the danger of AI therap…
I had a pretty similar experience and landed in a similar spot that you did, even down to the same number of dates and spiraling when I would run into her afterwards (we work in the same building so i…
Agree with most everyone else who has commented here. I don't know that the act of giving 3-4 weeks of space is either secure or AA. Instead, I'd look at the motivation behind it and what the space fe…
Yes I've been analyzing what I could've been doing wrong for the past few days even before making this post. The way I approached it is we have 2 CM methods (PSP & Affirmations) & 1 SM method (SH). …
Turn off the active status. I also turned off read receipts and disabled notifications. I like the delaying worrying thing and scheduled worry time.
So I’ve been talking with a guy for just over a week now. And we have at least talked a little every day. Not a lot but a little. He lives around 2+ hours from me and we met online. So texting and on…
I completely agree that we're not meant to be alone. I do still get a healthy amount of time spent with others. My friends do visit my town every now and then, and i still regularly spend time with th…
Beautifully said. I believe so too. Also the infinite past basically 99.9999999% pre-determined all the actions of yours. If free will existed, we would be able to do magic, but we can't. We are limit…
Yeah definitely. "Didn't click" = nobody met their standards as an excuse of themselves being the actual problem.
My relationship is still less than a year old and is long distance. I love my girlfriend very much and I know she loves me and she has put up with various of my problems and supported me and has been …
I literally have been having these same conversations with my bf the past month. There was a week or two where he wasn’t initiating— i told him that this made me feel not desired which was emptying my…
Your ex is 30 yrs older than you?! And you got together when you were a little older than the new guy he brought in….and then he brings in someone 40yrs younger than him???? Sorry your ex sounds creep…
Text of original post by u/f1rstpancake: I am in a crash course on my own nervous system while in the midst of a breakup with a dismissive avoidant man I've loved for almost five years. I'd known abou…
FA here it’s not splitting I think that’s for an actual mental health disorder or personality disorder. Let’s all be clear attachment styles are not disorders and they all can be changed with the prop…
Narcissistic tendencies are trauma protection mechanisms, the actual labels don’t matter too much if you’re able to identify patterns. A very unhealthy person can exhibit all of these behaviors
As someone who is currently quitting smoking and has had partners worry/stress about it in the past, the biggest place that I see this go wrong is that partners focus on the *act* of smoking and mista…
> Now you're waiting for him to reassure you about crisis that doesn't even exist in his reality. > > You invented a crisis where there is none. I really really really agree with the first sentence.…
I just have a few questions: 1. If you go out on a date with someone and it goes well, you have fun, and you find out the next day that they aren't interested in continuing seeing you -- was the date…
They do come back from this but it's so so so hard 💔 I went through an avoidant discard. There was no writing on the wall, 2 very happy years. He used to say he sees us being together forever becau…
You should check out the book Nonviolent Communication!! There are free PDFs online if you want to try before you buy. I'm moving from AA -> Secure and it has been super helpful. The basic idea is: …
Analyze the actual data versus comparing it to old loops. Make sure you know exactly what you want from your partner and make sure they know what you want. Make short term and long term needs based …