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This is a TEST: Did You Change Yourself Yet? — I posted about a month ago on revision work and how it changes everything. It truly IS so beneficial because it allows you to realize how much control you have over EVERYTHING. This brings me to the r…

Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means) — I last posted a variation of this a little over 5 years ago. We're a little overdue for a repost. --- You know how every Uber rating is right on the verge of 5 stars unless something's particularly …

Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading — # 6th Kill: $20,000 Money Mission **Mission**: To make $20,000 from futures trading **What I achieved:** I made $20,000 from futures trading **How long did it take:** 5 and a half months **Backgro…

[Showoff Saturday] Indoor football arena website made in html and css and 11ty static site generator. No frameworks. Nearly perfect page speed scores. Just showing what’s possible with only the fundamentals. — Here’s the site https://thefootballfactorynj.com The biggest problem we had to solve was consolidating all the dozens of pages they had for each age group and camp or league to sign up. We made the…

Pouncemonial: 7th Kill - Disciplined Trader — # Here's how I achieved my 7th mission! **Mission**: To become a disciplined trader **What I achieved**: Mastered stop loss and trading discipline **Background**: After my 6th kill, I was eager t…

Is there a better way to create posts that actually match your brand? — As a solo builder, I’ve been working on a small idea I think might be useful — especially for startups and B2B teams trying to stay consistent with branded content on instagram. The problem: Creatin…

Building My First B2C SaaS Product – Learning, Struggling, and Still Going — I’ve been working on my B2C SaaS app **Gamify** for a little over a week now. It’s a habit-tracking, gamified to-do list app — a mix of fun and structure I’ve always felt was missing in other tools. …

Seeking Your Input on a Tool to Boost LLM Rankings — Hey SEO community, as the title says, I’m building a new tool just for us, and I’d love your feedback. More people start using GPT and similar AI for searches. It’s still early days, but the trend is…

The best way to differentiate yourself? — What I have found works is this: Step no.1: Research yourself and your competitors If you're the founder or in a C-level position, you might say: "I already know everything about my business." WRONG…

Inappropriate Design Task — I recently did well in an interview and have been given the most wild design task to date that I was made to feel stupid for pushing back on and would like some opinions. I was presented with a 9 pag…

Offering Options to offshore engineer. I will not promote — I have a startup. obviously. anyhow, my company is in Canada. I have this developer in Vietnam, and he is pretty good! I pay him decently for his hours, but as a founder, I feel like i want to offer …

To all e-commerce store owners: What tool do you wish existed to make managing your store easier? — Hello to all e-commerce entrepreneurs! 👋 In the fast-paced world of digital commerce, we know there are many daily challenges — whether it's managing orders, handling customers, shipping, analyti…

Thought experiment – What if OpenAI had followed classic startup advice? I will not promote — Let’s have some fun with a thought experiment. What would OpenAI’s journey have looked like if it had followed all the usual startup advice from the Paul Graham / YC / generic playbook? Things like:…

Different Businesses Need Different Content Formats – Here's Why (i will not promote) — Hey everyone! One thing I see often overlooked is the fact that **not all businesses need the same type of content formats**. Depending on your target audience and the type of business you run, the …

Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups (I will not promote) — **Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups** These are a few things I have come to learn while doing "startups," maybe it will help some entrepreneurs in their startup travels.…

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

TransferForge – Convert Oxygen Classic to Oxygen 6 Without Rebuilding — Hey builders, We've been working on a tool called **TransferForge** to solve one of the biggest headaches in our community: migrating from **Oxygen Classic (4.x)** to **Oxygen 6**. As you know, O6 …

Shopify Support is the absolute WORST — I have had issues with payouts- as in first they disable my payouts for verifaction then I get an email saying everything is okay and then within hours without no communication or email, I´ve checked …

"Locked" Inspector Stylesheet — So, I recently was modifying and testing something in CSS via inspector-stylesheet and all of a sudden it got... Locked?? I don't know how else to explain it. I can create a new inspector-stylesheet …

Help troubleshoot with removing unwanted bundles feature — Hello, I'm setting up my first shopify store. I'm not sure how, but there's a bundle offer on every product in my store. I'm happy having a bundles option. However, the lowest is 2, and I want people …

Unique Field Guard For ACF — https://preview.redd.it/a99i8tsrl5ze1.png?width=2632&format=png&auto=webp&s=837f17d2a06d91e3e0a14803dbefe7e1c4f897aa Hey WP family! I recently built a plugin I’ve been working on that solves a headac…

Tech Startup advice required - Hire or equity offer (I will not promote) — I’m a serial entrepreneur—what some might call "very successful,” though success is relative and I just did okay. Over the past 25 years, I’ve had some brilliant tech ideas and a brain wired for archi…

Website Traffic Analytics Show No Activity Suddenly — Hello Guys. Hoping you can shed some light as to why we are facing a situation. When I click on Rank Math Analytics for the last 30 days it shows zero activity across the board. There is activity up…

Shopify Bill Pay - international vendor payments cannot be funded by Shopify Balance anymore — Im not in love with Bill Pay as its so sloppy and support is lazy. Plus they lock down accounts left and right and don't tell anyone. Once the new balance account numbers went out I saw that they were…

How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote) — Experienced founder & CEO here. I'm gonna tell you how my business got straight cash (like literally millions) from the gov and how you can do that too. I've bootstrapped my last german education bu…

How do you make sure nothing falls through the cracks of your business operations? — I work with companies that use a ton of different tools (CRMs, inventory, payments, shipping, etc.). The problem I keep seeing is that things slip through the cracks, and no one realizes until it’s to…

What exactly are "Design Problems" and "Design Solutions" in UI/UX for Web and Mobile Apps? — I often hear terms like “design problems” and “design solutions” in YouTube videos, case studies, and articles about product design and UI/UX. While I do understand requirements and can design user fl…

Alternate for 'Please share bank details' to transfer money — Hey folks, I’m working on a simple tool aimed at helping small service businesses — like tradies, pet groomers, caterers, mobile cleaners, etc. — get paid faster. Instead of sending invoices or shari…

Anyone know of an alternate for 'please share your bank details' (I will not promote) — Hey folks, I’m working on a simple tool aimed at helping small service businesses — like tradies, pet groomers, caterers, mobile cleaners, etc. — get paid faster. Instead of sending invoices or shari…

Modern web dev has me on the ropes — I'm a FED, and I've been helping build websites for 15+ years. Started on LAMP stack, did some Wordpress stuff, but mostly my bread and butter has been FED-heavy, building UIs with HTML, JS, CSS/SASS …

What’s your experience with these AI on-call tools? — Has anyone been using the AI tools that help with on-call like rootly, resolve.ai, drdroid or similar? How’s your experience been? Have they been able to reduce MTTR?

How can I let devs update their lower environment terraform while protecting production environments? — I know the title is a rather open ended question, but let me lay out where I am now, in the hopes of getting ideas on how to do this better. For a given service, we'll have one directory for environm…

Spent 1 year solving a problem users “loved” but wouldn’t pay for: my learnings [I will not promote] — We are 2 years into building our SaaS, but spent 1 year building something people “loved”, “were excited about”... yet did not pay for. Since then, we have slightly pivoted and gained traction, but I …

Organization lost access to website — (Edit: mostly solved. Consensus is there isn't a good process to reclaim a site that has been lost. Open to other thoughts, but thank you to everyone who has offered their advice already!) I've been …

Where do you look for solutions for your pain points? — Hello guys This is not another post asking you for your biggest pain points. I already offer a service to solve certain pain points that companies of all sizes have. After working for years for diff…

How to fix my own FA attachment (ideally without therapy)? — I've been aware of my attachment style for a while now but only recently been annoyed with it enough to want to fix it. I've never been in a relationship because of it and done some admittedly very se…

Manifestation coach hired me and fucked me over — Hi everyone, this is my first post here and I’m writing because I’ve exhausted every other option. And I am FUCKING DONE WITH IT. I hope some of you will see this and help me to hold that person accou…

Pouncemonial: 9th Kill - 30 Successful Trades — **Mission**: To accomplish 30 successful trades **What I achieved**: Accomplished 30 successful trades and learned how to execute and manage trades well. **Background**: With the previous kill, …

Learning to take space, self regulate and set boundaries as an AP earning secure — I have always leaned AP but working on security and now in a relationship with an FA leaning heavily avoidant I've realised a big goal for me is learning to self regulate and set better boundaries. Fo…

Why hold out hope for other people to meet my needs when it feels more productive and ultimately better to want nothing from other people? — I try my best to be the most attentive friend I can be no matter my internal state. I don't mind doing this for the people I value, and it makes me feel better to be helpful to other people, although …

Self-soothe tips during ruptures? — I am the anxious partner, and my husband is the avoidant partner. He is also an addict, which has been traumatic in our relationship and in my trust in him. He is currently sober and working recovery.…

4+ Months of LOB Practice — What's up people. Discovered this sub around the start of april 2025, and didn't actually navigate trough the index until about 15-16th of April, and after reading the index, starting 20th April I st…

Can a FA-DA relationship work? — My partners have been dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant, so I have always leaned anxious ig. In my last relationship, I felt secure at the start, it was nice, we set boundaries.. till it happene…

APs what would you want to hear in response if someone doesn’t feel the same as you? — So I’ve been noticing the way a few friends reach out, feels mismatched with how I’m feeling. Usually this is my more anxiously attached friends/most unhealed ones. Often it will be something sugary…

Emotional numbness. What happend? — I've been together for 5 years now with my DA (2 earlier break-ups 4 years ago). Every time we have an argument or a fight I go in complete AA-mode; cry, scream, chase, beg to resolve it right then …

Studying attachment theory — I’ve been studying attachment theory for a couple of months now, and I’ve only recently started to REALLY look into it. I started reading a book called Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for…

How do I ask for support in a secure way? (Hyper-independent) — I used to be more anxious-ambivalent and now I’m more secure with a bit avoidance. The pendulum has swung a bit to the other way. My problem now is that I don’t know how to tell someone that I’m curre…

Today marks 6 months since we last saw and spoke to each other — As the person on the receiving end of testing behaviors, ghosting, and a discard, I would love to hear that my former flame is doing well or even an apology. We have known each other for almost…

Is casual sex compatible with secure attachment? — I feel like I have a solid grasp of attachment theory after reading a fair amount of the literature over the years, but there’s a philosophical question I can’t quite resolve. Can someone who is secu…

FA breakup & prolonged limbo - does avoidance calcify over time or can it still reverse? — I’m hoping to hear from people who’ve been through something similar, FAs, or anyone who has opinions on this. I was in a 2 year relationship with someone I later realized is fearful avoidant (I didn…

Firstly congrats dude, that's awesome news. And secondly, sounds like both of you realized you had to do that deep work, and both were open AND available 6 months later... All these things have to ali…

Try therapy. Just remember that therapy can take a long time and be expensive.  If you haven't already in the meantime, try looking for parenting classes.  Or try parenting forums, if a specific p…

I’m sorry to hear you had an experience like that. I do think my current relationship is a little more consistent than what you’ve described. We see each other usually at least once a week, more if we…

Do you feel like its much harder to start healing while in a relationship as opposed to being out of it? Diving into a serious relationship very fast, I realized I have a lot of issues with avoidance…

What have you done to resolve your fear of commitment, your emotional unavailability and the inferiority complex? Why are you searching for excitement from a partner? What does that mean to you? Is i…

he is not a complete stranger, you already met. did you dance with him? I think mostly you have this solved, just stop introducing doubt.

It was difficult untill last summer when I joined a men’s group, and got some feedback to my story… at the same time I was deeply committed to learning about avoidant’s and how they manage (or more to…

That’s an interesting point, the possibility of dissociation. I have actually been quite conscious about remaining present through the pain. And there has been quite a lot of pain. So many emotions su…

There are many factors to consider with regards to attachment styles, especially towards different people / situations a specific style might be more prominant. There is also a spectrum - mild, modera…

I'm pretty sure my ex bf was FA. He claimed he was anxious but the trauma he experienced and his behaviors leading up to our breakup kind of point to FA. He broke up with me for just shutting down. Li…

You are correct. Your perception of love is warped. And thus it can be really hard finding it without accidentally finding yourself in shit relationships. As many have commented, avoidants typically …

The mire you deny your emotions and feel they are wrong the worse it gets. Once I just started telling my partner how I feel without making it their problem to solve, the less I felt those ways. I got…

No, disorganised attachment is essentially the same as Fearful Avoidant, except disorganised tends to be used for children. Fearful Avoidant already is a "mix" - these people tend to be anxious about…

Thank you. This research at least is not wedded to what is seems to me to be a very over simplified model. I've just read the abstract and will chew through the rest of it. Then look at what else …

He sounds very dismissive avoidant, and breaking up every 2 weeks with only 9 months in makes me kinda feel like you may be slipping into a p toxic trap. If you want to go forward, I would suggest cou…

I can relate to this. For myself I have been wondering why I think I need to be in a relation to have more intimacy and a deeper understanding. I think it's better to get those things from myself, fri…

>Note: It's at that point when most secure people will leave a relationship with an insecure attacher, when their reasonable requests start getting shot down. That's what I was going to say too. If y…

I know it's not quite what you're asking, but I'd happily advocate for spending the big money again on DataDog and Auth0. Both get very costly at scale, but both solve their respective problems very…

What problem are you trying to solve here. I mean, I admit it. It's a fun challenge for your self. But practically, does it even make sense?

Docker/containers solve some pretty inherent problems that most DevOps teams will face. You're gonna have to go into detail about what you're deploying and why containers don't work. Not liking a te…

There is no such thing as “the smartest business to start today”. There are trends, opportunities, needs and problems to solve. It’s difficult to future-proof businesses these days with the constant v…

I've not used vitness, but it is intriguing and looks like it solves a lot of problems. What I've done in the past is move heavy usage tables to their own database instance/cluster. You need your app …

Changes should bring improvements or solve problems. It doesn't sound like these teams have problems that DevOps would solve.

You apply as much as it makes sense for the people and time. Making those decisions for now while maintaining a long view is an important part of DevOps. It's a process that introduces people into th…

Be a problem solver. Look out for problems that exist and have already been solved. See if you can do it more efficiently. That’s your starting point for every idea.

Just because you're not passionate about anything today doesn't mean you won't be forever. Give yourself time and explore. And don't just focus on the business world either. You can't just think "I mu…

You can either find passion about a problem to solve, which I doubt you feel or you can find passion for the impact/result. Find the second through the process.

I have used resolve.ai, and it's a pretty cool tool. The solutions the ai provide are not the best, but for simple fixes they are good. For junior developers it's definitely a life saver.

An app or something tech in an industry you understand. I've seen lots of people with somewhat ave intelligence launch something simple that solves a problem and then scale it over time to something p…

For me, it’s been about building a personal brand and a company brand as two distinct things. They’re obviously connected with shared values and vision, but they serve different purposes My personal …

Friends and family first while we worked on confirming hypotheses, then they shared with a few others, then (and now still) we’re reaching out directly to people who have stated that they deal with th…

Thank you so much for your answer! So, so much good advice. ''it's really strange, but I can actually feel when I flip from anxious to avoidant.''-- I just wanted to share with you: I too can tell …

Secure here. I still do learn and learn to accept that a lot of people cant express themself and selfreflect. Long distance friend of mine and, probably DA, got into arguments with me via whatsapp. …

>But if you were me and you had just discovered attachment theory, wouldn't you at least try use that new information to work on a solution? I think EVERY anxiously attached person in an anxious/avoi…

I like this idea. It seems to help both the anxious leaning and the avoidant just check in for the day rather than the avoidant expecting to have to check in continuously, or the anxious person waitin…

So instead of replying individually and repeating myself, I'm just going to make a comment addressing it all. Firstly, it was interesting to read all these perspectives. I see where some of its comin…

I am a FA learnt secure, and I'll say almost half of the women I have dated are avoidants. Ken Reids and Dr Sarah Hensley have given lots of advice on this. I'll paraphrase them: 1) Ask them early,…

I disagree. Some avoidants will be good at hiding yes, and that's because in their avoidance + arrested emotional development, the initial playful energy will cause you to mirror and stop noticing the…

Ikr. So tough. "Idk why you always bring up the past" um, because we haven't resolved it? Stonewalling, silent treatment, dismissing.

I agree with this, but also want to point out some DAs don’t actually communicate a boundary. I had two ex’s who were DA and I can lean anxious. Both were very inconsistent in communicating “I need sp…

Well, if you're into them, that's the first sign. It'll be tricky to differentiate between DA and secure for you because they'll both feel like they're moving at a reasonable pace at first, but a DA i…

I literally felt the same, and so needed a second opinion. Here's what Claude Opus 4 had to say (after copy pasting it): Why does this reddit post feel like an ad? My spidy sense is tingling: Yo…

I'm definitely not a philosopher by any means, but here are my thoughts. The article references previous research by Monroe & Malle (2009), where it's said that people's concept of free will consists …

Agreed. I think I used to be FA many years ago and I did not need direct therapy to solve it. I think online resources like you suggest can help enough if you’re a very self aware person

I think skepticism is always warranted. But I would make the case that psychological processes like cognitive dissonance and projection are likely magnified in insecure attachers.   Plus some peopl…

So the person who replied to you is immediately toxic because they don't agree with you? I think I *MIGHT* have solved the mystery of why it's so hard for you to find the relationship you want. 👀😬🤣

1) your ex needs to solve this problem themselves and cope instead of involving you. It is extremely immature of them to solve this problem by reconnecting, it is incredibly inconsiderate of your time…

No, it’s not normal to ask for that much space. The idea that dismissive avoidants “need space” gets thrown around a lot, but here’s the truth: that need for space usually comes from emotional overwhe…

Of wanting to be in a relationship, if he was ready for fully committing, and he was EXTRA scared of hurting me. He knew he liked me but being in a relationship felt stressful. And I was able to stay …

You always saw her as something more than a friend, it's just that now you need to realize it because she is out of your reach. Since she was always available before, you never bothered and was part o…