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how could i (21/F) tell my boyfriend (24/M) that i'm still friends with my ex? — my new boyfriend and i have been "official" for about two weeks now and everything is going really well. i feel like i need to talk to him about boundaries though because i am friends with my ex (22/M…

How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …

Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …

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What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …

Need Guidance for Amazon Systems/DevOps Engineer Interview (Cloud Support Background) — Hope you're all doing well. I'm currently working as a Cloud Support Engineer and have managed to land an interview with Amazon for a Systems/DevOps Engineer role. While I’m excited, I’m also feelin…

From AI Creative Studio to AI Influencer Platform – Would You Follow One? — Hey everyone, After 6 weeks of feedback and testing, we’ve officially pivoted from an all-in-one AI creative studio to a focused AI Influencer Studio. We realized most users weren’t just generating …

Low-risk, High-reward, and Easy-to-start Business... an A-Z overview of the Rental Management business I run (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I'm a real estate & software developer, AirBnB Host of \~20 units personally, and I help run a management company with \~200 client homes. So I've been through the ringer in every which …

Jobsites to lookout for as a Product Designer. Need help. — I'm currently in the lookout for a job change and I would like to know if there are any specific sites/channels/spaces/groups to get a job alerts. I'm aware of fee and actively on top of it, but I cou…

Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I’m in the process of building an exciting startup focused on **fantasy football** and I’m looking for a **technical co-founder** to join me and help bring this idea to life. The core i…

I need you advise am i a UX Jnr Midwieght or more? — **Hi everyone, I need some advice.** I’m currently a Junior UX Designer (30years old) in the UK at one of the top for new broadcasting companies such a Sky BBC ITV etc. **A bit about my background:*…

Passive FTP into Kubernetes ? Sounds cursed. Works great. — “talk about forcing some ancient tech into some very new tech wow... surely there's a better way” said a VMware admin watching my counter FTP strategy😅 **Challenge accepted** I recently needed to r…

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

{Weekly Discussion} Google seems to be giving the thumbs up to Reddit's AI Scaled Machine Translations — Background - during an earnings call, Reddit said that google said thumbs up to the idea of publishing AI machine translated content - apparently something they've penalized others before. [Gagan Gho…

Marketing Digest: Google tests new AI mode outside Labs along with more features, ChatGPT introduces shopping features with personalized product recommendations, Google confirms search signals used to train Gemini AI — Hey guys! A new week means a fresh batch of marketing insights. Google’s keeping us on our toes as usual, and AI is busy finding new ways to take over the digital space. Let’s read: **SERP features /…

Can I use popular music in Reels for my Instagram Business account? — Hi everyone, I have a Business account on Instagram where I’m promoting my product. I want to start publishing several Reels introducing what I offer. During the creation process, Instagram allows me…

Anyone here navigating entrepreneurship with ADHD? How do you manage focus, procrastination, and distractions? — Hey everyone, I wanted to reach out to the community to see how many of you might relate. I've been wondering lately if I might have ADHD — I haven’t been officially diagnosed, but I know a lot of pe…

How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote) — Experienced founder & CEO here. I'm gonna tell you how my business got straight cash (like literally millions) from the gov and how you can do that too. I've bootstrapped my last german education bu…

Small Business Case Study: How We Grew Our Instagram & TikTok with an AI Social Media Assistant (No Ad Spend!) — **Post Body:** Hi everyone! I co-own a small business (a boutique cafe + online store) and wanted to share our experience using an **AI “social media assistant”** to grow our Instagram and TikTok. W…

tailwindcss-github-markdown – GitHub Markdown styling for TailwindCSS — I was frustrated with the default styles of tailwindcss/typography, so I created a plugin that ports GitHub's beautiful Markdown styling to Tailwind CSS. The plugin (\`tailwindcss-github-markdown\`)…

Pods, Probes & Sidecars: Your First Real Step into Kubernetes Magic — Hey Folks, In our last post, we broke down **Docker Compose vs Kubernetes – Why You’ll Eventually Need K8s**. Now, it’s time to officially dive into Kubernetes, starting with the smallest, yet most po…

How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation? — Brief context: I've studied the law on and off for 6 years. Tried to manifest 2 old SP's with varying success, then eventually having them both try to contact me, but I realized that I was shooting so…

r/AstrologyChartShare Is Being Rebooted - Stay Tuned! 🌙 — Hey everyone, We’re the new moderation team for r/AstrologyChartShare, and we’ve officially submitted a request to Reddit to reopen this subreddit! Our goal is to revive this space as a welcoming, o…

This is what happens when your FA ex comes back — This is my personal experience for those who are curious. Of course everyone will be different but I thought it might help those who are waiting or wishing (APs I'm talking mostly to you) Firstly the…

Seeking self-closure — To give a brief overview. Had a multi year situationship with someone I had fallen for, a fearful avoidant. Much pulling and pushing until it ended by her pushing everything away. A year later she st…

Is this Deactivation? Seeking insights from FAs. Please help me understand this — We're together for 6 months, a lot of push/pull in the beginning, but by the 4th month everything was finally going fine between us. He even called me his girlfriend nd promised to heal and everything…

For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? — For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? I began therapy 4 months into our situationship because of how strong he came on,…

I had a breakthrough tonight! — Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another anxiously attached person. It didn't w…

Both best friends got engaged — I (27F) have never been in a relationship and struggle to form emotional attachments at all. I've gone on dates and forced myself to keep seeing a guy because he's perfectly nice and there's nothing w…

ICE Resources + Discussion Megathread — Hello r/asianamerican, The purpose of this megathread is twofold: 1. List of ICE-related/immigration resources 2. General discussion of ICE-related topics and news **RESOURCES** These …

Feeling conflicted, I don't know if I don't love him and I am settling or if I love him and the "cons" are avoidant deactivation? — I 33F have ve been dating this guy 32M for 8 months. He's chased me for years and eventually recently I started to feel attraction back, he figured it out and kissed me. For some months I didn't feel…

Bf of 14 months hasn’t said I love you — My bf (35M) and I (33F) met December 2024 on a dating app and became exclusive immediately after our first date. On our first few dates he asked what I was looking for and I said I was looking for som…

I'm deactivated right now and not sure it's worth trying to save my marriage — I'm DA (40M), my wife FA (41F), 3 children. Together 17 years, married 13 years, very distant 11 years (due to my earlier long-term deactivation) with no affection or intimacy at all, working on recon…

Please help — Hey there! Found this community a few days ago and I seriously need advice on how to push thru the panic/ anxiety. I know I'm an avoidant. All my life I've never wanted people to see me. All my life…

March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…

42M. Do these things basically disqualify me entirely? — I'm 42, Male, home owner almost half way paying off the mortgage, university post-graduate education, full time job in retail middle management that I actually enjoy doing, a bunch of mostly solitary …

Broke up with DA after a year. — Met her a year ago, almost to the day. Things started well, relatively slowly which was nice for a change compared to other situations I have been in around that time. After two months, we became offi…

I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath — Hi everyone, please I need help. I’m 35F and my husband is 36M. We’ve been married for 10 years and have two boys (7 and 5). I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. About three months ago my hus…

Break up + no contact update (post 4 months) — I thought I’d give an update into my healing progress since my breakup, in hopes to shed a little light on the small positives that can come from heartbreak. For context, my ex and I broke up in Octob…

The term lunar new year was first used in British Hong Kong to quell Anti-colonial anti-imperialist sentimemts — “Lunar New Year” was first used to refer to the Chinese New Year in legal documentation in British Hong Kong in 1968. The holiday was officially called "Chinese New Year" in British Hong Kong until th…

Does anyone subconsciously think about them? — It's been five years since we last officially spoke. I was honestly doing okay for those first few years (crossing them out of my mind, going on dates, getting through other relationships and breakups…

Am I absolutely insane for being the most heartbroken I’ve ever been for a 2.5 month not even official relationship? — I am 27 years old and I have had relationships that have been years. I just a few days ago something ended just after 2.5 months with someone. And I have never felt this level of pain in my life. Not …

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Discharged after a 3 star Google review — Hi! I have autism so I sometimes have a hard time figuring out how I come across . But I was at a practice that provided both APRN services and therapy . I posted a three star Google review saying I …

Understanding Infidelity — Last year, I (25M) broke up with my now ex girlfriend (26F). We were together for 3 years and were living together at the time, but I discovered that she was cheating on me with a coworker of hers for…

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I (32F) trusted my partner (34M) completely until I discovered he lied about a “friend” he talks to daily and that they were texting very appropriate. I’m shaking and feeling lost — I’m a 32F and my partner is 34M. We’ve known each other for many years and have a long history together. We were apart for a while in the past but recently decided to try again because we both felt th…

Leaving them unblocked only hurts you — Though I started to see my narc ex for what he was and began detaching a few month ago, I still left him unblocked. I hoped he would message me either to apologize or give me 'proof' he was a narc. I …

I don't know the difference between what's real or not anymore — I don't really know where to start other than this experience was over the weekend, and it made me see things in a different way. On Saturday night, I took a gummy, I dabble in it to help with my anxi…

i manifested moving after 5 years in an RV — so to give a little background, I moved into an RV with my dad in 2021 of January. We have lived in this RV ever since and there’s not much space and I’m somebody with a lot of energy that likes to da…

Thanks. That’s interesting, nothing official that he did. Wow, be interesting find out more about him, such as how he arrived at such genius concepts. Figured it out, read from previous religion, scie…

Work - it was my first mission. Daily routine as in the index, in three months I missed maybe 3-4 days due to travel. The result - work in a profession for which I had no qualifications.  On the oth…

I'm seeing a DA, and while we're not in an official relationship, it very much feels like we are and he just doesn't want to label it. I've noticed a pattern with him that every time there's a big s…

Maybe (as an FA) I can offer some insight… I was raised by a narcissist. In spite of my best efforts (15 years in therapy), I still have a high risk of ending up in a relationship with one. The mom…

I think all these time‐tracking systems in IT are absolutely useless and only justify the work of those who implement them. No offense to efficient managers. If the company were like a factory produc…

Hey thanks for posting this. I started my entrepreneurship journey around an year back and the struggle to focus and manage distractions is so real. I have not been diagnosed officially but have read …

My first question is, are you really satisfied with the fact you’ve been dating her for 6 months and still aren’t her official boyfriend? And now she wants time apart? This is playing right into the a…

Well initially I thought that about this 6-7-ish mark we'll make it official. However closer to those timestamps she began to feel overwhelmed with each week (she's autistic, was finishing her bachelo…

OP you can also find the official DBT workbook online for free and go through it yourself. it's got 100s of pages of skills-based lessons and exercises. if you can't afford the therapy you can DIY the…

Yeah, we are now fully no contact. It’s been a bit over a week and I’ve moved far away so we’re now officially severed. I just want to call him all the time, he really was my safe space and now the gr…

Oh wow, that's a noticeable difference in both the shorter time to deactivation and the longer deactivation period. I would say that I definitely noticed a shorter time to deactivation and shorter o…

Hi everyone, I’m in my early 20s, and recently I went through my longest relationship so far — almost 2 years — with someone who is also my age, and has BPD. I have AuDHD on top of everything. Our rel…

Text of original post by u/DaniT0n: Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another an…

Did I write this? 😂 besides the AI part, which I haven't had time to officially go down that road lmao you sound JUST like me. I had a guy that I thought was perfect for me and then he left me when m…

I need to vent and word-vomit my story, in this community, as I just found it and it might really help me. Can someone tell me what they think? My avoidant attachment gf broke up with me (anxious att…

Wow! That is so insightful! Holy heck, why isn't this comment at the top?! That makes so much sense that it kind of hurts a little. And, to be up front, the only way I've ever been able to feel "heale…

Hi everyone! I 28F am anxious attacher, my boyfriend is 31F the most avoidant person I know. So we know each other for half a year now and made it official 3 months ago. The thing is that he is really…

I [28M] recently started dating a wonderful woman [24F]. We talked for about two months, and finally became official at the end of September. I’ve dated seriously before (my last relationship being 5 …

28M and I’ve dated a decent number of women over the last 10 years. I’ve noticed a pattern that always seems to repeat itself. When I meet someone I’m attracted to but not *that* into at first, I sta…

Hello, I’m going through an extremely difficult time as someone who was previously anxious avoidant now more anxious secure after a year of therapy. And I have been in a relationship with someone for …

I'm (23f) currently a few days post broke up and naturally it has been devastating. I broke up with my boyfriend (23m) because after 7 months ultimately because he didn't love me. He said he was …

It was never a break up because we never were officially together I guess

She said she was afraid I wouldn't like her at the start of our relationship. She deactivated when it was getting real. I was weeks away from asking her to be my official GF. There were mistakes and m…

Having strong feelings isn't inherently bad. What's bad is if they are supported entirely by fantasy. Anxiously attached people tend to lean into the hyper-romantic early on, nothing wrong with that, …

I've posted in this sub before about this relationship. I'm dating an FA for about 7 months now. We started off great and he is really such a sweet, sensitive, loving guy. But at around 5 months in I …

Although your story is different to an avoidant, doesn’t matter DA/FA, unless your constantly throwing up boundary walls at random and make them chase you they’ll stick to the avoidant (unofficial) ha…

ive been with my boyfriend since about july, and we made it official early october, things typically are really good, but any time he gets upset with me i freak. i believe hes more avoidant, when ther…

I (22F) have been in my first real and committed relationship for a month now. And I think I’m having anxiety over it and overthinking and thinking ahead way too soon. My boyfriend (24M) have known ea…

Ha! Hilarious that it cited this post. I googled too, and chatGPT did say it’s not an official term. Perhaps it based the concept on the info I plugged in about my specific experience with a specific …

Hey everyone, I really need some perspective on my situation. My ex and I recently broke up after almost 3 years together, about 8 days ago. The breakup was reportedly over “values” — but from my pers…

You need to create some boundaries around this for yourself. You are letting her dictate and that essentially is abandoning yourself. It’s very possible she is not capable of officially break it off. …

Tldr seeking advice for an anxious attachment whose my boyfriend has recently been diagnosed with depression Sorry it’s a little long! So basically at the beginning of last year I (27 F) started not…

Hey man, gonna answer through the lens of my own experience. Hopefully it’s helpful. If you don’t resonate with it, please disregard. I’m also assuming that you have a healthy relationship with her an…

We started talking about these things once we became official. She told me herself about a small trigger that she has (she sometimes leans to anxious as well). And I told her that I attach anxiously…

Bf (M36) of two months and I went on a weekend trip to Barcelona and I'm now considering breaking things up. I still see what made me fall in love with him but I've seen other things too. Four m…

Rave warning. I’ve been dating someone for the past few weeks, our communication styles and expectations match on word 100%. He seems absolutely wonderful and makes me feel positively safe, and most …

I'm dating a guy, and while he has been mostly consistent with our plans, he's attentive and cute (and great in bed), we mostly had short dates or sleepovers. This weekend would have been the first on…

I’m always flabbergasted and not afraid to say jealous when I see recently ( I use that term loosely) single friends go on and a date w/someone then next thing you know they are relationship with the…

Progressed to being exclusive recently after 10th date (my proposal), and now in a period I'd call probationary as we are (I am) still figuring out how the official label will work out for us. I said …

A lot of people are given the advice to keep their opinions open until they’re in something official. It’s possible he was seeing her but they hadn’t had ‘the talk’. The planning of this date could …

*Should this be a post or here? I am seeking support and encouragement towards a secure/healthy response, not just validating my withdrawal!* I just put myself in spooked horse mode. Been talking t…

I feel like I could’ve written this. I’ve been on and off dating apps for seven years and in that time have had two…two genuine matches that led to meaningful connections. Even then, one ended it afte…

My bf and I said it at 6 months. But we were feeling it for real at 5 months. We started the relationship clock from our first date because I didn't have any significant dates after that. After our …

Me and my bf just hit the 3 month mark. We have not said “I love you” to each other yet. Although, at 2 months into dating, it was interesting, we were on the phone and he was complaining about life …

Could be. He was definitely more of a slow burn than I am; he’s very analytical and measured—not the type to get carried away. He’s said multiple times that he saw us going somewhere official in the f…

It seems to me some people think "dating" means "seeing each other," and that others think "dating" means "in a relationship." So I dunno. I think when you both agree to an "official" relationship t…

My last relationship was similar. I met my ex in late October and we consistently had one date per week, except for the holidays when we both had travel plans, but we still texted, talked, and facetim…

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Advice needed: TLDR: Do I drop someone for being not good at conversation when Im comparing them to an emotionally unavailable potential partner.   Im currently talking to a very sweet guy (let's cal…

hey all, i’ve (39f) recently started dating a super sweet guy (47m). we’ve been dating for about 3 months, and have just made it *official* things have been moving at a rapid, intense pace, yet a few…