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Thank you for sharing this. It's quite rare to read genuinely insightful reports of peeking out there instead of the usual "love and light" BS. I've seen/sensed this fractal/recursive structure too (…

Is this an emotional affair? — I (36F, single), have a good guy friend (40M) who has been dating a new woman for 2 ish months now. Full disclosure I don’t like her very much and I think they’re moving super fast (already saying I …

My father is sabotaging my career and medical treatments through "smear campaigns" and monitoring. I feel like I'm living in a Truman Show nightmare. — ​I (25F) am an Indian doctor currently preparing for NEET PG, and I am living with a family led by a malignant narcissistic father. My mother and brother are complete enablers. I’m writing this becaus…

Got an insane flying monkey voicemail this morning — So long story short: My dad is an abusive piece of shit narc in a family of narcs. 7 years ago was the last straw when he beat up my little sister who was 19 at the time. Rather than harm him, I went …

I blocked my mother. — On March 3, I blocked my mother in WhatsApp. I’ve been living abroad for four years and started therapy two years ago. So many things have happened during this time... She used to tell me that I’ve ne…

Coda Slogans — I've been attending a meeting for about 2 months and realized last night that Coda doesn't seem to have slogans the same way Al-Anon and other Recovery programs do. Or maybe there is just a lot of cr…

breakthrough trip & the bigger picture — Hello, it's me again. I know that there are people here who enjoy reading my experiences so thus my posting. Obviously a disclaimer is this experience is under the influence of a psychadelic, but it t…

Flying Monkeys Are Not Forgiven — I don't know if anyone is here to try and understand their role in a narcissist's abuse, but one of my nex's flying monkeys tried to apologize today. I want to remind flying monkeys that forgiveness i…

It gets to a point where the enablers are worse than the narcissists. — I'm not sure if anyone else relates but for me, enablers did more damage than the narcissists. It was them backing the narcissist up, making excuses for them, downplaying your experiences, and turnin…

Easter flying monkeys — I have had no contact with my family for more than 15 years, yet they still try to contact me. For example, this Easter I received messages from my nephews—children I don’t know, since I left when the…

how do you guys respond to comments/messages like this? — i posted some pictures of me and my partner on a trip on facebook only for a family friend to immediately comment "long time no see, how's your mom?". i responded with "how this post of mine correlate…

Neighbors were recruited as flying monkeys — After establishing no contact, I received a text from a neighbor, several weeks later one showed up at my doorstep promoting me to engage with a phone call, and today, 3 months later, a different neig…

Support needed. Last year at this time I had a crisis and ended up being victimised multiple times — ​ Last year between April and May I had a crisis and I started breaking away from abuse (reiterated s.abuse). When you try to break free from abuse, a lot of things can happen, but I never tho…

My Mom Kept Killing Our Pets — I always thought that animals had very short life spans. Through my childhood, we had adopted and buried at least 7 cats, 5 dogs, 2 rabbits, and 3 hamsters , not to mention a myriad of wild animals li…

ex broke no contact after.. only a week? — long story short, we were long distance, then living together, had been dating for 2+ years and he cheated on me while drunk - kissed another girl, this was in feb. blocked the guy everywhere once i …

Was my dad abusive or am i just ungrateful and blaming him for issues — this may be a long post, sorry in advance.. my dad is a person that I both love and really dislike. I'm currently still dependent on him and my mom (though they are divorced) because I'm disabled. I …

How do you deal with being the only one who was hurt and knows the truth ? How do you deal with the flock of flying monkeys ? — I'd like to share a story. Unfortunately, I'm still dealing with the narcissistic person and the flying monkeys. I feel like I'm trapped in a spider web and that the pain is going to stick with me for…

I dont see the point of living anymore — Im not a young teenager anymore Im a 21 adult male, I escaped my abusive parents 8 months ago and close to turning 22 Im a virgin despite being tall and thats because I was abused by my family…

Consollation for Dealing With Flying Monkeys — I was raised by a narc dad and underwent severe abuse. My mum and most of her family died before I was born. So it was just my ndad and his extended family network (vast). I went NC in my 30s, final …

Technically flying monkeys are gangstalkers as the narc sends them — And gangstalker are usually also 1 squad around 1 plot, sent by the narc. And flying monkeys as miserable as the narc. And every ganstalker video says the narc is behind it calling the shots. Dont …

How does one deal with and angry ex-to-be, who lies? — Kinda just the title. She convinced my family (and some neighbors!) I'm, bear with me, suicidal, homicidal, unstable (etc). Our kids come over, and spend the night here weekly. Also, I have federally…

Partner traded me in for in laws — TLDR: has anyone had a partner go back to their nfamily after going no contact and then blamed you for everything while the nparents refuse to apologise for anything at all and are treating your partn…

Advice/AIO — This may sound weird and then maybe not at all, but I've been putting off asking for advice on this because 1. I wanted to see me handle it on my own, having come pretty far in recovery and feeling …

Feeling like I’m getting too comfortable living here when I should be moving — I can’t find anything but an unpaid internship, and it’s embarrassing because I need a job to get out. I also need it to get a credit card so I can get rent at the very least because I don’t have a cr…

What the hell you mean "its not my circus, not my monkeys"??

So at first I was like, WTF, why not just say no and don't worry about it? But I'm growing soft in my old age, now that NDad has been gone (checks math) for almost 12 years. I guess I'm losing the mem…

Welcome to the world of narcs..get a job and move away the farther the better inverse square law be ready to fight be aware of flying monkeys...he may even set up someone as your bf ..don't fall for …

Luckily I don't have friends, I am considering moving away from where I'm living. And I won't be able to trust any boy for a long time(thanks dad). I'm looking for ways to tackle flying monkeys. I'll …

The reason most psychologists and several literature on coverts advise against exposing them is because their goal is de-escalation and I understand why. Narcissists don't just want to control you the…

I agree with this deescalation tactic. Don’t underestimate the CN’s nearly supernatural ability to recruit flying monkeys and discredit your truth.

End goal is to move on with life, yes, absolutely but I do t hide things from anyone. I state loudly and clearly that the ex is an abuser, cluster B and I suffered from DV. I say it calmly and factual…

Yes, I understand what your saying - that's why I detailed in my post above that following your above mentioned advice isn't bad per se. . However, different people require different methods of heali…

I effectively doxed my narcissist ex-wife after our marriage ended due to her low-key cheating and lying. I won't go into detail how I did this in the open forum but it was enough to have my narcissis…

I remember the best "mic drop' I ever had was a few years after our narc cut us off from contact with his wife and kids (my sister in law and niece and nephew). We hadn't been allowed contact in years…

It's been working finally 🤗I've tried many other ways of trying to get her to stop, unhealthy/ healthy but the best thing honestly turned out to be giving her less attention. It's not perfect, but i…

“FLYING MONKEYS” IS SO REAL. GOD FUCK WHY ARE THEY ALL EXACTLY THE SAMEEEEEE

Definitely agree with this. The mask always falls at some point. With my nex it started when she moved in with her sister and best friend (flying monkeys). It’s always best to remember they’re broken…

Oooh yes I will. Her stalking is a drama issue but once my father passes she'll have no flying monkeys or enablers that affect me. I will cut ties completely... I'm getting lower and lower contact. …

Watch videos of horny monkeys Understand that you are the monkey [https://www.youtube.com/shorts/\_VSuXSAcNlU](https://www.youtube.com/shorts/_VSuXSAcNlU)

She pitted me against her flying monkeys when I called such here. Told me they were very upset and that I owed them an apology or I was no longer welcome near them. I think she was expecting me to be…

i know i'm not the person who asked, but i hope that she can realize her worth and get out of the relationship with the POS. i've been stuck in that cycle before too, and it's miserable. therapy and g…

Please take some time to really think about this. Your father said that he doesn't love you. All those flying monkeys probably aren't aware of that. Imagine being a parent and saying that to your k…

Too much drama. I’d block the flying monkeys. Then you won’t even get any of their messages, further protecting your peace. ✌🏼 just here to offer a smooth, crisp, high-five for maintaining boundaries…

I'd LOVE to know how he broke both kneecaps! Man up? It's harder to stand on your own than continue to be a masochist and take the abuse. So you ARE manning up, just not the way they want you to. …

Same story here! Plus anonymous packages and flying monkeys. She goes through spells trying a while bunch, gives up a while, and does it again. Solidarity 🙏

I hate flying monkeys. They know what happened but just try to sweep it all under the rug. Fuck that. Hold that line. FMs tried to drag me into a family photo at my mother's funeral, I think the fuck …

OP I can relate. Your family and my mom would either hit it off really well or detest one another - nothing in between. Anyway, I started to comment just for the flying monkeys bit. That’s entry-l…

“I know you’re upset, but I don’t know why” That sentence alone would piss me the entire F off!!!! Just like narcs, the flying monkeys love to pretend they’re clueless about why you went no contact.…

Barrrrfffff. The religion angle? Ew. Implying you should be ‘doing’ something? Ew. Implying you’re not a man for holding boundaries and keeping your peace? Ew. He FAFO. It’s too bad you didn’t call t…

He would ditch you over some little birds. My husband would stay even if I got a team of monkeys. At least Find someone who will get you a pony.

I’m sorry they are so horrid! Live your best life without them or their flying monkeys.

I was married to one. I have become a loner. I had two at the same time. One at work and one at home. They brought nothing but chaos and turmoil. My health took a hit. I am just bouncing back. I have…

Here's my story arc. I grew up with an alcoholic angry father who tried to strangle me at 18, and an enmeshing and enabling mother who blamed me for my father's anger. I fled to the military, where I…

The most important thing is your safety, OP. Never forget that. The car, clothing, books, and everything else can and will be replaced in time. Get your meds, SS card, driver's license, and anything e…

Unfortunately, dealing with narcissists create no wins during healing either. You can say that being free from them is a win, or personal growth, but the reality is quite dark, healing is lo…

But also by the time he left us, all his behavior was textbook, narcissistic, and then he straight up DARVO’d me, told me he was gone because I wasn’t abuser and he had to get away from me and that it…

>And when someone does something diabolical to me, my automatic response is to self gaslight telling myself they probably didn't intend to be mean, etc. and I should not have a reaction and continue b…

I'm also not from a rich family but having a rich abuser seems like a nightmare. They can afford a private investigator so you can never get away. They can afford the best lawyers. They have all the c…

I'm glad you made it out. All the rest is crazy. They are nuts! But you escaped! I am so proud of you, especially for not caving in to speak to them after all that, especially at the airport. And FY…

Congrats for sticking with it!! You’ll be at 18.5 in the blink of an eye!! Stuff went down on my birthday and that was it for me. The flying monkeys are exhausting. I’ve weeded most of them out but so…

I just read your other locked post on another narc board. I'm so glad you made it! What an arrival story, though. I'm sure the police loved becoming the flying monkeys for your parents' benefit. You'r…

She’s not going to change. My guess is that she’ll send some flying monkeys at some point.

Read “Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life” by Scorn or the website “chumplady.com” It’s an infidelity survivor help site. Your ex is trash for cheating on you, but she inadvertently did you a favor by leavi…

 The red flags pop back into your mind when youre alone to your thoughts and away from the chaos. I doubt mine will reach out again. She burnt her bridges with the flying monkeys she used to get me ba…

Tell the flying monkeys what the ex-girlfriend said, and why you don't want her. If they don't understand, that's their problem-- not yours.

As someone who had this reaction and continued to put up with the drama for more than a decade, here’s my advice: 1. Be brutally honest with your GF about your family and how nasty things get. Do not…

Having gone through a similar situation to OP and being unaware enough to keep putting up with it for too long, your comment is solid advice.  I would add suggesting to OP to limit contact between n.…

My N mother also said that. Before I went no contact I told her (through one of her flying monkeys) that as a Mother myself now, I understand her less than before. I heard a really good quote a w…

in china as we speak. i don't qualify as a citizen, but working on permenant residence.  the US is a failed state. in my honest opinion, no one in america wants to let go of the past. so that means …

Time to completely block her on all mediums. Then block all of her flying monkeys, that could also mean blocking your sister too. You really don’t want her anywhere near you when you give birth. You…

She will not change, and she will absolutely do this to your child if you permit it. If that thought makes you angry, that's good... hold onto that while you block her and never involve her ever again…

Paranoid? No. I know my nex, the new supply, and the flying monkeys know my main username least one of my alts. They’ve already doxxed me, they’ve already made it obvious they read my posts and commen…

My ex husband’s aunt is STILL complaining about me lol His new supply isn’t allowed to talk to one of his family that is my friend because then the illusion of my horribleness would be shattered. Both…

OP, you need to understand that (legitimate) narcissists care for NOBODY but themselves! They only APPEAR to be friends/friendly with certain people, if they're deemed USEFUL, in the narcissist's ov…