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Logistics of estrangement from N father — So, my mom died 3 weeks ago of colon cancer. She was the best in all ways and someone that I truly loved wholeheartedly. But she never could leave my abusive, narcissist dad. She said she wanted to ma…

I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …

I had a breakthrough tonight! — Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another anxiously attached person. It didn't w…

Anxious Attachment Help — I'm a 44 M and feel like an emotionally secure relationship is impossible. What's helped you heal? I feel like everything in my life has been taken from me and have a difficult time finding motivation…

Bf of 14 months hasn’t said I love you — My bf (35M) and I (33F) met December 2024 on a dating app and became exclusive immediately after our first date. On our first few dates he asked what I was looking for and I said I was looking for som…

Are these early signs of narcissism? — So I met this guy on Hinge a couple of weeks ago. We do know some random people in common. Here are the signs that I find strange: \- He’s absolutely grandiose - have a ton of projects, ideas, storie…

The divorce was the best decision of my life and I have to talk about it. — I'm 27f and I've been in a marriage with a man who absolutely did NOT connect with me for six years. Like... In the beginning, we were best friends since we were tots. Best friends through high school…

Ex-Wife texts daily about the kids — I've been divorced just over two years, and my ex-wife still texts me almost daily about the kids. Sometimes it's 1-2 texts, but often 5-7 texts 5 days a week. I'd say she texts me 80% of the month.…

Keeping the conversation afloat — The most difficult part I've found in OLD as a recently divorced, early 40s male is that many of the women I meet are terrible conversationalists. The most engaging and exciting exchanges have a rhyth…

Where to go from here — Just to warn you, this is a long one... For context, my partner (F39) and I (M40) have been together for 17 years, have two kids together. This all started in early January but seems to have been goi…

Cheated on after 10.5 years together, divorced at 11 years together. — Hi Everyone, This is half venting and half hoping for advice or people to listen. I'm at a low point right now so I thought reaching out to a community might be beneficial as opposed to holding it…

Do romantic relationships ever work with enmeshed parenting? — When my ex and I broke up I told him that his mom was going to make his marriage miserable. She disapproved of/disrespected me and we could see it wasn't going to work out. I don't hate him, but I'm o…

My biological mother sexually abused me in such weird sadistic ways throughout my childhood and I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced this — For context I am a 20 year old girl I was raised by my two lesbian parents they got a sperm donor and had me and my twin sister. Starting since I’m assuming a toddler up until about 13 my biological m…

40M My uncle has divorced and remarried, still constantly fighting with his wife. And so much financial troubles.

I (34F) found out my ex-husband (40M) cheated on me again, after we were supposed to be working things out. — I found out, from the person he's been cheating on me with, that it happened over a year ago and has been happening since. Of course i flipped out and went ballistic! He claims she was psycho and wa…

New Partner Has Never Used Condoms — I (41F) am newly dating a guy (41M) who is recently divorced from his high school sweetheart. Bc he was with the same women since high school, he has never used condoms. I'm the opposite - I've nev…

I think I want to get divorced. — I'm so tired of swallowing myself to make room for him. I'm exhausted by his casual homophobia, misogyny and racism. I hate that I cannot speak the way I want to because he doesn't "get analogies" or …

My mom always expects the best from me when I don’t get as much in return. — I am a 27 Korean American female. My parents divorced when I was really young and ever since, my mom has taken care of me as a single mother who can’t speak English in the US for 25 years. We were fi…

Spring Cleaning and Change — Currently, the biggest benefit for me since the new year has been discarding items. I've gotten into a bad habit of stockpiling possessions in one room and eventually thinking I would take action on t…

My ex wife changed after the divorce and I don’t want her back but I am angry — I see little bits of my ex wife life through my kid and I just don’t see the women I divorced anymore. She immediately got a new husband not even 2 years later. I original thought it would fail becaus…

My Divorce Journey - Hope it Helps someone — Just want to share some notes on my journey through divorce…I’ve been divorced for about two years after a 15 year marriage (2 kids) and I’m finally on firm ground with myself. Just some key points …

My wife keeps helping her sister and husband — Hello, I need some advice, I'm a male of 45 yo, and my wife 44 yo, live a good life together with our dogs, no kids, because we got married at the end of our 30's and realized we didn't want kids. …

BF stayed in contact with an old hookup. Should I be worried? — Dating a wonderful man for almost two years. We both are divorced and were cheated on. So we’ve both come into this acknowledging that trust is hard for us but we’ve consistently communicated well. I …

Ex-wife is adamantly opposed to me introducing anyone to the kids ever. Any advice? — My ex and I have been divorced for almost five years. In that time I’ve dated casually, but never seriously enough to introduce anyone to my kids. For the past year, though, I’ve been in a committed r…

Dating in your 40s changed what I look for - and not in the way I expected — When I got divorced I assumed I'd become more practical about dating. Older, wiser, better at screening for the right things - income, stability, shared goals. The usual checklist. Three years later I…

Pulling the trigger but terrified, Male 48 — I'm a male, 48 years old. Married for 24 years to a woman two years older than me. I'm sure my story isn't unique, but here it is anyway. On the outside, we look like a great couple. We have a teena…

I’m so lonely after my divorce — I (46F) got divorced 8 years ago. I had been with my ex (45M) for 12 years and we have 2 kids. I met someone a year later (40M) and we moved in together eventually but after 6 years together we were m…

I Stayed For WAY Too Long — I just found this sub (after watching the Ben Affleck movie *Deep Water*, which was super triggering), so I thought I'd tell you my story. Maybe someone here can relate. My ex-wife struggled with a …

Anybody else had a father that was physically there but wasn’t emotionally present like AT all? — Growing up my dad was just physically there and just provided. He never hugged me, told me he loved me, he just been stone cold. We are in the same house, with 0 connection. He never sat and gave me a…

I'm going to meet AP for the first time — I divorced my husband 1.5 years ago after discovering his affair, not only once but twice (with the same person). The first time he confessed everything and was commited to make it work but after some…

UPDATE: I asked for a divorce — Here is my original post: https://old.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/1b6vfpt/i_asked_for_a_divorce/ Hi everyone. Hope this post finds everyone better than the last time I posted. I last po…

My (26M) brother (35M) has impregnated my ex wife(F27) and is engaged to marry her. How do I move on going forward? — I started dating my ex wife(key) when I was 14 and she was 15. Her parents were shitty so we lived together with my family throughout our relationship(my mom, older brother(jay) and older sister) so h…

My mother won't stop grabbing my crotch — Not sure exactly how to flair this. Marked it NSFW just in case. Sorry if that's not right. I'm a 22y/o living between my divorced parents (don't have the means to get out on my own right now). Thing…

My ex-husband is engaged, 5 months after our divorce. — My ex-husband is now engaged to the girl he began dating a few weeks after our divorce was final. We had been separated/divorced (we said we were divorced as soon as we decided - at that point it was …

Ex husband remarried — \*Update to my previous postings on this sub.\* My ex husband got married this morning. We just divorced in October 2025. I feel like he is crazy. I don’t know how I feel about this. I am glad he has…

Ghosted at 45 — I’m genuinely heartbroken. I (45F) was ghosted by a 40 year old man after exclusively dating for 4 months. I have been divorced for 3 years, I’ve dated here and there, but really took time to work on …

“ he never harmed me” good to know my suffering meant so little to you — My ex husband left me for the mistress 6 years ago. It was hell. I am still to this day dealing with the trauma of having the person you trusted and loved so much just pull the rug from under your li…

Those of you who were blindsided, discarded, or abandoned- how are you doing now? — I see a lot of people on here saying that they were unhappy for years and what a relief it is to be divorced now. But what about those of us who thought we were in a happy marriage only to be left wit…

My wife left a year ago — My wife left a year ago I got divorced about six months ago. We were together for eight years and married for four. She cheated last year. It wasn’t anything dramatic. One random day, borrowed her l…

My wife left a year ago — I got divorced about six months ago. We were together for eight years and married for four. She cheated last year. It wasn’t anything dramatic. One random day, borrowed her laptop since my office one…

I think I just figured out what having “ no chemistry” feels like …. — Please excuse type-o's microphone to text is acting up. we met OLD. Finally someone in my town with the same age, same number of children ready to nest ready for a relationship fully divorced!!!!!!!…

Ex-Wife Still Difficult Post Divorce — Hello Reddit! I divorced my ex-wife in 2024 after I caught her cheating. The divorce process with her was very difficult and she wanted to litigate everything in the courts, acted like a victim hersel…

Going to false legal cases. When will it get over and when will I get divorced? M37 — I was married for couple of months. Due to few things which I got to know - I asked for divorce. She filed false cases to extract alimony. It's been over 3.5 years now - when will this get over? Pl…

Divorce is Finalized BUT… WTF is wrong with me? — I’m 56 years old. My divorce was finalized in January. My wife was given three months by the mediator to move out of our home. I should say my home since I bought it and paid it off before we were mar…

Update: Divorced and kept the house — [Here is a link to my earlier post](https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/1jwso51/how_should_i_bs_handle_my_relationship_to_my/). In February of 2025, I learned that my wife had been …

37F, Divorced due to Husband external affairs. Please advise future life and marriage. Any reconciliation?

For the divorced people. How many of y’all knew before the wedding? — Curious how many sensed it beforehand but still married anyway.

Narc mum's (horrific) reaction to my gf's pregnancy — I’m 35M and recently found out my girlfriend (we’ve been together \~6 months, known each other \~12) is about 7 weeks pregnant. We live together in my property, we have jobs, we're secure enough, and …

How to handle being obsessed with certain thoughts? — I’m in my mid 40 F. I’ve been divorced more than 10 years and I’ve been pretty happy since my divorce. There was no urgency to re marry or having a boyfriend. Since I hit 40, I felt unfulfilled. I d…

Saw them together — D-day was Feb 7th. He’s shown no remorse, in fact according to him it’s actually all my fault our marriage is over, so I’ve moved our divorce along quickly. We should be divorced next week. I’m tryin…

Divorced WS is doing a lot better after 5 years of no contact after divorce for cheating — An ex cheating partner is thriving after the divorce. He confessed out of the blue and he took accountability for all the bad choices that he has done. Before the divorce he confessed to my parents an…

TIL both my parents harmed me, and they were divorced and separated. They both blame the other or me. Lovely. They’re dead to me, lost causes.

I'm about to get divorced. I don't want to go back and forth with her. She's driving the divorce. We have 3 kids so I can't go totally no contact. I can cut it down to the bare minimum and focus on my…

Hi! So one thing I can tell you from lots of therapy and recently spending time around her is I realized I had been only remembering her good qualities and putting her on a pedestal in my mind. When w…

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

I cheated on my wife back when she was still my girlfriend. I found out that my girlfriend of a couple months was pregnant. I lost my mind for a couple of weeks and went and cheated with my ex. I lied…

I realized after I read my initial response how much I repeated myself. Sigh, this shit is hard. Brain not firing on all pistons. The reason I asked for compassion is because he is acting like it’s a …

PLEASE READ IF YOUR LOOKING INTO ASTRAL PROJECTING. About 2 months ago I was looking extremely deep into astral projecting, once I seen what it was I was instantly drawn to it and thought it was inter…

Yes. I was with a dismissive avoidant and I divorced him, and then my older sister is a DA as well and I have been regaining my voice after I left my ex. So I have set very limited time to talk to my …

I had gotten divorced a year prior to meeting him and that was what really triggered my wanting to change. My ex husband and I are still close friends but I really messed it up by being avoidant. We a…

He sounds very much like my husband who I will be getting divorced from precisely because of his avoidant attachment. You're 100% right, they do not change. At least not on their own.

Text of original post by u/DaniT0n: Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another an…

I'm a 51-year-old man, divorced twice, with autism and severe anxiety. I've been completely socially isolated with no friends. I met a woman online 6 weeks ago and we've had 1.5 in-person dates. I'm f…

I'm on chat-contact with a lady across the Atlantic . I feel fairly emotionally safe with her, but the distance makes the relationship borderline unrealistic. I'm divorced with a son whim I love more …

I'm a guy of 50M and am in a relationship with a woman who is 46F We are 2.5 years in a Living-Apart-Relationship. She lives with her childs, I live with mine. We see eachother once a week for one, t…

Triggered from not seeing my partner enough - advice please Hi folks. Please help me understand if this is my anxious attachment kicking in or something reasonable to be feeling a little hurt by. …

I went through a devastating break up three years ago. My ex was a dismissive avoidant. We were in couples therapy before the breakup. I kept seeing the same therapist after the breakup and that’s whe…

My ex was a divorced DA who had 3 kids.  They’re all pretty messed up in their own ways by his dismissive tendencies. Some are people pleasers, others ended up with anxiety, another is a model of him…

I’m a widowed mom and have been texting a divorced dad for about a month now. We have gone on two dates total with the last one about a week ago (I left town to visit family for the holidays a few day…

The BPD was more for context. The anxious attachment was, for sure, a precursor to our relationship. We've been no contact for a couple of years. We've been divorced for 15 years. I do a lot of reg…

im 29m and i am single with no kids and never been married and most people my age are married, recently divorced or are single parents and I don't want to date someone who's been recently divorced bec…

This will vary from place to place I imagine but at 29 you should be able to find loads of people who aren't divorced and don't have kids. It's okay to not want to date people with kids, it's very di…

Some divorced people don’t have kids or a financial burden

Gonna talk to my therapist about this woman today. I still dont understand why someone would act so flirty/playful with me and also be wearing a wedding/engagement ring. (I dont know if theres a disti…

Chat (says the 38 year old man trying to sound young and cool) I have a silly conundrum question. With Valentine's Day coming up, I want to get my lady some nice flowers from a local florist. She love…

I know right, wtf is this attitude that if you're divorced you have to be celebate for like 3+ years. 1) you're rusty at dating, it's gonna be at least another year of getting up to speed on dating …

Went out with a recently divorced guy over the weekend.  I don't think it'll go anywhere, just fun.  He keeps sending me interior decorating photos, asking my opinions, taking my advice. 

> and I can feel them pity me. It's interested to me how you can feel them projecting pity onto you (which implies you're able to pick up subtle unspoken cues), yet you're not picking up that this g…

I think it’s the social setting of where I live where I feel the pity. Just the way my friends (not all!) talk about it. Even during Christmas my dad said my mom was crying because she’s the only one …

I (38M) divorced a few years ago. Married for 10 years, had three kids, and it was toxic. I feel I kicked out my coverage and married an 8 or 9 while I’m a 5 or 6. Part of the toxicity was constantly …

Probably your best bet is to find another busy single/divorced parent who isn't keen on remarrying or having more kids. Most other people either would want more or would only be seeking no-strings sex…

Sometimes it's impossible to pick up on the red flags of someone who could just be using you for sex don't let that detour your dating experience shit happens just learn to move on from it I'm sorry t…

I’ve been dating my sweetie since October, and we’ve been exclusive since November. Despite a few challenges (he’s a divorced dad and I’m childless currently), our relationship has grown so beautifull…

Bravo! I'm at the last stages of the divorce from my DA wife. I said this exact thing to her, among many other things, to which she said her usual - nothing. She believes that hyper-individualism …

Lately I’ve been feeling shitty about how my two younger sisters have already gotten married (one of them divorced but has lived with two other bfs since then) and I (33F) have never even lived with a…

>I kind of knew I wasn’t ready due to ongoing divorce and just general unhealthy trauma that I am aware of and now working on actively This is everything you need to know. Not divorced, not over the …

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Oof. You’ve fallen in love with someone who hasn’t recovered from divorce and is emotionally unavailable. I say that as a divorced man who’s been there done that.

Okay, first I just have to get this out of the way: you were pretty wild for bringing up moving in together after less than a year of dating ESPECIALLY since he had JUST gotten his divorce finalized. …

Semantics. He was married. Separated isn’t divorced. He’s not a “faithful respectful family man” he’s a married man dating. He was separated 16 months before even starting he started dating OP (how mu…

He waited after exclusivity, after 3 months and after intimacy to tell you he wasn't actually divorced? Textbook manipulation. Run

Ok, spanish man here, 39, never married. So take what I feel as a grain of salt: I think he is enjoying his time with you, and wants you close (for selfish reasons? maybe, maybe not) I'm worried tha…

Never get involved either with a married, divorced, separated, widowed or polyamorous guy. ~Ever.

One of my best friends is a lesbian, and she’s recently divorced. She’s having the same struggles. The women she found most attractive on the apps were in open relationships/marriages. I told her to j…

I can relate, I’ve been in a very similar situation but I didn’t realise I was a DA and she was FA until after I divorced. I can only give you insight on things I’ve learned and realised over the yea…

Maybe I will check it out sometime, however it seems like when I have gone there in the past, it is people who have been married and divorced - with or without children. As someone who has never been …

Yes. I divorced a year ago and recently tried to get back into dating. I quickly found out that as a divorced man in his thirties, finding a partner is basically impossible. I'm not as young and good …

Thank you so for NOT making me feel crazy and stupid lol 😂 in her case, she had been in a few situations where she jumped into something too fast with the wrong guys and they ended up cheating or not…

33F and reentering the dating scene after 10 years…I was married for around 2.5 years and filed for divorce about a year ago. The man I was married to was a real piece of work. I don’t mind being tran…

I think your low yourself best. I miss my ex and it feels like it’s been months, but it’s only been 21 days. I understand the feeling of the texts. They would text me good morning and good night and e…

Well, I'm in a spot today I wasn't sure I'd find myself in for several reasons. I matched with someone on Hinge last summer and we really hit it off, we're both divorced parents living in the same sm…