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Is it a good idea to let my anger out to my ex and tell them all the things they did wrong? — I broke up with my boyfriend a week ago but only recently realised he is probably a narcissist. I've been revisiting a lot of memories and rethinking things and seeing things, all the signs of narciss…
Asking for input from those who are avoidant — (Forgot to add user flair.) Last paragraph has the question. But for context, I have someone in my life who has acknowledged they are avoidant. When I started looking into attachment styles I found t…
Ex confronted me, then broke down. — About a month ago, my ex broke up with me because she said she was "confused." I immediately went No Contact. didn’t beg, didn’t text, just started focusing on myself and moving on. Last night, we bo…
My ex reopened old wounds with a drunk apology and now I feel like I’m back at square one — my ex broke up with me around a year and a half ago after a 2 and a half year relationship with the last 9 months of it being long-distance. and it was really really devastating for me, but after a ye…
How to deal with anxiety? — I am going out next weekend with my friend to an event my ex could possibly be at, if they are there it would be my first time seeing them since the breakup 4 months ago. I haven’t had any contact wit…
Long distance breakup — My partner (29F) and I (24M) are now separated and in no contact for about 4 weeks now. We ended on good terms but she said she thinks the relationship ran its course and we did our best. I've been th…
Ex fell out of love, do they ever come back? — Essentially what my title says. My ex bf said he fell out of love, but still loves me. We initially ended on good terms but then fought a bit afterwords and aren’t speaking. Has anyone had an ex who f…
what are your thoughts when you break up with someone that is too good for you? do u ever regret it — my bf recently broke up with me and we were the most healthy and fulfilling relationship we could be. he was having a hard time and wanted out. he said he loved me so much he had to let me go and find…
Ex found somebody new after a month — My ex girlfriend and I dated for around 5 months. When she broke up with me, she told me that she wouldn’t want anybody else for a long time. She also told me that she wanted to end on good terms but …
Ex girlfriend found someone new in less than a month — My ex girlfriend and I dated for around 5 months. When she broke up with me, she told me that she wouldn’t want anybody else for a long time. She also told me that she wanted to end on good terms but …
How to deal with Trauma and depression from Asian parent — So I' am a filipino and 19 years old student I have a big brother and a little sister who is 5 years old I had a huge fight with my mom. While my dad was working in different state in Australia so he …
I’m Stuck While She Moved On — Hey everyone (21 M) , I don’t usually open up like this, but I could really use some support right now. About a month and a half ago, I got out of a 3 year relationship. We said we ended things on go…
Ex and I broke up due to mental health but now we’re considering FWB… is this a bad idea? — My ex (18M) and I (17F) are both in Year 12 and were together for about 3 months. Our relationship was honestly really healthy — we communicated well, weren’t toxic or codependent, and the feelings ne…
how the fuck do you do this — i wake up with the worst anxiety, shaking and trembling and i can’t eat or sleep, insane breakdowns at least 6 times a day, dealing with a range of emotions especially guilt. guilt for the whole relat…
Need help — I am struggling right now. I have been separated from my ex for six weeks and I am pretty sure she is with another man tonight. She asked me to hang out. With the kids tonight so she could go have …
Process - Month 2-3 Experiences — This will be shorter than the last one. You can read the last one but mine is relatively easy (no children) and we are on good terms with no financial ties. The legal process is going quite smoothly. …
Ex unblocked me — Hello, I messaged a good friend of my ex yesterday after a long time, just to catch up a bit and see how she’s doing. During the relationship, I was on good terms with her. My ex had blocked me on In…
My Mother Who Turned My Mistakes Into My Identity — So I'm fully aware of the kind of person I'm and the kind of person I was and today I feel like sharing it because I had a bad fight with my mother & I'm feeling heavy on my chest. Basically I'm the…
1 year ago today. — Making this post moreso for myself, most of the proper details can be found on this profile if anyone is interested. On this day, a year ago, my ex girlfriend broke up with me after a couple days of b…
I need an advice 30M 31F — I broke up with my ex 4 months ago due to her dealing with depression. We were together for 6 months until her depression episode hit her so hard that she pulled away so hard and wanting to focus on …
Greet my ex (M23) on his birthday. — Almost a year since we broke up on good terms. Our last conversation was around December, he congratulated me for graduating and talked for a while. It was chill, friendly vibe and thats it. He didn’t…
kinda confused honestly — Me and my ex broke up on good terms mid-december ish and decided it’d be the best to process and go about this with NC. We had one of the most heartbreaking conversations both of us have ever had righ…
Me (F21) and my friend (F21) spent nine hours together, cuddled, and held hands, and I don't know if it's a date or not. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend (F21) a few weeks ago and we're staying friends. Can I talk to her about it? — **TLDR:** *My ex told me to date around when we broke up, but has been really clingy and possessive since then, and one of my friends want me to go no contact. But she's the person I want advice from …
Did you ever ask to see them again after the breakup (not to get back together) — if things ended on good terms and we agreed that we don’t want to cut each other from our lives when is the best time to ask to see them?
Fresh Breakup Vent — i have a love-hate relationship with breaking up on good terms. good term breaking up means you have to accept what happened. there is no anger to cloud your loneliness. you’re left with almost a void…
Vent — i have a love-hate relationship with breaking up on good terms. good term breaking up means you have to accept what happened. there is no anger to cloud your loneliness. you’re left with almost a void…
I’m re-explaining my situation after everyone on this subreddit said I was the shittiest person alive — Hi everyone I know this is super long but please read all of it. So yesterday I posted this: “I need honest opinions because I’m really conflicted and don’t know if I crossed a line or if this break…
I F26 Regret Dumping My Ideal Man M23 — A few months ago I, F26, ended things with the man I’d been seeing M23. We were together less than 3 months, but I genuinely REALLY liked him and I‘m pretty confident the feeling was mutual. He was in…
Is she in the wrong? — So me 22M and my ex 20F, we were together for 3 years before she checked out on our relationship, we ended in good terms i was heartbroken but there was nothing more i could do. What happened after t…
To send or not — I’ve been sitting here trying to figure out how to even start this, and the truth is nothing feels like enough. I’ve gone over this in my head more times than I can count, and nothing fixes what I mes…
First break up — Hey guys, I feel honestly horrible. I just had to end things with a guy i think i was in love with. I never went through this before. My first heartbreak and we werent even officially together. What…
recent break up — we broke up recently. is 2 weeks too long before i try to reconcile w him again? i want to get back together and i’m afraid of him moving on or realizing it’s better off this way. we ended on good ter…
Am I in the wrong for not wanting my bf to be friends with his ex? — box \*\*TL;DR; : My bf wants to stay friends with his ex. I’m uncomfortable with that but everyone is saying I’m just insecure. Am I? Or is that normal?\*\* I need an outside view on this situation …
Will it annoy or help my ex if i tell people we are still friends and continue being nice and smiling at him. we are in the last year of school. — so he dumped me a week ago. i went through the stages of grief and now we have to face each other next monday. we share almost all classes and his friend group is much larger than mine. i genuinley ju…
Ex is back — I’m looking for some honest advice because my head is all over the place right now. I recently met up with my ex again after some time apart. It’s been about 6 months since we ended things, and we’ve…
Birthday message ? — Me and my ex broke up 6 months ago on good terms and it’s been 4 months of no contact- her birthday is next month and I am wondering do I send a message to wish her as a sign of respect or doi contin…
Ndad has gone half-silent and will only reply if I take the initiative. I am worried and I am done. — Hello everyone, I need to vent a bit and some advice is needed. For the last year my relationship with my Ndad has gone very badly. Everything went wrong since I was trying to help him think about hi…
How to stop envisioning a future with somebody even though they are already in a new relationship? — TLDR; It's hard for me to accept the outcome when the relationship problems were minuscule and could've easily been worked on. Nearly everything about it felt right, fulfilling, safe, effortless. I do…
Birthday message ?? — Me and my ex broke up 6 months ago on good terms and it’s been 4 months of no contact- her birthday is next month and I am wondering do I send a message to wish her as a sign of respect or doi contin…
getting my guy back — hey guys. a month ago, i ended things with the guy i was with for a little over 6 months because i was going through some mental health things + extremely busy with finding a job so i wouldn't end up …
My (F19) BF (M18) broke up with me and I'm heartbroken and confused — Context: We've know each other for 7 years and dated over 9 months. We had few mutual friends. I've had a crush on him about 3 years and we decided to try it out. Throughout our relationship many thi…
How can I stop the overthinking, rethinking everything — I broke up with my boyfriend about a week ago. But it was a long process where we kinda had problems and took a break etc. so it wasn't a sudden breakup. A few days ago I realised he's been emotionall…
my ex and i still talks consistently, i want to try again but he says he doesn't want to for now — Help! We were together for almost 3 years. We broke up last feb because of emotional and mental issues. For starters, he doesn't want LDR talaga kasi nahihirapan sya e express feelings sya but still…
I don't know how i will ever move on. i am desperate for anything right now — hi, i am 21 years old (f), and my boyfriend of 2.5 years (3 years knowing eachother). throughout our relationship we got along super well, but we also fought a lot, about the worlds most dumbest thi…
Me and my ex never had sex for 3 years — So me M(22) and my ex F(20) we were together for 3 years before she had checked out of the relationship. During this time we never had sex, it was my fault as I had a personal issue that I never tried…
Ex thought about better options while dating me. — Hi, I just went through a breakup and it was on good terms (initially), it was really civil. However, I met up with one of his friend’s ex girlfriends recently and I found out some things that has mad…
Healing timeline — Hello, me (19M) and my ex shared a few texts around 19 days ago and I feel like I lost my progress due to a stupid mistake. Is it bad to still feel lost even after 7 months post breakup? We dated fo…
MY [26M] Girlfriend [26F] of 3 years cheated on me with one of my closest friends — Hey everyone. I was thinking whether i should write about what i experienced and I came to the conclusion that sorting out the story and putting it black on white as they say might help me overcome i…
Should I block? — Me and my Ex broke up 4 months ago on good terms. We were together for 5 years and just realized we now want different things and are not aligned. We decided to do no contact 1 month into it I couldn…
I like when there’s tension in my home — This sound weird, but All my life, I was used to unstable environments. I was used to my mom coming home angry every day. I was used to my parents fighting every day. The only thing that was stable wa…
You are correct. Your perception of love is warped. And thus it can be really hard finding it without accidentally finding yourself in shit relationships. As many have commented, avoidants typically …
\> "anxious individuals have a lack of self control, don't respect boundaries, and and don't realize how much damage they do because they just don't care" That would be basically correct, that's why …
He wasn’t always mean. There were times where he was kind and showed interest in my day, what I’m doing, and whatever else. Other times when there was minor conflict or I sensed him just being rude, I…
I dated someone as close to secure as I have been able to find, but he still leaned a bit on the anxious side. The moment I’d ask to spend a weekend with my friends after spending all of my free time …
I have been harmed by avoidants I’ve dated in the past, but I’m pretty damn secure and on this thread to let avoidants know when their weird ass behavior is weird. I don’t think it’s attachment specif…
Was in a similar situation. Married with kids, I'm 41M DA and she is 40F AP. We separated 6 months ago on relatively good terms. We still spend a lot of time together daily with the kids. We don't spl…
could totally be, I mean I don’t know the guy either. I guess that op said they’re still talking kind of makes me think they’re at least on good terms. but ya at the same time I could see someone usin…
For a number of years I had a friend who I helped during a tough time in his life. He probably has undiagnosed autism or some other issue, but I was happy to assist him. I gave him a job, spent time…
So a while back I had dated a guy that I met in the wild and he buried the lead about him being poly. I had made it clear that in the future he needs to be more forthcoming about that information. How…
I really think this is up to the individual and their feelings about dating someone who isn’t divorced yet. I dated my ex for a while before she filed for divorce — we may have even been living togeth…
That happened to me too. He had told me up front that he was getting a divorce, but was only separated for the moment, was eventually very open about what had happened. Circumstances just weren’t goin…
This. I’ve gone thru something very similar and I am a year out post divorce. You can’t fake passion and if you know deep down you can’t see yourself rebuilding that sexual relationship with your husb…
As someone who experienced a LOT of what you went through and in your shoes- I can’t tell you what to do but I will tell you what I did and what I learned. You cannot fake intimacy and vulnerability …
How old are your kids? If they’re young maybe just send a brief daily update. I send one update in AM after drop off and one after bedtime. I appreciate receiving the updates when I’m away from my kid…
We didn't split on good terms, so there's that. She was 36 and hooked up with a guy and then had an affair with our babysitter who was 21F. They lived together with my kids for about 2.5 years until…
We ended by her telling me thinks we should end it, I agreed and then the next day I ask for a chance to try changing her mind, she gave me the chance and ngl I probably tried using manipulation by me…
Dude please help me out man. I was in your exact same position and I’m thinking about breaking no contact too. We ended in really good terms but she left me because she was overwhelmed in her life and…
From a guys perspective, this is unhealthy save yourself the frustration. Respectfully split and hope you end on good terms. He has to be secure about himself and trust you.
Aw maybe you can ask for an update from your ex if you ended on good terms? I got a dog before dating an ex of mine and the two of them had such a special bond. I didn’t keep in touch with that ex aft…
My ex said the same, word by word. He started a relationship with the girl that he introduced me as a friend:). He once said, "Breaking up in good terms? Just happens when one part has other person to…
With you 100%. We can get along and work together even though the marriage relationship is well and truly over. I don't consider stbx my friend anymore though. I am only beginning to see how 1 …
We broke up 3 weeks ago, we ended on good terms. I don’t have interest in dating for a while as well. Stay single and work on yourself !!
i’m glad you ended on good terms at least!
Romantic no I don't think so, she doesn't see me that way (at least yet). But it's very much sexual and we've had phone sex many times already. So the goal would be more something like a FWB with extr…
Yes you’re right. It just really rubs me the wrong way that he can decide to reach out to me and talk like nothing happened. Like we ended on good terms or something lol which really makes me feel I w…
I love that you are being honest. My last ex and I split amicably. We agreed that my son and I could live in his basement for a year or two, I was paying most of his bills and my son’s school was real…
I can understand what you’re saying and I respect your opinion. I can only speak for myself, so I can’t say “we”, like you mentioned. In my experiences, based on ending the relationship on good terms,…
When you say, “be kinder and leave her alone”, do you mean respecting her privacy and keeping things the way they are? I don’t know the whole situation because this is all this person wrote. I don’t k…
Yes, this is true. My last relationship, ended a month and 1 week ago. I wrote him a closure letter for myself for him to read. I personalized it and it took me an hour and a half to write. Nothing bu…
I’m sorry that sucks. It’s inconsiderate and imo a bit disrespectful to keep someone in orbit if you’re not interested. Just part on good terms.
I almost nearly accidentally called my partner my ex's name when we got together and it was very new, I remember being drunk and us having a deep conversation and I managed to realize what I was sayi…
Several things… but, whenever I would bring up an issue that needed to be addressed to my partner, my partner said they would correct their behavior, but they were all talk, no action. If your partner…
Yes. I’ve realized that I’m the back up. I think he likes the attention/ego boost and I’m sure there are others as well. It sucks and he’s an ass but I’m having soooo much difficulty getting over him …
Same the lack of sleep and concentration is the hardest part. She’s living life while I’m stuck. What’s hard is I’m still living in the same apt we shared and we ended on good terms which makes it wor…
Yeah I can relate totally After my breakup three years ago, things got pretty rough for me. I ended up on sleeping pills because the anxiety and the shakes were so bad. I tried to keep some sense of n…
That’s not a past, that’s a present. And it’s also a present from the guy that reached out to You. No he won’t change, divorce sucks but parents that resent each other suck more. I’d consider ending i…
I felt the same way for just over two months, until I found out she had been cheating near the end of the relationship. Finding that out helped me fully move on, because before then, I truly believed …
Sounds like an arrogant prick and if he is willing to say that when you’re on good terms imagine if you were on bad terms. This would be a dealbreaker for me.
My gf kink is also this. I blinfold her and use all sort of toys to amplify her fantasy. Even if it wasnt his sort of kink he couldve responded in a more interrested/supported way. I mean it depen…
I appreciate that. It’s brutal. It really is. It’s hard knowing that my anxiety pushed her away to where no contact was asked for. We ended on good terms still, but this is someone I wanted to grow ol…
I'm sorry that that's happening :( My family did the same when I cut them off -- it took around a year, maybe 2 before the frequent contact attempts slowed down to once a year, and by year 4, unless s…
She broke up with me. I know I shouldn’t send anything and I probably won’t but it’s hard just to watch her walk away. I didn’t put her first sometimes and didn’t act very mature sometimes. Not to cra…
This message is so close to me that it may as well have been written by me. We ended up parting ways on good terms in hopes to not lose our friendship, but seeing her go out on dates is a soul crush…
I got dumped by my ex. We didn't have a perfect relationship (she struggled with alcohol and I struggled with mental health issues) but she was the only girlfriend I proposed to and was engaged to mar…
It's so much harder when you break up on good terms, that was the same for me and my ex. Good job on blocking her though, proud of you
She broke up with me since mid feb, but we stayed on the same apartment cause she doesnt have anywhere to go, she abruptly left on March 2, we were supposed to end on good terms but she just left and …
Literally cried today for the same reason. It’s so complicated. My ex and I try pretty hard to be on good terms. It’s not easy. Today, I almost told him that if I ever date, I’d probably end up carin…
I’m really sorry to hear that. I know it throws your whole relationship into question, even though you thought you’d ended on good terms. If I were you though, I’d take a full step back from the fam…
TLDR: You were hoping to use your ex wife as a fuckbuddy, but your brother swooped in and closed the deal. You parted on good terms, the relationship had run its course. So why are you so bothered by…