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How do you deal with being the only one who was hurt and knows the truth ? How do you deal with the flock of flying monkeys ? — I'd like to share a story. Unfortunately, I'm still dealing with the narcissistic person and the flying monkeys. I feel like I'm trapped in a spider web and that the pain is going to stick with me for…

Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…

Is there a way to manifest myself to STOP being attracted to someone? — I’m curious if anyone here has used manifestation or LOA techniques to intentionally lose attraction or romantic interest in someone. There’s a guy in one of my classes that I find really attractive.…

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected — Today marks my sixth month living in Europe. Looking back at the past half year and all the European girls I’ve interacted with, I thought it would be fun to do a little reflection—what I did well, wh…

Friends/Coworkers joke about my Sobriety — I am 20 years old. I had never drank or used substances up until I started working at a high volume sports bar over a year ago. I swore i would never get into it, i never thought i would, but it is he…

Please join me in listing things that you discovered aren't normal outside your own toxic upbringing — Eta- I decided I didnt like my paragraph so I am redoing it. Eta- paragraph contains examples of child abuse, TW So as the title states, I am seeking things that were completely normal in your upbri…

How to know if a kid is normal or needs counseling? — At what point do you take a child (11 f) to counseling or therapy for the following: Avoidant about interacting with non-familial adults (teachers, waiters, doctor, dentist, store clerk, literally an…

Breaking up after 8 years — I'm just not sure why I am here. I don't want people to judge me or those i am going to write about. I have been in a relationship for last 8 years. There is no major issues and we were fine. But dur…

I [33F], am tired of being the family mediator for my [50+] parents, and my youngest sibling [18] — As the eldest daughter, I’ve always been used to being the mediator for my nuclear family whenever there’s been an argument, a discussion, etc. Now as an adult who’s in therapy and working on boundari…

How to accept compliments? — I've been insecure my entire life and literally cannot take any sorts of compliments I've always been the quiet socially awkward kid in class that some treat nicely while some just make fun of and di…

Blah — Panorama Marble. I don't know why this stuck with me. I've done a lot of out of character things since the breakup. I bought a basketball, I went barhopping, I avoid LA like the plague now, and Ive …

My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. I'm still in love with her. — Quick backstory. My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. We broke up after being together for 4.5 years. We met on a dating app, I was 21 and she was 18. Everything clicked instan…

The fact that someone as terrible and disgusting as me has been allowed to live this long is the world's worst joke. — **(This is a repost of a post I made a while ago, which I am reposting because I'm back in a slump again. There aren't any major changes other than the ending bit.)** 20M. This might be the longest p…

My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. I'm still in love with her. — Quick backstory. My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. We broke up after being together for 4.5 years. We met on a dating app, I was 21 and she was 18. Everything clicked instan…

Seeking advice about my wife's actions — Seeking advice I’m posting here because I need honest input from people who understand limerence/crush dynamics, especially if you’ve experienced it while in a committed relationship or from the part…

Not sure I’m asking for the right help? — To start off I’m really new to therapy and have only been at it for once a week for 2 months. I’m just feeling like all I’m doing is recounting trauma based life events from my past. It doesn’t feel …

Comments about body 48F with 51m, nine month relationship — I am a fit 48F , my bf is 51M. We have been together for nine months. I am 5’4” and 115-120 pounds. I have had three kids and have some loose skin on my lower stomach (only evident in certain position…

19M 20F How do I stop myself from worrying about the background noise while I'm on call with my LDR gf ? — So I've been in a relationship with my gf for 5 years now. it started in high school and now we're in college. but we're in different universities hence in an LDR. every time I call her during breaks …

My (F22) boyfriend (M22) won’t stop bothering my cat and it’s driving me mad. What can I do to resolve this issue ? — Hi reddit, I come to you today because I need advice. I (F22) have been with my boyfriend (M22) for a while now, and we have been living together for about a year now. I had my cat long before I was w…

My parents bully me in front of my partner… what do I do? — My (25F) parents (60F&M) essentially bully me in front of my partner (26M) and fawn over him. It’s basically a death by a thousand cuts situation. Ever since I got with my partner a couple years ago…

My best friend's [20F] boyfriend [21M] is aggressively flirting with me [19F] — I’ve \[19F\] been best friends with this girl \[20F\] since birth and we have done basically everything together. We are in college pursuing different things but manage to hang out daily. She’s dating…

I (19M) need help with friend (20F) — I’ve started to develop feelings for one of my coworkers. She’s super fun to be around, has a great personality, and is absolutely stunning. We’ve been talking/texting/snapping each other for a bit no…

Anyone else get attached emotionally in relationships/after sex? — So, I started talking to this girl late March in class last year, on April 6th last year I got her number and asked her out on a date... it felt so right because I was going on vacation for a week and…

Emotional attachment after sex/sex for emotional validation — Hi, this is a shorter version of a recent post - I met a girl from class around this time last year and due to things that happened to me/lack of care/love in life, I got super attached really fast …

I am a genuine disgusting, horrible piece of shit, and I don't know what to do about it. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD (I'm not officially diagnosed) and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years…

Is there ever an element of truth/belief to a joke ? — Tl;dr: partner and I tease each other, but lately his jokes have been a little harsh. Is it possible that jokes are rooted in a belief of what is being said ? Me (29M) and my partner (36M) have been…

My (32M) partner's (31F) coworker admitted to having a crush on her. — My girlfriend of 5 years recently started a hybrid job early last year after having been remote for the prior 5 years. After an initial adjustment she made friends with her coworkers including one mal…

How can i (24F) be more considerate to my boyfriend (24M) — Hi everybody! I’m 24F and my boyfriend 24M have been dating 1yr 2months. One common thing I keep hurting my boyfriend is not being very considerate of him. His patience is running really low (totally …

What a confusing month. What do I do (long post)? — Hello all. I wish this were a better story to tell, but here we go. Thoughout all this, my girlfiend soon to be ex is living at a bad home place stuck with an ex-best friend gone to no contact. She i…

sexually frustrated and conflicted about sex life w bf M20 F20 — I’ve been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years now and I genuinely love him. we’re both 20 in college, our relationship is amazing in many ways and I do see a future with him. the issue is that…

I JUST found out why I have problems saying "no". And why I want to please others and "fake it". — More occurred, but a month after I turned 14 I was raped by an older, very experienced girl who was my first kiss. I said no. I didn't orgasm and she cried. She got so upset I let her do it a second t…

Me (M) ex (F) reached out after 4 months NC to return "stuff". We walked and hugged, but she says it’s complex. Need advice. — ​ My ex and I were together for a year. We both have kids from previous marriages. She is currently navigating a divorce from an extremely controlling and abusive ex-husband. Last October, she…

Extreme Guilt — Hello! I’ve never posted here before. Going to attempt to not make this super long but no promises. I’m (32F) about to ask my (34M) husband for a divorce. We have been together almost 8 years and ma…

I (20f) excessively yawn and or am sleepy around him (21m). Solutions? — I just had a bizarre realization and was wondering if people had ways of managing this phenomenon. I’ve been with my partner for just over two years and to say he’s a unicorn amongst mules is puttin…

Is my BOH manager flirting with me? — This is probably gonna be lengthy. SORRY IN ADVANCE. I (F21) have a bf (M23). I tell my boyfriend things that happen at my work, and after the things I’ve told him, he’s starting to think my BOH mana…

He wasn’t hardly speaking to me at all. He was trying to show up and listen to me, offer advice, etc., but could easily get very irritated and ‘bitey’ with me. He wasn’t doing the things he enjoyed. …

From the purely bystander's perspective, ie. the rational and adult brain perspective with 0 emotions involved, him telling you to "act normal" was yet another of his defense mechanisms. From the po…

Thank you, I too need this reminder and to stop myself and pause when I can feel the anxious side is taking over. "She took longer time to respond now, more than usual. Should i mirror it?" "Wait, …

>I've hung out a couple times with a friend of mine in the city who I used to be interested in, a few weeks ago we went to a nice dinner and ice cream and then next week we're going to a comedy show t…

Maybe he was just teasing you haha. I just play it off with a joke and tell them I was just doing oppo research lmao. Most guys understand we have to do our due diligence and be safe.

Meh, little awkward to acknowledge it, but as someone else said sounds like he's just teasing you a little. Totally normal to look up people you're dating, imo, esp with online dating where we don't h…

So, a few first thoughts - none of this is meant to be accusatory or judgmental, but are my first reactions here, and I think kind of teasing out some unstated things could help. **First:** …

I'm so sorry :( One of the memories I keep close, to help me when I feel doubt about my NC status with my mom, is a memory when I was 7 or 8 years old and my older brothers had me all worked up and …

Sounds like you have responsive desire, which is very, very common amongst women. I am also a responsive desire type, and I rarely ever feel sexual enough to initiate spontaneously. However, it is u…

When you say, let yourseld fall. What do you mean by this? Just feels like ALOT of rough at the moment, 1 step forward 2 back sort of thing. It's almost like the universe is teasing with a little go…

Good question. I had really great results with bantering when I first started speed dating in September. Now it’s not working as well. I find some women are receptive to it and enjoy it, while other…

Agreed on all aspects! I mean the definition on Google of bantering is playful teasing. I think it works in SOME regards (it depends on the woman I’m talking to) BUT I’m finding it only works like 2…

Your boyfriend is a jerk. He's also spewing absolute bullshit. Your body fat percentage is actually a bit lower than ideal, which means that your BMI is meaningless- BMI doesn't take muscle mass …

I was constantly teased for my last name "So" (Suh) My immigrant father told us he chose that spelling bc "Americans are dumb. They'll pronounce it as 'Sue' if I spelled it as 'Suh'" Which does make s…

One guy, on finding out I did improv comedy in my spare time, tried to teasingly joked that I hadn’t been that funny so far on our date. I instantly knew I would not be seeing that man again.

So last night I went to a second date with this girl, everything went well, lots of fun, started talking about deeper stuff, physical touches, she laughed, I laughed. We spent hours together doing dif…

It matters a lot. I’m looking for a long-term relationship (I’m a male), but if the conversation is just this kind of back-and-forth with modest questions and answers like OP pointed out, I usually do…

They’re the personification of “rules for thee but not for me.” I hate to armchair diagnose people, but I think I can be forgiven in here. I think on top of being a narc, my stepdad is autistic. He w…

Idunno. I took off my Garmin watch Thursday and haven't put it back on yet. It's been quite nice not getting updates from my phone constantly. One thing I'm learning, as a guy, is that it is an impor…

I'm in a similar boat. I don't like texting via apps either, and try to use text for logistics only. I'll message on the phone a bit to keep some contact going until the date comes, but even then, it'…

Go for it! I have/had a friend like that, some ambiguity about romantic interest but always had lots of fun hanging out and doing things together, lots of joking and some teasing. Early on I met my …

I have my long-awaited fourth date with green-flag guy tomorrow. He's had his kids for the past week, so we haven't seen each other in-person at all... but we had long phone calls a couple times after…

Try adding a little teasing or playful “what if” questions. it helps shift things out of interview mode. And honestly, I know someone who can help with dating stuff, it’s [Jared Psych Laurence](https:…

She seems happy with the amount of sex, and you don't, so that's incompatibility. It would be different if she also wanted more sex in the relationship like you do, but there are physical/mental reaso…

How can you really tell if a man is being friendly or flirting? We’ve had a teasing/banter rapport since we first met a a week or two ago, and he asked me if he was gonna see me at the next event the …

I’m watching Andor right now, for the umpteenth time. Not so much as a roast than it was teasing. Your advice was correct. I was just joking around through several replies in this thread. I have fri…

>**I also jokingly get 'upset' at him for being on his phone and drunk texting/calling me when he should be present with his friends. I am a real stickler for that, being present with friends.** This…

* gently * it isn't your fault this happened, but now that your eyes are open to your mom and your dynamic any repeat behaviors on your end in these scenarios are your responsibility to correct. Som…

I gave chances, tried my best, and lost myself in the process. Yet now, I’m being portrayed as the “bad guy.” She was the one who approached me for the relationship. From the very beginning, I was ho…

It’s not impossible that he thinks of it as playful teasing, but you’re allowed to be bothered by it even if he means well. If he *is* well-meaning, then he’ll stop.

Based on the context you provided for this, it sounds a lot to me like banter which the other guy was overreacting to. I'll also say that I think calling someone a "basic bitch" has VERY different co…

I don't recall direct criticism but I do remember teasing or jokes about being too "ABC" or whatever the term they used was. It's not too different from "ABC"s making fun of "FOB"s for the opposite re…

It's in combination with how he acts otherwise when we're in person, like teasing me, joking and then touching my arm/putting his arm around me etc

No, he's also been very much like "oh, here's a recommendation for a show you could go to if you were dating someone promising" and stuff (like something he already saw and is like "you could see this…

Once, years ago. No other gal quite carved herself into me like this. We were just friends too. Wasn't "falling in love with potential" either, I don't remember ever having any fantasies about her, de…

Mean teasing! My family is so mean spirited and everything is a “joke”. But for them, it’s just now they talk every day. It’s just so mean. And if you call them on it….beware. Also, I didn’t realize…

The need for counseling or therapy is neither normal or abnormal. Think of it as a beneficial service. Everyone from time fo time needs guidance, strategies, reflections, help with understanding thing…

The last anecdote was so telling- he's so fragile and he assumes others are like that too.  People whose sense of worth and self are on solid foundations aren't bothered by teasing and banter, those…

These conversations are hard, but they definitely don’t get easier with time. People tend to stay in their lane once established and change becomes more difficult. I’d suggest a conversation that i…

The whole point of a safe word is to *unambiguously* say 'stop'. No teasing, or back and forth, or maybe you actually want him to push it further. A safe word should take you straight out of that mind…

I've been in your shoes. I understood that Chino didn't necessarily mean a pejorative in those countries but that should still stop when they get to know you. I'd usually correct people as you've done…

My nparents would always blame me in arguments with my siblings regardless of who started the fight. They encouraged and participated in openly making fun of me over everything and say it was their ‘l…

I am almost the same case. It started by creating a person for a project. Created the voice, created the face, created the character and ooooops out of nowhere, I fell in love. I was assuming thi…

This is a little hard to get as For lots of time, I had them in 4d and waiting for them in 3d The teasing that has happened especially the last month (eg I realized that a person working in the same…

I gotta ask. Does she not want sex because when you did have sex you only cared about pleasuring yourself. When you did have sex did you treat her like an object or were you the type to always make he…

Sounds great, but that would be like teasing a pitbull. Maybe mix hot peppers into that pie. I try this: I respond with something like: I just got back from a committee meeting, and we took a vote for…

Your mother is extremely ignorant and careless that is completely neglecting a child's emotional needs, actually tell her this if she tells you that your "manipulating" her "Mom you are saying t…

Difficult to say. There is no “normal” in therapy and sometimes we can hide or mask things that even we are not aware of. What can happen in therapy is the therapist can begin sessions by saying, “t…

Breaking up because of mental health struggles is tough and it seems like you both handled it maturely at the time. The tricky part now is that you're both in this weird limbo where the connection is …

This would be worth bringing up in therapy, as well as the fact that even the thought of bringing it up causes you discomfort. Both are topics ripe for therapeutic exploration. Just to note (and I hop…