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100% yes and the 10th house angle is so underrated in these conversations I always had a sense of what I was meant to do, like the path felt obvious even when it wasn't practical but the most convinc…
{Weekly Discussion} Google seems to be giving the thumbs up to Reddit's AI Scaled Machine Translations — Background - during an earnings call, Reddit said that google said thumbs up to the idea of publishing AI machine translated content - apparently something they've penalized others before. [Gagan Gho…
What Platform Engineering Really Means (and How It Differs from DevOps and SRE) — Hey all, I just wrote a piece breaking down what **Platform Engineering** is — not just as a buzzword, but as a real discipline that’s emerging in many engineering organizations. 🔧 **Key takeaways…
Projecting insecurities — Hi everyone, I’ve just realised something that I’ve been doing which I think is both an outcome of my low self esteem and also a way for me to find excuses to end relationships when otherwise I have n…
Don't know where to go from this, is my marriage dead? 38F and 38M, 15y relationship — Hello. Context: Im 38F in a couple with 38M since 2011. We have 2 kids (8yo and 6yo). Our relationship has never been very smooth, we both have huge characters, fights can be very heated (but without…
Mind is a time machine — Here’s my reasoning. Please don’t think I am crazy. While I was grieving a lost one, I started to have an obsession with the past. I was dreaming, daydreaming, overall imagining myself as my old sel…
Ex-girlfriend (30F) keeps reaching out after breaking up with me (31M) — My ex-girlfriend (30F) and I (31M) were living in the same apartment for 2 years when a few months ago she suddenly dropped that she wanted to break up with me. I had no idea where this came from. She…
Stuck on Abusive relationship — Hello there. Firstly, let me start with this: I know I acted terribly and was not a good person in this situation. This is genuinely the worst thing I've ever done, and I suffer for it every day. I do…
Toxic relationship — Hello there. Firstly, let me start with this: I know I acted terribly and was not a good person in this situation. This is genuinely the worst thing I've ever done, and I suffer for it every day. I do…
Advice on how to proceed in this situation — I, 40F, am in a relationship with my bf, 31M for 1 year and 2 months now. We met online, but coincidentally, we've met before on two other occasions and only found out while getting to know each other…
31M How do you go from anxious to secure attachment? — I talked about it with my therapist today and he told me is not possible to avoid anxiety. That what we should do is to accept the anxiety and handle it ourselves, rather than put it on the other per…
Completely mindfucked and heartbroken after a relationship with a highly intelligent covert narcissist — This is going to be a very long post, but if you want to know how a relationship with a highly intelligent covert narcissist looks like, you might be interested to read this. I've seen so much shit i…
Atheist here. Saved from abuse by good people in the the Church. — This is NOT a story of religious conversion. I'm somehow 'hardwired' to be an atheist and that won't change, but my life experience has left me with deep respect for religious folk who "walk the walk"…
Don't be like me — Two days of no contact after I made several mistakes. I had a relationship for six months, the breakup was messy, and now I can't stop thinking about her and everything I did, and how it's my fau…
Constantly feeling like I’m living in the moment, have very inconsistent memory — I have ADHD, and am suspected of having CPTSD due to frequent childhood trauma. I’m 23, and it feels like I can never remember my own life properly. I forget many things in an instant; including majo…
I've been in these scenarios a good few times in a good few ways. And I have some hostile opinions on it as well as some good ones. So scenarios. Indian CTO or VP is hired, and almost immediately, …
Well, if you're into them, that's the first sign. It'll be tricky to differentiate between DA and secure for you because they'll both feel like they're moving at a reasonable pace at first, but a DA i…
It most certainly is fantasy, even if that sounds sensible - and I would love to do that and assume that everything works out eventually. But if that was the case, we wouldn’t be in this situation in …
Pushing through avoidance makes sense and is something I might suggest if you're with the right person under the right conditions (e.g. you're in a healthy relationship with someone you're happy with …
I'm in the not sure camp and it's a bit weird. I get a sense that people do not pay attention to it at all. I've had guys start talking about "when I have kids" and not even ask me where I stand on th…
Gaaaaah, my boyfriend set a photo of us as his phone background. Its a zoomed out and kinda aesthetic photo, so one can't immediately tell what it is by glancing at it. A much more sensible background…
this was meant to be another year of promiscuity (jk) but i started dating someone and we’ve fallen for each other pretty unexpectedly. our life goals differ so this relationship’s going to last 18 mo…
I would be setting up college funds for the grandbabies first. Then I would pay off, or buy a modest house and set up sensible retirement funds. Anything left over would be going to my kids.
No don't agree to cleaning up after a man like this. They use every single dish and wilfully create a disaster for you to clean. Most sensible cooks clean as they go and have minimal dishes and areas …
I wish there were more sensible people like you around.
Miprocin or 4-HO-MiPT for me! (Or plain ole' shrooms!) I know 4-HO-MET gets all the love on reddit, but I find Miprocin similar and superior. If it is visuals that you want, go for Metocin though. B…
You're making a good point there. To be fair I just get random Reddit notifications on this subreddit and I'm disappointed in all the noob questions mentioned, for every second notification is a trash…
Very sensible! But sometimes one needs to vent out a lot! And forgets the sequence to follow! Your suggested sequence should help to retain focus thank you
Umm your making excuses for her bud. When someone shows you who they are believe them!!! Never play the pick me dance - that's the path your heading down and it will look weak and in the end she'll en…
No problem… although normally I’m trolling the trolls to be this helpful. Every now and then I can surprise myself and manage to give some decent advice. To be honest, the fact I’m being sensible tod…
I’m at about a 4.5 on this scale. Been doing the tapes since 2020 regularly and have never sensed or seen a thing. I’ve felt the vibrations starting years ago but that’s it. I’ve never seen anything w…
Let me start with... OP, having boundaries is great. Not wanting to have a guy at your place after two days is perfectly sensible.... But why a reddit post saying WTF? I mean. like...it really surpri…
Yeah that's proper sensible. Been so focused on her I haven't thought about how fucked my own head is right now. Might look into someone to talk to even just to keep myself steady whatever happens. Ch…
It sounds like you've already found thousands of people in the support groups you mention who acknowledge and reaffirm your point of view. I guess I'm struggling to understand why finding a therapist …
the downvotes on your sensible and non judgmental comments are so frustrating. people want their morality to be universal law and that isn’t how things work
A sensible take. But I do think you're underselling the importance of modelling, slightly. Its a long-term contribution, but i do think there's an impact. Like all societal problems, this will pro…
I mean, you've already inherited the house/assets and these would not have automatically become community property in a marriage (in most states) unless you explicitly put her on the deed which you sa…
when my ex left me for her ex she litterally said the most non sensible thing I've ever heard. "we never said the words I breaking up with you" by her logic they never said the words so they were stil…
You are an adult and you have consulted an attorney, who is fine with what has been drawn up. You’re not being stupid; you’re being totally sensible. Your parents need to butt out. You love the person…
I disagree. I'm in my mid-30s and sometimes after a big fight with a friend or partner, I need time to work through my emotions and figure out what a resolution might look like. It feels like there is…
This is it. It’s a fundamental difference in what matters to you both. She is materialistic and you appear to be financially sensible and want to make ethical decisions.
i’m someone who advocates for communication and believes it can solve a lot of problems. however- this is only true if people know how to communicate and listen to the other party. i tried to communic…
> The chemical imbalance theory never made a ton of sense to me I think the problem is that Western psychology has no choice. Science cannot accept mind as such because it can't be empirically obser…
Saturn in any house isn’t inherently ‘bad’ or ‘unlucky’. People have been taught (likely due to how things were phrased in the past) that Saturn is a horrible, negative planet and it only brings terri…
That is insane. Take a moment to have a sensible chuckle and enjoy that you didn't go down this path.
I think that would be a sensible way of looking at it - at least for "bad fortune". Other commenters here have mentioned a mapping onto indifferents, so "bad fortune" would be indifferents wrongly int…
What you're describing sounds obsessive and very unhealthy. You say you don't know if it's something bad, but it's emotional manipulation. Remember the acronym FOG...any behaviour of his that makes yo…
It's not weird to have a level head when analyzing things like this, especially when I only know the story from one perspective. On the other hand, it's extremely close-minded to say that you know wit…
That was probably me saying that. Yep, it's very common for that dose range to be uncomfortable (assuming you are using a regular strain of cubensis like Golden Teacher) The advice to start small is …
I’m so sorry that your twin lacks so much respect for not only you, but herself, that she is willing to forgive a literal rapist who deprived her own sibling of their dignity. The onus is not on you t…
That's good, as you practice you develop tools that help you manage, and the wisdom and distance to understand the bigger picture. You also learn the dynamics and get used to them, and develop "muscle…
Chatted with this guy for a while and found we had chemistry, which is honestly rare for me. I asked to hang out and he backpedaled because we’re two hours away from each other. It was a totally sensi…
This is the only sensible answer!
Kick her out IMMEDIATELY. Like right now as soon as you read this. This is the only and honestly a very sensible answer. Shs has completely disrespected you on so many different levels it's actually a…
Uso real: Serviría como una catapulta espacial (o Mass Driver). Podrías lanzar naves o suministros al espacio profundo usando pulsos magnéticos, sin necesidad de combustible químico. La estructura de …
Without remorse there is no way reconciliation can work. It appears instead of remorse she’s doubling down and spending more time with him and ghosting you. There is really only one sensible option, d…
Fair call, and I think you have quite a sensible approach to it if your main focus is to stay grounded.
this is very sensible, thanks much for letting me see the clear picture of our situation. And I wish I can have the courage and self-preservation I need right now. Altho she mentioned that she wants t…
Contrary to popular opinion, I think it is very, drastically important to discuss issues in the relationship with close friends. First of all if you're sensible, your close friends are people that wil…
Exactly!! See I've wrote in my comments. That junk spreads confusion conflicts on every post. That junk An insensible joker. Blocked me cause... I've always ready to give a savage reply. even another …
This entire thing sounds messy but I imagine it's because you both are possibly teenagers? So she's been cheating on in the past and considers you talking to other girls and showing off your arms to b…
Because the world is not black and white and often things are neutral. In most partnerships the general rule of thumb is that if one person likes it and the other person is neutral its probably fine …
There were some signs. But her honesty about the situation prior to that night made me dismiss the flags because there were sensible reasons. But yeah I think I dodged a bullet too. Didn’t marry or im…
Do you have lawyers? Getting one to examine the court's rejection reasons seems like a sensible next step; if you'd reached that agreement without one, it might even be the wording, and just re-phrasi…