I'm not feeling it

For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…

Second date planned. 90% sure (not quite 100%) I don't feel attracted enough for a relationship, but there's a lot of positives and I had a good time on date 1. I always stress for days before rejecti…

I'm sorry I asked basically the same thing a few days ago, but I have so much trouble understanding this part of dating. It's time for me to ask for a 3rd date. I like spending time with her. But whil…

Thank you so much for this permission to not feel bad if I'm not feeling it!!!! This is very true. The thing is on each individual interaction, I get this. When I step back and look at the major patte…

Worst way to handle it: Stop responding to all attempts to reach out, and do nothing else. Better than that, but still sucks: Unmatch. Best: Hey, sorry, but I'm not feeling it. Imma bow out. Thanks fo…

I used to feel guilty, but I've realized my emotional bandwidth is too limited to force a connection. If I'm not feeling it, I just say, 'I've enjoyed chatting, but I don't think we're a match. Best o…

Stopped replying this weekend but feeling bad about that now (recovering people pleaser) I think I'm just going to let him know I'm not feeling it anymore so I can mentally just let myself off the hoo…

It's a beautiful, sunny day and I feel so melancholy. He's getting some dental work and it's his birthday this weekend. This is my chance to step up but I'm not feeling it. I'll need extra shots in m…

>This is my chance to step up but I'm not feeling it. Can you explain why you feel the need to "step it up" for someone who didn't do anything for your birthday or Valentine's Day, and you aren't eve…

I don't watch the show, and wouldn't go on any reality show. I agree with you - physical attraction is important. I've usually tried to give it up to 3 dates to determine attraction, but I've found th…

I do the mutual fade fairly regularly. But I won't straight up ghost someone if they are actively trying to set up a second date and i'm not feeling it. Don't question yourself, unless you expressed…

>That's the thing with meeting someone organically, you talk and if you feel things are going well it just clicks. I think you might have a romanticized idea of "organic" dating. People get rej…

But it's just easier to just say hey I'm not feeling it or not interested rather than to make up a situation?

I wish I could say yes, but no, literally every guy I have told I'm not feeling it to has turned it into convincing me they are worth it. It's not worth the trouble anymore, it's easier to lie lol