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I have a theory about how astrology, palmistry, tarot, and all the predictive occult sciences REALLY work, but it is very controversial, and many persons, including astrologers, may not like it ! M…
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"What does it mean to heal?" channeled message from my guides — I thought to share with you all this excerpt from a channeled conversation between myself and my guides. I love this text a lot and return to it often. Perhaps those of you on a healing journey and t…
Which one trait helps you detect narcs early on? — For me it is people that can NEVER laugh about themselves or admit mistakes. I don‘t mean people should be self deprecating but people that take harmless remarks as personal attacks. I.e. the…
Why keep on livng? — First of all, let me state that I do not have intent to take my life. I do have some ideation thought, but I'm doing therapy and I know will be fine. I just genuinely want to know, why keep on living?…
My husband cheated. I don't want 50/50 custody. I also don't know if I can stay with my husband. I don't know what to do. — Both options suck. I found out my husband cheated on me during my pregnancy with our first child (which we both wanted). It was a physical and emotional affair. It continued after our son was born. It…
Hairstyle recommendations? Extremely flat hair — My hair is extremely flat and stubborn and I cant find a way to add texture that makes it look good. Everytime I try to add texture it just looks like messy bed hair. My hairline is also not the best …
Boyfriend’s ex — So me (19 F, chinese) and my boyfriend (18 M, mongolian) has been dating for 7 months but i can’t stop thinking about his past relationship (they dated for 2 years) this made me depressed, binge eat, …
Here is my plan to learn how to Lucid Dream. Any tweaks I need to add? — Plan: 1. I usually get up to pee from 2-5 AM each morning. I will try and remind myself to record my dreams then. If that does not work, I will try and find a good WBTB time (how do I do this though?…
How do i control my dreams? — I can't seem to be able to control literally anything in my dreams anymore, even if i think and visualise it, nothing happens. And i know and believe i can control them completely if i want to, but w…
How often do you get approached in real life? — I’m 46F, was married for over 15 years and got divorced last year. Since then, I’ve been on dating apps and I get likes and matches and gone on few dates. For the past few months, I’ve been casually …
Anyone else? — hello everyone! does anyone like me cannot stop the feeling of doom every single Sunday night? I had an okay weekend. I did not do anything special but I was at home relaxing as much as I could and …
If your heart is smashed to pieces, then you REALLY need to read THIS …. — I wish someone had just sat me down and said this to me straight when I was in that awful post breakup spiral. If you want your ex back, you have to STOP making them the centre of your world. I know…
I feel weirdly empty and I can't make sense of it — i have lost a lot recently. i wanted to manifest it all back, i have faith, and i did everything. it's okay if not a lot changed irl, because i know it will get better, because i believe the moment …
Keeping the relationship alive in my head. — Struggling with this. My friends are mortified when I tell them I’ve been listening to all their old voicemails. Told me to delete them. I literally would never. We broke up with so much love still t…
I [F18] am watching the man [20] who saved my life slowly losing his own — TL DR : The same person who helped me improve my life is now ruining his own, and I don’t know what to do to stop it. We have been together for 2 years. I had dropped out of school because of family …
26F - i have been struggling to get a job and with my career from past 2 years and so many other family problems. it has been the a very tough time will it get better? — i have had really bad 3 years of my life. no matter what plan i make, it does not work out. my career is ruined, as i have been struggling to find a job. my extended family are giving me hell. it feel…
My dad (70m) wants me (39F) to play happy families with his long-term partner. How do I convince him that's never going to happen? — Things with my Dad and family are complicated. My parents divorced 20+ years ago after he was caught having an affair (not his first - mum stayed the first time and presumes there were others). Th…
Yeah, and if any of you from this sub are on Year 3 with nothing to show for it but some stranger on Reddit screaming at you about how you're doing it wrong (when they themselves haven't manifested an…
You will find the answer here - Moonlight Mailed Me ! : The No1 reason why people fail with their alpha programming. *Hi Everybody, I am one of moonlight's new cubs and his best for sure. I have a …
I feel like this might be a bad advice for someone leaning more avoidant than you because simply other person being secure does not work in vast majority of cases. It’s not that FA’s partner making th…
She's not that secure, you're telling yourself a story to fit a narrative. Secured is not only emotional attunement (although some in the therapy heavily emphasis that) it is also the ability to buil…
Maybe ask yourself what you COULD be doing wrong, and then ask yourself how you COULD do it better. And if you're doing everything right then keep going. 4 months is not some mathematical rule. But i…
This does not work and drives intelligent people crazy eventually.
In a similar phase of “The Work” myself so here’s my two cents: I’m learned that when the overthinking becomes the driving force behind my emotions, motives, and actions, that’s when it’s obvious I’…
How do you deal with rejection from a quick crush, someone you have really liked for a while, or anything in between? I am a 32 M who has never had a relationship with someone past a friendship. I h…
I should also acknowledge that (based on other comments) rogaine does not work for everyone and it’s possible she has already tried it.
If a trait isn’t working for you, it doesn’t matter if the cause is ADHD (or any sort of neurodivergence or mental health condition). You stop forgiving it when it does not work for you to be forgivin…
It takes a lot of self-awareness and ownership to acknowledge that although hurt was not likely intended, hurt could have come as a result of your actions. (I mean this in the kindest of ways…we all d…
I'll argue that many things that are psychic in nature, recieve dismissive and/or pathologized names to try and explain it away. I would like to share a list of things that I observe that fall into th…
Me - Childhood trauma (extreme bullying), difficult family (drug addictions, worse), adhd, ex two-times drug addict, left at home at 17, turned my trauma into being the absolute worst version of mysel…
beautiful comment, thank you. I can understand why some people feel my post is defeatist... but on the contrary, admitting that "healing" does not work after a certain point (because it isn't possibl…
I'm used to my family invalidating me & being neglected by them, so I always had to be my own best friend. I love my Mother, but sometimes I just wish she would be happy for me. Parents are usually su…
That’s a valid point. I’m doing it for myself because I want to get married and if I want to get married, then I have to be a stable husband. Otherwise, I won’t be capable to raise a family. And let’s…
If she was cheating or not, but she definitely was emotionally attached to that new guy. That's why she ended this relationship. If they had already an affair going, then she would not have ended the …
What you’re experiencing is exactly where that advice usually fails. When the emotion is strong, it is not just “thoughts,” it is a full bodily state, and trying to step back from it often just create…
Well, it isn’t unusual for people with affect attachment strategies to be this way. It is what fuels their attachment, because when they are around inconsistent people, that reinforces their attachmen…
It sucks that you have to pay for it. I cannot trust therapist because of that and feel like I am just a client and a mean for them to make money. No different than a dentist, but they at least fix my…
It’s not weird at all. It’s a text book archetype that finds themselves with Avoidants. Often a neurodivergent person, like someone w adhd- the chase is a dopamine surge. Often someone who deeply lo…
Yes, it does not work on a 37-year-old nor on a 71-year-old. My Mother died last June, and my father is in his 90s. I have been no contact for over 40 years. I would have been committed to an insane…
I somehow matched with this dream girl, and amazingly the conversations are working out. I know many of you have mentioned if it is to good to be true, it often may be a scam or catfish or something. …
Human memory does not work chronologically, and all people organize memories around meaning (to my knowledge, the first person to articulate this in psychology was Adler, but it's now well-established…
Uh oh! I already gave her my full name lol. But, I feel like being able to look me up would work towards my favor, and we have been talking for close to a week. The only reason I did that was in hopes…
My husband had a habit of leaving his shoes in the middle of the room wherever he stops to sit when he gets home. I would put it away or tell him to put it away with annoyance but once I was pregnant …
"Your a guest here" Read him an RBN post on this everytime he says it-he backtracks when I begin claiming guest rights if showing him the RBN post does not work.
I hope you’re joking. Why would you continue having sex with someone that refuses to do a VERY MINIMAL task to make sure you’re protected? Absolutely ridiculous behavior. Cycle tracking does not work …
How come visualizing and letting go didn’t work for you? Robotic aff does not work for me personally
There are no words that I can think of that would do any sort of justice to the pain you are feeling right now... and I am so so sorry for that. One incredibly strong belief that I know to be true is…
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That hits hard. I can see why that would stay with you. I think a lot of people wait because they want to feel fully ready first, but real life usually does not work like that. Half the time you grow…
Yeah, I feel similarly but you should make things clear in your mind what works and does not work for you. All the basic things. A woman’s personality, lifestyle, and yes her looks. If you feel lukewa…
OP, he tries to jumpstart your sex life and you go out of your way to show him how each and every outfit he picks out does not work because now you are a mother. You shouldn't be surprised when he ge…
I think some of your comments stand out to me - you kinda seem to be ingoring some red flags. He's got mental health problems, a drug addiction, has apparently said something really mean and hurtful t…
if this approach doesnt work for you, it does not work for you
So you do actually believe that there is a set of words that can make this man clean the house? There are like 5000 threads on reddit with this exact problem - no solutions. He isn't going to do it. A…
Asking someone actually does not work at all. I was chatting with someone for a couple of weeks, and we appeared to be getting along quite well. At one point, I told him why I swiped on him (about…
I've been through this in my marriage & I also read your other comments on this post. I did what you did (to the point of exhaustion!) in my first few months of CODA 12-step: Talked to my husband abo…
Some people say they can. Most of the one I heard of say they use the cosmic cobra breathing technique. I've tried it, but so far it does not work for me. Same with holotropic breathwork. Give them bo…
I have a long history of codependent romantic relationships and recently realized it extended to my friendships too. Explaining the dynamic in depth does not work if the other person is not ready or h…
Like all professions there are people who are phenomenally good at their jobs and people who are not. I think, that in order to be a good psychologist, you need to first know yourself really well so y…
You dont, atm you are trying to play with the pick me dance. Trust me when I say it does not work. The correct dance to play is the i dont need you dance, this includes. No thanks, ill cook mysel…
I used to be. I was born into it before I even knew what anything was For years I had a constant struggle with the idea of god and Jesus and the entire thing being real or not I became an atheist …
If the other party does not think it's worth to get to know you over coffee first, then they were not worth the fancy dinner. Simple as that. Also, I have been on dates where the other drinks (severa…
In Neville’s own words: “Take my challenge and put this philosophy to the test. If it does not work you should not use it as a comforter. If it is not true, you must completely discard it. I know it …
Take the advice of people whose lives you want. I wonder if Neville has a speech on not serving two masters. People need to understand Neville had 1. A successful stage acting career prior to being sp…
I get what you are saying. He said he did pause his profile, and I believe him. After reading the comments left by men here, I’ll definitely ask men for their number in real life in the future, …
hmmm, some believe in exposure therapy, which would make this sound logical. Where is fails though is that trauma is the result of your brain not knowing how to handle the information it has been gi…