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Great question, and you're right that these two aspects get criminally under-discussed compared to the majors. The core difference lies in what the underlying numbers *mean* symbolically. The **septi…
How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …
A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse. We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon. W…
Long road to dream job and instant healing. — Bestcub called me to write this, I hope it will be helpful to someone. A story like many others. After years of wandering around shitty loa and other stupid spheres, books and forums I finally start…
Validate an idea for me - a web page recording chrome extension — Couple of years ago there was this extension called Nimbus, people used it take video captures of websites. Since it was hard to capture a smooth scrolling view of a website by just scrolling down and…
How can I get credible backlinks for my mental health startup website? — Hey everyone, I'm building a mental health awareness and support platform called *Trusme*, and I'm trying to improve its SEO through quality backlinks. I'm not looking for spammy directories or paid…
How to Wreck Your Career: a cautionary tale from someone who has 5 years of experience.. — Context:- I am a 31 year old UX designer with a masters degree in industrial design from one of the top design schools here in India. I have almost 6 years of experience on the paper of which I hav…
Where to get started — Hello, I’m a long time admirer of this form. I’m a “junior devops engineer” in the financial field that was a previous mid-level, sulfur engineer, I’ve been doing so-called devops work for about a yea…
Should I leave my 9-5 job in a finance company for a job in an early stage startup (I will not promote) — I am an engineering student who has a degree in Computer science and engineering (Data Science) with an honours in Quantative Finance. I have been a part of 3 startups mainly in the social and influ…
Why webapps didn’t become more popular after all? — Google had a dream where people turn on their computer and the only thing they are greeted with is the Chrome browser. People were sceptic at first but Google created a wonderful web platform called C…
I built a VSCode extension that shows array sizes directly in your code—would love feedback from other devs! — Hey everyone! I’ve been working on a VSCode extension called **Array Size Extension**, and I wanted to share it with you all to get some feedback or maybe help out others who run into the same proble…
Interview for the same company from 2 recruiters (UK) — Hey, I'm in a bit of an awkward position and could do with some advice. I had a recruiter reach out to me last week about a role that was coming up. I said they could send my CV over. On Friday a di…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
TransferForge – Convert Oxygen Classic to Oxygen 6 Without Rebuilding — Hey builders, We've been working on a tool called **TransferForge** to solve one of the biggest headaches in our community: migrating from **Oxygen Classic (4.x)** to **Oxygen 6**. As you know, O6 …
LogWhisperer – AI-powered log summarizer that runs locally (no OpenAI keys, no cloud) — I built an open-source CLI tool called **LogWhisperer** that uses a local LLM to summarize Linux system logs into human-readable summaries. It’s useful for triaging noisy logs, quick postmortems, or j…
We Fired a Developer But Not Because He Was Bad, But Because He Wasn't Right. Only 2 Legit Reasons to Fire Anyone. (i will not promote) — After building a small team and running a startup for a while, We’ve come to a hard conclusion: There are only two legitimate reasons to fire someone. 1. They are not the right fit for the company.…
can you retrieve collections assigned to the product by slug? — hi, can you retrieve collections assigned to the product by slug/handle on the product page? I would like to add section called related collections for products.
How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote) — Experienced founder & CEO here. I'm gonna tell you how my business got straight cash (like literally millions) from the gov and how you can do that too. I've bootstrapped my last german education bu…
I created this cool game in react. It's called MystiCrafter — I created this cool game using React. If you know alchemistry or ever heard of the term, then you would love it. It's essential a puzzle game about combining base elements to create new ones. The ga…
Website — Hey I’m developing a web/app for brand scalers and brands called Lynxscal. It’s supposed to help brand scalers find brands to run ads for easier by using ai. It has other features too like a leader bo…
New Monochrome Theme — Hey yall, I have been researching and trying out different themes to use since I have been on the free themes and I want to upgrade my shop to a paid template. There is a new theme called Monochrome t…
ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD? — I wrote this short article about TDD vs BDD because I couldn't find a concise one. It contains code examples in every common dev language. Maybe it helps one of you :-) Here is the repo: https://githu…
Looking for early adopters - Customer Review Reminder — I'm a solo builder and recently launched a simple tool called **ReviewReminder (https://www.reviewremind.com/)** to help small businesses automatically remind their happy customers to leave a review. …
How can I let devs update their lower environment terraform while protecting production environments? — I know the title is a rather open ended question, but let me lay out where I am now, in the hopes of getting ideas on how to do this better. For a given service, we'll have one directory for environm…
7 x multiplier for profitability? — I’m reading a book called “ The complete book of product design, development, manufacturing & sales” by Steven Selikoff It says that you should be able to sell your physical product for seven times w…
Every day I try to do things right. Every day they say no. Now I duct-tape and maintain the mess I warn them about — Hey folks, Just wanted to drop this little gem of corporate masochism So I work at this company where we develop software for real state agencies, in this 'properties' sql table we have a field cal…
I made a Chrome extension to fix my broken sleep schedule — I’ve been working on my Chrome extension called [LateControl](https://chromewebstore.google.com/detail/latecontrol-bedtime-block/pmbngcejicfbdbofhbkpknpkhmanemml?utm_source=item-share-cb) that basical…
I built a lightweight tool to automate Google review requests for small businesses – looking for feedback — Hey folks, I recently launched a micro-SaaS called **ReviewReminder**, designed to help small businesses (dentists, salons, auto shops, etc.) get more Google reviews *without manually following up wi…
AI is creating some crazy new verticals and opportunities — Knot (known for their card-on-file and transaction data APIs) just dropped a preview of something called AgenticShopping It’s an API that lets AI agents — or any app, really — actually complete purch…
Manifestation coach hired me and fucked me over — Hi everyone, this is my first post here and I’m writing because I’ve exhausted every other option. And I am FUCKING DONE WITH IT. I hope some of you will see this and help me to hold that person accou…
FA Ex who semi-ghosted me sent me this message 2 months later — I had posted in this group at the time when things between me and this guy who I really really care about sort of deteriorated. After that post he did come back and tried for about a week to reconnect…
In an avoidant-anxious friendship, how much space should I be giving before I reach out? — The last 2 posts on the sub are about friendship and that encouraged me to post here as well. This is my friend of 5 years. We’ve gone from talking almost everyday to me being given the silent treat…
Afraid of the "how" — Hi to all. I have been studying the law and this sub since many years, then left, then (1-2 months ago) came back. I had my fair share of watching coaches, reading the content proposed here (and more)…
I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …
Is this Deactivation? Seeking insights from FAs. Please help me understand this — We're together for 6 months, a lot of push/pull in the beginning, but by the 4th month everything was finally going fine between us. He even called me his girlfriend nd promised to heal and everything…
I need some FA to give me insights on this situation — Break up with a FA need some insights Hi guys, i really need some insights as someone whos desire is to be a safe space for a FA girl. Breakup context: I (M, 23) was in a 2-year relationship with my…
Having trouble differentiating between anxious attachment / normal needs, feeling lost and alone — First Reddit post here! (It's a long one, I just really need a place to put it all down and get some support, so thank you). I (19F) got out of my first long term relationship about 3 months ago. It l…
For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? — For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? I began therapy 4 months into our situationship because of how strong he came on,…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
Studying attachment theory — I’ve been studying attachment theory for a couple of months now, and I’ve only recently started to REALLY look into it. I started reading a book called Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for…
RSD potential cause of AA? — Hey fellow AA folks, Since discovering attachment theory 2+ years ago, life has improved quite a lot. However, for the sake of anyone else who might be fresh to attachment theory, I want to spare yo…
Did I make my Avoidance worse by pushing through it? — Hi all, I’ve been aware I have issues with commitment/avoidance my entire conscious life, but despite it I’ve always wanted to find love I didn’t meet my first boyfriend until I was 22, and it was l…
Signs.. but am I interested now? — I stay in india and sp stays in canada and been struggling to get him back for a while and then slowly started losing interest.. turned towards myself.. on new-year eve I did some powerful affirmation…
Curious about “episodic engagement” — anyone relate? — Hi everyone, I recently learned about this idea called “Episodic Engagement” in avoidant attachment, and it blew my mind. I discovered this after running some thoughts by ChatGPT, and this is the gis…
Deactivation or undisclosed breakup? — I'm a FA woman...in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant....all was good, until past Christmas holidays , his bday and all situations when they deactivated.. he was the one who planned being wit…
Bf of 14 months hasn’t said I love you — My bf (35M) and I (33F) met December 2024 on a dating app and became exclusive immediately after our first date. On our first few dates he asked what I was looking for and I said I was looking for som…
I finally realized my fear of closeness is really a fear of being known — I've been working to understand myself better as a DA, in part with the help of Reddit. I now feel the last puzzle pieces fell into place and I finally have a coherent story of why I am the way I am. …
Found out he has a wife back home. Now what? — Went on a couple of dates with this guy (31M) who travels to my country every few months for work. Told me he’s single and hasn’t been in a serious relationship for the last 3 years. Dates were good, …
Women keep telling me I need to date younger and now my daughter has too. — I (39m) look young for my age and have been dating for the last 4 years. I have mostly dated women in their 30s and about half of them have told me to date someone younger after things didn’t work bet…
Has anyone been experiencing an uptick in seeing UFOs/NHIs in dreams? — Hello everyone! I've been a member of the sub for quite a while now, I have posted some dream experiences of mine in here. Lately, I've been seeing crafts in my dream a lot, I'm talking about 5/7 d…
The book 'It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken' really helped put things in perspective.
So my husband turned me on to the idea that my weird dreams are something called lucid dreaming and showed me this sub. Pumped to be here! So periodically I will experience DILD and take control of …
I feel called out o.O But its also nice to know there's a whole bunch of people who feel the same way. It sucks that we all had to go through shitty childhoods, but at least we're trying to overcome …
Glad it helped you in some way. I’ve felt like a whiny little wimp for getting PTSD from something that I saw as not a true threat to life. Babies and children absolutely register lack of affection…
Check out [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralProjection/comments/msprrk/this_multidimensional_model_by_jurgen_ziewe_shows/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb), [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralP…
Yes, so you will find many experienced Astral Projectors will agree that we all leave the body every night. In one sense, you could called both dreams and the Astral, the experience of Internal Worlds…
This used to happen to me so much as a kid that I would pray every night to not let it happen. I didn’t know it was called astral projection until a couple of years ago. I can’t do it anymore. How doe…
What if I ruined the chance of possibly not getting back together due to me being an emotional abuser??For example, she broke up with me because of unhappiness, goal of finishing her college degree, a…
I did this and its been 3 months She called me few times, i picked some and ignored some. Finally yesterday she again called and i picked this time to see the actual situation. There's no sign of get…
I love my ex but we were so toxic together and our breakup did wonders in showing me how horrible our relationship was and just how much work I have to do on myself. My hope is maybe… in the future we…
It’s called a false awakening and you can search the sub to read more about it. The best method is to do a reality check upon awakening each time
It’s hard moving on when you’re still so in love w/ them. I can’t get him out of my head. Idk how to move on and thinking about it hurts more bc I never wanted it to end to begin with. I lost my soul …
I haven't recalled my dreams for a long time, but when I did I could easily tell I was dreaming. The problem I had was that as soon as I realised I was in a dream, it would start to end and I would wa…
I know this post is 6 months old, but I still want to say this. I truly feel that Robert Bruce's book, called "Energy Work", (funny how the title is the name of this sub?) should be required reading f…
well the origine of our body parts , or people who look exactly like we do originate elsewhere in the lyra constellation , not earth , the lyra constellation is our true home and has planets with …
I understand. Just a week before my wife left me she said “I’m so glad we are such a strong couple that if we needed counseling we would go to couples therapy” however what she really meant was “ plea…
So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…
This is the way. My ex broke up with me last week on the phone before my dentist appointment. I had to cut the call short because I needed to make my appointment. I lied about watching a sad show on m…
Let me tell you about the first experience I had with the LOB. Back then I only knew about Neville and read a few lectures here and there. In my 2nd year of University, in one of my exams, I did not …
People have many many proofs for themselves. If I’m gonna share my proofs to you, would you believe? Try to properly reprogram your subconscious, and see what happens. It literally does not know how n…
1. That is why it’s called maladaptive daydreaming. The person does so to escape their current reality. They are not making actual changes, thinking different thoughts, reconditioning the subconscious…
Love these arguments. Point 1: There is a difference between hypnosis (true authentic feelings of experience of here and now of the desired outcome) and daydreaming. When you give your mind and your…
I’ll take a crack at it Point 1: The answer is sm vs cm thought. Daydreaming is not focused with intent, the mind often wonders and you still feel it’s not true in the end or with emotions that are …
Yes, it's called the "vulnerability hangover" and true DAs will do it to create space from their partner and re-regulate their emotions.
This is not a competition who is far less irritating or who is more evil than the other. Its about both parties should be taking accountability. I am more than agree with you that AP’s biggest challen…
You think you don't owe your partner, someone who's entered into a loving partnership with you, anything? That you can just walk away from that righteously, whenever? Sounds like a paltry, wispy comm…
It's not. It's actually preventing them from reaching a point they can tolerate intimacy. The more they run, the more their brain rewires (via Hebbian learning) and becomes more efficient at switchi…
I love listening to music and analysing the attachment style the song is coming from. Since learning about attachment theory I analyse it in music, films/TV, personal relationships. I find it fascinat…
One way to avoid over reliance on a therapist is to internalize a new set of secure parents that fulfill your needs and re-wire your internal map. The protocol, if you want to learn more about it, is …
Yes, he did consider me his girlfriend. He was the one who brought up that conversation. I met all of his friends via Facetime. He would always call me when he was out with them. He even called me whe…
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is an approach to [psychotherapy](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/therapy) that identifies and addresses multiple sub-personalities or families within each pers…
There is obviously some way in which this happens. If there wasn't, it wouldn't be possible to write a book called POSM and to have it work for untalented beginners for generations. If you read the i…
You will find the answer here - Moonlight Mailed Me ! : The No1 reason why people fail with their alpha programming. *Hi Everybody, I am one of moonlight's new cubs and his best for sure. I have a …
There’s a song called “I wanna know u” by enjoii. All of his music is this feeling. He keeps things from himself even though he deeply wants to connect. He keeps he’ll pull away. And it seems like we …
- criticism, being called out - playing on their individual insecurities, but that’s literally anyone in the world. A lot of the times is them getting discarded the same way they would do to someone …
The thing is everybody has feelings, you don't need to see it to know that. Part of why I was attracted to people with DA tendencies is they could recognize that. I've been called cold, robotic, emoti…
Totally relate to this. I can’t bring myself to “care” or get excited about someone from an app. If I meet someone IRL I’m way more open to exploring. I think from an app I’m just immediately expectin…
i used it, and love the fact that you can put your .toolversions file and isolate all your tools for that repo. really handy for monorepos. any tools that allows you to have a reproducible environment…
It's called programmable infrastructure, and it's been great... Datacenter hardware is hard enough without software problems on top
$300k, $600k, or 10m doesn't really matter. Each successful person finds some sort of opportunity and pursues it. Then they create a system that helps them pursue it because you can't do it by yours…
You should check out a song called “Take it Back” by Pink Floyd. Everyone says it’s about the environment where “She” is earth. To me it’s about the anxious downward spiral. And “She” is an ex of mine…
There’s a No Doubt song called Open the Gate that I recently realized must be about a DA too: “I see you from a distance From beyond the fence you’ve made Hiding all your feelings Behind your barrica…
On a different note, there is a song called "takes two" by maren morris, and it reminds me of what a secure love would look like to me. I used to listen to it to get over a very emotionally unavailabl…
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is an approach to [psychotherapy](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/therapy) that identifies and addresses multiple sub-personalities or families within each pers…
Everyone is different, what applies to you wouldn’t for other people. I know anxiously attached + FAs with anxious lean, and they go crazy if I’m just a little quiet one day. Anxious people aren’t al…
As an FA,I feel called out. This is so accurate. Can I ask how you know so well?
I can link you alot of videos of so-called professionals instructing people to abandon their needs and desires to appease an avoidant.
The majority of attachment content online is antagonistic towards avoidants, not anxious. Accredited therapists, such as u/thesecurerelationship, have called this out. Any blowback of recent is in res…
I have just learned about attachment Theory and believe my partner is avoidant( not sure if da or fa as still a bit confusing to me) I felt like my avoidant partner was putting me through test. At the…
There’s a AI therapist called Abby that you can try. It’s ok but just validates your messages and asks questions. It’s hard to connect; not like a really good therapist at all.