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Time is fake; there is nothing but you. — Shifting, dimensional jumping, Neville Goddard, law of assumption/attraction, magick, etc. all essentially talk about the same thing: Embody the person (or entity) you want to be. This post is a bit…

Too Long on First Mission And Moving On — Hello Everyone I know I'll probably be banned for this so let me explain my story. I have been on my first mission for the last 8 months using the index training guide fully and it has been a massive …

The "and" theory... — I saw this a few days ago and started to implement it, I can't tell you how much it has allowed me to have more compassion for myself, create a clearer head and process my emotions. The and theory is…

(Desktop design) managing overall width vs images vs text container width — I am trying to figure out how to combine best practices for the following things and would love some advice on a few questions. This is for desktop devices. **What I am struggling with is:** * Ensur…

Need Guidance on Turning My Design Into a Functional Social Media Website — Hello everyone, I’ve been learning IT for the past few months, with the long-term goal of becoming a white-hat hacker. I also have a couple of years of experience in graphic design. However, when it …

Why you should always schedule your job interviews in the early morning. — I got reminded today of a very important tip when you're setting up interviews. \>> Do not set up job interviews at the end of the work day. In short, there have been studies done on judges that sho…

The algorithm doesn’t hate you — Started working with a TikTok shop client who thought they were ***shadowbanned*** and we reversed that in 60 days. Views were at less than 200 per video. Sales? Even worse. It dropped from 30k to be…

Feeling stuck between a promo and burnout - advice? — I'm approaching 5 years at my current company (2 years as junior, 3 as mid-level) and am submitting a promotion case for Senior. I won't hear back for a couple months - my director feels optimistic, b…

How do you generate qualified leads for a cohort-based course? — Hey everyone! 👋 I run a live, cohort-based masterclass on advanced Midjourney prompt engineering and am in the process of ramping up my lead-gen funnel for the next cohort. So far, I’ve Explored: *…

10 startup lessons I’d tattoo on every founder’s arm (in comic sans) - i will not promote — 10 startup lessons I’d tattoo on every founder’s arm (in comic sans) 1. no one cares about your idea. not even your mom. show traction. 1. 2. build fast. talk to users faster. and by “talk,” I mean…

We open-sourced internet’s largest incident response glossary with over 500+ terms — We just published a public glossary with **500+ terms** related to incident response, on-call, alerting, SLOs, postmortems, and more. I think this is perhaps the internet's largest glossary for incide…

My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote — Hey All, A few months ago, I shared my story here (original Reddit post in comments) about starting an IT consultancy business in the Netherlands with a friend right after graduation. At that time, w…

How to Wreck Your Career: a cautionary tale from someone who has 5 years of experience.. — Context:- I am a 31 year old UX designer with a masters degree in industrial design from one of the top design schools here in India. I have almost 6 years of experience on the paper of which I hav…

Sitemap 404 error in Yoast — Hi everyone, I am stuck on this for 2 days. I am Getting 404 Not Found on my website sitemap, I have activated it on Yoast. Here is what I have done so far to fix this using youtube vidoes and Chatgpt…

I designed an AI-powered path planner, but users lean toward heavy learning goals — need help rethinking the UX direction — Hi UXer! I’m a solo founder & designer, currently building a lightweight learning platform that uses AI to generate custom learning paths and micro flashcards. I designed it to support curious, self-…

Can’t Access My Shopify Store Created with Google Login – Stuck in Login Loop, No Password Option — Hey everyone, I’m having a frustrating issue and hoping someone here can help. I created my Shopify store using the “Continue with Google” option with my Gmail so I didn’t set a password because Goog…

Failing to Find Google Maps Scraper (that does everything) — I've built a directory listing website and I'm using WP All Import plugin to pull in data from a spreadsheet (which consists of scraped business info from their Google Maps / GBP listings). Being tha…

APPLYING FOR MERCHANT ID — Hey guys, just thought i’d drop in here to quickly as a question for the experienced folks here. I am looking to apply for MIDs but i am kind of stuck on what banks/ Mid providers will look at on my…

Payment Processing to use for my online storefront, USA — Located in the USA trying to add a payment processing on my *online* storefront.  I can't use shopify payments, and I don't see stripe under the listing I signed up for "Airwallex" but just received…

Shopify Support is the absolute WORST — I have had issues with payouts- as in first they disable my payouts for verifaction then I get an email saying everything is okay and then within hours without no communication or email, I´ve checked …

Tech Startup advice required - Hire or equity offer (I will not promote) — I’m a serial entrepreneur—what some might call "very successful,” though success is relative and I just did okay. Over the past 25 years, I’ve had some brilliant tech ideas and a brain wired for archi…

Hardstuck in Pre-Seed. i will not promote — Hey fellow startupers, I actually wanna hear some advice from you guys. Currently we're in pre-seed, and tbh, last year when we were having money problems I thought once we overcome them, we'd kinda s…

Theme Suggestions- simple, visual oriented, for events/non-profit — Hello! I run a small nonprofit that produces low or no cost music shows for the community. Part of our mission is to be as supportive as possible to the creatives "on both sides of the stage"... So w…

Website Review — Hey everyone. I’ve newly launched my product/website but I’m not convinced people really understand what my product does as it’s unique. We’re patent pending and this product has personally changed my…

Got hacked and now stuck in the verification process — So long story I got hacked due to a data breach. Which resulted in my sites password being taken down and about $6000 in fraudulent charges were purchased. I successfully refunded and cancelled those …

How to remove Fraudulent Orders from Shop account? — So the question is as above. Back in March, I got fraudulently charged by a 'Elite Chimney LLC' for about $6100+. These were not placed by me or by any one I know, it just showed up one day. I manage…

Anyone else noticing small businesses drowning in SaaS subscription costs these days? — Been consulting with a few local businesses recently and I'm shocked at how many are spending $500-1000+ monthly on various software subscriptions. One client is paying for Salesforce, Asana, Notion, …

Finding Like Minded Business People — **TL/DR :**  Looking for people who are stuck with unsure with what business they want to pursue and end up learning a little bit about all of them; that want to partner up to stay focused with each …

Solo founder here—bootstrapped a travel startup, no bookings yet. Influencer model failed, paid ads feel too risky. What would you do? — Hi everyone, I’m a solo founder of hopmytrip.com trying to build a travel group tour platform—basically fixed-date trips to places like Bali, Thailand, and Vietnam, where people from any country can …

What’s the best way to validate a niche before launching a POD store? — I've been sitting on a few niche ideas for months, but I'm stuck trying to figure out which one has real potential. Everyone says "do your research," but what does that actually look like for POD? Do …

Should I find a business partner? Sell Or just give up? My business has potential but I don't have to energy to make it happen. — I started a business about two and a half years ago. It is quite niche and has potential but I haven't been able to get over the tipping point of making it really work. We have great processes and a…

Yesterday I launched a landing page and I got 3 presales in 24h. (I will not promote) — I'm building a minimalist, AI based bookkeeping app. Went live with a simple landing page yesterday and shared it in a few relevant places. I was prepared for a long period of drought and self-doubt,…

What to do with my business. Sell partner or fold? — I started a business about two and a half years ago. It is quite niche and has potential but I haven't been able to get over the tipping point of making it really work. We have great processes and a s…

What are the signs to spot a DA or FA in early talking stage? — Hi, I am myself something of a FA leaning towards secure (I was anxious but became the secure one in my previous relationship with a DA after some years). My previous relationship was pretty bad beca…

Does anyone else feel like they cannot truly love? All I know is limerence and anything beyond that is excruciating — I'm constantly stuck in cycles of limerence, I feel almost nothing for anyone UNLESS I am limerent for them. I am still present in relationships and friendships but it's purely out of obligation, I'm …

Seeking self-closure — To give a brief overview. Had a multi year situationship with someone I had fallen for, a fearful avoidant. Much pulling and pushing until it ended by her pushing everything away. A year later she st…

The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…

I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …

how to deal with an avoidant's freeze response in hard times? — my partner is FA, I've known him for a long time. He has made a lot of effort and has changed for the better. He's the more secure one between the two of us honestly, and he's pretty good at fighting …

Why do I get upset when bad stuff happens to my partner and it doesn't even impact me? — I'm struggling to understand my pretty intense reactions to certain things. I don't know if attachment theory can help explain this part of my brain. For context: Me (38 F) and partner (44 M) have b…

Recovering DA trying to reconnect with FA wife — For context: * I (40M) am a DA, my wife (41F) an FA. We have three children. * Together for 17 years, married for 13 years, distant/no-touch for over 10 years but stable and no deep conflicts. * Cont…

I want to believe in LOA so badly, is there any small experiment I can try to regain my faith? — Hey everyone, I’m writing this because I’m honestly at my wits’ end and I don’t know where else to ask. I *want* to believe in LOA and manifestation. I really do. I’m not a skeptic or a hater, I’ve…

First Time Serious Connection With an Avoidant — I was in a relationship with an avoidant for around 3 months and everything was going well and we weren't moving too fast in my opinion. We had gone on dates and met each other's families. They had be…

Looking for DA perspectives — I'm with my DA partner for 4 years. Two weeks ago we had a conflict. Since then, communication has slowly faded. He told me he wanted to give us “another chance” and that he was open to talking, but…

Rushing to know if I’m long term compatible with someone — The past two years I’ve done a lot of internal work on myself regarding my attachment and codependency issues. I feel that I lean more secure than ever. I recently started seeing someone, I’ve known t…

If my nervous system is used to interpreting intensity as chemistry, then...am I just supposed to settle for love where I don't feel any "fuzzy" feelings? Like is love supposed to be boring? Then how do I even know the difference if a relationship is boring but good vs. boring but bad?? — Like I really don't want to be stuck in an anxious-avoidant loop again, and I get that secure love seems more boring to someone with an anxious attachment, but then...like...are all romantic feelings …

Feeling friendless — Hey guys, Sorry long vent, you can skip to the bottom if needed. Recently I have been doing great attachment-wise on the romantic relationships front. But for some reason I feel like I can’t mainta…

Anxious Attachment Injury - Nervous System Stuck in Fight/Flight — TW: attachment injury, trauma-bond withdrawal, panic attacks, obsessive rumination I think I’m in severe attachment-injury / trauma-bond withdrawal and I’m struggling to function. I’m asking for nerv…

A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…

Letter to my ex — **7th February 2026** “You will find me, right?” That sentence is the last sentence. The one that always stays with me. Every single day I think about it, and I think that’s why I know what I have t…

I'm so tired of people. — For reference, a couple of years ago, I was in an abusive relationship that kinda changed who I am. I won't go into too much detail, but let's just say that I used to be outgoing and fun, but also I h…

thank you! very interesting. ps.i was curious cos i read somewhere to not stop talking to the fifth dimension beings but instead to go higher in dimension, seems the 5th dimension beings still have t…

I always get stuck in that phase were I am relaxed, the body sleeps, mind stops thinking just some hallucinations of continuously shape-shifting colors, breath slow, feel as if i am almost floating wi…

I have been trying to Lucid Dream for a couple of years and almost gave up until I found this thread. I read about reality checks and started doing them . Last night I finally had a dream in which I …

I want to Ap but as a kid I watched a lot of sci fi demonic movies and my mom would study Wiccan culture so I’m like ehhhhh what’s going to happen to me will I get stuck there will something else tak…

Hi, I do lucid dream most of the time. But last night I knew I was lucid dreaming and I was stuck in a loop where I couldn’t wake up for real. Like every time I woke up I was still in a dream. I was r…

It depends what you mean. Some people try to wake up intentionally and have a hard time, which isn’t related to how real a dream seems. But you are going to wake up sooner or later, you can’t get st…

Definitely trying, but I’m still at the I ruined my kids life because I couldn’t handle staying with their dad when he made it very obvious that he wanted to be with men, not his wife. So the feelings…

I have gotten to a stage wher my body is asleep and Ican feel a humming almost but I still feel stuck I tried the levitation the rolling the hand rubbing none of it seemed to work and by the time I co…

PLEASE READ IF YOUR LOOKING INTO ASTRAL PROJECTING. About 2 months ago I was looking extremely deep into astral projecting, once I seen what it was I was instantly drawn to it and thought it was inter…

i am a 51yo married man and educated with a professional degree but stuck in middle management which is fine. I have become more or less an alcoholic in some respects because i love sleeping and my…

I think that we are talking about different points in our healing journey. I think we first recognize we’ve been betrayed and victimized, which I’ve gotten really stuck there before, then it moves to …

This is the one. I'd also add that attachment doesn't just stop at partners — it's also at play at work, friendships, family relationships/siblings, and even children. It's really fucking hard to be …

You think you don't owe your partner, someone who's entered into a loving partnership with you, anything? That you can just walk away from that righteously, whenever? Sounds like a paltry, wispy comm…

No it doesn’t. That’s why we use different words for different things. I’m very happy this platform gives hurt people the chance to talk and figure out their feelings. Similarly- my comment you respon…

Feel all the emotions! But, when only the good keeps you stuck on rumination, remind yourself of why it couldn't/ didn't work out! It's very easy CBT, that is incredibly effective and offers a peace …

Thanks for the encouragement, and yes, I know it’s not a one-size-fits-all solution. I have scheduled an appointment with a therapist and am trying to be mindful of any potential toxicity in my own be…

I've been there! I'm bordering between being a DA and a FA, personally.  For me, it happened somewhat quickly after I opened up to my therapist and it was i n t e n s e. Like, I had never in my life…

I’d recommend looking into psychodynamic approaches to therapy that is centered around the therapeutic relationship and the feelings that come up in the process. Feeling like my therapist is my whol…

Hey, Your future employer knows that you are fresh out of university, they know your work experience and should have set their expectations accordingly. Breathe, take your time relax and learn. That…

Honestly, senior services are going to be drastically needed soon. I'm in the US, so I don't know if it's the same in Canada, but here as the Baby Boomer generation ages, we have so many people who ar…

Yeah exactly man highly agree with you on this one! It’s like what are you gonna do when you’re lost in the woods? You should def start walking, why you start walking? Because if you don’t you’re gonn…

Sup, I have built multiple IOT products for my former employee, I am stuck in this problem now, I have the resources to build any IOT SAAS product but not getting a solid idea, we can connect and shar…

I recognize this disorder because I suffer from it myself! :-) It's commonly known as controlfreakism. Don't worry, though. You can use it to your advantage. The good news is there's a way out. Much…

Same. 1.5 years with a dismissive avoidant were the most painful period of my life other than my childhood. I’ve been married to a secure guy for the past 21 years and he’s great at communicating an…

Yes— multiple reasons I’ve noticed for this: 1. Easy an obvious, needing time away from them is seen as rejection because they don’t want time away from you 2. One of the things with us is that we …

Love this comment. I’ve found it to be so true. For a regular ex I was with for nearly a decade and we had a fairly normal/stable/secure attachment to each other, maybe a little bit dependent on each …

All I can say is don’t suppress the tears. If you avoid emotional release, it comes out in weird ways at really inconvenient times. Like when you are sick or getting your ass kicked by stress. I know…

I think it is ok if you never get over what happened. I do think sometimes it gets murky. We think it’s the person, when it’s really the situation. I’ve found myself in situations I thought I’d never …

you sound exactly like someone I knew once. how do you know she is avoidant? are you inferring this on your brief experience with her or is this because she told you? how do you know she just wasn't t…

Thanks, I'm dyslexic and often make those mistakes. I feel like not talking about what you want from a relationship is how people get stuck in situations-ships

I do like how self-assured Avodants can be, but I feel like people get stuck in situations-ships because they’re too scared to advocate for that they want.

If we start talking about dating yes they are going to learn what my long term goals are. I have no respect people who try to play it cool then wonder why they got stuck in a situation-ship.

You claimed that the most toxic things APs do is “have too much empathy,” which amusingly points to one of the primary hurdles APs have to overcome in order to heal.  I claim that the most toxic shit …

This is so very typical of FAs. My ex did the exact same thing. I foolishly went back to him. And now I’m stuck here at square one, heartbroken again! 🤦‍♀️ Don’t. Take. The. Bait.

You can respond and see if he’s done any real work on himself and is ready to do so with a partner. But it’s likely he did not change and the well just ran dry. Now he’s spinning the block. I understa…

When dealing with attachment styles, do NOT fully cater to them. Ever. .you give them free reign and they stay stuck in their unhealthy ways and you will eventually become less secure yourself because…

its so hard cause i need help with anxiety and most people here do too so i can't comment anything to help them so im just stuck

Could you give me some pointers? I feel truly stuck, this is why I posted here.

This happened to me with my BF! I was nitpicking certain flaws and questioning if I was attracted to him, even though on the 1st date he was hot AF to me. It was my avoidance finding ways to self sabo…

Im currently stuck on a guy who is doing this to me… it’s why I say please let her go. It’s been 8 months of this torture but I’m still in love with him lmao.

Really its up to you if you want to live like that, because there's no guarantee he will change. There's no right answer. I made the decision to stay with my DA and now im emotionally exhausted becaus…

Why would an avoidant push me away, but then orbit me for almost 2 years — even while committed to someone else? I feel ashamed for being stuck on this.. I (32F) had a short but intense connection wi…

I dont think people realize the FA attachment style is a "cover" for other underlying mental health conditions such as BPD OR Bipolar. I think you have to stick it out in a relationship for awhile b…

Hey OP I remember your previous posts. I'm sorry you're going through this. Expecting warmth from someone who's gone cold is a punishment in itself, so stop punishing yourself and stop waiting for som…

I'm going to challenge you for a moment. Imagine your life without him and how you'd find happiness. Imagine what it would be like being with a partner that can truly show up for you. What that would…

Attachement styles aren't like a hair colour or an eye colour, they change with each relationship. If you notice repeating behaviours it has more to do with your choice of partners than a specific att…

Have you ever tried mentioning anything about attachment theory or being an FA at the beginning of dating? Or does it feel like it’s too soon and may sabotage things? For me it feels like I’d rather t…

That’s how my last ex was it’s like he refused to understand my anxious attachment issues sometimes it felt like he didn’t even think something like that could exist. It makes matters worse when said …

I (F37) started casually flirting and texting a colleague (M29) a while ago. In the beginning, we wrote often and a lot, especially right before we met in person for the first time. Then, overnight, t…

I really appreciate your honesty. I agree that over consuming info makes it so much more confusing and changing our beliefs of others is a difficult journey. I am trying to have a relationship with …