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I'll repost what I typed so you may read it. It's an interesting sort of fun story. I started early, at 13 with my first dose of LSD. I have physical experiences with NHI since I was 9, these visit…
Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …
[Showoff Saturday] Indoor football arena website made in html and css and 11ty static site generator. No frameworks. Nearly perfect page speed scores. Just showing what’s possible with only the fundamentals. — Here’s the site https://thefootballfactorynj.com The biggest problem we had to solve was consolidating all the dozens of pages they had for each age group and camp or league to sign up. We made the…
Hello, all. I am helping my mother run her small business by online admin and things, asking for SEO advice for websites etc. (Reupload) — My mother started a local intensive massage therapy business, is the best way I can put it, and I am designing, advertising and running all the online related things. I am tech-savvy I'd say, but am n…
Okay so marketing deadlines are just the worst right? — Okay so marketing deadlines are just the worst right? It's like you plan everything out, content calendar looking solid, then BAM design bottlenecks. Anyone else feel like waiting on graphics is alw…
Freelance in SEO or full-time remote job: Am I making a mistake by still applying? — Hey everyone, I’m at a bit of a crossroads and could really use your advice—even if it goes against what I’m currently thinking. Since I was 18 (I’m 20 now), I’ve been building websites just for fun…
Freelance in SEO or full-time remote job: Am I making a mistake by still applying? — Hey everyone, I’m at a bit of a crossroads and could really use your advice—even if it goes against what I’m currently thinking. Since I was 18 (I’m 20 now), I’ve been building websites just for fun…
Anyone had luck with US based POD? — I’ve relied on bulk apparel shipments from China for years, but with the new tariffs, it’s not sustainable. Is Printful a solid alternative if I’m trying to keep fulfillment within the US? Would love …
From Rejection to Redemption: How I Broke Into DevOps — Guys, I'm here sitting on my back yard on a beautiful Saturday and I am about to sign an offer letter with a Fortune 500 company — with a 25% salary increase. But just a few months ago, I was getting…
Do I really need to fully design and engineer my own product to succeed in e-commerce? — Hey everyone, I’m planning to start my own e-commerce brand, but I don’t have a big budget or deep technical knowledge. Right now, I can only afford to take an existing product, put my brands logo on …
Looking for solid affiliates (not random IG girls) — We run a women’s journaling brand with a strong psychology/wellness angle. Our affiliate program’s been live for a while, but most signups so far have been low-quality and not serious. We offer 30% c…
I have software business with a few customers. How should I scale? (I will not promote.) — Hi everyone, I currently have a SaaS business that provides software to local Credit Unions with the goal to enhance the member experience by building credit, offering tools to renters, and compete w…
Can AI content make your site disappear from Google Discover? — Hello! For the past six months, I've been using AI to help me create blog content, but in a smart way: I write what I want part by part, add context, rewrite some sections, etc. Our rankings remain so…
[Terraform vs. Bicep] — Is Terraform Still a Safe Bet Post-IBM? — **TL;DR:** We're 99% Azure and choosing between Bicep and Terraform for IaC. Bicep fits the stack, but Terraform offers flexibility (especially if we acquire orgs using AWS). With IBM buying HashiCorp…
What’s the smartest business to start today with $50k–75K? — I’m 18 and looking to start a serious business with a budget of $50K–$75K. I’m not interested in quick flips or side hustles. I want something solid and long-term. Ideally, a real business with a phys…
Rejected in the final interview after a month long process — This is honestly just a rant post, because I feel completely deflated at this point. I’ve been actively looking for a job for over a year now, moved to Spain three months ago to start a new life, and…
Anyone else feel like organic reach is dying… or are we just doing it wrong? — Anyone else feel like organic reach is dying… or are we just doing it wrong? Lately, it feels like organic reach (especially on Instagram and LinkedIn) is just not what it used to be. Even with solid…
Seeking a low-maintenance frontend/CMS stack for modernizing 10+ year old sites — Hi all, I’m looking for advice on a conservative, low-maintenance frontend and CMS stack for modernizing a couple of old but still functional client sites. **Background:** I’ve got two long-lived s…
Need recommendations : TMS or similar solution for a GatsbyJS site — Our GatsbyJS website (in the works to be migrated soon-ish) is partially translated into 5 languages (French, Spanish, German, Japanese, Mandarin) with just a few pages being translated into 5 other l…
JSX preserve mode is coming to ReScript — This is great since it will allow the usage of the React Compiler, and it should work with Solid and other frameworks that have a pre-compile step that expects JSX.
Junior sysadmin looking for project ideas to modernize a simple infra — Junior sysadmin looking for project ideas to modernize a simple on-prem infra Hey everyone, I’m a junior sysadmin working with a fairly basic on-prem infrastructure with about 45 users, and I’m look…
Any Australian Temu Sellers here? — I've just been approved for a Temu seller account in Australia and i'm looking for other aussies selling? It seems they dont charge commission fees or monthly fees like Amazon or eBay? so how do the…
Head of Digital - Feeling burnt out. — Hey everyone, I’m in a “Head of Digital” role at a mid-sized company — but in practice, I’m the only technical person in a team full of editors and project managers from a traditional print publishin…
SEO is updated on my Shopify page, but the text on the page hasn't changed. How do I fix this? — Hey everyone, I recently updated the SEO settings on a specific page of my Shopify store, including the title, meta description, etc. Everything looks good in terms of SEO, and the SEO score is solid…
After raising for 7 startups, my pitch decks have fallen into three categories (I will not promote) — Over the years, I've raised funding for 7 startups. I've also raised for startup funds and stare at a hundred pitch decks a month. Based on the patterns, I've realized my pitch decks have fallen into …
Should I find a business partner? Sell Or just give up? My business has potential but I don't have to energy to make it happen. — I started a business about two and a half years ago. It is quite niche and has potential but I haven't been able to get over the tipping point of making it really work. We have great processes and a…
Overtraining and being effective — Wanted to share about a recent breakthrough I had in being effective and getting things done. Like many of you, I believe that being physically fit is a huge part of operating at peak efficiency. Whe…
What to do with my business. Sell partner or fold? — I started a business about two and a half years ago. It is quite niche and has potential but I haven't been able to get over the tipping point of making it really work. We have great processes and a s…
What would one call this attachment style? — I feel as tho I'm a pretty particular mix, cause I'm not exactly healthy, but the other labels don't exactly resonate either. I suppose it roots from two main things. One, I was bullied and ostracized…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
Why do I get upset when bad stuff happens to my partner and it doesn't even impact me? — I'm struggling to understand my pretty intense reactions to certain things. I don't know if attachment theory can help explain this part of my brain. For context: Me (38 F) and partner (44 M) have b…
Is casual sex compatible with secure attachment? — I feel like I have a solid grasp of attachment theory after reading a fair amount of the literature over the years, but there’s a philosophical question I can’t quite resolve. Can someone who is secu…
FA breakup & prolonged limbo - does avoidance calcify over time or can it still reverse? — I’m hoping to hear from people who’ve been through something similar, FAs, or anyone who has opinions on this. I was in a 2 year relationship with someone I later realized is fearful avoidant (I didn…
A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…
My Experience Being an Avoidant Woman — I 27(f) am a lesbian who has a fearful avoidant attachment style. I have almost no control over my attraction; I can be really into/attracted to and excited about someone but then something happens/th…
I want love but can't push past knowing that I would be a burden in all of my relationships — Hi, I am a 26F and want to seek some advice from this subreddit because I truly do not know who else I can talk about this with, and writing has always been easier than talking out loud. Sidenote: I …
Mission success (progressive goal structure for social media growth) — Hi everyone, I just reached my first success story which was reaching 10k followers on TikTok. I used the progressive goal structure process and initially started with 5k and then moved to 10k. Li…
I’ve been with a narc for 5 years and I don’t recognize myself anymore. How do I get "me" back? — I’m writing this because I feel completely lost. I’ve been with a narcissistic partner for 5 years, and looking in the mirror is scary because I don’t know the person looking back. I used to be jovia…
I've been shown how our inner narrative creates and shapes our worlds — So I've been asking for more knowledge and guidance from my guides about how can i feel like myself again after period of suffering. (i was also asking my human guide-my therapist and got answers from…
THE PHOENIX LIGHTS 29th ANNIVERSARY This is what I saw that night March 13, 1997. It was a totally solid piece of machinery not just lights. I could see the bottom of the UFO clearly by two light sources illuminating the bottom of the craft as it flew over my head — I posted this also in UFO sub. March 13, 1997 I was working in East Mesa, Arizona in a 10 bed Hospice inpatient unit as the Charge RN. We worked 12 hour shifts getting off at 7:30 PM but that night t…
Should I reach out? — 6.5 months out from a 6 year relationship and engagement. I miss her like crazy still. I have grown and expanded in so many ways, but I still miss my best friend and want her to be a part of my life. …
Some Pointers after 12 Years of Meditation — Meditation is an invisible skill, which makes it especially prone to confusion and obfuscation. I wanted to jot down some pointers and opinions about meditation that have served me at one point or an…
Anyone NOT having a rough time dating? — I mean dating was no picnic in my 20s before I got married, lots of weird people out there and a ton of immaturity in the 20s. I see so many horror stories that paint an even worse picture in 40s, an…
Why did I always have such a hard time making and building solid connections with people? — Ever since I was school-aged, I've known myself to have issues with connecting to people. I could get along decently, but never really had a "best friend". So no one paid attention to me or wanted to …
Sunken Cost Fallacy — Married for almost 27 years. Got married at the ripe age of 19. Funny thing, I thought it was a mistake on my wedding night when he got out of bed to jack off because I was so exhausted from the long …
First “bad” trip taught me a lot - sharing my experience to help others — I’m 28m, good job, good relationships, physically fit, happy overall. Experienced tripper with several high-dose mushroom trips under my belt. Always had positive experiences. Took 4g mushrooms today…
My husband [M31] let slip in a compliment that he thinks his ex was prettier than me [F28] and I can't stop thinking about it. How do I let it go? — EDIT: I have made an update to this post for everyone, see here: [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/1rwh3g2/update\_my\_husband\_m31\_let\_slip\_in\_a\_compliment/](https://www.r…
My (29M) prenup with my fiance (28W) pays her for having children. My parents (65M, 62W) are telling me to call off the wedding — **EDIT 2: It's occurred to me that I don't know how to close a post. Really I just wanted to hear what other married/engaged folks were doing. Thanks the advice for those who gave it.** **EDIT: Real…
Seeing lizard-like eyes and being healed? — Hi everyone, I recently meditated for about 45 minutes to an hour in the \*very\* early morning a couple days ago (I never meditate that long) after waking up before the sun rose. I was in a supine…
Is it true when a woman ‘mentally checks out’ before they break up, they never come back? — I have been watching a range of YouTube videos, and a there seems to be some agreement amongst some of the videos that once a woman checks out she never comes back. Is this dramatising or is there t…
She cheated after 14 years — This is my first ever post on Reddit and it’s a long one so apologies in advance for any formatting errors. I have been with my fiancé for 14 years, we have been engaged for the last 4. Our relations…
a) law of assumption, not law of belief. And where did you get the other descriptions from? I've been on Neville sub for a while, literally noone describes the law in those words or speak in a spiritu…
Fortunately I've taken my separation (and inevitable divorce) as an opportunity to quit drinking and make healthy lifestyle choices. I've been working really hard to practice mindfulness and radical …
I just want to say, I’m am so happy to have found this sub! Oh how I’ve created so much in my life, with LOB (unconsciously) and more so just belief and the movie the secret that started it all. Then …
Kind of solid advise. When you ask strangers for advise who dont know you they can only advise based on what info you give and its very hard for them, for us, not to connect those sittuations to simil…
Really solid points and then there's space for legitimate concern regarding abusive relationships. Basically, the “Power & Control Wheel”, like instances of sexual harassment/ assault, emotional abuse…
No what I meant was that it usually takes years to build up solid faith for lob itself, to see your mind as cause and effect towards your reality and to manifest with a snap. And that happens with alo…
There's alot of hate on people saying "it works for me, try it" but that's because most of us have tried and failed too (bc we did it wrong for ex) before just like the majority in the other sub, and …
I think what many ask for is solid scientific proof of it. And sure, there is alot of proof and someone linked one of it in here, or they can just start digging this sub or the internetz themself but …
So, I come from a science background, and as such, totally understand all your points and mostly agree with all of them. AND YET, I have tried variations of the methods from JM & similar and had very…
I’ll take a crack at it Point 1: The answer is sm vs cm thought. Daydreaming is not focused with intent, the mind often wonders and you still feel it’s not true in the end or with emotions that are …
I think your question is valid. You showed vulnerability by posting it here. I’m sorry so many adults in this sub choose to use their inside voice when responding. I think it would be different if we …
Your feelings are valid, AND they are not facts. The above commenter is trying to offer you some wisdom; you can choose not to be reactive and take it personally and look again and ask “what can I lea…
It's very, very painful. I'm so sorry. I went through something similar 2 yrs ago. Couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, felt incredible low self-esteem and rejected. I never pegged him to ghost me, and we ha…
Have you costed up the Grafana Cloud? We're a small organisation right now, but we're using Grafana Cloud and it's very cost effective for us. Our plan will be to eventually selfhost once we're at the…
Focus on showcasing your cloud support experience and how it relates to DevOps principles. Your background gives you a solid foundation in understanding cloud infrastructure, troubleshooting, and work…
My company is ready to pay reasonable price for the software we use and that provides value over FOSS ones. Unfortunately many companies go for crazy unrealistic pricing models and then complain that …
Brush up on the company, what they do, their market, etc. Why do you want to be there specifically. Have that answer solid. It’s really important to convince them you’ll like it and therefore try hard…
Sup, I have built multiple IOT products for my former employee, I am stuck in this problem now, I have the resources to build any IOT SAAS product but not getting a solid idea, we can connect and shar…
1. Finding effective channels is the holy grail, isn't it? You've got a solid mix with personalized cold DMs and content. But experimenting with new platforms like Reddit or X can be a goldmine if don…
Sales are everything. If you can find a solid #2, build around that.
Sounds like a solid idea! Automating ad creatives is a huge pain point for marketers. If n8n adds value in terms of workflow automation, it could be a good fit, but if you just need simple generation,…
Sounds like a major improvement for property research in the UK. Love that you're automating the mess of data. The smart alerts and chat-style Q&A are solid ideas. If you can scale this up, it'd save …
If the design agency’s holding you back and the other biz is growing faster and making more, it’s probably time to sell. You’re getting a solid offer and freeing up time to go all-in on what’s workin…
I’m sorry you went through that. Solidarity!
Yup, my ex verbally SAID she wanted all 3, as did I. She didn't last for the first although we were engaged, emotionally cheated for the second, and had a rock solid reason (to her) for not being ab…
I think I’m a DA (one test says DA the other says SA but I don’t feel that). I get like you do too, it takes emotional effort to try to connect with people, and it’s like a minor trauma when it’s not …
I'm in this comment and I don't like it. Translation: I relate to this so muh that I actually winced and now the only way I can communicate my empathy and understanding to you is to make a semi-humor…
Solid advice thank you
I couldn't find anything regarding the effects on avoidants. Especially hardened ones. EFT, sounds like a solid framework if the person is not avoidant.
Oh, interesting. Well, there are multiple stages to the process: stabilization, de-escalation, restructuring, consolidation. So you are repeatedly rewiring their nervous systems. I haven’t experienced…
Thank you for taking the time to write this solid advice.
I think dating is for you and self sabotage is common. I think a key, a lot of the time is, is to go into most situations with no attachment to outcome. Find people you like, date and just see how …
Thank you, that's solid advice, and plz take you’re pretty little self to a city! You’ll have so much more fun and your pick of men! Get out asap.
People are everything. They're fickle, they're stupid, they're disagreeable, they shove you away at times, they're not solid...but they're also beautiful, and dependeable, and deep like the sea, and e…
Yes I think I knew we needed solid time apart to heal and after the 6 week breakup I had firmly told myself I wouldn't go back unless he had done therapy and worked on himself but I knew it would prob…
>There's a good chance she might have a kickback dismissive avoidant response when things get real and she has to "choose you". That'll start off a progression of fault-finding. You're not going to th…
I’m no expert on the matter, I’m learning about avoidants after being married to one for 19 years! I was always made to believe I was the issue in our marriage (I have ADHD) but husband is a huge cont…
This is lovely to read, congratulations on your progress and a solid relationship! Avoidants get a lot of hate on Reddit and it always makes me really sad to read. As someone who tends towards the a…
I think I've learned via age and therapy you can only meet people where they are at. If someone is not very emotionally open there is probably a solid reason for that, it's not our job to prise them …
This might be due to a lack of internal confidence perhaps. I know that when I was younger and would get involved with someone with an anxious attachment, they’d internalize almost everything while tr…
With more of those specifics I would say that part of what you are suffering from is the fear around how things have changed and will look different naturally. However you are personalizing it, as in…
Thank you so much for this! These are real, solid actions i can take when my alarm bells are acting up. I will employ these methods going forward!
I appreciate how much time you put into this. It’s well written and you’ve got some genuinely interesting ideas here. That said, it’s important to add some context so people don’t mistake this for set…
Hi! Sure, this is my own healing journey, nothing more, nothing less. Everything here comes from sources that I have listed, I relied on their status in the scientific community and didn't go as far a…
Hey, to be honest, a big part of my recovery was choosing to be intentionally single. Instead, I focused on just human connection, friendships, practicing vulnerability in real time or over messaging.…
Hey, okay so I have a few thoughts on this. 1. Intuition is SO difficult. I also have insane intuition but then other times it's completely wrong. So, I think exploring the intuition is helpful.…
Solid advice thank you.
I know my relationship of 15 years is over. She's mentally unwell and has very drastic mood swings, but she refuses to actually get help or to work on herself at all. When she's in a good mood, she …
I have been dating a healing avoidant for almost 8 months. We met July 2024 and had a short rocky push-pull relationship, then rekindle back in April 2025, and have been pretty solid ever since. He ha…
I am curious, are there men you don’t find attractive who are objectively solid, secure and good men? If so, it may be worth dating them (even just a couple dates) and exploring why they turn you of…