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Don't date a person for who you WANT them to be. Don't keep dating because you think you can change them. That's not fair to both of you. Personally, I don't think someone can just "become" a dominan…
How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …
Donald Trump & the LOB — JM sub, It has been talked about Trump and the LOB a few times on this sub, and I wanted to remind you about how Donald Trump has used, and still uses the LOB in his favor. Recently, I've seen an in…
To the former LOAPorn folks here — Hi everyone! It's been about 3 months since me and my SP have been NC. It's quite a long story to retell it there, but we two got really close, and we were very happy with each other. However, due to…
My arguments against manifestation — 1. **Maladaptive daydreaming proves that manifestation isn't real**; Manifestation doctrine teaches that what you focus on expands and manifests in your physical reality. Do not split hairs and try to…
A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse. We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon. W…
Has anyone else gone from being dismissive avoidant to anxious preoccupied towards their therapist? — As I'm sitting here on a Friday night, missing my therapist despite literally meeting with her today, I'm reflecting on how 5 years ago, and really for the first 2/3 years of therapy I was a closed bo…
Can we talk about how bad the current Shopify Admin UI is? — How has this continued to be a thing, and how did this get approved internally? The Shopify Admin UI is a complete mess. It's genuinely hard to believe this shipped — and worse, that it's still the c…
I got ghosted and I feel blindsided — I (26F) met a guy (26M) 3 months ago who was in every sense of the word my dream guy. We spent 1 week together before he left back to his country. Ever since we have Facetimed every single day, and we…
Mentoring available? — Looking for someone to mentor me to become a UX/UI Designer, willing to pay hourly!
Pouncemonial: 7th Kill - Disciplined Trader — # Here's how I achieved my 7th mission! **Mission**: To become a disciplined trader **What I achieved**: Mastered stop loss and trading discipline **Background**: After my 6th kill, I was eager t…
Monthly Getting Started / Web Dev Career Thread — Due to a growing influx of questions on this topic, it has been decided to commit a monthly thread dedicated to this topic to reduce the number of repeat posts on this topic. These types of posts will…
Need an advise for my website — Hi there, I need your help because I’m struggling to get a higher ranking on Google for my website. I’m a Psychologist and Psychotherapist, and I have been working in a small city near Milan, Italy.si…
Started a Pistachio Spread Brand in Turkey — Now Trying to Go Global (Advice Appreciated!) — Hey everyone, I’m based in Turkey and help run a family business that produces natural pistachio butter — no additives, no sugar, just roasted pistachios. It’s something we’ve been doing for over 15 …
Should I try to learn SEO or just hire someone? — My family just opened a small pet supplies business. I used to be into web design and tech stuff years ago so I was able to throw together a simple website. The thing is, I have no clue about SEO. I …
Business scaling up - what cloud provider should we use? — Our business is scaling rapidly — we’re currently handling millions of unique requests per week, and this number continues to grow. At the moment, we’re hosted on DigitalOcean, paying approximately €4…
What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …
What will it take? — Seriously… What does it take to land a UX role these days? My wife is graduating with her masters in UX from a good program but it seems that the industry is evolving and everyone is making it seem …
Changing or staying? Product Designer — Hello. I’ve barely been a junior product designer for a year before I was laid off and threatened by AI. Same telltale as everyone in design/IT industries. I’ve been unemployed for 2 months now, and …
The best way to differentiate yourself? — What I have found works is this: Step no.1: Research yourself and your competitors If you're the founder or in a C-level position, you might say: "I already know everything about my business." WRONG…
Transition into a different role — Career Summary Masters in Design got me campus placed in a MNC. 2 years of UX in enterprise and I did an internal switch. Although my role is of UX Designer, the scope of work I do is mostly with educ…
How do you deal with the spam? — I recently (4 weeks ago) started a shopify store in a niche market with my handmade products. Doing organic advertisement with product videos on tiktok, facebook, instagram and youtube. Generally spea…
Rating my website + getting help with ad setup — Hello! Ive started a small workshop where i produce and sell lamps. A lot of my designs are based on already existing popular ones but most of them ive come up with myself. I never expected to becom…
Looking to transition to Europe as a Senior Product Designer from Canada — As the title says, Is this something thats possible and what is the current demand like for Product Designers in Europe? I'm currently looking to gain new experiences within my role as a Senior Prod…
Why webapps didn’t become more popular after all? — Google had a dream where people turn on their computer and the only thing they are greeted with is the Chrome browser. People were sceptic at first but Google created a wonderful web platform called C…
Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I’m in the process of building an exciting startup focused on **fantasy football** and I’m looking for a **technical co-founder** to join me and help bring this idea to life. The core i…
Are we killing authenticity with our obsession over “polished” content? — As someone building in this space, I keep seeing the same pattern: **brands want content that** ***feels*** **real, but then polish it until it’s just another ad.** Briefs = “UGC” becomes “brand…
I need you advise am i a UX Jnr Midwieght or more? — **Hi everyone, I need some advice.** I’m currently a Junior UX Designer (30years old) in the UK at one of the top for new broadcasting companies such a Sky BBC ITV etc. **A bit about my background:*…
What to consider before starting? — Hi everyone, I have the possibility to become distributor for my country of a well known international brand (sports nutrition products). Brand has already a small user base (I am a customer as well) …
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
How do you inspect what actually changed in container images? (My Git-based approach) — Hey everyone, When working with CI images or debugging build issues, I often need to understand *exactly* what changed in a container layer - not just which files were added or removed, but what was …
What back-end tools should I focus on to become a marketable full stack developer using .NET? — Hey everyone, I've been a front-end dev for a while now, and I’ve recently started diving into back-end development. I'm interested in becoming a full stack dev using React on the front and making my…
Freemium from day one, free trial, or free for first N users? — Hi all, I am building a productivity app where you can track anything from habits (e.g. Meditate on frequency basis) to events (e.g. Social Dance/Clubbing) to build routines and track what matters to…
Seeking a low-maintenance frontend/CMS stack for modernizing 10+ year old sites — Hi all, I’m looking for advice on a conservative, low-maintenance frontend and CMS stack for modernizing a couple of old but still functional client sites. **Background:** I’ve got two long-lived s…
Is 6-8 years of career enough to start a business on? — I notice a many industry wide consultants are in the field for 20+ years before providing advice and their services for companies. While im not wanting to become a consultant, I’m wondering if someon…
What do I do with an empty property? — A little background on me first. I’m a dentist, I already own my own practice which I’m not looking to relocate. Next to my practice my there is a 2800 square foot property with a small garden at th…
Is replicating websites a good practice to exercise my CSS (and HTML)? — For personal use and for learning only, not doing anything shady ofc, also I mention that I’m coding by myself not just inspect element + copy code + paste in vs code and boom. And would that also be…
Aspiring Dance Studio Owner - First Steps? — ~ TL;DR: Aspiring dance studio owner (currently in school). Active in the dance community and planning ahead. Looking for first-step advice, financial tips, and mindset guidance from other small busi…
Changing font of only one number or letter in paragraph — Hello, I’m fairly new to Wordpress but not entirely. I am barely familiar with coding, but hoping to become moreso. I am wanting to change the font of a single number in a paragraph sentence. Any adv…
Help each other grow - What’s a “must know” thing, that’s going to be vital to know over the next few years — I’ve been in the industry or in education for ~10 years. In that time I’ve seen “it” things come & become a must have mentioned nearly everywhere (yes Kubernetes, I’m looking at you); while others hav…
Has Anyone Used WhatsApp to Drive Growth in Early-Stage? (I will not promote) — I’ve seen early-stage Indian startups use WhatsApp as an insider channel not to close sales, but to run pilot ideas, form early user loops, and gather fast feedback. Feels like an underrated wedge for…
The successful are not here — After years of watching YouTube videos about startup / founder stuff and reading blogs, Reddit, and the horrible place that is LinkedIn, I came to realize that 99.9% of advice (especially in the SaaS …
I’ve failed at startups, lived on the road, and I still believe I’m successful — I was 19 when I started my first startup. I led a team of 15 people, wanted to change the world. And I failed. At 21, back in 2016, I left home without any money, hoping that traveling would help me …
ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD? — I wrote this short article about TDD vs BDD because I couldn't find a concise one. It contains code examples in every common dev language. Maybe it helps one of you :-) Here is the repo: https://githu…
Have you managed to avoid making your brand into your ego identity? — One of the things I find most distasteful about entrepreneurship is the idea of enmeshing oneself with the brand they are pushing. This is one of the biggest reasons I got out of real estate. Have you…
Need help with some direction — So to keep it short, I need some extra income. I work full time as a software developer, but I now own a house and my bills keep going up, and my salary isn’t. I’ve always had the idea of freelancing…
Front-end dev looking for direction — Hey everyone, I'm a front-end dev for 5+ years, mostly focused on React. I'm looking for any tips as far as getting more knowledgeable, I feel I struggle in tech interviews because I don't know the c…
"I quit my engineering job due to anxiety and built a small business—how do I scale from here?" — Hi everyone, I wanted to share my journey and ask for advice from those who’ve scaled small businesses. I studied chemical engineering and got placed in a great company right after graduating from S…
What would you do? CEO wants me to become the company’s front-end dev. — I am the sole product designer for a corporation which includes 5 companies and 2 CRMs. I just had my first yearly review - glowing feedback, nothing but exceeded expectations. And then it happened… m…
Should I starting selling products? I'm working at a temp job soon to be over or wait till I find a ft job? — Hi everyone. I have an llc for my small online business. I want to sell digital products on etsy. However, I'm currently working at a temp job which work is becoming much slower. Although, my end dat…
I have this problem I realize I'm dream but if I try to control it to just becomes a nightmare.
Just a few questions Mr Moonbeam. If you are so against the “act/live as if” what do you have to say about Dr. Joe Dispenza, Gregg Braden and Dr. Bruce Liptons, Napoleon Hill, Jim Rohn, Eckhart Toll…
You completely missed the point. You don’t need all the woo to get money, which is important in this world. Get your money first. Then once you have more than enough to last you a life time, you c…
If you're asleep but your awareness truly becomes conscious at the same time then that is great; that is what is meant by the popular affirmation in this community as, "Mind Awake, Body Asleep". It i…
Yeah I understand. So one thing you'll notice if you try formal meditation is when when you begin to relax the eyes you become aware of the tension and strain that is *already* there. With patience an…
No, it is not. People talk a lot of nonsense. The only demons people get possessed by are by their own egotistical psychology or some other fantasy 👍 I'll also paste an answer I gave to someone a whi…
yes , it took me like 2 months to master it , all i did was lay on the back look up and close my eyes , i would invision seeing myself fly around my neighborhood while doing this practice , , this ga…
I was neglected from birth till, well, now, and have CPTSD for 28479227392 reasons related to my parents and to other experiences. I don't think focusing on blame is useful. I can't blame my one paren…
Also, I often can slip back into the dream if I wake up and continue on with it. It is so hard to explain. I am hoping that I am not alone /crazy lol. Just wondering if other people experience this. T…
Have been feeling this heavily lately. Ex has moved on but is keen on maintaining friendship. My logical side has moved on. When she's open about personal things in her life, I become convinced that…
I've asked two different entities, and they gave me partly conflicting answers. The self-proclaimed deity said most humans and all animals go to an enormous astral...warehouse waiting room thingy. Th…
Let the silence eat those parts of you that made you stay there. Be angry, be ashamed, and grieve. Question all those nasty feelings and learn what they try to tell you. They usually are out to have t…
Recall and awareness are linked. If you can’t even remember your dreams, how would you become aware you are dreaming while it’s happening?
Omg yay, how long did it take? Who reached out to who? If they reached out what did you do and say? Did you become friends again and work at a relationship or were u straight forward?
Is it possible that a lucid dream can become so real, its extremely difficult to get out?
Hi, that sounds like a false awakening chain. I've experienced a few of them too, including the annoying part where you lose lucidity each time the scenario "resets" itself. No idea what causes it, o…
Aww im sure you would be able to find a partner that love you despite your autism. My ex is autistic too. He broke up with me and didnt even explain the reason behind the breakup. It hurts so much. …
So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…
Late reply, but FYI for anyone reading this from here on...every two hours will change your rising sign and rotate your whole chart another 30 degrees. So while all the planets will still show up in t…
Ive had female friends who can dettach and drop a guy as easy as theyre changing clothes and would always tell me to be like them so I dont get hurt, but the thing is I would rather be hurt than hurt …
I got to the point where they have become irrelevant to me and I don’t let anyone back into my life who betrayed me and treated me cruelly. The brain is incredibly plastic, it will adapt.
Hi, sorry for the long response but please bear with me. TLDR at the bottom. You are slightly correct, but drug addiction posts will also more than likely be removed. 1- There is actually another…
Because they were taking over the sub. If everybody who made a masturbation post had read earlier threads about it and would only post not covered issues we would have only 1% of the posts and nobody …
i am a 51yo married man and educated with a professional degree but stuck in middle management which is fine. I have become more or less an alcoholic in some respects because i love sleeping and my…
Exactly, for example for someone who wants a partner, the more you program, the more you will feel it real for yourself, your confidence will jump. And if you are a dude seeing a hot girl staring at y…
I had a quick glance at this on my break and will chip in more later, just by point 1 alone I see you haven’t grasped it, feeling is the secret indeed. But the feeling isn’t emotions. 2 That knowing…
Love these arguments. Point 1: There is a difference between hypnosis (true authentic feelings of experience of here and now of the desired outcome) and daydreaming. When you give your mind and your…
1. Mental thoughts don’t become physical reality. Beliefs do. Repetitive mental thoughts turn into beliefs. 2. People in your world reflect your beliefs. Perhaps upon meeting someone you had an origi…
1. That doesnt disprove anything. It just means it may be more difficult. That's like saying mindfulness doesn't work because some people have ADHD. 2. Decent point but keep in mind some scientist …
you can do it correctly all you want - it has to be permanent in you SM, and in response slowly changes your CM that you even start forgetting about desire. How many times you want want want smth, and…
No babe. I’m happy as can be, I guess you don’t realize people can get into committed relationships without having to rock back and forth in their rooms doing affirmations and visualization all day, l…
> Mental thoughts don’t become physical reality. Beliefs do. Repetitive mental thoughts turn into beliefs. "A does not become C. B does. A becomes B." okay, so.... A becomes B becomes C. but A doe…
No, mental thoughts do not become physical reality. That would be a world of chaos. *Repetitive* mental thoughts become beliefs, and beliefs do. And this can be layered. You can wake up and have a t…
>I’m disgruntled about people who are told they can bring people back from the dead, get evicted from their homes, people who get their cars repossessed, people who spend the rest of their lives for t…
I'm FA and I identify with this. I value my alone time, and generally speaking, consider myself an introvert. A recharge period is definitely necessary, not just after a social interaction but at the …
This is 100% a pattern for avoidant attachers. It’s referenced as the “vulnerability hangover” in our own spaces. It’s almost like taking an ice bath. You can do it for a while, like 10-20 minutes, an…
I think taking personal time can come from different motivations. Securely attached people love their own time too, especially if they’re more introverted and have hobbies that require undivided atten…
I’ve experienced all of the attachment styles in one way or another. What has been working for me is finding security in my friendships first. I’ve become so severely avoidant that im not pursuing a r…
I think that problem equally applies to everyone with an insecure attachment style. Avoidant people don’t become less avoidant by naming their behavior either. A lot of people are able to identify th…
Then the question becomes- why are you still in a relationship that’s not meeting your needs?
This is the one. I'd also add that attachment doesn't just stop at partners — it's also at play at work, friendships, family relationships/siblings, and even children. It's really fucking hard to be …
Yes, that's precisely my message! And that's why I started treating myself for my issues so aggressively since my late teens (now mid/late 20s). I didn't want to keep passing on the cycle, and this go…
It's not. It's actually preventing them from reaching a point they can tolerate intimacy. The more they run, the more their brain rewires (via Hebbian learning) and becomes more efficient at switchi…
'Romantic relationships are great, but I will become resentful and actually deactivate for real if it feels like I can't correct that imbalance.' <-- I would suggest don't be in romantic relationships…
Thanks for your opinion on my 10% figure. Besides that, I did not say partners should be at my convenience. I said other aspects of life can throw a relationship’s typical patterns out of balance. Ha…
What have you done to resolve your fear of commitment, your emotional unavailability and the inferiority complex? Why are you searching for excitement from a partner? What does that mean to you? Is i…
Here's what I found helpful to figure out my own feelings. I look at three angles: 1. If they suddenly told you they were done and didn't tell you why, would it hurt you? If it wouldn't hurt at all, …
I don't think this is a fair comment. It is extremely common for people to lie about their availability instead of simply saying "im not interested" and when it happens to someone often enough it beco…
That happens when you feel really safe. Which is good but learn how to balance that. You can talk to your therapist about it, also use her as your inner voice - imagine what would she say about this…
I was dismissive avoidant for more than 20 years of marriage. A few months ago, some things changed in my life, including a strange dream, and almost since the day after that enlightening dream, I ha…