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You don't have to say anything. Act like it didn't happen. But the most important thing of all, don't try to "figure out" what he may or may not have had questions about in your relationship if it w…
Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …
Multiple dreams/goal at the time — Hi everyone, im new here. I work the book Psycho-cybernetics for almost 2 years and last week i bought POSM and i LOVE it, i almost finished it and will start re-reading it. My question is, since i h…
(Desktop design) managing overall width vs images vs text container width — I am trying to figure out how to combine best practices for the following things and would love some advice on a few questions. This is for desktop devices. **What I am struggling with is:** * Ensur…
Need Guidance on Turning My Design Into a Functional Social Media Website — Hello everyone, I’ve been learning IT for the past few months, with the long-term goal of becoming a white-hat hacker. I also have a couple of years of experience in graphic design. However, when it …
I got ghosted and I feel blindsided — I (26F) met a guy (26M) 3 months ago who was in every sense of the word my dream guy. We spent 1 week together before he left back to his country. Ever since we have Facetimed every single day, and we…
Other attachment styles — I know the normal 4: Secure, Anxious/preoccupied fearful avoidant, dismissive avoidant, plus disorganized, which is just sort of an "all of the above" In doing parts work, I've been trying to figure…
My Keyword Research Workflow — Hi guys, I wanted to check with you if my keyword research workflow canbe improved. Here's how I've been doing: Finding general keywords: Google Trend: Look the best variation of a generic keyword…
What will it take? — Seriously… What does it take to land a UX role these days? My wife is graduating with her masters in UX from a good program but it seems that the industry is evolving and everyone is making it seem …
I cannot figure out why Google Search Console keeps indicating "Couldn't fetch" — I'm looking over a client's website and one of the things I found was their sitemap doesn't report being crawled since last September. I resubmitted the exact map that was crawled (happens to be plura…
New to SEO and Trying to save my local business — Hi Everyone! I run a local companion care service for seniors and I’m staring down what feels like an impossible mountain with SEO. I’ve watched countless YouTube tutorials, learned a bit about on-si…
ROAST my design before I end up in the streets — Hey everyone, I recently launched a small SaaS project and while I’m getting some traffic, the conversion rate is sooo low. I’m trying to figure out if the design is part of the problem — or the prob…
Bootstrapped Turkish Food Brand Exploring Global B2B Expansion – I will not promote — Hey everyone, I help manage a family-run pistachio butter business based in Gaziantep, Turkey — a city known for producing world-class pistachios. Since 2007, we’ve been selling a premium, all-natur…
To all the scrum masters/PMs: Would you use an AI that joins meetings, takes notes, and assigns tasks to the right teammate automatically? I will not promote — Hi! I’ve been thinking about a recurring pain I see in most teams — meetings generate lots of discussion and action items, but someone still has to take notes, track tasks, and figure out who shoul…
How do you create a custom multi-stage checkout? — I am trying to figure out how to create a multi-stage checkout process. Companies like [https://westandwillow.com/pages/custom-pet-portraits](https://westandwillow.com/pages/custom-pet-portraits) ha…
Please guide me in learning infrastructure automation — I currently manage a few servers running some ecommerce sites (WordPress) and some custom PHP based applications (Vanilla PHP, and Laravel) on DigitalOcean. My setup is pretty basic and consists of *…
Impressions dropped significantly. Can not figure out reason — I have very new site launched at start of feb. It is app content made available through site. When I launched my site I had almost 15k public pages ready as the content was from app now just available…
Strange page name changes to en dashes from regular dashes. Bad for G4. — This is a bit of an odd question, but I noticed in google analytics that the page names have changed from a hyphen to a en dash (option + dash) – . The dashes are automatic where it puts the page name…
Best practices for organizing large web projects? — Hey everyone, I'm currently working on a large-scale web development project, and I'm trying to figure out the best practices for organizing the codebase. How do you structure your files and folders f…
Website Traffic Analytics Show No Activity Suddenly — Hello Guys. Hoping you can shed some light as to why we are facing a situation. When I click on Rank Math Analytics for the last 30 days it shows zero activity across the board. There is activity up…
ChatGPT Plus vs Claude Pro – Which is Better for a UI/UX Designer? — Hi everyone! I’m a UI/UX Designer looking to subscribe to either ChatGPT Plus or Claude Pro, and I’m trying to figure out which one would be the better fit for my workflow. I want to use the AI mai…
how do I figure out which products were added to cart by Customers? — I'm having a lot of users who add to cart, but does not end up converting. is there anyway to figure out which products have been added to cart over a period of time (day/ week etc). thinking about ru…
What made you hate component libraries? — Component libraries make life a lot easier, cause I don't need to spend 6 hours trying to figure out why my dropdown menu won't align to the middle by 3 and half pixels. However, as time goes on you …
Proud of my results as a non expert and want to share and say thanks! — I posted about my SEO efforts about 5 months ago and I had such a warm response from everyone that I kind of wanted to provide an update. I had both shared my results and asked for advice on next step…
How to achieve state/product restrictions — Hey there, I am trying to figure out how to achieve hiding certain products based on selected state [mood.com](http://mood.com) and others have done. There currently is no plugin that offers that …
How can I let devs update their lower environment terraform while protecting production environments? — I know the title is a rather open ended question, but let me lay out where I am now, in the hopes of getting ideas on how to do this better. For a given service, we'll have one directory for environm…
What’s the best way to validate a niche before launching a POD store? — I've been sitting on a few niche ideas for months, but I'm stuck trying to figure out which one has real potential. Everyone says "do your research," but what does that actually look like for POD? Do …
Some guidance would be appreciated. Should I focus on a Linux certification first like RHCSA/LFCS first or the Kubernetes CKA. More details below. — Hi everyone. So recently i finished my a devops certification from a bootcamp and have since been spending time working on my own portfolio project. my project consists of: \- a frontend and backend…
Best ways to acquire leads? — Hey guys I run a digital media production agency which specializes in creating videos for businesses. And I’m trying to figure out outside of network events and ads how do I find potential clients wha…
Best ways to acquire leads? — Hey guys I run a digital media production agency which specializes in creating videos for businesses. And I’m trying to figure out outside of network events and ads how do I find potential clients wha…
Issues with Search Results display of Posts — (Trying this again) I am trying to figure out how to get the red circled area to display my business name (Kelli Miller | Realtor) instead of the website name. I understand it is part of the structu…
4+ Months of LOB Practice — What's up people. Discovered this sub around the start of april 2025, and didn't actually navigate trough the index until about 15-16th of April, and after reading the index, starting 20th April I st…
A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic. — We are seeing an increase of activity from people outside of experiencer circles in threads as time has moved on and more and more people are starting to understand there really is a "there there" and…
The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…
Having trouble differentiating between anxious attachment / normal needs, feeling lost and alone — First Reddit post here! (It's a long one, I just really need a place to put it all down and get some support, so thank you). I (19F) got out of my first long term relationship about 3 months ago. It l…
Practicing acceptance while anxiously attached? — Hi all, I don't always see myself as AA, but in one specific friendship, I am definitely anxiously attached. I have felt the same way with former friends, so I definitely know the problem is my attach…
How do i stop the cycle of freaking out when im away from my partner? — When me and my partner dont see eachother for a long time, i just shut down. Everyday were apart the urge to pick apart every message is so strong and eventually when its too much, i just break down. …
Rushing to know if I’m long term compatible with someone — The past two years I’ve done a lot of internal work on myself regarding my attachment and codependency issues. I feel that I lean more secure than ever. I recently started seeing someone, I’ve known t…
The pain of being unmet... — I'm never sure whether to consider myself anxiously attached, or mostly secure, because I generally do fine if I feel really loved in my relationship. But where I fall apart easily is when I don't. I …
What do secure bids for connection and co-regulation look like? — I am a dismissive avoidant trying to get better about reaching out to others for connection, co-regulation, emotional support, etc. I am really struggling to figure out what's normal/healthy/reasonabl…
How do I grow? — I am learning in the past few months of my life I may (probably am) FA, espeically in romantic relationships. I constantly crave and daydream a secure relationship with consistency but when I ask some…
How honest are securely attached people? — I'm curious how honest secure people are with others in their life. I'm healing from dismissive avoidant attachment and my instinct whenever something bothers or upsets me is to dismiss it as not a bi…
Herpes — hi everyone! So I met a great guy lots in common and lots of green flags. One of my requirements before being physically intimate is sti panels. It used to feel awkward for me to ask but it also tells…
Any clue what could have happened? — I took a heroic dose of dmt last year. I had every intention to communicate with whatever I may have seen during the experience. I hit my rig until I couldn't anymore, I had been sitting on my brother…
I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…
Married 5 months after 10 years together (M32 / F29) — she started talking to another guy right after the wedding. We’re now on a 30-day separation and I don’t know what to do. — I’m looking for honest advice from people who have either been through something like this or have perspective I might not be seeing right now. My wife (F29) and I (M32) have been together for about …
If You Get to the Center Time Stops; Sun as the Center — During yesterday morning's tarot card reading, I received the message, "if you get to the center of the wheel, time stops." My interpretation was that getting to the center means *perceiving* time as …
Broke up with DA after a year. — Met her a year ago, almost to the day. Things started well, relatively slowly which was nice for a change compared to other situations I have been in around that time. After two months, we became offi…
Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected — Today marks my sixth month living in Europe. Looking back at the past half year and all the European girls I’ve interacted with, I thought it would be fun to do a little reflection—what I did well, wh…
Day 47 of no contact. Here's what nobody tells you about what happens to your brain. — I didn't plan to go no contact. I just got to a point where I realized every time I reached out I felt worse for three days afterward. So I stopped. Day 1–7 was the worst week of my life. Worse than …
What’s the healthy way for us (46F, 46M) to resolve conflicts that my boyfriend has? — Tl;dr: what’s the healthy way for us to resolve conflicts? \*\*Background:\*\* I (46F) have been dating my boyfriend (46M) for about 6 months. Neither of us has been married or has kids, and neither …
Hello I just had the weirdest dream and I don't know how to look up my specific type of dream and was so shocked I decided to come here and write. I remember going to sleep around 12:30pm after wakin…
You completely missed the point. You don’t need all the woo to get money, which is important in this world. Get your money first. Then once you have more than enough to last you a life time, you c…
I attribute my LD to the episode ‘What was in Blue’s Dream’ from Blue’s Clues. Home sick one day from school, watched this episode, dreamed that episode that night then not only did I know I was dream…
https://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?showgif&lang=e&gif=astro_2gw_jared_mcknight.75112.31364.png&res=100 This is the best I can do. As you can tell I’m not very good at this. Would you mind looking at…
2 weeks ago I was taking valerian root capsules choline and a B vitamin combination powder. When i was asleep i could change things in my mind while I was dreaming ,I flew and I forgot what the other …
Wow I’m so sorry you’re going through this! It’s nuts how common our stories are. I always felt like I was being dragged around by Eric and he could never just tell me “it’ll never work out” Just brea…
DevOps evolves around 3 key principles: 1. Automation 2. Monitoring 3. Integration The rules are simple: # Automation Don't ever do anything by hand. The only allowable manual action is configurin…
So my long story short.. yes I reached out after almost a year and not with any love or dating intentions. We started to reconnect and things started to happen for us again. We’ve been back to togethe…
Same. I'm trying to figure out if I'm just mourning the past and future with a partnet that I knew had my back; or I'm just seeking that validation.
So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…
Getting your medicine right will make a big change. It didn’t cure my sadness and grief and fear and all the things that came with my new circumstances but when I finally got on the right dose of the …
Have you found things that work for dealing with life alone? How old are you now? I’m 44 and back in school (online) for a career change but I find it so hard to motivate to do school work or to figur…
I've been doing a lot more meditation lately, using binaural beats via the Gateway Experience tapes, and I've finally gotten to the point where I can fully relax my body, put it to sleep, and have a …
Do you feel like its much harder to start healing while in a relationship as opposed to being out of it? Diving into a serious relationship very fast, I realized I have a lot of issues with avoidance…
I think that problem equally applies to everyone with an insecure attachment style. Avoidant people don’t become less avoidant by naming their behavior either. A lot of people are able to identify th…
Interestingly enough we don’t see that though. We see post after post of people wanting to fix their ex or figure out how to make it work. I rarely see posts with people venting about the issue while …
I'm also a recovering FA and I recently realized a few REALLY important things that are actually really simple. Figure out your boundaries and enforce them from a calm place. Our anxiety builds in our…
It sucks being a self-aware avoidant because it’s like….so much of this is about unconscious reactions. I’ve had my big “aha” moment. Now I’m conscious, I’m pretty good at noticing it in myself, but I…
No it doesn’t. That’s why we use different words for different things. I’m very happy this platform gives hurt people the chance to talk and figure out their feelings. Similarly- my comment you respon…
Here's what I found helpful to figure out my own feelings. I look at three angles: 1. If they suddenly told you they were done and didn't tell you why, would it hurt you? If it wouldn't hurt at all, …
The big trap most self-aware anxious attachers fall into is thinking they can "spot" an avoidant and somehow steer clear of them. That's not the point of dating, actually. Your attachment issues cause…
There are good articles out there on scaling mariadb. Most of them start by understanding the mix of writes and reads. They end by softening the ACID constraints. Either by sharding and routing requ…
Simple SEO is beneficial for the site, and you can use ChatGPT to make sure to highlight keywords and phrase your page descriptions in a way that makes it stand out in the algorithm. Social media is…
Yeah exactly man highly agree with you on this one! It’s like what are you gonna do when you’re lost in the woods? You should def start walking, why you start walking? Because if you don’t you’re gonn…
Hey, [OpsLevel](https://www.opslevel.com) CTO here. We have a ton of respect for what the Backstage community has accomplished. It's impressive how they've expanded the IDP space and created a vibra…
Umm.. I think your % is off and there are way more lurkers here and some real people out there. I thought about doing posts, a podcast, or a book as an entrepreneur about how hard it was for years ru…
I've been in these scenarios a good few times in a good few ways. And I have some hostile opinions on it as well as some good ones. So scenarios. Indian CTO or VP is hired, and almost immediately, …
I’m not sure if I was starting to have a lucid dream last night or not, i had been a sleep for a little bit (probably a light sleep) and felt myself get pulled into a dream where i knew i was dreaming…
Look up descriptions of secure behaviour and secure relationships. Do you have examples of secure dynamics in your life at all, even with friends or family? Use those instances as reference points for…
We should all focus making our selves happy first or at least try to figure out what triggers and learn to control/live with these so it does not effect others. No matter what your attachment style is…
Thank you aa a formal c I a intern and psia intern thank esp law of attraction opportunity women and some form of finance within a few weeks will come your way surprisingly unless your third eye se…
>pursuing people who have communicated they're not offering what you're after is a great way to not get what you're after. >I spoke to an AP woman about this on a thread elsewhere and she said that i…
That's so funny, I actually wrote "I envy that level of delulu" and changed it to confidence. >It's funny that you mention confidence because that's what this person said. That DAs don't have the con…
I mean it can be tough especially when you are talking about money. Money is always in your face. We deal with it daily. A few things work for me. 1. I revisit things I manifested and think about ho…
The massive problem I see and read in your post is there aren't boundaries. It sounds like the whole status and line between the two of you are blurred. So, you are not wanting to label what you have…
What you might be able to ask is what the pause will help her do. Sometimes DAs can feel like they’ll let you down if they have to maintain the relationship while a bunch else is stressing them out. S…
The first example is so hard. I feel like there’s no kind way to be like “I’m not interested in that [getting together]”. I don’t usually ignore people if they reach out, but I’ve definitely forgettin…
I see, thank you!! Right now my plan is to wait till she starts therapy again (in ~1 month), and I guess I'll figure out from there. She is also throws herself into work at the moment (using it as an …
Wow that is amazing. You should be super proud! I'm also fearful avoidant, and have a similar timeline as you. Did the same to communicate, stay present and pushing down the ick during a long 8 month …
a huge game changer for me was getting obsessively specific about exactly what i wanted - not just "i want a better job" but detailed visualizations about walking into my dream office, the conversatio…
Appreciate your honesty, but PLEASE DO NOT DATE until you’ve worked on yourself in a consistent, demonstrable way and have learned to actually change what you desire. You will only cause unnecessary …
I used to be an avoidant. What you are describing sounds very familiar and for me it was the part of me that was afraid of good, uncomplicated love. It made me come up with all sorts of nonsensical is…
>One FA said something to me about herself early on, in some conversation or another, that seemed innocent at the time because I was infatuated: "That doesn't make you want to run?" My preferred resp…
Same situation. Anxious attachment and limerence. This has been more painful than any breakups I've had. Here is what I recommend - Go low contact since no contact is not possible in your case. Out o…
>Figure out why this person affected you so much. This is what we’re exploring in therapy at the moment. I feel like I’m not worthy if he was able to throw away a 7 year friendship just like that. …
I like to journal with ChatGPT and has the capability to figure out stuff like this, you could just copy and paste it. Gemini is … okay.
That’s kinda how I started, then I looked into different theories to try to explain what I had seen. I found the simulation theory, that led me to the matrix, which lead me to PP(he who shall not be n…
I mean, it's hard to say. I'm sure that two secure people might appear to be boring to insecurely attached people. Depending on the attachment style, even insecurely attached people find faults …
Yes absolutely . but not every avoidant is self-aware so they wouldn’t be able to communicate effectively.and one of them hardest thing I struggle with as fearful avoidant is to figure out the differe…
Hi everyone, I’m in my early 20s, and recently I went through my longest relationship so far — almost 2 years — with someone who is also my age, and has BPD. I have AuDHD on top of everything. Our rel…