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I have an active full life,, refuse to be another man's "mommy"/overenabler and am independent. I realize will most likely be staying single long term. I am on the apps on and off, but not finding muc…
The monster jar theory of FA or avoidant attachment. — So I was talking to a friend of mine and supporting her and my own feelings of shame and I was reiterating somethjng that isn’t anything new at all but hit on an analogy that really worked for both of…
I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath — Hi everyone, please I need help. I’m 35F and my husband is 36M. We’ve been married for 10 years and have two boys (7 and 5). I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. About three months ago my hus…
tried dating sites at 41/42 and only get messages from 20 year olds — i'm a 42 year old female, never married, no kids, live alone. i'm chubby, have a shaved head, and am covered in tattoos... yes, its a look that tends to limit the kinds of responses i've gotten when t…
How many of you had suitors before meeting your NPD partner that were actually really nice, attractive, and ready to go all in with you, but you turned them away? — Asking for a friend 😏 jk…that was me. Those suitors’ love felt strange and off-putting. It felt too easy and therefore not genuine. You mean I don’t have to perform for you, hide my feelings, or s…
Had a shocking vision during a golden light meditation anyone else seen their 'future' family’? — I wanted to share something that just happened to me during a meditation that honestly shocked me. I was lying in bed, focused on my breathing, and imagined a golden light starting at my feet. I felt …
Anybody Else’s Parents Unreasonably Obsessed with Academics? — Ever since I can remember doing well in school was pretty effortless for me. From the first through about the fourth grade, I was a model student who consistently brought home shining report cards an…
Out of curiosity, do your parents even fit the "demanding in-law" stereotype?" — This is a reason often levied against AM for not wanting to date them, but the Asian generation I know who are 1.5 generation onwards are honestly very chill and easy going. And this is doubly true fo…
How I healed my codependency in friendships and relationships — By understanding that they're 18+ adults and I'm not their mommy, medic or doctor. It's not my job to heal others. I can help someone like five times in a month that's it. I walk away now. Emotionally…
Robert Monroe — I was listening to a video of Robert Monroe yesterday and these are his exact words: Knowledge to me doesn't even have to be a belief but a consideration of yours, and that is that - that more than …
It’s okay, it was just an accident, let mommy help you clean it up.❤️ — Being able to tell my own child “it’s okay it was just an accident, let mommy help you clean it up“ after he spills his drink heals something inside of me. When i was a kid, I always got screamed at, …
I'm fourteen and I've been in a really weird situation my entire life. I don't know what to do. — trigger warning for sensitive content such as abuse (only financial abuse is really explicitly stated), alcoholism, s icidality (in the past, censoring in case it gets the post removed or something)?…
How to deal with Trauma and depression from Asian parent — So I' am a filipino and 19 years old student I have a big brother and a little sister who is 5 years old I had a huge fight with my mom. While my dad was working in different state in Australia so he …
Sibling abuse is not the same as sibling rivalry. — My older sister was extremely abusive to me growing up. It was like she didn’t see me as a person, just a punching bag to take out her feelings on or an obstacle preventing her from being the most imp…
Surviving? A permanent trip and skirting the line of orange juice (YOU ARE GONNA WANT TO READ THIS.) — Permanent trip is kinda funny and skirting the line of permanent orange juice (you’re gonna wanna read this) I have bpd and dead mommy issues and I have always just wanted a drug to make me happy, es…
Anyone else actually make it in life, only for it to fall apart? — The great sham of my life is that I was successful. THE SHAM: I got all As most of my time in school. I had a website at 19 that made me six figures for nearly five years. I was able to drop out o…
Living in an apartment below a couple that is domestically violent :/ TW — The woman is at the least being kept hostage and tortured. At best she is being beat regularly. I thought the sounds were the dogs and the kids up there playing. Or maybe the people just got home and…
We want a future together, but my fear of pregnancy is kind of becoming a dealbreaker. — My boyfriend(27 M) and I (26 F) are dating for two years, and honestly, he’s incredible—respectful, caring, and someone I can truly see a future with. We are at the point where we want to "settle dow…
The moment I chose peace — My cellphone rang. Mom. I hesitated to answer, so I let it ring. “If it’s important, she will call again,” I told myself. A moment later, a WhatsApp notification appeared on my screen. Mom: Pl…
Should i end things with my bf because of my age? — ​ Me(25F) and my bf(21M) have been together for 2 years now. We actually have 3 years of gap but it is 4 age wise. We don't have any big problems and he even told his family about me but the…
Im autistic and I realized my boyfriend of three years (who I live with) doesn’t like me. — Im autistic and I’ve realized my boyfriend of the last three years (that I live with) doesn’t like me. So I 27f have been with my boyfriend (32m) for the last three years. We live together. He has a…
how to help kids with trauma bond? — I really need your help and advice. We have been living appart for 3 years but it's not 100% over, for a while it seems like and then he is coming back and wants to try. I believe our relationshi…
What are most men like when they are upset? I (42F) am considering leaving my husband (46M) over how he acts when upset. — TL;DR: how do upset/angry men really talk to their wives ‘behind closed doors’ and how often are they upset at their wives? Hi all, I’m in a very unhappy marriage. I (42F) my spouse (46M). Married 12…
NMom keeps bringing up a traumatic experience related to the water whenever I try to bring up going to the beach — TW for mention/description of near-drowning experience I will try to keep this part short for context. When I was a junior in high school, my friend and I were at the beach for spring break when she …
I caught my mom drinking before she was supposed to watch my son — When I caught her, she immediately tried to deny it. I could smell alcohol on her breath, and when I reached for her cup she refused to give it to me. I went to the liquor cabinet and hid the bottle b…
I [32F] found my husband’s [30M] hidden Snapchat account that he has been using to message other women — Throwaway account because my husband follows my main account. My husband and I have been together for 15 years. Married for 7. I had trusted him with my whole being. Not once did I ever consider anyt…
Narcissist mother/son enmeshment (long story) — My husband has always been enmeshed with his mother. There were so many red flags and “what the f\*\*\* ?” moments from the beginning. I’d like to hear others experiences about this dysfunctional enme…
She introduced him to our kids without telling me and flaunted it... — My ex and I have a relocation trial where she wants to move across the country to be closer to her family and affair partner who is her brother in laws older brother. I'm refusing and we will have a …
A Pro Asian Men Facebook Page Call Crystal Ren Hosted by a Chinese Women. Is It Legit or a Grift? — ***Preface:*** Aznidenity don't allow Facebook links, so you guys have to search it out for yourselves. I came across a Facebook Page call Crystal Ren hosted by an Asian woman. Today was the first t…
I’m so miserable and I want a mom — Yesterday was my birthday. The day before, I wanted to do something with my mommy because we have a bad relationship but it’s not really on my part bc she refuses to try and talk to me or flat out ign…
Anyone else abandonded by their mom? — I have met maybe one other person in my life who was abandonded by their mother. Its something I feel makes me act and feel so differently than anyone else, which is a super lonely feeling. Mother hun…
In college and still think about my avoidant ex after almost a year — Hi hi, I haven't seen enough discourse on healing from an avoidant ex and I have definitely not seen enough discourse on healing from an avoidant ex while being at the same college together. My ex an…
Exactly. OP is the one (yet another man) who hates women bc mommy didn't love him. This whole post is projection deluxe. Yet refuses to actually work on that (when so many of us do this SUPER painf…
Also you lie to them and expect them to except it.when I notice some one is just saying something that isn’t real ,it bothers me. Often my wife needs space,so she stacks her calendar with appointments…
As soon as I accepted that some people just aren’t that attracted to or interested in me, but are willing to date me for the convenience of easy/on demand sex or attention, it got a lot easier to let …
Yeah OP if a man really loves you he won’t make you feel bad for those things. What I’ve found is to really get to know the person the best individuals arms you can fall into is someone who has the sa…
My mom froze up when I was very ill. I will never ask her for help again. Even though I want my mommy. Could maybe be the same here. Can you love him anyway?
Sure, here is a portion that resonated with me a lot and made sense on what attracts me to the avoidants or unavailable or troubled people. Shall share more if you are interested: The need to be need…
If he was busy at work and couldn't get away while they are open to do it, ok fine but to set that precedent on a first date is not a good look. You're asking him to make some effort like a man. If he…
I think it’s difficult to be the only parent. I took a beat to think about your post, because I had the initial freak out reaction to the conversation with your daughter. However, your daughter has a …
I think it will be rare to find someone who wants to be ‘mommy zoned’ (kink is different, I’m sure you can find someone who is sexually interested in that kind of role play.) But for an adult relation…
Did you tell anyone else you were going to your parents? If so, who? Either he sent the texts saying “running to mommy etc” cuz he knew you went there, or someone who knows you were there did
if thats not him sending the texts how would this random stranger who found his phone know you left to your parents house with that "running to mommy" message? Its definitely him
I’d trade phones for the day! If he gets the texts he may have some context for who’s sending them (if it’s really not him) especially if he’s just told someone some information that couldn’t come fro…
How would they know she's "running away to mommy's"?
“Running to mommy’s house just proves my point.” This would mean that it's him or at the very least, someone he is confiding in or someone who knows your situation. My bets are on hubby.
Original copy of post by u/Im_not_a_librarian: i'm a 42 year old female, never married, no kids, live alone. i'm chubby, have a shaved head, and am covered in tattoos... yes, its a look that tends to…
So one specific mistake you are making is this: > We’ll talk about it, but I often end up feeling like it becomes my responsibility to figure out how to resolve the situation in a way that makes him …
They have mommy issues, or the profile is for a scam.
Not only that. But if someone else had his old phone how would they know she even went to her mom’s? The “running to mommy” and “you’ll be back” texts are way harder to deny
They're looking for a mommy they can fuck.
Hey mommy can you bankroll my lifestyle
I'm only 29, so I typically only lurk since I'm not 40+ but I'm definetely in the category of men who are interested in older women so I'll give an answer. It's partially a sex thing. Older women are …
What do you mean by "mommy" in the bedroom? (Just typing that out gave me major ick, but I am genuinely curious and don't want to assume.)
Same as daddy but opposite. Her taking the lead, if not dominant role. Saying "mommy" at... various points. Exactly what the details are, again, depends on the person, but that's the gist.
You’ve become his mommy. And bangmaid. Is that what you really want? Only 6 months in and his true colors have shown. Stop cooking for him. Cook your own meals, clean your own stuff. If he can’t beh…
If someone called me “mommy” in bed, it would give me the type of ick where I would say “ew” involuntarily, dismount, ask him to leave, and start changing the sheets while he was getting his shoes on.…
He pretty clearly has a fucked up relationship with food (gonna guess mommy dearest has something to do with that), and is projecting his fears and insecurities onto you. That’s not fair, and you don’…
I’ve lost 150lbs since having my oldest. I had a mommy makeover on my upper body. My legs still show significant weight loss. I’m pretty upfront about it. At my largest, I was a 24. I’m now a 0-2. The…
Hmmm, some of what I think is coming from my own experience, so take it with a grain of salt. My ex-husband had very complicated relationships with his parent. Relationship with mom was not great, an…
Needed this because mine started therapy. He said he hasn’t done anything wrong. We had less than a week before he started doing weird stuff again. As someone said above I had another nex who told me…
Breakup. He doesn’t care about you. He only cares about how you fit in to his life. He’s 31 and lives with his parents. He has zero life experience. He’s looking for a mommy he can fuck and play hou…
He got with you hearing what you said but assuming he'd be able to change your mind. He doesn't have any intentions of respecting what you want out of your life. He wants a cute young housewife and he…
Aww she misses her mommy? Good for her, tell her to take a hike
Girlll.. cmmon... you are mich more grounded than ever will be. He only want marrige to get another mommy to take care of him and bby to make it hard for you to leave. RUN, only thing that needs to be…
I was at a family dinner with my fiance's family, and the topic of maiden names came up. His mom is a famous researcher and has her maiden name on all her research, but legally took her husband's last…
Tale as old as time. Acting like another child, depending on you to be the grownup, being forced into a maternal role to your own husband, and unsurprisingly desire disappears. If you treat your wife…
I had similar experiences to you, but I was THAT mom. I’m a big believer in kids working out and figuring out their own problems but he KNEW I had his back, and all he had to do was call. He called…
i dont disagree but i think that we need an agnostic system. we cant correct course and then continue "correcting" and be mad that we're now discussing whether we have overcorrected. not saying you ar…
The idea of him going to sleep in another room of Mommy’s house sent me
He just doesn't want to be a husband and a father anymore. He knows you didn't cheat, when would you have even had time? He doesn't care. His mommy isn't making him man up either. You need to start pl…
Oh Mama, your head and your heart are in the right place. You are exhausted, you’re a new momma, you’re going through so so many huge experiences that are new and hormonal and challenging. Yes, your…
Yeah I'm wondering if it's actually a "mommy makeover" because she feels like her body was ruined from childbearing
Aren’t mommy makeovers usually tummy tucks or breast lifts? Things that are actually affected by pregnancy?
I am a doctor who specializes in anti-aging procedures. I also serve a mostly higher end clientele. This sounds like surgery-level money. At 1 year or so post-partum, perhaps a mini mommy makeover? Pe…
After healing I have much higher standards for how I want to be treated and give less second chances. Pretty much one toxic behavior, we discuss the solution, and if it doesn’t change and goes back to…
Botox is poisonous and makes people look weird. While bodily autonomy is important, sometimes you need to protect people against themselves. Also she has a child. What are they going to say to the …
I wonder if she's getting an overall "mommy makeover", which can sometimes include vaginoplasty and a tummy tuck. I would imagine that the office would try to talk her into getting as much as possible…
Yes, people can be saved, but u have to realize YOU ARE THE ONE THAT NEEDS SAVING! If not for yourself do it for your children, to show them that mommy is a strong woman and doesn’t need a man to feel…
He turned off the location n u think he wasn’t cheating ?cmon now … he’s up to no good , he’s a boy not a man , and he won’t change . He needs a mommy that’s why he still around .