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The person (35M) who absolutely obliterated my heart texted me (35F) for my birthday, what do I say back?

Im sorry I know this feeling. I still want to message the one that broke me. I write what I want to say in a private place that I know nobody but me has access to and no chance of an accidental send…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/8/2026
Just another day, Stuck in a maze, Just another hurt, Eyes in a haze

Just another day, Stuck in a maze, Just another hurt, Eyes in a haze — Just another day, Stuck in a maze, Just another hurt, Eyes in a haze, Just another route, Stuck in a loop, Just another plan, Tryin'a regroup, Just another goal, Stuck in a storm, Just anoth…

r/BreakUpspost3/31/2026
The Tragedy Among Us

The Tragedy Among Us — To lose all hope or confidence. This is the definition of despair. I've had my share of all things good and bad, but I've never felt despair. I've seen it. Watching 9/11 unfold comes to mind. Seeing p…

r/survivinginfidelitypost4/3/2026
vent

vent — Sometime last year, I asked my dad if we could talk about what he did. We went on the driveway. I told him that I hate him. He said, "You'll never find someone who loves you like we do." I yelled back…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/9/2026
Mum never admits that I'm in any pain or discomfort whatsoever.

Mum never admits that I'm in any pain or discomfort whatsoever. — is it a common thing or is my mum just strange like that? I had horrible migraines that made me literally cry back when I was like 7-8 years old, now I'm 17 migraines never ever left me, but I got s…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/9/2026
Why do dumpers watch stories

Why do dumpers watch stories — I removed him from my followers and I don't follow him either. He broke up with me more than 40 days ago and watches my stories( I don't watch his) .Why's that? Is he planning to come back?

r/ExNoContactpost4/10/2026
For guys who have no trouble getting dates on OLD, how do you filter for good personality?

>If someone starts up with the “any eXciTINg plans this weekend” type of canned small talk, idc how good looking they are.  Why's asking about your weekend a bad conversation starter? You can learn a…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/17/2026
r/DecidingToBeBettercomment3/23/2026
Just another day, Stuck in a maze, Just another hurt, Eyes in a haze

The repetition really captures that stuck feeling where every day blends into the next one. That line about "why's it the norm" hits - breakups have this way of making everything feel like a pattern y…

r/BreakUpscomment3/31/2026
Why should one person do all the work?

Easily the biggest problem with modern OLD. Why's being curious about the person you match with (and is showing interest by asking thoughtful questions) such a massive issue? So many people could …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/31/2026
How did you know your marriage was over?

I was willing to get over her affair if she came clean and did the work (including digging deep enough to find the why's of the affair). Her take was that the affair was over and that I need to just …

r/Divorcecomment4/2/2026
Feeling uncomfortable around boys in class 😞need advice

I'm also from a religious family, I would say, it's pretty much impossible not to mix with the boys if u went to that type of uni. U could just keep ignoring them eventually they will stop. I would …

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/2/2026
What was I doing with my life all this while ?

yeah exactly, i like thinking about people as little mysteries, we'll never fully know the inner workings of another, the 'why's of their behaviours and i like to think that its not our business anywa…

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment4/3/2026
No response before first date?

Just text him. He's probably going through all the same mental gymnastics as you. "Why's her text message so short, maybe she's annoyed with me,maybe she's tired from her trip and I should give her …

r/datingoverfortycomment4/6/2026
Embarrassed of myself

Yep, I know that feeling all to well. The why's....never get answered. Closure comes from reflecting on they're behaviors and actions, not just the harmful things they say. Remember the explosive re…

r/BreakUpscomment4/6/2026
Getting final closure.

5 years later and you're still attempting to heal? Did I read that correctly or have you finally accepted that he's in your past and you can move on? No need to dissect (IMO) his hows, why's and when'…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/7/2026
Getting final closure.

Perhaps it took her 5y because she didn't dissect the how's, why's and when's at the time. Not to the degree she needed to.

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/7/2026
She did it by text

Well unless you have evidence of her cheating, the only thing that you could do at least to let them know it was all on her, is just to talk to the people you care and tell them that Tell them exactl…

r/Divorcecomment4/8/2026
Boyfriend (23m) told me (20f) he’s unhappy with our bedroom life.

Why's our bedroom life dead ? Surely it's nothing to do with the 100lbs I've gained !? Come on man

r/relationship_advicecomment4/11/2026
Has anyone amicably divorced with kids and not have it be absolutely gut-wrenching for everyone involved?

why's that? why can't it be done in a less painful way? parents remain friendly, 50/50 custody with a ton of flexibility, etc.?

r/Divorcecomment4/12/2026