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Dealing with POCD and anxiety due to I have no idea what

Dealing with POCD and anxiety due to I have no idea what — Hi fellow Reddit users. My name is Sergio, i'm 26 years old and i've been dealing a very weird case of OCD and anxiety, specially this last year. I am going to therapy btw, but sometimes i feel like i…

r/therapypost4/12/2026
Reading interest in text

Reading interest in text — I am looking for some feedback or insight. I’m 49m and she is 50f. I met her on a dating app. It was great energy and really engaging. We went on a great date and she was very complementary and we di…

r/attachment_theorypost4/3/2025
Am I crazy? Growing from a single freelancer to an agency with a team

Am I crazy? Growing from a single freelancer to an agency with a team — Hi everyone - quick background: I'm a freelance web designer/developer who's been doing this thing now for almost 15 years. I've done it under a studio name, but it's always just been me, with some oc…

r/web_designpost4/23/2025
What parts of digital marketing are most valuable to learn in 2025?

What parts of digital marketing are most valuable to learn in 2025? — I'm gonna begin learning digital marketing (as I'm already doing non-digital marketing) but I don't feel like (and don't have enough time & energy to) learning all kinds of it, I mean for instance SEO…

r/digital_marketingpost4/29/2025
Feeling stuck between a promo and burnout - advice?

Feeling stuck between a promo and burnout - advice? — I'm approaching 5 years at my current company (2 years as junior, 3 as mid-level) and am submitting a promotion case for Senior. I won't hear back for a couple months - my director feels optimistic, b…

r/UXDesignpost5/1/2025
The brutal truth about content marketing no one tells you (until you burn out)

The brutal truth about content marketing no one tells you (until you burn out) — The brutal truth about content marketing no one tells you (until you burn out) You can publish 3 blog posts a week, schedule a dozen tweets, crank out a newsletter, and still feel like you're screami…

r/digital_marketingpost5/3/2025
I have failed. More than once. (i will not promote)

I have failed. More than once. (i will not promote) — Been 10 years since I started my professional journey. I have failed. More than once. I have also succeeded and still doubted myself through it. I have risked time, energy, money, relationships. S…

r/startupspost5/4/2025
What back-end tools should I focus on to become a marketable full stack developer using .NET?

What back-end tools should I focus on to become a marketable full stack developer using .NET? — Hey everyone, I've been a front-end dev for a while now, and I’ve recently started diving into back-end development. I'm interested in becoming a full stack dev using React on the front and making my…

r/webdevpost5/5/2025
A great copywriter is worth their weight in gold

A great copywriter is worth their weight in gold — I've been building brands for 15 years. If you just got your first $20k-$100k budget to build your brand/web/app, let me humbly offer you a tip: # In 2025, the #1 thing that will affect how 'pro' you…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/6/2025
Starting a startup. (i will not promote)

Starting a startup. (i will not promote) — I have several ideas for applications (social networks), but all the hassle with opening a company and paying taxes to the authorities makes me give up on the idea; I simply don't have the energy for …

r/startupspost5/6/2025
Do push/pull dynamics happen even when you’re not participating in them?

Do push/pull dynamics happen even when you’re not participating in them? — I (F, 32, originally AP, now definitely more secure) have just gone through a very confusing dating experience. 3 months ago I started seeing this man (34 met on Hinge). He started off very interested…

r/attachment_theorypost5/7/2025
how do people get their product in stores? and how do they manufacture it from scratch?

how do people get their product in stores? and how do they manufacture it from scratch? — I just saw a cnbc money video about a random guy that started selling plain old peanut butter and made million. crazy thing is I recognized the peanut butter brand and it just started showing up all…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
Should I find a business partner? Sell Or just give up? My business has potential but I don't have to energy to make it happen.

Should I find a business partner? Sell Or just give up? My business has potential but I don't have to energy to make it happen. — I started a business about two and a half years ago. It is quite niche and has potential but I haven't been able to get over the tipping point of making it really work. We have great processes and a…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
Want to make my own energy pouch

Want to make my own energy pouch — I want to make my own proprietary blend for an energy/nicotine pouch. Is there anywhere I could buy empty pouches or a way I could make my own?

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
Set out to launch my first e-commerce brand, feedback?

Set out to launch my first e-commerce brand, feedback? — Looking for advice on a health and wellness business, A transdermal nootropic patch designed for biohackers, deep workers, and anyone looking for clean, all-day cognitive enhancement without the stim…

r/ecommercepost5/7/2025
What to do with my business. Sell partner or fold?

What to do with my business. Sell partner or fold? — I started a business about two and a half years ago. It is quite niche and has potential but I haven't been able to get over the tipping point of making it really work. We have great processes and a s…

r/smallbusinesspost5/8/2025
I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been.

I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost8/14/2025
A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic.

A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic. — We are seeing an increase of activity from people outside of experiencer circles in threads as time has moved on and more and more people are starting to understand there really is a "there there" and…

r/experiencerspost9/4/2025
Proving Conciousness Creates Reality Syllogistically

Proving Conciousness Creates Reality Syllogistically — 1. We exist. But our existence is dependent. We as physical beings, did not cause ourselves. 2. Everything we observe in the universe is also dependent. Stars, planets, people, and everything else we …

r/JosephMurphypost9/18/2025
How to fully be present in my dating break (build momentum at the start)?

How to fully be present in my dating break (build momentum at the start)? — You'd think taking a break would be straight forward, but I feel like it's more challenge for us anxious attachment/pure-O OCD types who struggle with rumination or feelings of inadequacy about their …

r/AnxiousAttachmentpost9/28/2025
🕊️ Community Reminder: Respectful Dialogue & Open Exchange

🕊️ Community Reminder: Respectful Dialogue & Open Exchange — Hey everyone, We just want to take a moment to thank all of you for helping make r/AstralProjection one of the most interesting and supportive spaces on Reddit. Every day, people from around the worl…

r/AstralProjectionpost10/17/2025
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

r/attachment_theorypost10/23/2025
I earned secure attachment in 4 months...

I earned secure attachment in 4 months... — I can't believe I'm writing this. I did this without dating a secure person and without spending money on courses/apps. I promise I'm not selling anything. Big disclaimers: * I am only mostly secure…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost11/16/2025
Updated Rules

Updated Rules — Hello, your mod here. The rules for this sub have been updated slightly, check them out at your earliest convenience. Basically: 1. Please remember this is not a space to make blanket statements…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost12/4/2025
A letter to my fearful avoidant ex

A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost2/5/2026
Deactivation or undisclosed breakup?

Deactivation or undisclosed breakup? — I'm a FA woman...in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant....all was good, until past Christmas holidays , his bday and all situations when they deactivated.. he was the one who planned being wit…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost2/8/2026
Getting over approach anxiety

Getting over approach anxiety — A few days ago, I went to a local restaurant by myself to have supper. This cute woman with a pom pom on her toque was sitting in a booth across the way, with a couple guys that looked like they coul…

r/datingoverthirtypost2/24/2026
Natal ascendant in the same sign as solar return ascendant - significant or accidental?

Natal ascendant in the same sign as solar return ascendant - significant or accidental? — Is there any significance to a person’s natal ascendant being the same as the standalone chart cast for their solar return year? For starters, depending on the degree, the houses would be similar, thu…

r/astrologypost2/27/2026
Is there anything in current astrology that indicates something like a global lockdown coming up?

Is there anything in current astrology that indicates something like a global lockdown coming up? — There were transits that indicated something like covid coming, I'm wondering if something similar is happening now as the energy feels similar in a sense and then we do have tons of planetary configu…

r/astrologypost3/1/2026
March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More

March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…

r/astrologypost3/2/2026
Jupiter in Aquarius and the impersonal nature of this placement

Jupiter in Aquarius and the impersonal nature of this placement — This is one placement I genuinely struggle to fully understand. Jupiter, as a principle, feels conceptually misaligned with Aquarius and its traits. The expansive, benefic, growth oriented nature of J…

r/astrologypost3/2/2026
The Shift at Age 30: Did you feel a stronger connection to your Ascendant or your Sun sign as you got older?

The Shift at Age 30: Did you feel a stronger connection to your Ascendant or your Sun sign as you got older? — There is a common belief in astrology that we grow into our Ascendant sign as we get older, especially after our Saturn Return. Over the years of studying and observing birth charts, I've seen so many…

r/astrologypost3/3/2026
The Astrology of the 21st Century

The Astrology of the 21st Century — Which major transits up until now have coincided with major world events and more importantly which future transits should we be looking out for. Where is the world headed and how much of it is in our…

r/astrologypost3/3/2026
Porn and Energy

Porn and Energy — I'm interested to hear your views about how porn affects spiritual energy or any particular parts of it in your experience or otherwise.

r/energy_workpost3/7/2026
Pregnancy seems to have opened something up

Pregnancy seems to have opened something up — I am recently pregnant, and have been doing gateway for about 15mo. When I found out I was expecting, I decided to pause on focus levels where I was exerting more energy or opening myself to other ene…

r/gatewaytapespost3/7/2026
Experienced ego dissolution and timelessness while a friend spiraled into a bad trip believing we were communicating through “waves”

Experienced ego dissolution and timelessness while a friend spiraled into a bad trip believing we were communicating through “waves” — I wanted to share a recent experience because the contrast between my trip and my friend’s bad trip was extremely interesting, and I’m curious if others have seen similar dynamics in group trips. We …

r/Psychonautpost3/7/2026
The Cheat Code to the Universe

The Cheat Code to the Universe — After 5 years of meditating and studying this, I have been unable to disprove that there is a Cheat Code to the Universe and that is to Relax & Be Nice in all situations. I would like to discuss this …

r/Meditationpost3/7/2026
Has anyone noticed becoming extremely aware of people’s energy or reactions over time?

Has anyone noticed becoming extremely aware of people’s energy or reactions over time? — I’ve been smoking occasionally for about 4 years now, but around 3–4 months ago I started noticing something strange. I began feeling much more aware of people’s vibes, expressions, and body language.…

r/Psychonautpost3/7/2026
A lot more people are hurt/traumatized than evil

A lot more people are hurt/traumatized than evil — A lot more people are traumatized/ in pain than are evil. And I won’t say that evil people simply don’t exist, they do, but there’s fewer truly evil people than there are hurt/traumatized people who d…

r/therapypost3/7/2026
He speaks to the future me

He speaks to the future me — Many a times it so happens that I listen to Sadhguru but I don't quite understand what he's saying or I can't make sense of it. Later on as the sadhana (meditation/practice) progresses, certain blocks…

r/Meditationpost3/8/2026
If Reality Is Manifested, What Role Does Astrology Actually Play?

If Reality Is Manifested, What Role Does Astrology Actually Play? — I’ve been thinking about the relationship between astrology and manifestation, and I’m curious how people in this community see it. Astrology suggests that certain events, phases, or tendencies in ou…

r/lawofattractionpost3/8/2026
Does strong energy field scare people subconsciously, here is my experience

Does strong energy field scare people subconsciously, here is my experience — For the past few years I’ve been focusing a lot on my self-concept and doing inner work, working on my shadow, learning healthy emotional detachment, and grounding myself. I went through a difficult p…

r/energy_workpost3/8/2026
I woke up at the same time every day for 47 days straight. Here's what actually happened.

I woke up at the same time every day for 47 days straight. Here's what actually happened. — I expected to feel more energized. That happened, but not right away. The first week was brutal — especially weekends. My body kept wanting to sleep in and I had to fight it every single morning. We…

r/selfhelppost3/8/2026
Am I meditating improperly?

Am I meditating improperly? — So I've heard from Dr. K of HealthyGamerGG that when your attention wanders from your meditation and you bring it back, that's like doing a pushup for your mind/brain. But only very few times have I d…

r/Meditationpost3/8/2026
How to Meditate (or at least one way to get started)

How to Meditate (or at least one way to get started) — Intro: There are endless amount of intentions or, in other words, ways to focus your meditation practice. At the end of the day, your meditation practice is \*yours\*, so make it your own. This post …

r/Meditationpost3/8/2026
How to unlearn?

How to unlearn? — Hello all, I have been practicing meditation and breathing exercises regularly for the past nine months and it has been having immense effects on my life.. I coupled this with yoga, shadow work and s…

r/Meditationpost3/8/2026
How to protect myself from negative entities

How to protect myself from negative entities — Hi, what are your top ways to protect yourself from negative entity attacks and negative energy whatsoever? Thank you, have a blessed day! Trrix

r/energy_workpost3/8/2026
From ‘soul mates’ to strangers

From ‘soul mates’ to strangers — How does one even trust again. Learn to open up again. Let their wall down again. After 2 years, she’s gone. She was my girlfriend, my best friend, my partner, support system, ‘soul mate’. We had …

r/ExNoContactpost3/9/2026
Wondering if anyone has taught a child the basics of grounding, meditation, shadow work, and/or energy work?

Wondering if anyone has taught a child the basics of grounding, meditation, shadow work, and/or energy work? — A little information, my children are younger, but not too young to understand, and we are expecting again. My wife is very skilled with energy even out of practice, and I am getting back in tune with…

r/energy_workpost3/9/2026
What s month it's been

What s month it's been — The title says it all. Confronted my wife last month on the 7th last month at 1 am and learned that she cheated on me and was talking with someone. This was after an emotional affair that I discovered…

r/survivinginfidelitypost3/9/2026
You can reality shift just by washing your hands

You can reality shift just by washing your hands — Hey everyone, I’ve been obsessed with this idea lately and I can’t stop thinking about it: what if the simple act of washing your hands, when you actually slow down and get fully present with it, bec…

r/Manifestationpost3/9/2026
If you are new here..

Just a few questions Mr Moonbeam. If you are so against the “act/live as if” what do you have to say about Dr. Joe Dispenza, Gregg Braden and Dr. Bruce Liptons, Napoleon Hill, Jim Rohn, Eckhart Toll…

r/JosephMurphycomment4/18/2020
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

Thanks for this. The 'element of conscious choice' bit is interesting. I see how earnest I am to teach and share now, but still see some elements of passivity that my parents had-- a permissiveness,…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment11/12/2020
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

If you're asleep but your awareness truly becomes conscious at the same time then that is great; that is what is meant by the popular affirmation in this community as, "Mind Awake, Body Asleep". It i…

r/AstralProjectioncomment5/2/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

I had an incredibly successful obe two weeks into doing astral work! I.e meditation, mantras, and energy work. I felt as if i where floating towards the ceiling above my bed. Simultaneously I watched…

r/AstralProjectioncomment7/20/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

>Astral Projection is absolutely safe and natural Thanks, I needed to hear that. I never thought of it this way. If our true nature, is an 'energy' being with an eternal consciousness and the physica…

r/AstralProjectioncomment7/27/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

i managed to do astral projection after 2to 3 months , i usually go to the gym alot and sleep alot , i would use an alarm for my second sleep where i stay still and let my body go , i will breath in …

r/AstralProjectioncomment11/30/2021
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

Reciprocate the same energy, go back to the dating world and find yourself someone who will always look forward to spending time with you.

r/ExNoContactcomment8/9/2022
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

You don't *have* to confront your parents. Some people find it therapeutic to write a letter to whomever, express all the hurt and anger you feel, say whatever you want to say, using profanities, etc…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment8/27/2022
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

My concern has been 3 years of astral staking by a person who abuses the astral. They have been taken over by a negative entity. And now energy harvest daily. This has taken energy workers many goes a…

r/AstralProjectioncomment10/13/2022
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Astral projection was always a part of me even in my youngest of days. Falling asleep trying to wake myself up. With time and I must confess it Keeps perfecting in me..Decades ago I died and was defi…

r/AstralProjectioncomment11/3/2022
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

If anyone is interested in knowing how to do this with a little practice then log onto [www.lovelifewellnesscoaching.com](https://www.lovelifewellnesscoaching.com). You can use your third eye and perf…

r/AstralProjectioncomment12/12/2022
About, Wiki, Rules, Books, Etc-- Read First

**!!!!! READ ME !!!!!** The purpose of this community is to explore human energy in all of its facets while stripping away the esoteric language, rituals and distractions that have accumulated over …

r/energy_workcomment3/3/2023
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

Anyone still posting on here? I drove my ex away with my insecure attachment style, looking back he kept putting in little effort and I felt as though I was trying very hard to change. I’m sure he wa…

r/ExNoContactcomment3/28/2023
About, Wiki, Rules, Books, Etc-- Read First

Any video or audio resources I could look in to? I know nothing about energy work.

r/energy_workcomment4/22/2023
About, Wiki, Rules, Books, Etc-- Read First

I know this post is 6 months old, but I still want to say this. I truly feel that Robert Bruce's book, called "Energy Work", (funny how the title is the name of this sub?) should be required reading f…

r/energy_workcomment4/25/2023
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

Those who don’t add value to your life the way you add value to theirs will always be leeches feeding off your energy and your love. Mourn them cause they’re figuratively dead to you and remember that…

r/ExNoContactcomment5/24/2023
'Getting into DevOps'

DevOps evolves around 3 key principles: 1. Automation 2. Monitoring 3. Integration The rules are simple: # Automation Don't ever do anything by hand. The only allowable manual action is configurin…

r/DevOpscomment7/23/2023
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

So my long story short.. yes I reached out after almost a year and not with any love or dating intentions. We started to reconnect and things started to happen for us again. We’ve been back to togethe…

r/ExNoContactcomment8/1/2023
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

Incel energy radiating off of this comment right here

r/ExNoContactcomment8/4/2023
About, Wiki, Rules, Books, Etc-- Read First

I'm glad to hear it helped! You're welcome lol. I found it really weird that nobody on this sub was talking about that book at all. (At least back then.) It seems to have basically everything you coul…

r/energy_workcomment10/11/2023
REMINDER: be kind to yourself. This is hard, and you’re handling it with grace and strength.

>minimizing how much anger I feel over the betrayal Perhaps this minimization is a form of self defence. I also feel the same way. We are still living together and I don't want that to be stressful. …

r/Divorcecomment11/9/2023
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

Shut up ew that's so loser energy. He needs to get over his loser ex, idc if he's a man, he needs to get out there, because his pathetic ex loves playing head games with him. Stop discouraging ppl fro…

r/ExNoContactcomment11/24/2023
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Wonderful information in the introduction. I would love to get some personal insight from people who are familiar with Astal Projection. I'll keep it as short as possible. I have recently discovered t…

r/AstralProjectioncomment2/9/2024
About, Wiki, Rules, Books, Etc-- Read First

read actually anything by Margo Anand. (SkyDancing tantra) I’m 72 now, and i was always taught that any of this chakra, energy work, out of body experiences, visions, etc etc and etc was just a bunch …

r/energy_workcomment7/17/2024
About, Wiki, Rules, Books, Etc-- Read First

I can, evidently, post that info in r/energy_healing.

r/energy_workcomment7/30/2024
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

Omds the energy I just got reading that come on

r/ExNoContactcomment9/9/2024
Donald Trump & the LOB

100% he uses it, the Law works for anyone who puts it to use, and "the rain falls on the wicked and the righteous" but here's the caveat: The universe functions on selfless giving, and all things ar…

r/JosephMurphycomment10/19/2024
My arguments against manifestation

1. Mental thoughts don’t become physical reality. Beliefs do. Repetitive mental thoughts turn into beliefs. 2. People in your world reflect your beliefs. Perhaps upon meeting someone you had an origi…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/23/2025
My arguments against manifestation

Tbh you’re allowed to have your viewpoints but this is attention seeking behavior judging by your posts meant to get a reaction out of the people here. Also, why go on a Murphy sub for this? You alrea…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/24/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

I’m sorry to hear you had an experience like that. I do think my current relationship is a little more consistent than what you’ve described. We see each other usually at least once a week, more if we…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/18/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

I'm FA and I identify with this. I value my alone time, and generally speaking, consider myself an introvert. A recharge period is definitely necessary, not just after a social interaction but at the …

r/attachment_theorycomment3/18/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

Yes that's typical avoidant behaviour, it may also be linked to introversion. My ex FA girlfriend would retreat systematically after we had a great time. They get a bit overwhelmed and scared when th…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/19/2025
Handling another crush as a FA

If he makes you this dysfunctional, I would not pursue this at all. High chance he is emitting energy that feeds a - unconscious - known and chaotic dynamic/pattern to you. Expectations of this sort c…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/19/2025
Before you make that post about some avoidant ex ask yourself……..

It’s kind of saddening/comical to see how majority of these posts go “my partner / ex is avoidant. They are the best thing since sliced bread and I’ve already read 102839172 books on their attachment …

r/attachment_theorycomment3/23/2025
Before you make that post about some avoidant ex ask yourself……..

I think the point is that once you really get into the work and realize your role, giving them and their behavior so much energy is no longer enjoyable.

r/attachment_theorycomment3/23/2025
Before you make that post about some avoidant ex ask yourself……..

For me its making the same amount of money while spending less time working. I've found out i'm severely burned out by work and failed relationships are just symptoms of an unstable person. Besides …

r/attachment_theorycomment3/25/2025
How do I know if I simply don’t like someone enough to be with them or if I’m simply running away from what is safe?

I almost commented on this earlier in the week because I was dating someone who made me feel the same way but I’ve since ended things and I’m pretty sure what you’re feeling is a sign of incompatibili…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/5/2025
How do I know if I simply don’t like someone enough to be with them or if I’m simply running away from what is safe?

Yeah I don't really agree with their point at all. There’s a big difference between a slow burn that feels a bit boring and something that stirs up anxiety, usually because someone’s bringing anxious …

r/attachment_theorycomment4/5/2025
How do I know if I simply don’t like someone enough to be with them or if I’m simply running away from what is safe?

I recently went on a first date with someone who brought me a bouquet of flowers after meeting me for only 6 minutes at an event, and then after this first coffee date, texted me to say they brought …

r/attachment_theorycomment4/6/2025
How do I know if I simply don’t like someone enough to be with them or if I’m simply running away from what is safe?

One thing I'll say is that in the early stages of dating you aren't actually seeing a person's natural "energy"; you're seeing their energy when they're flying blind under the pressure of courtship an…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/7/2025
How do I know if I simply don’t like someone enough to be with them or if I’m simply running away from what is safe?

That makes sense. I usually go on a second date if I'm not quite sure about their energy yet. But I'm usually pretty good at knowing if I will want to go further with someone by the second date. I'm g…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/7/2025
Reading interest in text

Just read the replies and imo there's nothing wrong with asking. It's great that you did. My opinion is that if I'd only had one date with somebody and they text me saying "good morning handsome" I'd…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/9/2025
Handling another crush as a FA

I was told if you feel butterflies that means the persons energy gives you anxiety and therefore can mean your nervous system is warning you you aren’t safe with this person! I was told it’s best to l…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/10/2025
Has anyone else gone from being dismissive avoidant to anxious preoccupied towards their therapist?

I think I have the opposite issue? I can’t form an attachment to any therapist no matter what. I always want to retreat and it feels like I’m sending myself toward a trap each session, the closer I ge…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/12/2025
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago.

Your post leaves out the important little phrase "feels like", first of all. Secondly... I was left in the dark many times, in veryyy hurtful and disappointing ways. Not once have I felt or had a tho…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/18/2025
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago.

Bester Username 😂🤍 your reply filled me with so much pride and joy 🥺😩❣️🫂 you are doing the work. I am soo happy and glad to hear that 🤍🤍🤍 And YES! Thank you, very well worded. Your ex's *acti…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/18/2025
I got ghosted and I feel blindsided

I'm so sorry, this sounds so hard. If you can, I think it would be amazing to focus on yourself right now and what you need. My long distance boyfriend dumped me out of the blue after one disagreement…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/20/2025
I got ghosted and I feel blindsided

Yeah and it's not that avoidants are lying, they actually like the love bombing stage. They actively choose to instigate that. U never see AA lovebombing avoidants in the beginning. Avoidants are l…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/23/2025
Helping my partner

Agreed. I also dated a guy like this and things got progressively worse and worse- no amount of ‘*understanding*’ would have fixed it because ultimately he wasn’t fit to be in a relationship. On refle…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/25/2025
What hurts a DA?

I try and focus on everything else. We run a profitable small biz together, take care of that like it’s our baby. Cook and clean together, watch shows together. We laugh and joke and have a good time.…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/25/2025