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With the very limited information I have, if he's stopping temporarily, its in his control and not an accident. Like if someone only acts a certain way behind closed doors and not in front of other pe…

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

Is this an emotional affair? — I (36F, single), have a good guy friend (40M) who has been dating a new woman for 2 ish months now. Full disclosure I don’t like her very much and I think they’re moving super fast (already saying I …

No one tells you that you have to KEEP deciding on the divorce — Arriving to this decision was so hard. Once I did, I felt lighter and confident and had Bad Bitch Energy about it. But that's faded a bit as I'm living in the same house with my STBXH, and I feel lik…

Navigating ego, experience, and opportunity in the music industry (Stoic advice needed) — I don’t know if this is the right place to ask this but here we go! I work in the music industry and recently I’ve started getting some real opportunities, like working with more established artists.…

Am I doing the right thing? F42, — So I'm 42 female.. been engaged for the last 4 years..to a great guy.. but from day one there hasn't been the intimacy there from my side.. I fell for his caring and funny side but over the years the …

I need advice — So I \[20f\] am with \[20m\] have been with him for about a month and a half. I really do love him i just dont feel a deep connection that i have felt with my ex \[20m\]. little back story... my ex an…

I (29F) am planning to walk away from my partner (29M) and I feel guilty for choosing to put myself first.. — We’ve been together for about nine years, married for less than one, we had a lot of issues over the years that I’ve tried over and over again to fix, with trying to talk through it, and even couples …

dumped by bf — I’m (22F) processing three traumatic relationships. First, an 8-year friendship turned 1.5-year situationship left me feeling so so unlovable, ugly and rejected after he became distant and was breadcr…

Need some advice/dating support — Feeling a little down in the dumps lately. I recently just got out of a 3 year relationship. He broke up with me because "he loves me but isn't in love with me". I just keep finding myself so sad to…

Boyfriend doesn’t have major red flags but I don’t feel loved [24F] [27M] — Unprompted effort is something I’ve always wanted in a relationship and to me it’s easy because it’s something I do naturally. Making time, thinking of surprises, checking-in. Basic relationship thing…

I (49F)finally asked me spouse (50M) for a separation (after 20 years)and I am reeling a bit — My husband (50yo) has been an emotionally abusive and difficult partner for a very long time. I’ve (49F) been with him for over 20 years and have spent most of it trying to make it work with him but h…

I think i really need to change my approach or you guys can guide me — I don’t usually write posts like this, but I think I’ve reached a point where I need clarity more than motivation. I’ve been following the teachings of Neville Goddard for a while now — the idea that…

1 month relationship with previous history. Both with ADHD. — Hey all, To start, I'd like to give context. I'm 29M, she's 26F. She has diagnosed ADHD. I had undiagnosed ADHD at the time of dating her. I've been recently diagnosed post-breakup, just started Vyva…

should i give my boyfriend a break after giving him an ultimatum? — **update**: thanks for your responses i felt bad and apologized for giving him an ultimatum. i realized i was wrong and i was being selfish and i told him i take full accountability for being difficul…

Done talking to him…what do you all think of this man? — Going to try to keep this short & sweet. I met a guy, he sold me my car and gave me his number. I texted him that I'd love to go out with him. He set a date to a steak house and I was pretty into him …

To break up or not to break up? (F25) (m27) Great on Paper, But Something Feels Missing — Lately, I (25f) have been questioning my relationship with my bf (27m). We’ve been together just over 2 years. He is a really great guy- extremely loyal, has good values, listens when I bring up issue…

What would be the best way for me (M38) to approach my wife (F37) of 10 years about separation and divorce? — My wife and I no longer get along, and we have nothing in common any more. On top of that we have a completely different set of morals, and we clash hard on so many things. We have 3 kids together. I …

Intuition or anxiety? — My boyfriend m26 and I f24, been together almost two years. I don’t know what to do, stay or break up. I have constant anxiety in an otherwise good relationship. I’m really confused and would love t…

I'm greatly grieving & missing cheater ex. — Hi guys, this past week has been a lot for me. To put it shortly, i (22F) have been cheated on by my long term partner of 1.5 years, for 3 weeks, without me knowing. He (24M) confessed to me just a we…

i think i (19f) should break up with my bf (19m) — hi. i’ve been putting this off for a long time, but it’s not for lack of having someone to speak to about it. a lot of people in my life would support me if i decided to split, i just feel very wrong …

How can you tell if calling off an engagement is the right decision? — I recently got engaged to a guy my parents introduced me to through a mutual family friend. He lives out of state, was 25years old, and my mom initially gave him my number without asking me. At the ti…

Dreams about ex (25M) while dating current bf (25M) — Hello all. This may be a lengthy post, and I do want to ask that readers and commenters keep an open mind and reserve judgements. I (F/24) have been with my boyfriend (M/25) for over a year. We met …

Love bombed again and I hate it — I’m so grossed out with myself for falling for it again. I didn’t want anything serious. Yet he went all in: flowers, sweets, introducing me to his parents and friends, walking me home… the perfect w…

Is it a good idea to let my anger out to my ex and tell them all the things they did wrong? — I broke up with my boyfriend a week ago but only recently realised he is probably a narcissist. I've been revisiting a lot of memories and rethinking things and seeing things, all the signs of narciss…

Finally seeing a therapist — I’m to the point where I cannot do this alone anymore- the trauma I went through and then the dependency which I’ve never had before has completely wrecked me. I know he was a nice guy but not a good …

I can’t stop thinking about someone who didn’t choose me—how do I let go? — ​ I’m (29F) trying to move on from a short relationship with a coworker (29M), but I feel stuck. He was the one who liked me first—apparently for months. When we finally started talking, it f…

I (f20s) am struggling terribly while dating a really good guy — I have been going on dates with someone who is kind, consistent, and grounded. He has not done anything to make me feel unsafe. I have C-PTSD and anxiety due to a lot of issues in my household growin…

I had love myself until i meet him — ​ I'm 26M. I had a friend I really trusted. For 8 months, he seemed like a genuinely good guy. Then out of nowhere, he sent me a long angry message. He called me pathetic, said I come from a …

lease ending and i don’t know what i want to do with my life — I am a 20y/o F with my 20y/o bf. We have been together since we were 16. To paint the picture for you, when we met we were in high school of course. i had an extremely troubled teen years & childhood…

Exploitation by a former teacher/mentor — So when I was younger right I knew this Arabic teacher since I was 9 he was like my favorite and I always try to finish first and give my lessons and every Friday he'd buy or give someone like an aunt…

My boyfriend [38M] says I[33F] am being judgmental about a former friend — Long story short, a girl in my friend group has been kicked out due to her poor mistreatment of us. She takes MD almost every weekend and parties at almost 40 years old. The past year has been a rolle…

Boyfriend (24M)told me a week back that he watches corn and i(21F) feel disgusted ,how do I take this forward? — so a week back me(21f) and my boyfriend(24m) were discussing random stuff and i told him about this guy,an acquaintance who watches so much porn(everyone knows cuz he even watches it legit anywhere )a…

What to do with my bio dad — I 34F have a bio dad M55 (let’s call him Bob) who I did not grow up with. I grew up with my step dad M52 (let’s call him Jared). I did not find out that the man I grew up with (Jared) was not my biolo…

How do I manifest a short-term relationship? — Hey guys! This might be a somewhat unconventional question but I am curious if anyone here ever manifested a fun short-term relationship. Most people on this sub want to manifest long term partners/ s…

Yeah, this is not true and not really good advice. In fact, it’s mental bullshit that feeds the ego of a person. People are bitter and want their ex to feel bad and regretful because it makes them fee…

I wasn’t even in a gf/bf relationship but we were really good friends. I made a move when I was feeling myself (wasn’t bad) and then that changed things. Ever since, communication hasn’t been the same…

There is no hard yes and hard no. You can't trust strangers on the internet for good advice or conversely to be wrong. If you're reading comments or posts and wondering if a person is also here and wr…

I feel like you are insulting everybody in this comment,for god sake Joseph Murphy was good guy historically that's why I am here

I went through a similar thing with a DA for 18 months. He always made me sleep in the guest room. We didn't even get as far as making out. He had told me up front that he moves slow, but damn...it wa…

I'm not anxious so maybe that's why this seems like much ado about nothing, and the comments as well. He forgot, it happens, people give importance to different things, unless he always forgets and …

Friend is distancing and I’m not sure how to correctly deal with it. I very much believe I have an anxious attachment style and it’s very closely linked with my BPD and OCD. In the past year, I bec…

Good that you call this BS out.  I'm so sick of this kinda stuff. I feel like the whole attachment sphere is so toxic because it's full of people in active distress, failing relationships etc. Who o…

The “ethical” part is they tell their spouse lol. I’ve met many flavors of this rainbow, and the ethical is just a tagline. At any rate, this person TALKED and hung out w a guy, why would you insert y…

just be a good guy/person and end it clearly. it absolutely sucks to sit around waiting for someone you really like to text you

Maybe it's worth seeing if he ever wants to be anything more than casual or if he's never going to be up for a relationship? Also has he said that in the recent connection too? At the same time, you m…

Depends on the guy. Not every guy in the US is forward like that, but it’s definitely not uncommon. If you like him besides the suggestive comments you could say like “I think you’re really great and …

Honestly, I just let things fade, but it's not even intentionally. If I start to get turned off, that match will just start to fade from the forefront and I won't even think to go back to reply as of…

I understand what you’re asking, but I struggle to answer it logically, so I decided to share a story instead—maybe it’ll make things clearer. Years ago, I was working at a company as an assistant …

He can give you herpes even without a breakout. Is he medicated? That would make a huge difference. Even if you’re with him long term, it’s not guaranteed it will last forever. Do you want to risk bec…

If you really like him ask him to take the antiviral and use condoms. Give it some time to see if it works out and then reevaluate. So many people have herpes and have never had an out break and ove…

Man I am in tears crying reading your post. I’m so sorry it freakin sucks that shit happened the way it did . I am in the same boat except he thinks he is sneaky and I’m here heartbroken knowing I ne…

Did you feel this way before you had kids? I work in tech as well, and know the travel and work life you speak of. But to be honest, that's a cop out. I always made time for her and the kids even when…

Stop calling them your friends, they never were. You sound like a good friend tho. This will pass and with time you will become stronger and more compassionate as a result of your experience. Betrayal…

It sounds like he’s a good guy from how he responded, so try to trust in that. It never feels good to get an STD, but at least this was is curable and easy to treat.

She was probably shocked to come home and find out that you had completely moved out. She probably thought you would beg her not to get a separation. Good on you for not sticking around. She will regr…

Yes! That’s what I did. I told everyone everything. I would no longer enable his sneakiness and compulsive lying. He was pissed, but he so badly wants to be the “good guy” and misses being able to use…

I'm 44. I've had it for almost 15 years. I had one outbreak in the beginning. I gave it to one woman I was with for 8 years awhile ago. That was around when I first caught it. Been taking 500 mg …

A lot women get bored when in a relationship with a good guy. Being in a relationship with a good guy doesn’t give you a dopamine rush because there is little drama. Sounds like you really need to wor…

I don't get why you talk sweet about hi being the best and bla bla bla, but just for simply attention and sex dump all that and still confused on what to do Be honest you don't love him, you can't r…

You're welcome! Honestly you sound like a good guy and this will be a helpful, if painful, learning experience. >instead of communicating with me that it hurt her, she saw it as an insurmountable, im…

Okay, so here are my thoughts on the matter... What I'm sensing here is fear and anxiety, plain and simple. My wife and I (43M and 42F) got married almost three years ago, and both of us have a lot …

I also dated a hat man. On the first date the hat kind of made sense because we were outside and there was some sun. But then he kept the hat on when we went into the bar and wore it all night. I thou…

Never cared for Buffy, but Angel is something totally different. I find that My Little Ponies: Friendship is Magic helps when it is bad. But I love my cop shows from Law and Order to Criminal Minds. I…

Regardless of what she has told you and at the same time failed to tell you, the affair can't end until they no longer work together. She told you she wasn't attracted to him because they fucked and …

I’ve deleted and redownloaded the dating apps several times. For the most part, the attention is nice and when you zero in on one or two people it goes great but then it fizzles out once you have a bo…

>often hear that there aren’t good guys on the apps, When I hear that i like to remind folks that they only interact on them with people they matched with and going down that definition means someone…

My favorite retort to "lets be friends" is "No thanks, I have friends who are good to me." They always try to lighten the blow because they don't want to maintain that exterior persona of good gu…

I feel you man. Sometimes it's just better to take a step back, even if that feels counterproductive. I've found that my own journey of self improvement's about to start to evolve into 'I'm trying to…

Don’t let him go if he’s a good guy. I have hsv2, and I have had 3 long term partners since my diagnosis. I also can “feel” when it’s coming on, so he is right about that. I have an “outbreak” (it’s l…

Has he made any effort to change? If he’s a good guy, can you work through it? The dating scene is bleak hun

You’re fine OP you sly dog, score 1 for the good guys 

I'm sorry but I'm pretty sure your boyfriend wants to break-up with you but still be seen as the good guy. If I were to bet, I'd say he has someone else in mind and want to be free to pursue it. He's…

Yes, sadly the good guys felt boring. The horrible narcs (with masc on) were who I wanted. Firstly awareness of our patterns can mean we make better choices in the future.

Yep! If he'd taken the compromise and gotten whatever he wanted, and then he dumped her anyway (which he's definitely going to do), she has a place to go to all arranged and ready for her and that wou…

Almost always if a woman breaks up with a good guy with a "I need a break" or "I need to find myself" it's to test drive a guy or guys, thinking she can do better. The joke being she's finding herself…

I think you really need to talk to him directly about this. If he is not attracted to specifically you need to know and you can have him as a good guy friend if you want. If it us truly based on pas…

My ex told me that she’s asexual over a year into the relationship, that she doesn’t want a relationship (with me) ever, that she’s not where she wants to be in life, that I was a good guy and I deser…

So I dated a girl from mid Jan to mid Feb. I also dated her friend in October. They are part of this larger friend group in my city/neighborhood I live. Turns out, I also met 2 other girls from that s…

Tell this to my STBXW. She acknowledged I am a good guy and still bailed

Yes. Some are really good guys. The one that works my area is always making casual conversation with me and it feels nice to see a LEO actually think about you as a human with feelings.

Can relate to this. Its so easy to be mad at the overt narcs since there's many examples of poor behavior from them. The e's/covert narcs seem like the good guys in comparison. It takes two broken peo…

Yea that's life, sounds like your still young not married so it's easier overall. Learn from this and stay away from people like that. She'll be sitting there in 5-10 years wondering where all the goo…

There’s a few things, I know when researching I found that in states of complete calm deep meditation your brain starts to break down visual and audio stimuli into the simplest forms. Usually geometri…

We also turned the rage into humor after it passed. I would announce that I was feeling it, and I’d jokingly be like “ i’m so sorry, but I don’t love you anymore and I hate you now!!!” But then I …