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Did your parents’ need for control manifest itself in medical issues as well? Like, convinced she knows more than doctors, or always assuming the worst when it’s how you’re managing your own kids’ medical issues?

I've mentioned on another post that I'm convinced my narcs don't believe I can have problems that are serious enough to take care of (ie they want me to ignore things) but also mild enough that I can …

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/9/2026
Update: My mom actually showed up at my friend's home to get my therapist's contact info.

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/7/2026
Mom is being kicked out

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/7/2026
“My father always wanted to be the corpse at every funeral, the bride at every wedding and the baby at every christening.” - Alice Roosevelt Longworth

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/7/2026
Parents spending all of their inheritance

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/8/2026
Did your Narcissist gift you a " Trash " gift?

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/8/2026
Y'all ever realize how narcissists create unconditional amounts of chaos and then blame everyone else for it?

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/8/2026
My dad told me to kill myself in front of my teachers

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/9/2026
I find this insane they don't love their children

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/9/2026
I just need to rant, Y'all. I'm so angry!!!!

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/10/2026
My mom called my son’s birthday party “f***ing embarrassing” because she cares more about what people think than celebrating him

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/10/2026
Nmom wants an invite to my wedding or she is going to divorce my dad

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/10/2026
No one understands the effects of being trapped inside for years with an Nparent.

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/11/2026
When the therapist is speechless…

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/11/2026
My biological mother sexually abused me in such weird sadistic ways throughout my childhood and I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced this

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/12/2026
I’m can’t even open my bedroom door without being monitored.

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/12/2026
Children know when they parents don't love them. Children know when their parents resent and hate them.

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/12/2026
For those who stayed no contact with a parent until they died did you regret it?

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/12/2026
Got an insane flying monkey voicemail this morning

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/12/2026
My mom was supposed to pick me up after surgery. Instead my son took the bus.

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/13/2026
My parents wore my friend out in 10 minutes flat.

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/13/2026
Parental mistreatment must be tolerated!

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/13/2026
Understanding the parent who ‘did nothing’ has been really hard for me. My therapist recommended I share.

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/14/2026
Why do some parents expect you to take care of them(because that's why they made you after all) and at the same time try to fuck over your life so that you have no resources with which to help them?

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/14/2026
My homeless mother (literally in a shelter) literally keeps bombarding me with messages about my wedding that she delusionally thinks she's going to attend

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/14/2026
HUGE tantrum from my NDad due to my recent success. Hilarious but also depressing. 🫩🥹

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/14/2026
My mom who disowned my for being gay is ready to forgive me, oh and for me to financially support her and my dad after he retires of course.

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/15/2026
Nmom said out loud: "I should adopt that kid, maybe he'd take care of me when I'm old"

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/15/2026
Mom using ChatGPT as a therapist

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/15/2026
Which one trait helps you detect narcs early on?

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/15/2026
Sometimes they’re so cartoonishly evil you have to laugh

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/15/2026
My mother sent my childhood abuser to my home, after I have been successful at making sure he never knows where I live.

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/15/2026
Mom using ChatGPT as a therapist

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/16/2026
She Sent Me An Article...

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/16/2026
"You should be grateful you have such a patient mom."

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/16/2026
Anyone's Nparents raised you to become dependent, then complain about your dependence and pressure you to be independent?

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/17/2026
Did any of your parents purposely scare you?

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/17/2026
I have to leave tonight, I'm not safe. Am I missing anything?

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/17/2026
Worth the wait

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/18/2026
"You'll understand when you have kids..."

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/19/2026
Can my parents deny me sleep because I got in trouble?

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/19/2026
I saved a family member’s life and my narc parent tells everyone they’re a hero.

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/19/2026
Can my parents deny me sleep because I got in trouble?

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/20/2026
My mother won't stop grabbing my crotch

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/20/2026
Anyone find out later in life the “good” parent was as bad as the “bad” parent?

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/20/2026
My girlfriend drove 10 hours to see me and my mom showed up at 3 am and ruined everything

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/20/2026
My mother won't stop grabbing my crotch

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/20/2026
Were you basically surviving your entire childhood?

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/20/2026
You're not allowed to be angry. You're not allowed to feel your emotions.

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r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/21/2026
Apologies for posting again. Apparently I am the abuser and narcissist - I am beyond devastated. No more sharing stuff online for me. *TW - unaliving mention*

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My mother won't stop grabbing my crotch

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