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Did your parents’ need for control manifest itself in medical issues as well? Like, convinced she knows more than doctors, or always assuming the worst when it’s how you’re managing your own kids’ medical issues?

I've mentioned on another post that I'm convinced my narcs don't believe I can have problems that are serious enough to take care of (ie they want me to ignore things) but also mild enough that I can …

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/9/2026
“You must respect your mom, she’s your mom.”

“You must respect your mom, she’s your mom.” — How many times have I heard this lecture? People who have normal families have absolutely zero clue what they are talking about. When people see a situation or even read a situation they can’t tolera…

r/AsianParentStoriespost3/8/2026
Psychiatrist said "We all have some form of trauma" and she also said "blah blah" when I was sharing my trauma

Psychiatrist said "We all have some form of trauma" and she also said "blah blah" when I was sharing my trauma — Before anyone jumps in to say "try a different psychiatrist or therapist" you just need to find someone the "one". Well this is my 4th and I have concluded they all suck equally! Each new one was wors…

r/CPTSDpost3/30/2026
Nosy aunt help.

Nosy aunt help. — (writing for a friend who does not have redit) It has been one year since my mother died. I am still processing, but it is going well enough. my aunt is nozy and thinks herself the family therapist…

r/therapypost4/8/2026
Bed bound as a young adult in diff country - mom not connecting at all with me

Bed bound as a young adult in diff country - mom not connecting at all with me — Hey guys so I learned about emotional intelligence/neglect fairly recently. I'm a young adult and sadly become very sick after moving from my home country to be with my partner. My dad is a covert na…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost4/10/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 28, 2026

Yuck... Good for you for taking no shit. The subtle (definitely not subtle) hints to come over to their place is a massive turn off when you've shown zero indication that you want to do that.

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/28/2026
Anybody else notice people in other countries tend to doubt that you're American?

I got into a literal screaming match at the Parthenon with a Greek guy who kept asking me my nationality and would not accept "the United States" as an answer. He full on followed me down the hill and…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/8/2026
I’m the problem.

Here's the REAL DEAL no one will admit to... if feelings of divorce are circling one of the following happened: 1. When you married, you really didn't take it seriously. 2. You're fooling yourself…

r/Divorcecomment3/10/2026
What are the most infuriating sentences your ex has said to you during or after the breakup?

“I noticed you had said some things you once said about your ex.” Before getting romantic we were really close friends, and I told her everything. When my previous relationship fell apart I balled m…

r/BreakUpscomment3/10/2026
how long has it been since your break up, and do you plan to date again/have you been dating?

after she ended things it took me 4 months to actually get out of bed and start talking to people again. I wasn't afraid of rejection or expectations so I mainly started off just for shits and giggles…

r/BreakUpscomment3/11/2026
My husband (36M) told me (33F) that I don’t deserve love until I’m 140lbs again?

Is this ragebait or what? You can't possibly need the internet to tell you that you need to divorce this asshole before his abuse gets any worse. >I’m at a loss for words and feel like if you truly l…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
"No one is coming to save you" Yeah, I know, because I saved myself.

No shit no one is coming to save me. No one will even visit me.

r/CPTSDcomment3/14/2026
Which one trait helps you detect narcs early on?

1). They are the main topic of discussion. 2). Cannot admit fault or mistakes, even the mundane, ridiculous and meaningless (ie replace the toilet paper roll, put gas in car, stupid f’in crap that is…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/15/2026
Narcs have a weird thing of unnecessarily keeping in touch with their exes. Is this your experience as well?

Mine stayed connected to allllllll the women he cheated with on previous girlfriends via social media. I told him that was gross and he could never explain why he had to maintain links to them. He beg…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/16/2026
Thoughts?

Well no shit. Should she list everything he does well for context? You have no clue what you’re commenting on.

r/datingoverfortycomment3/17/2026
I've noticed everyone wants someone with CPTSD to stand up for themselves until they actually do it.

I know this dynamic all too well op. Its similar to this.. Say you're the best worker at your job, always on time, always high performing, never an issue...well that becomes the norm and now is alway…

r/CPTSDcomment3/17/2026
Men who've been with narcissists - what was your experience like leaving?

1. A few months in, I'd had a vasectomy, I flew the day after my surgery to go see her, that was a really dumb thing to do. I had a ton of swelling and pain, and 3 days post surgery she started coming…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/21/2026
Have any of you ever done psychedelics at work or went to work a day after tripping?

A friend of mine in college got fired from Buffalo wild wings for going to work tripping balls. He was a waiter and apparently stood at a table making weird faces at a customer for 5 minutes before th…

r/Psychonautcomment3/22/2026
Does the urge to break no contact ever actually go away?

Agree. I got dumped. He waited, embarrassed on this one, 18 months. I thought I was finally in a good place. New job and everything. And then of course, the ghost arrived. I spent the next year? I thi…

r/BreakUpscomment3/22/2026
I deserve love but can’t find anyone. Am I not meant to find anyone?

(I just want to apologize to snakes, they can be seen as playful as dogs and they don't deserve a bad wrap. See!?! No negative points of view - that doesn't mean you don't get to have Preferences - it…

r/lawofattractioncomment3/25/2026
My GF (22F) told her parents about my (24M) secret financial situation

God god don't listen to half these comments. These people are feeding into your maladaptive trust issues instead of giving you actual advice. You told her a big thing. Like a major, life changing th…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/27/2026
mom and birth control

Interestingly Mirena as opposed to causing cancer can be used as part of cancer treatment for womb cancer. Given that you have heavy bleeding perhaps it’s good to use Mirena to keep womb lining thin a…

r/AsianParentStoriescomment3/27/2026
Anyone else have a parent who genuinely didn’t care about them?

I honestly don’t know if my mom cares about me. She cares very deeply what people think of her and as a mother in the US, there are a lot of expectations placed on her to be able to still appear to be…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/28/2026
I just can’t believe my parents didn’t invest anything into my adulthood.

Be careful you gonna get the “nobody is entitled to help you you’re grown” comments. Just warning you cause those people are insufferable like no shit. But still.

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/28/2026
Chinese American restaurants question why Chinese cuisine can't get the chef's table treatment

Lol. I'm remembering when a bunch of us went to Fatty Crab, a now-closed Malaysian-style restaurant in NYC, and the white waiter earnestly tried to explain to us how Malaysian food is eaten family-…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/28/2026
Did you feel something was off when you first met the narc?

I met him at a party in a friend's friend's place, he was the owner's neighbour. He was critizising the wine that was served, laughing with his "makes you want to slap him in the face" smile. I told m…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/29/2026
Im having a hard time fitting in and understanding Chinese culture. Can someone help me understand it better. Cooking related

Are you going to give me travel money? You know how much a plan ticket cost? You know how much cooks make? You sound like the people who say if you dont like America you should leave. No shit i wann…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/30/2026
UPDATE: My (23F) Boyfriend (24M) got really jacked and now I’m no longer attracted to him

No shit Sherlock but we are allowed to have opinions just like everyone else.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/31/2026
My husband(35M)wants me to quit job because I(36F)make more than him.I don’t know what to do?

Awe, i offered to be the Nana-want to team up and be the best of friends? I offered to be the cool weed gummy kind, but I’m all for 2 cool wise women to make sure our young women take no shit.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/1/2026
astral projectors denying shifting

The whole "reality shifting is coping for having a miserable life" comment is genuinely so funny coming from anyone in any spiritual community because the exact can and does apply to everything spirit…

r/realityshiftingcomment4/1/2026
Today I realized how strong triangulation really is.

Ha my mom loves to snap “no one ever tells me anything anyways!”  Like no shit. You store it to weaponize it at some random later date, or talk shit behind my back. I figured that out by middle scho…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/2/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - April 01, 2026

I have been dating a guy for 2 months, when he asked me out I didn't know what age he was exactly but he looks 6 or 7 years older than me. On date #3 he told me his age and he is 13 years older, usual…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/2/2026
Is Love worth the pain that follows it ?

Im doubting it too really. The person that say love you today could give no shit about u the next day. Love comes ( can be hard or easy, for me it was very hard) and be taken away so brutally. Its bet…

r/BreakUpscomment4/2/2026
r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/3/2026
How to handle telling dream people it's all a dream

My dream npc's dont care anymore about realization at all. I once said to myself inside a dream (i was meditating inside the dream) "Okey, this is a dream" and i heard behind me: "No shit Sherlock, yo…

r/LucidDreamingcomment4/3/2026
Why do people write "how is your day?" First or second message

No shit man. People don’t know how to carry a conversation anymore. It’s back and forth. It’s fucking tennis.

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/3/2026
I'm wondering if others feel like therapy is a scam?

Oh, absolutely, 100%. I don't know how I'm supposed to talk my way out of 30 years of trauma. The last time the best advice I got was "drink water." No shit dude. The only type that ever helped was EM…

r/CPTSDcomment4/6/2026
Just got broken up with via text. Should I respond?

You’re clearly very immature. Should you respond to a text? Well no shit. Take care of your child and figure out your life. You have been dating him for 11 months and now you have a one year old. Why …

r/BreakUpscomment4/7/2026
Potentially might lose this girl because of false positive HSV2

No shit Sherlock- describing this as “one girl I was with” leaves a lot open to interpretation. Move on. There’s more fish in the sea.

r/relationshipscomment4/7/2026
got into 2 ivies, but the way my parents treat me u would think i dropped out of school or something

I went to an elite college and that made them cycle between taking credit for my success, belittling higher ed in general (both were uneducated), lamenting that I wasn’t doing one of the “hard” majors…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/7/2026
Partner cheated during pregnancy

I was in this boat, but it kept getting worse. I found out it was over 100 women and he had a breeding fetish. My only advice is get out now. I had to file divorce at 10 weeks postpartum. He currently…

r/relationshipscomment4/7/2026
How to spot "fake" practitioners/medical intuitives?

I'm honestly not sure. I recorded the whole convo so if her *diagnosis* is not accurate I would at least like half my money back.  Yeah I don't really feel it was 100% accurate because she would say…

r/energy_workcomment4/8/2026
Need insight on new relationship

Shit testing someone is one of the best ways to waste your own time. I want to give this guy an award for staying in the room for that super odd pregnancy question AND “admitting it made him feel unco…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/8/2026
P.S.A.: Stop lusting after non-Asians. Build with fellow Asians.

> I didn’t claim that most Asians in the West prefer a multi‑ethnic society -- I said it was likely, Hunh? You wrote this "Most Asians in the West likely want to be part of a multi‑ethnic society, no…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment4/8/2026
Job hunting grinds my core wound and makes me burn out instantly

Yes, I recall - it was shitty. Then you also get your family (who in many cases, taught nothing) pressuring you and asking why you’re not hired yet. Even if they say nothing, you can feel it. I recall…

r/CPTSDcomment4/8/2026
Living with a Parent with Frontal Lobe Syndrome

Oh! Hello! I have not lost someone to their brain injury, but boy do I know what living in those conditions is like. When I was eleven years old, my older brother had a near-fatal frontal lobe injur…

r/CPTSDcomment4/9/2026
After being ghosted, I finally heard from her after 4 months.

It's laughable she emails you and tells you after four months "she's not interested in trying again". No shit. I'm pretty sure you picked up the hint at the one month mark. That's so shitty on her beh…

r/BreakUpscomment4/9/2026
“Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem”

One of my close friends was suicidal after sexual violence and the hospital literally locked her in a storage closest because they didn’t know where to put her Then they said there was no psych docto…

r/CPTSDcomment4/9/2026
My (36F) partner (37M) recently got a medical diagnosis and now wants an open relationship. Is it selfish of me to not want to? Or selfish of him to ask for one?

If he opens the relationship why don't YOU get to be with men too? Like dead serious, that is automatically a deal breaker for ANYONE doing ethical nonmonogamy. They look down on one penis policies.…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
Do you acknowledge their existence to people you just meet ? The family you’re no contact with ?

I never mention my n-mom. To people I don’t know, my step mom is my mom. No matter what, I always refer to my dad and step mom as my parents. My step sister as my sister. My n-mom chose to walk out …

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/10/2026
I(25M) caught my GF(23F) with a "just a friend" again. She promised transparency until I recovered the deleted photos.

She tried to lie her way out of it then shutdown completely and left when she was caught out. Even said "I don't feel comfortabke here" yeah no shit she didnt feel comfortable because she got caught l…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/11/2026
r/AsianAmericancomment4/11/2026
Is my therapist innapropiate or am I overly sensitive

No shit he's been in jail. I guess he just misses his buddies there. If I was you I'd cancel all my future appointments with him and call the authorities IMMEDIATELY because he's genuinely disgusting…

r/CPTSDcomment4/11/2026
Yellow Peril Racial Profiling

Is this sub full of teenagers, college students, or NEETs? If any legit interviewer for any company asked me to say this in an interview, I would think that I was being scammed or pranked. Every no …

r/AsianAmericancomment4/13/2026