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Thank you for this excellent synopsis. This all hits really close to home for me. This is what those "close" to me need to read to understand me
To the former LOAPorn folks here — Hi everyone! It's been about 3 months since me and my SP have been NC. It's quite a long story to retell it there, but we two got really close, and we were very happy with each other. However, due to…
Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading — # 6th Kill: $20,000 Money Mission **Mission**: To make $20,000 from futures trading **What I achieved:** I made $20,000 from futures trading **How long did it take:** 5 and a half months **Backgro…
My arguments against manifestation — 1. **Maladaptive daydreaming proves that manifestation isn't real**; Manifestation doctrine teaches that what you focus on expands and manifests in your physical reality. Do not split hairs and try to…
The song “I love you, I’m sorry” by Gracie Abrams makes me think of the POV of a DA — I'm DA, and I just listened to this song. It feels like a DA talking about how they sabotaged a good relationship, and they regret it. This line particularly hits: "I like to slam doors closed, trust…
Has anyone else gone from being dismissive avoidant to anxious preoccupied towards their therapist? — As I'm sitting here on a Friday night, missing my therapist despite literally meeting with her today, I'm reflecting on how 5 years ago, and really for the first 2/3 years of therapy I was a closed bo…
Website Rebrand and Redesign Advice — First Let me say: I have absolutely no eye for design. If it is more complex than a stick figure, I cant imagine it in my mind. However, I do know of already existing designs that I love and want to r…
Interview for associate devops role, not sure how it went, need opinions — I had a technical discussion with with a smaller company(around 100-200 employees) and they are filling out a new devops team. I have 7 YOE at large tech companies as a software engineer, but my dutie…
Anyone here need GoHighLevel sub account for just 6$? Pay After Activation — **GHL can do everything for you that you can think of whether you are a business owner, Agency owner or website designer that too very easily, just ask** ✅ If you are a "Website developer/Designer" -…
From Rejection to Redemption: How I Broke Into DevOps — Guys, I'm here sitting on my back yard on a beautiful Saturday and I am about to sign an offer letter with a Fortune 500 company — with a 25% salary increase. But just a few months ago, I was getting…
Should I disclose that I’m working on my own startup while still searching for full-time opportunities at other companies? I will not promote — In order to sustain myself and bootstrap my startup, I’m currently looking for full time roles. I’ve been working on it for over a year, and on my resume I’ve actually put that I stopped working on my…
Does cold email still works in 2025 ? — Hi there, I'm a beginner to freelancing, and I make landing page designs, currently I haven't landed any clients yet, I've tried cold DM for a while but got no results, that's why I thought to start m…
One the biggest founder skill is knowing when to walk away - I will not promote — Yes it's hard to kill a project. Yes you might think "I need to keep going" to make it. And that's true in a way, you need to not quit. But iterating/pivoting is not quiting. It's showing agility an…
Need Advice: 3x Salary Offer for Fullstack Role, But It’s a One-Man Show. Go for it? — Hi. Everyone. Please bear with me, I hope this is the right place to ask. I’m currently a jr web developer and have been working in my first proper dev job for almost a year. The pay is on the l…
Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups (I will not promote) — **Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups** These are a few things I have come to learn while doing "startups," maybe it will help some entrepreneurs in their startup travels.…
A customers perspective of those horrible cart conversion emails — Usually a website does a poor job of informing me what shipping will be. I must add items to a cart and hit checkout and type in an address to see what shipping would be. However, this process results…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
Anyone here need GoHighLevel sub account for just 7$? Pay After Activation — **GHL can do everything for you that you can think of whether you are a business owner, Agency owner or website designer that too very easily, just ask** ✅ If you are a "Website developer/Designer" -…
Shopify Support is the absolute WORST — I have had issues with payouts- as in first they disable my payouts for verifaction then I get an email saying everything is okay and then within hours without no communication or email, I´ve checked …
using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads — I recently led a Reddit content repurposing campaign that got over **4 million impressions** and **hundreds of new user signups** for my client. Here's exactly how I did it. # Why Reddit, and why use…
Freemium from day one, free trial, or free for first N users? — Hi all, I am building a productivity app where you can track anything from habits (e.g. Meditate on frequency basis) to events (e.g. Social Dance/Clubbing) to build routines and track what matters to…
What are the Benefits of AI in eCommerce that actually influence why we buy? — I was reading up on how ai taps into emotions like FOMo urgencye or even guilt to push you closer to a purchase. and it’s not always obvious it’s subtle stuff like “only a few left prompts or remindin…
2.5 million in fraudulent orders — I have a huge problem and Shopify has mentioned they cannot help and do not give refunds once processed. They insist there is no support phone number and can only discuss the matter via chat. My orde…
Anyone here need GoHighLevel sub account for just 6$? Pay After Activation — **GHL can do everything for you that you can think of whether you are a business owner, Agency owner or website designer that too very easily, just ask** ✅ If you are a "Website developer/Designer" -…
Woocommerce and shippo broke my website! Please help a begginer! — Hi, I am new to wordpress and woocommerce, i recently was very close to finishing setting up my site, but have had issues finding a plugin to work for shipping, today I tried Shippo, which crashed my …
ID this Wordpress Theme? — I'm a very beginner Wordpress user who can implement some themes, but I want to build out my website to have much of the same functionality found at [https://coucoufrenchclasses.com/](https://coucoufr…
Most commonly used technologies — I use Laravel + Inertia.js + vue to create websites, the websites I've created are usually with this stack since it's more of a platform then a website like a landing page. My question is for creatin…
Considering a move from big tech to a small company. Worth the risk? — I know this sub leans junior, but hoping to get some advice from senior folks. Especially people in Bay Area, NYC, or Seattle-type tech scenes. Tagging this as Job Search and not Senior Only because I…
How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote) — Experienced founder & CEO here. I'm gonna tell you how my business got straight cash (like literally millions) from the gov and how you can do that too. I've bootstrapped my last german education bu…
Business told me they would ship my package today, should I contact them tonight? — Ok so basically I’m in a bit of a time crunch but I ordered a package based on the stated TAT of the company. The business owner told me she would have the package shipped out by today yesterday and i…
Is there sometimes no hope? — Good afternoon, DevOps people of Reddit. I want to know if anyone else is feeling this. I have been brought on a project to help this company achieve DevOps practices. My main issue is that I am getti…
Underestimated fulfillment in my eCommerce startup, nearly paid the price — When I launched my first eCommerce brand, I thought fulfillment was "easy" find a product, set up a store, ship orders. Simple, right? I couldn’t have been more wrong. As soon as we got traction, thi…
Finding Like Minded Business People — **TL/DR :** Looking for people who are stuck with unsure with what business they want to pursue and end up learning a little bit about all of them; that want to partner up to stay focused with each …
Has Anyone Used WhatsApp to Drive Growth in Early-Stage? (I will not promote) — I’ve seen early-stage Indian startups use WhatsApp as an insider channel not to close sales, but to run pilot ideas, form early user loops, and gather fast feedback. Feels like an underrated wedge for…
Bouncing around a new business idea — Hello everyone. I have an idea to purchase a commercial property in my town (old government building) and outfit it to be mainly a golf simulator business with multiple bays including small kitchen an…
I’ve failed at startups, lived on the road, and I still believe I’m successful — I was 19 when I started my first startup. I led a team of 15 people, wanted to change the world. And I failed. At 21, back in 2016, I left home without any money, hoping that traveling would help me …
Modern web dev has me on the ropes — I'm a FED, and I've been helping build websites for 15+ years. Started on LAMP stack, did some Wordpress stuff, but mostly my bread and butter has been FED-heavy, building UIs with HTML, JS, CSS/SASS …
Do push/pull dynamics happen even when you’re not participating in them? — I (F, 32, originally AP, now definitely more secure) have just gone through a very confusing dating experience. 3 months ago I started seeing this man (34 met on Hinge). He started off very interested…
Should I sell my design agency? — Should I sell my design agency? Growing a design agency takes time especially when most of the business comes from cold outreach. It’s a high-volume game: thousands of emails, countless calls, and co…
Every day I try to do things right. Every day they say no. Now I duct-tape and maintain the mess I warn them about — Hey folks, Just wanted to drop this little gem of corporate masochism So I work at this company where we develop software for real state agencies, in this 'properties' sql table we have a field cal…
Scaling a Faceless YouTube Channel into a small business. — Around a Month ago, I started mentoring a few people on how to start a YouTube automation channel/business with no real launch, just looking to help a handful who was serious about building something …
My clients says my store looks closed from the outside.. — I run a high-end furniture store and some of my clients said that the store looks closed from the outside. My store needs to look elegant so I can’t buy some cheap « open » neon-sign. Do you sugg…
CKA? Or EKS project? — Here's a bit of context as to why I feel like I need to get out of dodge ASAP... IT Management: "We need **more automation**! Nobody should be using User Data scripts." Me: \*Writes several Ansible…
I DID IT! Put in my notice today, focusing on my agency full time. — I've been working 70+ hour weeks for the last 16 months, working a full-time job as VP of Marketing for a Fortune 500 company while also getting my side hustle marketing agency off the ground. My agen…
AI is creating some crazy new verticals and opportunities — Knot (known for their card-on-file and transaction data APIs) just dropped a preview of something called AgenticShopping It’s an API that lets AI agents — or any app, really — actually complete purch…
FA trying to be more secure, need some insigh on relationship to have "fresh eyes" on it and not just my insecure one — Hi, So, I'm FA and my partner is secure. We're living together and are together for 9month now, it's going good and we're doing our best in the healthiest way to navigate the complicated stuff (I hav…
Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…
What are the signs to spot a DA or FA in early talking stage? — Hi, I am myself something of a FA leaning towards secure (I was anxious but became the secure one in my previous relationship with a DA after some years). My previous relationship was pretty bad beca…
Fear of abandonment after reassurance — Hi Reddit, I'm not sure how to exactly word this or articulate the feeling. I'm 27M who is best friends (and have feelings for) with another guy 24M. We have an incredibly intimate and close frien…
How to fix my own FA attachment (ideally without therapy)? — I've been aware of my attachment style for a while now but only recently been annoyed with it enough to want to fix it. I've never been in a relationship because of it and done some admittedly very se…
Lucid dreaming will not affect your quality of sleep. The only time it is possible is in REM sleep, where your brain is already closest to waking state. You won’t be any less rested by practicing luci…
>About my successes, I manifested more money than I had ever seen before. Prior to that, I thought I’d always be broke. I even had to take a screenshot of my bank balance to remind myself of that amaz…
I have a question. My mom has told me various stories of when she was a child, that she would just dream that she was floating outside her body, going through the window, etc. She is a very spiritual …
I had an incredibly successful obe two weeks into doing astral work! I.e meditation, mantras, and energy work. I felt as if i where floating towards the ceiling above my bed. Simultaneously I watched…
I'm someone who doesn't really visualize. Like I don't see anything when I attempt to. I feel like this kinda creates a barrier in terms of I'm not sure if I'll just snap into a moment where I'll be a…
Hi everyone . Ive looked through your techniques for oobe and the thing for me is i can't see any ropes or any hand its all just blackness when i close my eyes.. What could i do ?
i managed to do astral projection after 2to 3 months , i usually go to the gym alot and sleep alot , i would use an alarm for my second sleep where i stay still and let my body go , i will breath in …
And dumb question . When you say look up its with eyes closed or opened
yes eyes closed , you will be able to see while your eyes are close ,dont open your eyes when that happens , that means that you made it , you can also see your body laying there and the white cor…
i can never see with eyes closed . Im not sure if i have aphantasia or something but i only see greying shapes or black lines .. Never see anything clear . can that be corrected ?
yes , it took me like 2 months to master it , all i did was lay on the back look up and close my eyes , i would invision seeing myself fly around my neighborhood while doing this practice , , this ga…
Most likely something subconscious Try affirming to yourself every night when you go to bed preferably when your tired since your conscious mind is more closer to your subconscious when tired Affir…
I attribute my LD to the episode ‘What was in Blue’s Dream’ from Blue’s Clues. Home sick one day from school, watched this episode, dreamed that episode that night then not only did I know I was dream…
I want to Ap but as a kid I watched a lot of sci fi demonic movies and my mom would study Wiccan culture so I’m like ehhhhh what’s going to happen to me will I get stuck there will something else tak…
Can I have my eyes open when doing wild and close them once I'm close to succeeding?
I feel that. Torn away from the ex after two years? Fine. Not having the kids as constants in my life? JFC shoot me. Blessedly they still want to stay close and their dad fully supports that. I canno…
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Just because there are zero responses doesn't mean your posts are invisible. It means they are not interesting to people for some reason. The mods keep a pretty close eye on the sub even if we're not…
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sharing recent experience and soliciting feedback from the experienced people here... I live in Phoenix, AZ but have close friends in Richmond, VA. On this particular journey, I had a vivid experien…
Your experience sounds like a classic etheric projection if you had walked outside of your etheric house you would have been on the astral plane. The body you described sounds like the etheric bodi it…
I believe I came close, I discussed it here ([https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralProjection/comments/10z4vjo/was\_this\_obe/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralProjection/comments/10z4vjo/was_this_obe/)), bu…
Please don't close the sub.
What does that look like??? Find a new hobby. Anything. Try learning to knit. Learn to build robots. Take a class in 17th century blacksmithing. Join a woodworkers guild. Join an improve troupe. Volu…
It's because it's not about those details but about immersion into the scenario. Someone can have a mental argument in there without seeing other people. They followed the argument because of the imme…
I was extremely sick during the whole year and when the final exams came i was like hmm what should i do? Study or not to study lol. But then i was like lets just manifest it. It wae a leap of faith f…
You're welcome to ask. A lucky strike - that sounds just like an LOB effect to me, haha. Also, to answer "a gambler high off a win", I didn't specify my wins in the above pouncemonial, though have a …
Sure. Just edit out all criticisms of the loapornstars and their lies and propagandist tactics. Also any criticisms of the loa communities and their idiot members. We're all painfully familiar with …
I cannot lucid dream on purpose yet, but if i dream specific dreams(Like me driving) I can realise that im dreaming. Then I say to my self, you re dreaming, great im now going to control this dream. T…
>If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, L…
Based on my experience dating a DA, yes this is all “normal” for them. He made it clear we were only to see each other once every two weeks. He didn’t “have capacity” for more than that. The week afte…
I’m sorry to hear you had an experience like that. I do think my current relationship is a little more consistent than what you’ve described. We see each other usually at least once a week, more if we…
I should have clarified, the "blowing hot and cold" is effectively the post quality cool down, which usually occurs after a period of us being emotionally and physically close. That cool down can happ…
Hey there! It’s great that you’re so self aware. I would say (since you asked for advice!) is that you could work on your anxious type behaviours, otherwise they tend to just push us avoidants away ev…
FA leaning more towards DA here, when I’m dating and we spend a lot of time together or talk/text a bunch I typically take time to myself after. It can be pretty overwhelming “dealing” w my partners i…
Yes, I do this myself and see this happen with the guy I'm dating as well. I think it's triggered by positive feelings/increased connection or vulnerability. For me, when we get closer, or when he tel…
Omg twins. Hi! Yeah I hadn’t been in a romantic relationship at all for six years before I finally tried with this FA guy. In my last real relationship I was targeted by a psychopath and it fucked me …
I've been in therapy for over a year for various reasons, and for me the first thing I needed to work on was my self image. Understanding and accepting myself, building confidence and a stronger sense…
I'm in the same boat - I have close relationships with my platonic friends to the point that I don't even crave a romantic relationship.
I'm also a recovering FA and I recently realized a few REALLY important things that are actually really simple. Figure out your boundaries and enforce them from a calm place. Our anxiety builds in our…
I respect how politely you've addressed this. But please see the other perspective too: 1. Most people are told by their avoidantly attached partner that they're clingy when they're just trying to n…
Most people lived in small villages(or close proximity) and wouldn't be that far away from each other about...70-80 years ago, and even before the internet you'd be close by your partner (otherwise, h…
Thanks for your opinion on my 10% figure. Besides that, I did not say partners should be at my convenience. I said other aspects of life can throw a relationship’s typical patterns out of balance. Ha…
'Anxious attachment people can and often do cross boundaries to soothe their anxiety, disregarding their partners very real very understandable need for personal space (regardless of if they are avoid…
Sure! Some happen in conversation Let's take the example of a simple question to which you can answer with a yes or a no Example 1: Question : - " Do you want to go to the movies tonight? " ( You…
I cried when I first time heard Cognitive Dissonance by Sophie Holohan, I am FA but lean avoidant "Get too close, build a wall Miss a friend, never call".
ChatGPT has been my T lately haha, so I don't have attachment to it. And reddit and other communities are my support system I guess. I am a DA-leaning FA who has always felt a lot of self hatred and s…
I think I have the opposite issue? I can’t form an attachment to any therapist no matter what. I always want to retreat and it feels like I’m sending myself toward a trap each session, the closer I ge…
It helped me to cut out some toxic family members. One of the elements that fed my anxious attachment was that I had low self esteem. I worked really hard to build that up, but it was difficult to m…