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I'm sorry you're going through this. When I went through my long term relationship breakup last year (12Y together) I had read a lot that some people move on really quickly and often get married quick…
Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means) — I last posted a variation of this a little over 5 years ago. We're a little overdue for a repost. --- You know how every Uber rating is right on the verge of 5 stars unless something's particularly …
Handling another crush as a FA — Hello all, spring is here and so is a new crush. I really can't get used to how excited but anxious my butterflies and fantasies make me. Sometimes they make me so anxious to the point I get dysfuncti…
Need Guidance on Turning My Design Into a Functional Social Media Website — Hello everyone, I’ve been learning IT for the past few months, with the long-term goal of becoming a white-hat hacker. I also have a couple of years of experience in graphic design. However, when it …
Website Rebrand and Redesign Advice — First Let me say: I have absolutely no eye for design. If it is more complex than a stick figure, I cant imagine it in my mind. However, I do know of already existing designs that I love and want to r…
How to overcome lack of mobile experience? — I'm a mid-early senior product designer with over 5 years working on SaaS/Enterprise products. The issue is that they've all been for desktop. Quite a few roles i've been applying to have some need fo…
Tired of UX advice accounts that never show their own work.. — I’m a product designer and I post my work on Instagram and Linkedin. Lately, I’m getting tired of all the design accounts with thousands of followers that just post tips, rules, or “ do this, not that…
Ressources for designing complexe software — Hi, a lot of resources and guides online are about web design. For example, if you scroll through dribble, mobbin or just look up ressources, most revolve around how to build, design and create a good…
Minimal or No Design Emails Will Almost Always Outperform Designed Emails — For most ecom owners, either spending the time yourself or paying a professional to intricately design each of your emails has to be one of the worst ROI decisions possible. I'm not exactly sure wher…
Fav Motion prototyping tools — Hi there, I’m a product designer looking to get better at prototyping so that I can better communicate my designs to engineers and leadership. What are tools you like using other than what Figma alr…
My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote — Hey All, A few months ago, I shared my story here (original Reddit post in comments) about starting an IT consultancy business in the Netherlands with a friend right after graduation. At that time, w…
Rating my website + getting help with ad setup — Hello! Ive started a small workshop where i produce and sell lamps. A lot of my designs are based on already existing popular ones but most of them ive come up with myself. I never expected to becom…
Portfolio, Case Study, and Resume Feedback — 05/04/25 — Please use this thread to give and receive feedback on portfolios, case studies, resumes, and other job hunting assets. This is not a portfolio showcase or job hunting thread. Top-level comments that …
To all the scrum masters/PMs: Would you use an AI that joins meetings, takes notes, and assigns tasks to the right teammate automatically? I will not promote — Hi! I’ve been thinking about a recurring pain I see in most teams — meetings generate lots of discussion and action items, but someone still has to take notes, track tasks, and figure out who shoul…
Is lovable.ai good? — So i tried using lovable.ai today for a project. I was working on verification as a use case and had all my screens ready. I thought that rather than prototyping, i will rather experiment with lovable…
Does cold email still works in 2025 ? — Hi there, I'm a beginner to freelancing, and I make landing page designs, currently I haven't landed any clients yet, I've tried cold DM for a while but got no results, that's why I thought to start m…
One the biggest founder skill is knowing when to walk away - I will not promote — Yes it's hard to kill a project. Yes you might think "I need to keep going" to make it. And that's true in a way, you need to not quit. But iterating/pivoting is not quiting. It's showing agility an…
[Terraform vs. Bicep] — Is Terraform Still a Safe Bet Post-IBM? — **TL;DR:** We're 99% Azure and choosing between Bicep and Terraform for IaC. Bicep fits the stack, but Terraform offers flexibility (especially if we acquire orgs using AWS). With IBM buying HashiCorp…
Is AI Applicable Everywhere? — Currently working in the tech space for the mining industry. Core product I work on focuses on workflows and tasks for ground and office staff to complete. Such as verifying CAD drawing, sign offs and…
Seeking a low-maintenance frontend/CMS stack for modernizing 10+ year old sites — Hi all, I’m looking for advice on a conservative, low-maintenance frontend and CMS stack for modernizing a couple of old but still functional client sites. **Background:** I’ve got two long-lived s…
How do you transition from low-fidelity wireframes to high-fidelity designs? — I’m in the process of designing a web app and started with these [low fidelity wireframes](https://wireframes.org/) to map out the structure and flow. It’s been really helpful for getting ideas down q…
ChatGPT Plus vs Claude Pro – Which is Better for a UI/UX Designer? — Hi everyone! I’m a UI/UX Designer looking to subscribe to either ChatGPT Plus or Claude Pro, and I’m trying to figure out which one would be the better fit for my workflow. I want to use the AI mai…
What do you think about side projects? — Do you think they add value to a UX portfolio or CV, or are they worth mentioning in an interview? I know they don’t carry the same weight as professional experience, but have you ever seen cases wh…
What made you hate component libraries? — Component libraries make life a lot easier, cause I don't need to spend 6 hours trying to figure out why my dropdown menu won't align to the middle by 3 and half pixels. However, as time goes on you …
Developer completely changed my design — I worked so hard on it and the other developer practically said my work was ugly and hers was better. He was like "Are we going to use her work because it's better... I mean different?" He said "Maybe…
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What’s the best way to validate a niche before launching a POD store? — I've been sitting on a few niche ideas for months, but I'm stuck trying to figure out which one has real potential. Everyone says "do your research," but what does that actually look like for POD? Do …
What are the signs to spot a DA or FA in early talking stage? — Hi, I am myself something of a FA leaning towards secure (I was anxious but became the secure one in my previous relationship with a DA after some years). My previous relationship was pretty bad beca…
Think I found a secure woman, and almost immediately self-sabotaged. — In my social club, there’s a woman who had consistently shown signs that she was into me. I was direct and asked her out. She said she was interested but couldn’t date for a few months because her j…
If I could just stop deactivating!! (FA) — Follow up from some of my previous posts. I’m deactivating again. I think? Or maybe lost feelings for my partner and I’m just lying to myself and not wanting to let go. The thought of that makes me cr…
This is what happens when your FA ex comes back — This is my personal experience for those who are curious. Of course everyone will be different but I thought it might help those who are waiting or wishing (APs I'm talking mostly to you) Firstly the…
Overcoming my anxious attachment — Hi I've successfully combated my attachment style and offer some of the resources I've found. I've dealt with anxiety and insecurity across my romantic and platonic relationships throughout my life. …
Finding proof that you were right to be anxious — I'm sure others can relate to this, but whenever I start dating someone, I look for signs that they don't actually like me. Things like "he took hours to text back" or "he was a little quieter than us…
I want to believe in LOA so badly, is there any small experiment I can try to regain my faith? — Hey everyone, I’m writing this because I’m honestly at my wits’ end and I don’t know where else to ask. I *want* to believe in LOA and manifestation. I really do. I’m not a skeptic or a hater, I’ve…
For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…
How do anxious attachers know when they are truly ready to date again, rather than just trying to soothe anxiety or loneliness? — I was talking with a friend recently and we were comparing how hard it is to get an honest gauge on your own readiness to date again when you have anxious attachment tendencies. Everyone tells you to…
How do avoidant dynamics move forward — and when do they not? — I’m trying to understand where the line is between someone genuinely moving slowly due to avoidant attachment, versus someone who just doesn’t have the capacity (or intention) to move forward. I’ve b…
Signs.. but am I interested now? — I stay in india and sp stays in canada and been struggling to get him back for a while and then slowly started losing interest.. turned towards myself.. on new-year eve I did some powerful affirmation…
Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…
Getting over approach anxiety — A few days ago, I went to a local restaurant by myself to have supper. This cute woman with a pom pom on her toque was sitting in a booth across the way, with a couple guys that looked like they coul…
March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…
Do zodiac compatibility charts actually work in real relationships? — I have been curious about zodiac compatibility charts and how muchthey matterin real relationships. Many astrology sites talk about certain signs being perfect matches while othersare challenging. Fo…
Zodiac signs and the seasons — Well I read that zodiac signs are divided into 4 seasons: \- Spring: Aries, Taurus, Gemini \- Summer: Cancer, Leo, Virgo \- Autumn: Libra, Scorpio, Sag \- Winter: Cap, Aquarius, Pisces From th…
I astral projected last night.. — I astral projected last night... What was your first experience? Here's mine: We arrived in Tunisia yesterday, had some sleep, woke up, yawned, and my nose started bleeding, only mentioning this bec…
Are these early signs of narcissism? — So I met this guy on Hinge a couple of weeks ago. We do know some random people in common. Here are the signs that I find strange: \- He’s absolutely grandiose - have a ton of projects, ideas, storie…
Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…
The dumper never regrets it — Just to vent. From my previous relationship that lasted six years my ex discarded me like trash. He felt so much relieve when he left and we have been in no contact since the break up. Never once …
Marriage is not going good. I was hoping that from venus md it will improve but don’t see any signs.
Leo with both Moon and Ascendant in Cancer with a Taurus signature - why do i feel weird, stubborn and kinda emo? — A Leo but with mostly Earth/Water fixed influences ( Virgo, Capricorn, Cancer). Barely any Air elements and maybe thats why I suck at communicating and I feel kinda slow. Not much Fire either. Peopl…
How to look for signs ⬇️ — Signs manifest just like any other event or circumstance in your reality. You shouldn’t ask the universe for a sign and then wait for it. When you do that, you may end up manifesting the sign yoursel…
Why Manifesting From Desire Creates Anxiety — I had a realization while trying to manifest a new job. I noticed that every time I get a notification or an email, I feel a wave of anxiety. Which is strange, because I’ve already done the “work.” I…
Late reply, but FYI for anyone reading this from here on...every two hours will change your rising sign and rotate your whole chart another 30 degrees. So while all the planets will still show up in t…
At first there are signs, then with practice you just know. The signs vary from person to person can occur during a session and not occur during the next. So the only way to know is to do your researc…
Yes it's few. Can take months, but a change or at the very least some thoughts of thinking from the desire will be noticed within 2 - 3 weeks, IF you are doing the technique correctly. And they may ev…
I am in a similar position to you OP. I've been seeing my fiancée for over 2 years. We live separately due to circumstances at her end, and we see each other roughly once a week, usually at weekends…
For me a big part *is* (cause I’m still working on it)… not fearing losing myself in an attachment. Being able to establish clear boundaries early on, and keep to them even if I lose the other person…
I think I sometimes do feel like it’s a little bit of whiplash, but I think it’s more so when they haven’t been making time for themself or are burning the candle at both ends with work, etc, and we m…
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT. Nuanced, critical, free thinking. Microlabelling and micromanaging to me are always signs of absence of precisely this skill. They are tools of oppression of inner conflict, wh…
I don't think it's hate, it's just a 'ok that's done now' door close moved on. Heidi Priebe on YT (video: avoidant blindspot) talks about the idea in her videos about avoidant behavior of having the …
But that’s the thing - I (thought) I could spot an avoidant person and he truly never showed any signs of that. He was so communicative and able to handle conflict, he said he wanted a relationship, t…
ok so i typed up a hypothetical example haha let's say i have a coworker/acquaintance who seems like they'd have a lot in common with me, but we don't know each other well. i want to become closer to…
I don't know your situation, but it reminded me of my own, so I'll share in case it might be relevant. (Also: I'm sorry you had to go through that-- that sounds horrible. There's no excuse for that ki…
That's not an attack - but it's about (the lack of) display of said feelings. It's fair to be hurt, it's also fair of people to be agnostic if there are no signs.
Oh honey, please step away for a bit. This is not good for you. He ignores you, shows you affection, ignores you. I think this could go beyond attachment theory, we may be dealing with psychological a…
[It turns out that 21% of the time restraining orders actually instigate *worse* behavior.](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC1448307/) I'm so glad I had such a savvy detective who both knew th…
Hi OP. I [25M] had VERY similar experience recently with the girl [25F] I was dating. It basically was the same as you described but in a shorter time frame - 2 months, and also we had sex twice. Ho…
After 1.5 months, when he became distant taking 1 - 2 days to respond is when a securely attached person would recognise that the relationship isn’t giving them what they need/ the person isn’t showin…
Taking space from a group of friends during a prolonged outing (like in OP’s case): “Hey guys, I’ve had a great time but I’ve been feeling like I need to recharge my introverted batteries for a while…
Of course. What's your native language? That could help me explain it better, but harmony or harmonious means when everyone in a group is getting along - well, when they are not *showing* **visible** …
The way I identify a DA early on is by watching their actions. Very often they are very very intense at the begining, some even lovebombing, and then all of the sudden they dissappear for a couple of…
First, I think this is the wrong question to be asking. You can’t completely know someone’s attachment style until they attach to you. I think a better question would be “how can I identify relationsh…
The first two points are big red flags for me now too! The third isn't a big deal, because I like to take things slow, but I'm also not trying to get on the relationship escalator. 4 & 5 are not gre…
avoidants (especially those that are actively working towards healing and becoming secure) may come off as secure in the beginning of a courtship. until they are met with some triggers which will lead…
Obvious signs would be pulling away when you make it real for them. When you ask them on dates, ask to be exclusive, ask how they feel about you. If they avoid answering, avoid committing - that's the…
I mean its not really a secure question.. You basically check for behaviour, anything that is suspicious like coming on too strong at the beginning, and past stories like a girl told me she has someti…
I literally felt the same, and so needed a second opinion. Here's what Claude Opus 4 had to say (after copy pasting it): Why does this reddit post feel like an ad? My spidy sense is tingling: Yo…
This is backwards. First, you need healthy self esteem. Boundaries are a natural effect. You need to trust yourself so when the red flags go up, you will do right by you. If you do not value yourself,…
You can’t make her change her attachment style or way of relating to you. That’s her work to do. I ruminate a lot and have an anxious attachment. One of the most eye opening things for me was realizin…
That last part is what happens with my partner. It hurts so much that she feels me trigger a core wound. She will retreat for a few days, usually 4 or 5 and then come back when she's regulated. She …
It’s so absurd! This is a slight tangent but it is such a red flag when these people are “always” getting entangled with narcissists 😂 How is that even possible?! Are they going to Cluster B Mixers?…
From my POV it looks like she always passed on dates but then it was on her to schedule a date that she can actually attend (if she's both secure and interested) - and she never did that. You might ha…
Yeah, I think this is definitely one of the challenges of healing. The vast majority of people are simply not that self aware about this sort of thing because these psychological concepts aren't that…
The things I once thought were "cute" or just signs of loneliness are more like "yikes" and "oh no"
God I feel this. My brains always on OT watching out, monitoring the threats of other's psychology against my happiness and goals. I'm currently getting trauma therapy and where I see this heading is …
I hear you. And appreciate what you're saying. Thing is, DA's have a bad habit of ignoring an expressed need from a partner or hearing it as "neediness" or clinginess. Expressing a need can be seen …
I'm the same but also with the avoidant tendencies. So i pull away dramatically for what looks like no reason. I spiral, I get in my head, I misread signs, I misunderstand, im shit at boundaries, I …
One thing that helped me is actively trying to date multiple people at a time because it meant there was a lot less pressure on the one, and I had less to lose. I also think that what people say about…
I hope you are doing better. One thing you could learn is about other person's interest level. Signs that he's interested to have a relationship with you - does he plan dates, reaches out, listens to …
Understood, but my point is that a securely attached person would have taken those early signs as indicators of incompatibility as well as a lack of emotional safety and removed themselves from the si…
thank you so much for sharing your story, im very sorry you went through this. I feel you, im on the same boat. Exactly as you described. do you know what is the most difficult part? i can hate him …
I think out of all OP’s signs of AA this is like biggest one and kind of the only one. I mean cmon now, you’re being ghosted by a DA. You already know this is unhealthy, you know it’s time cut your lo…
Something to note about avoidants, I think, is that a lot of the times we *do* come off as secure in the beginning. A couple early warning signs I've found that are common are going to be near-consta…
Highly suggest this for meditation. This is the description of the video and audio file. https://youtu.be/r6a_EnUG180?si=-x7_b4mf2JSIjBG2 Taygeta, one of the seven sisters bright star visible to the …
I like @mrpibbons comment about writing everything out and NOT sharing it with her. If you share it with her there is a high chance you won’t get the response you want (you’ll feel like crap), she’ll …
I'm sorry to hear that. I saw your post about it, that sounds rough. I was going through it in a big way when I wrote this comment. I'm back to some level of stable, if heartbroken lol. I did reach …
I think if my anxious-anxious relationship lasted longer, it would've gone that way. He was showing more signs of being anxious than I was, so I feel like I was more secure at the time. He clearly was…
Fairly common and explains the reason behind anxious behavior strategies in your attachment system. As I’m sure many of you struggle with fully letting go of the past and probably struggle with emoti…
Also - hyper vigilance is sooo common. Constantly scanning for signs that they’re going to leave. I think it’s helpful to try to pause and turn inward in those moments and talk to yourself as you take…
You’re really doing great - this is just so hard! I’m gonna say something that might sound counterintuitive and blasphemous, but I hope you’ll stick around to read my long winded explanation of why 😅…
This is pure bullshit to the tenth power and weak minds will eat this up and wonder why their life is fucked lmao. Thoughts don’t magically bend reality but your beliefs, focus and mindset shape how y…
I think that is healthy for the most part. How would you ever have anything new to learn from each otherr if you are not out living your purpose? What are you doing while he is out doing? Here are s…