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When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time

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Boyfriend wants to break up with me over codependency book (f23/m24)

Easy choice if he is going to be censoring your reading then he has to go. It starts with the book ultimatum, once you give in he will continue to use this tactic to control you. "When someone shows y…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/2/2026
My boyfriend and I had an argument over his marriage demands, and now he claims he means none of it...

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. Dump him already. Don't believe his lies. Definitely don't marry him. Especially since you are from India, where it is difficult to g…

r/relationshipscomment3/8/2026
My husband (34M) told his friends about my miscarriage as a “joke” and now says I’m overreacting (32F)

Believe the pattern, not the person. Actions speak louder than words. When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. The reason these sayings exist is because you aren't the only …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/19/2026
I (29F) slept with new guy (34M) for the first time and felt he was rude to me. Was he?

Do not respond to him at all. When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. It will not get any better from here- do not give the benefit of the doubt where it has not been earned.…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
My (22F) boyfriend (26M) got very upset when I unexpectedly started my period

Like Maya Angelou said: "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time". When I had my unexpectedly period with my current husband (then newly dating) asked me to google him a pic…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026