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How was your day?

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Why do people write "how is your day?" First or second message

Then do so! "How was your day?" *Good! I've been reading a book about the Scythian empire. They ruled a huge portion of the world for 600 years and yet I've never seen a Jeopardy question about the…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/3/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

I recognize this. I was dating a man a few weeks ago. At first it seemed we had a great connection, but as time passed, we had less and less to talk about. I somehow felt that we weren’t meant to be a…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/15/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 02, 2026

> I just wish it wasn't *that* slow. Oof yeah I get that. My current partner can be like a lot, but I find if I want to try to engage without feeling "rejected" if I dont' get a response right way i…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/2/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 04, 2026

I find getting unmatched on a apps weirdly crushing (for no reason obviously). I would rather message someone and have them stop replying and leave it at that than somebody unmatch after something inn…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/5/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 08, 2026

My OLD matches just wanted to chit chat. It was a sea (four threads of) "how was your day?" Ad nauseum, from the same matches every day. I wanted to meet up in person but they were only comfortable "c…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/8/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 15, 2026

All those "hello, how was your morning?" "how was your day?" "how is your evening?" stupid idiotic messages from new date are annoying af as nobody at his age as this much time and energy for this BS.…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/16/2026
Does the intellectual chemistry ever get better?

He definitely will listen however long I’d like to talk. That’s not an issue. He is good at making me feel validated if I am venting about work etc.. he just doesn’t ever ask any kind of follow up que…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/18/2026
Does the intellectual chemistry ever get better?

I read your post and felt a very familiar, painful feeling from my ex marriage. What you're describing you were looking for ways to make it okay And I remember doing that too with my ex-husband who wa…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/18/2026
Does the intellectual chemistry ever get better?

I’m the same way. I’ve found this discussion really interesting actually, because it’s something that I hadn’t adequately defined about myself previously. I’m also a very curious person, with an infin…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/19/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 30, 2026

I've read your edits just there! I'm assuming that you haven't met in person yet by the way? So, obviously it's impossible to tell what he's actually thinking but just to say that I can imagine at le…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/31/2026
Why do people write "how is your day?" First or second message

What else are they supposed to ask? "What are your thoughts on the ancient Sumerian copper trade?" They don't know anything about you, what you like to talk about. That's why they start with somethi…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/3/2026
If someone "hates small talk" why is that anyone else's problem?

How do you have deep or interesting conversations if you don’t start out with small talk? I think these people might be the type who rarely, if ever, make new friends. I think that’s a very weird thin…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/3/2026
Why do people write "how is your day?" First or second message

>I've been in a long distance relationship with my fiancee for four years now, and every single night from the first time we talked to last night, the first words out of her mouth when we call are, "H…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/3/2026
Why do people write "how is your day?" First or second message

Don't the majority of women in particular have an infinitely easier time finding matches, likes, dates whereas the vast majority of men just need to play the sheer numbers card in OLD to have a shot? …

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/5/2026
What are some double binds you remember from growing up?

Getting home from school was always nerve wracking. The question "how was your day?" always felt loaded. If I said I had a good day the reply was a sarcastic "well Im glad someone around here had a go…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/10/2026
Why do people write "how is your day?" First or second message

Is this for talking to someone you just met for a date? I mean, I do ask the "how was your day?" as part of my starter to try and see what kind of mood they're in, and then try to pivot to more intere…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/13/2026