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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - April 02, 2026

Had one of those dates where you realize halfway through they didn't read a single thing from your profile despite being the one to send the initial like. Guess I'll just wear my "I'm single" hat to …

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/2/2026
Please help my friend and I decide if we're unreasonable. How much time do you spend with your partner or spouse and if you live separately or together.

Please help my friend and I decide if we're unreasonable. How much time do you spend with your partner or spouse and if you live separately or together. — My best friend and I are pretty similar. I'm single, she's married. I was dating a guy similar to her husband off and on for fourteen years but everything came to a head at the end of 2024 and we went…

r/datingoverthirtypost2/9/2026
Why I'm never single for extended periods?

Why I'm never single for extended periods? — I always find myself in romantic relationships. My relationships tend to be long term and serious. I'm not interested in casual/fun stuff. I never had long single period between my relationships. Afte…

r/AskAstrologerspost3/26/2026
Why i scan the room for women feedback

Why i scan the room for women feedback — I'm involved in Public speaking training club, where each deliver a presentation as a practice. i've noticed while delivering a speech, i keep scanning for female club-members , who i find somehow att…

r/therapypost4/2/2026
40, divorced 3 years, but feel like I'll never find a partner again. What would you do if you were me?

40, divorced 3 years, but feel like I'll never find a partner again. What would you do if you were me? — Location: Hong Kong Age: 40 Status: divorced 3 years, no kids Money: net worth \~US$6M (no debt), few furniture stores and a rental property. High income but stress level is insane. I could retire…

r/datingoverfortypost4/7/2026
It’s frustrating how often I run into women with Avoidant tendencies.

Getting to know each other before brining up more serious matters isn't playing cool. So what if she wants kids too if she won't like for example how you dress or your lack of tact. There's time and p…

r/attachment_theorycomment6/16/2025
Here's to an emotionally secure 2026! 🥳🎈🎉😎 (open thread)

I'm going to work on my protest behaviors and not reaching out or texting for validation as much. I guess I'm single but I hate the roller coaster and high off person I'm talking to or dating and I ju…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment1/2/2026
how to be "chill" in early stages of dating?

I'm currently suffering and this is so interesting. My wonder is - is this only useful while dating? When I'm single I don't have this feeling at all because ofc I have nothing to lose but while datin…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment2/3/2026
Please help my friend and I decide if we're unreasonable. How much time do you spend with your partner or spouse and if you live separately or together.

All posts are manually reviewed before being approved for posting. This usually takes less than an hour, though it can take longer depending on moderator availability. While you wait for your post to …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/9/2026
Please help my friend and I decide if we're unreasonable. How much time do you spend with your partner or spouse and if you live separately or together.

I'm similar to your partners I guess. I like when my partner has a hobby so they don't need me all the time to entertain them. My ex was perfect in this sense - we both had creative hobbies and often …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/9/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

Yeah I know what you mean, I have my ages set to 5 years + and - my age on apps when I'm single now but very rarely match with any men who are older as most look 10+ years older than me (I mean some o…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/13/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

I feel like I'm supposed to not let valentine's day get to me, that I'm supposed to be above it. That because it's so commercial or whatever, it's pathetic for me to feel sad. Every year that I'm sing…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/15/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

I'm seeing a girl and it's serious, but she needs her alone time and is quite happy to only see me on Saturdays. I've had this in previous relationships and I hate it, as it means I cant see my friend…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/17/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

I'm seeing a girl and it's serious, (dating for about 2 months recently exclusive) but she needs her alone time and is quite happy to only see me on Saturdays. I've had this in previous relationships …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/17/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

Same. I don't necessarily feel like I'm single if we don't communicate daily, but I DO want someone who also enjoys texting daily. I replied to one of your other comments but I don't think this is wro…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/18/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

Hey, I get it. My long term relationship ended at the 3 year mark a year ago. It was so hard to move forward, I had invested so much time and energy. I also remembered how much of a nightmare the ap…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/22/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 25, 2026

I'm going through similar, from Upstate NY to San Diego, but I'm originally from SD anyway. Own a house here in Upstate and been here for a decade, but I think it's time to change it up. I also work f…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/26/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 27, 2026

Thanks! I'll talk to her, and if it goes well, I'll ask her out. What's the worst that can happen? The last woman I asked out declined but praised me for having the courage to do so and said not many …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/28/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 28, 2026

I kind of wish my grocery stores did something like this. I saw an ig reel where a lady was walking around with a baseball cap that had "I'm single" embroidered on it, and gave it serious thought.

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/28/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 02, 2026

The longer I'm single the more I realize that I don't take dating that seriously! Which is lovely!!! Find myself swiping less and just being open to new experiences.

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/2/2026
Thoughts on dating people who are legally married (but separated)?

That's how I started as well. I wanted some really casual fun. Was very transparent with my situation and where I was...I ended up in a 3 year relationship that was awesome for the honeymoon phase (wh…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/6/2026
DAE find dating just kinda ..boring?

No criticism. I date a ton when I'm single.

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/9/2026
Men having rigid body type preferences

I am fat. I have multiple full body pictures of me being fat. I have full body pictures of me with other people (their faces are not visible) so that you can see I am fat compared to other people. I s…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/11/2026
How do you guys give yourselves comfort you used to get from someone that is no longer there?

I've been working on my attachment anxiety for almost 10 years and I am definitely secure after all this work but I have never read a comment that I related to so much on reddit, just from the other g…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment3/11/2026
My husband (29M) and I (29F) have a dead bedroom because he says I dont initiate

I'm single and haven't been on a date in 3 years and don't miss sex at all. But when I'm in a relationship I'm really into it.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/12/2026
r/datingoverthirtycomment3/13/2026
The only thing you'll ever need to manifest ANYTHING.

Definitely agree on your point about neutrality and detachment. For example, My first (intentional) thing that I am trying to manifest is the healing of an unexplainable, persistent back pain that I'v…

r/nevillegoddardcomment3/14/2026
I (26F) told my boyfriend (26M) I sometimes miss the freedom of being single and he broke up with me on my birthday

I'm going to be super honest and it seems like nobody in here is going to say it... I miss my freedom as well when I'm single as someone who is selfish. However - I know not to bring this up because i…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/14/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 15, 2026

I don't mind if people are talking to other people and using apps, I was too. The ghosting comment I made in my original post was more of a tidbit but it seems to be what most commentators are p…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/15/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 21, 2026

I sometimes wonder this too. Every now and then I think this on this sub, tbh. Just little things that I don't think are actually that telling that other people are worrying about. I also have come …

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/21/2026
Met my ex after a year apart. It was the best day since our breakup. Here's what happend.

Thank you so much, really appreciate it! Right now I'm single and in a really good place with that. Focused on myself, training and building the life I want. As for her – she moved on pretty quickly…

r/BreakUpscomment3/23/2026
Does dating get harder the more you actually know yourself?

> The people who never question themselves just... keep going. And somehow it works out. I've met a lot of people in unhappy relationships who are too scared of being alone to do anything about it. T…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/24/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 24, 2026

34M currently going through a breakup with my 31F partner. We've been trying for 2.5 years and have been up and down. We each have our own flaws, but one of the biggest hurdles for us is mutually nav…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/24/2026
"You'll find someone eventually"

I get this too, and it just makes me feel awful because if my looks aren't the reason I'm single then it must be my personality. And now that I'm getting old, my chances at finding love will soon be g…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/25/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 26, 2026

FWIW I don't think this is the worst strategy. I mean don't listen to me I'm single lol but generally if I stick to my "principles" and try to be smart I end up regretting what could have been a fun c…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/26/2026
What Standards to Reduce?

My confidence is not drawn from my position in a relationship 🤣🤷. Then again I'm single, what do I know

r/datingoverfortycomment3/27/2026
I'm exhausted of doing everything myself

I feel your struggle. But this sounds like a rant about money and service not a partner. I like it when a partner does things for me, but I want a partner for the things I can't do myself (companionsh…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/28/2026
Dating a young woman with an auto-immune disease

I mean, I'm single/retired/autoimmune disease over here and I like living alone for good reason. There are days I don't want to get off the couch or out of bed because my body needs to recover. I do…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/30/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 30, 2026

I feel you there. At least when I'm single, I like to fly solo at weddings nowadays. Less pressure, more chances to enjoy a fun night with someone else!

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/30/2026
I can't believe I'm asking this as a 49 year old woman, but...

He knows I'm single. I went in one night and I was exhausted and had been alone for far too long, and he made me all nervous by being super nice. I divulged way too much about myself. He knew I was do…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/31/2026
Did spending time with someone new help or make things worse?

For me it was a positive thing actually. I went on dates a few months after being painfully dumped and although I did subconsciously compare my dates to my ex and cry afterwards, I actually enjoyed do…

r/BreakUpscomment4/1/2026
Married folks who got Rahu in 7th or 1st house how's your married life going?

I've got Rahu and mars in Virgo 😅 your story gave me hope as well. I'm single as well, let's see 🤞🏾 thank you for sharing

r/vedicastrologycomment4/3/2026
Why is everyone single?

I'm single because I got divorced. Spent a couple years processing and healing, and now can't seem to even meet *any* single men, much less one I would want a relationship with. 🤷‍♀️

r/datingoverfortycomment4/4/2026
Why is everyone single?

I'm single because there were problems in my marriage, that couldn't be solved. We tried, but in the end it just didn't work out. I've chosen to stay single. My plan is to be on my own for a long whi…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/4/2026
Why is everyone single?

I'm single because i divorced my abusive husband and spent the last 15 years being a single mom, working, and going to school. Now i have a good career, a house, a car and I'm having a hard time findi…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/4/2026
Why is everyone single?

I'm single because after being married for twenty years to and navigating a divorce from a serial cheater, I have spent the last few years rebuilding my life. I’m currently 43, my children are in coll…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/4/2026
Why is everyone single?

I think it's a combination of things: 1. A lot of people (at least in my area) married entirely too young and ended up divorcing because of it. 2. People rushed into marriages and realized after get…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/4/2026
Why is everyone single?

I'm single because the man I’ve been in love with for six years lives in another country and barely remembers I exist. We were never even together, yet just hearing his name is enough to make me cry.

r/datingoverfortycomment4/4/2026
Why is everyone single?

I'm single because after over 30 years of searching I haven't found anyone. I know I'm not the best looking, and if I smile and show teeth I can make a woman recoil. But I'm still trying

r/datingoverfortycomment4/5/2026
The worst part is having people your age around you who are all doing better than you.

I'm the "fuck up" out of all my peers and former peers, yet I'm also the only one with a moral compass, and who isn't an alcoholic/coke head. I got sober years ago, they never even tried..because …

r/CPTSDcomment4/5/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - April 05, 2026

Well, it's over. I'm single again at 31. Today started out fine, turned absolutely horrible, and then got better once I accepted things for what they were, went to the forest to watch the clouds pass,…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/6/2026
How to avoid the shame of being tagged as a divorcee

dude i get why that checkbox stings but you gotta flip your perspective on this whole thing. being divorced doesn't mean you failed - it means you had the balls to walk away from something that wasn't…

r/Divorcecomment4/6/2026
Is it finally time for me, 42M to leave her, 43F?

You cooked? I'm single... just sayin'

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026
My (27F) partner (23M) is losing attraction to me due to weight gain.

Exactly. I'm single, but developed a serious health issue last year. Stuff can come out of nowhere in life. If someone's that willing to bail, what kind of relationship is it?

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026