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My dad's word for most things I liked was "dopey." Kids' books, houseplants, etc. And yet he was always expressing a wish that I become a scholar and/or a "scientist." My mother could walk into a roo…
What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …
Got ghosted after 3rd round — Hey everyone, Just wanted to share my recent experience and see if others are going through the same thing. I’ve been applying for DevOps roles for the past few months, and finally landed an intervi…
Digital marketing lead generation and sales tips — If you are part of a marketing agency or a freelance marketer, this is for you. 1. What are the effective channels for lead generation & sales? 2. How are you converting it? 3. What are the commo…
Biggest entrepreneurial Challenge - Lead generation and sales — If you are founder/co-founder/owner of a marketing agency or marketing freelancer, this is for you. 1. What are the effective channels for lead generation & sales? 2. How are you converting it? 3…
Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…
Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…
FA breakup & prolonged limbo - does avoidance calcify over time or can it still reverse? — I’m hoping to hear from people who’ve been through something similar, FAs, or anyone who has opinions on this. I was in a 2 year relationship with someone I later realized is fearful avoidant (I didn…
Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…
One month into Venus MD after quite tough Ketu MD…..I feel more down and burdened by life events….9th Venus, Kala purush… — I wasn’t expecting sudden changes as soon as Venus dasha started, still I didn’t think I’d feel so so so pathetic after Venus period set in….nothing seems fine, maybe worse… My Venus is in 9th house …
Differentiating deactivation vs genuine incompatibility — I (30F) have been dating my current partner (28M) for nine months. We spent a lot of the relationship long distance (everything except the first month) and my partner is now moving to the state I live…
Cheated on after 10.5 years together, divorced at 11 years together. — Hi Everyone, This is half venting and half hoping for advice or people to listen. I'm at a low point right now so I thought reaching out to a community might be beneficial as opposed to holding it…
I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough! — I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough I just came back from a 4 week long vacation in Turks and Caicos in the Caribbean. This was the 10th year in a row I have don…
My (M38) wife (F34) has been very quiet since a conversation we had of why I love her. Confused about her silence. — So I'm a little bit confused about this. A couple of days ago, my wife came to me asking the question that has been asked many times during our marriage. "Do you still love me? And why do you love me?…
She admits the lies and secrecy, but still denies anything physical — I’m posting because I feel like I’m losing my grip on what is real, and I need perspective from people who understand trickle truth, repeated minimizing, and what it feels like when someone admits jus…
I think I need to leave my marriage — I’ve been going back and forth on whether to post this, but I need to get it out somewhere. I think my marriage is over. There wasn’t one major event that caused it. No cheating. No physical abuse. …
Wave 1, Headed to Wave 2 Update: No “Clicking Out,” but dealing with the “Leaky Box” and intense spinning. — Hello, I just wrapped up Wave 1. I’ve been consistent once or twice a day, and I just finished Track 6 (Free Flow 10) tonight. I seem to have a pretty high lucidity threshold—I don’t really have the …
She broke no contact and immediately went no contact again — yesterday she (23F) texted “hey i just wanted to check in and see how you’re doing?” I (24M) did not reply until this morning because I had shit going yesterday on and had an early morning. I said “im…
800-1000ug+ FIRST acid trip complete ego loss most terrifying thing ive ever had — Before I get into this, I want to make something clear right away. I am not encouraging anyone to do this, and I am definitely not presenting this as some cool or impressive story. This was not enjoya…
Spiritual experiences — I would like to share my perspective on a series of intense spiritual experiences I encountered during my Sadhana. My practice centered on the Japa of a specific Mantra consisting of a single Beej A…
Help! My reality check doesn't work anymore — I do reality checks randomly throughout the day, at least 2-3 times per day, almost daily since around December 2025. I always start with trying to breathe while pinching my nose, followed by counti…
How to have a successful mediation retreat? — Meditation for me has always followed the pattern: 10 minutes of great concentration followed by 50 minutes of trying to stay awake. I've gotten as much as 40 min in before fighting dozing but only un…
Why is my mother being cruel to me during an already difficult time? — Sorry, this is going to be a long one! Let me start off my saying that I love my mother. She and I used to get along for the most part. It always seemed like we would get along great during the day …
1 year ago today. — Making this post moreso for myself, most of the proper details can be found on this profile if anyone is interested. On this day, a year ago, my ex girlfriend broke up with me after a couple days of b…
I need help — I developed bipolar disorder as a result of C-PTSD. I have bipolar disorder type 2, and I feel like I’m stuck in a cycle. It’s as if the same events keep repeating, but more intensely each time. The…
Awkward feelings from blocked out past — Hello, I need your help, you ever just get the feeling that there is some form of inappropriate sexual contact during childhood with a parent? Likely between ages 2-4, and severe beltings and spankin…
I [20F] have a weird situation with a guy [23M] and I'm honestly lost — So to start things off our situationship started purely out of lust. We don't live close by and we were just indulging in eachother for the fun of it. But at some point he said that he 'loved me'. I w…
My best friend's [20F] boyfriend [21M] is aggressively flirting with me [19F] — I’ve \[19F\] been best friends with this girl \[20F\] since birth and we have done basically everything together. We are in college pursuing different things but manage to hang out daily. She’s dating…
I (21M) am trying to decide whether I make a move on my friend (20F)? — So I’m a senior in undergrad, and my friend is a junior. We share two classes together, so we see each other 5 days a week. When I met her originally, she was in a sort of situationship, but I never r…
Is it worth it/valid to end a 7 month long relationship due to long distance? (19F) (19M) TLDR at bottom of post! — i feel like this goes a lot deeper than the title, but seeking advice. my bf and i met last semester when starting college. it seemed like a picture perfect relationship: spent tons of time together,…
I used to hint and how bad I was hurt but never cared to picked up on it — I unfortunately still do this. It always felt like no one cared how bad I was doing until it affected them. I’ve struggled mentally so much alone. The only parent that I’m more safe with is my mother …
Parent wants to kick me out for my disabilities — throwaway for anonymity, I’m 21F, i live with my mom and brother, we lived in this bought house for about 3 years now. I grew up in an abusive household, which i helped my mother escape the abuse of …
Abusive & Alcoholic Mum on deathbed with cancer, planning on visiting her for closure — I’m not quite sure how to put this into words. Today, I received a missed call followed by a message from my older sister—someone I haven’t spoken to in years. She told me that our mum is in the hospi…
How to heal from survival wired patterns and nervous system dysregulation. Has any one had any success or improvement. If so, how dod you do it. Is there a preferance for a special type of therapists, meds, anything — Hello everyone I was raised by a natcisstic father and enabler mom, though she was kind and sweet.I Have been suffering for around 30 years, hunted by a pattern of anxious overdoing followed by collap…
i want to plan a lovely day for my boyfriend’s birthday, but i’m getting overwhelmed — so my partner (25m) and i (25f) have been together for almost a year now (it’ll be a year in a few days). for his first birthday, i made him breakfast, took him out to a pasta making class + dinner a…
Yes, i am asking this question again, i am still confused 🫠😔 also maybe it turned into a vent — I (17f) keep flopping between whether i am a rotten abusive daughter who is ungrateful and my parents (50f) (54m) are the problem i absolutely hate them and wish the worst. soo yeah...... i guess i so…
My life was taken before it ever got to begin, thanks to her — It's hard to know where to start because my own memories of childhood have mostly eroded entirely. I'm 25, and I can't tell if I just have general memory issues or if the trauma is really that great. …
Even in dangerous situations, she denies, lies and gaslights. — (Either she is gaslighting me or she is minimising things to an extreme level and believing it.) I can’t believe I’m even writing this, but I’ve reached a point where I genuinely don’t know how to pr…
Dating when divorced is better than dating before marriage — It's easy to think that dating someone who's never been married would be easier than dating someone who's divorced. I think all of us divorced people think this. And then we read the posts of what t…
I still love him, I still think about him every day, and I really wish I could stop. — I (32F) have been married for less than a year to my husband (34M). I'm not divorced yet, but it seems inevitable at this point. I think the only reasons he hasn't filed yet are because he's broke and…
My (22M) Gf (20F) of 2 years has cheated on me, am I insane?? — Hi guys, this is my first post. I’m a little bit lost on what to do. It’s a little bit of Chinese whispers but my girlfriend told her gay best friend (no relevance I’m not being offensive it’s just sh…
Girlfriend already dating only 4-6 weeks after we broke up. — My girlfriend of 18 months and I broke up mutually 6 weeks ago. It was logistical and because it wasn't working practically rather than emotionally and it was, and is, incredibly difficult. We both im…
Atheist here. Saved from abuse by good people in the the Church. — This is NOT a story of religious conversion. I'm somehow 'hardwired' to be an atheist and that won't change, but my life experience has left me with deep respect for religious folk who "walk the walk"…
My weed smoking story — This is the story of how I started and then quit weed. I've kept it real and raw. Take what you will from it. For me I'm hoping to get some kind of therapeutic value out of talking about something I b…
Threw away hopefully my last pack of cigarettes and am pondering quitting smoking weed — My grandfather passed away last Monday, and his funeral was yesterday. And all this week, I've basically been running on adrenaline followed by deep exhaustion having to deal with funeral arrangements…
Is this part of being neglected? — I’ve asked both my parents to stop only calling me with bad news and to be more considerate of my feelings, especially now that I’m trying to build my own family, I recently got married in December 20…
My (28F) boyfriend (25M) is too scared to have sex. Where do I go from here? — Hi reddit. Throw away account. I’ll use fake names for the sake of the story. I, 28F, have been with my partner John, 25M for 2 and a half years now. The beginning of our relationship was more emotio…
25M confused between diamond jewellery and law career - saturn mahadasha starting soon need career guidance🙏🏻 — Hi everyone, I need some guidance regarding my astrology chart and career decisions. I'll try to explain my situation as clearly as possible: \*\*My Current Situation:\*\* I've been working in the d…
UFOs in Your Hometown Episode Seventeen — [**UFOs in Your Hometown Episode Seventeen**](https://youtu.be/OnyAM6cRBc8) by Preston Dennett [Have UFOs been seen in your hometown? Submit the town and see!](https://preview.redd.it/b0tnmo6hgrug1.…
My mother (56F) berates me (24F) for going low contact — \[context is a little long, sorry\] I'm a daughter of a vulnerable narcissistic mother and a grandiose narcissistic father who was also diagnosed with BD. My father became physically abusive in the p…
Theres someone else, im ending it because... it doesn't feel right to till think of you and using you as a measuring stick for every other partner. — Its been what? 3, 4 years? I dont think our relationship and the awful things and hypocritical silence followed by boundaries and emotional needs I wouldn't even find myself doing for you, we both cou…
I'm FA and I identify with this. I value my alone time, and generally speaking, consider myself an introvert. A recharge period is definitely necessary, not just after a social interaction but at the …
When the price moves from a published and reasonable price to "Contact us" followed by "Let's setup a meeting"... That's when I know it'll be a waste of time... I need to gather all my people, to a …
I have read that several times… followed by the sentence “and the circle begins again”… Be very cautious
The fact that she brought it up so early, to me, is a green flag. Those who have been repeatedly hurt by FAs would say it’s a green flag in a sea of red, but IMO to be able to openly have discussions …
If you do experiential therapy and work through developmental trauma / relational trauma / CPTSD followed by repatterning, your autopilot reaction will organically become healthier and balanced.
Folks, tomorrow (Saturday 10 AM EST) I'll be doing a live zoom talk in the Conversations with Modern Stoicism series, and would love to see some of this community there. Here's the [link](https://luma…
My last hinge interaction feels like a good summary of how the apps have been lately: got asked out by someone I've been talking to, said yes and asked when he was free, then several days radio silenc…
I know this is an old post but here’s my FA take.. I have idealized romantic partners in the past. Yes. I don’t do it anymore since I’m married now, older and have a lot more awareness of my patterns…
Is this love or just the comfort of being chosen? I'm 23M working in Bangalore and have always been the type who never dated or had much experience with girls. To change that, I started attending soc…
Going through this now also. Had one “accidental phone call” from her followed by a nasty message when I asked if she was ok. Some people just go cold after it’s over, and will act like you were never…
I don’t have much dating experience. I tried to think of an activity followed by restaurant. My second date with my current girlfriend we went to a place that had challenge rooms, was like an esca…
>Very affectionate in summer and possessive if she felt I was seeing anyone else She probably was and thats why she was worried about you doing the same lol >I would never, those are intimacy behavi…
the pattern across these stories is remarkably consistent: early financial instability or scarcity consciousness, followed by a slow (often painful) process of building genuine material security throu…
Got stood up on Thursday and then a great first date followed by the classic "no time/effort" you deserve better 🫠 One promising matchmaker date tomorrow afternoon but this is all just such emotional…
Minimum one year after the divorce is finalized for any relationship. Dating someone who’s just separated is usually a disaster. I’ve seen nothing but horror stories. Too often people end up being th…
So what you’re saying is your boyfriend all of a sudden isn’t loving you, for you? He knows exactly who and how you are after so much time and that’s obviously part of what he fell in love with if it’…
I appreciate your sincere post, so I will do the same for you. Think of low vs high vibration as the difference between something that pleasurable (low vibe) and something that is actually good for …
I'm a therapist and I'd highly recommend healthygamergg's content for this sort of thing. I'll link some relevant videos of his below. [Stop Being a Low Value Man](https://youtu.be/or6A1Pl04ss) …
OP, have you learned anything about your own attachment pattern? Like why you picked a DA partner to begin with, why you stayed for 5 years, and what that says about your personal codependency issues…
No, it's not up to opinions. It shouldn't be *my* definition of meditation. *The* definition of meditation may vary, but it would revolve around "the act of thinking deeply or focusing one's mind fo…
Yes. Followed by silent treatment lol.
When I was on OLD, Tinder yielded more matches (and, consequently, more first dates) compared to Bumble, Hinge and OkCupid. Granted, those first dates were almost never followed by the second dates, b…
“Nobody in your life sees any value in you- not your parents or your friends or really anybody around you. Actually…Everybody in your life takes advantage of you constantly and because they see no val…
Did they change the rules for admittance? When I passed (decades ago), it was based on test scores alone and not income. You reach a certain score and you get into stuy. Then bx sci, followed by Bkly…
He went about it in a crummy way & i would be upset with his approach but it sounds like y’all both suffer on communication. Talk about it again. Work out what he needs vs what you can do. Some of th…
after a second date success i told him i liked him and he said he feels the same way. things continue to be very easy with him and im excited for the concert we’re going to at the end of the month. I’…
I will not go in deep as that will make you more anxious. So, will let you know only what is needed to know, only because the previous reader has told you about this already. The Sun represents your …
The Sun and Mercury represent your friendships, and Jupiter represents their blockages. Saturn represents your love matters and Mercury represents their timing and occurrence. Mercury also represents…
How do you find the right balance between eagerness and being more chill? My most recent not-quite-a-relationship (never got to "exclusive/official") felt different. We had 2 weeks between dates 1 a…
When i got together with my bf who is now my husband, I was 5 foot 2 and 145 lbs. Then covid happened and my life style went from walking hours a day to never leaving the house, but my diet stayed the…
A decent pair with you both having slight mismatch of Venus tho. What wasn’t great for you both was the fact that the boys birth chart had the unfriendly Saturn period Feb 2018 to Dec 2020 (rarely doe…
"Correcting" is a euphemism for lethal physical violence. And just because I don't intend to show up on the pale horse doesn't mean I've not sat down with it and am working up a couple of ways to mak…
lol my boyfriends mom gets me at the door. Usually overwhelming yelling/crying/hugging. Then the talking/invading starts and doesn’t stop. Followed by extravagant gift giving of irrelevant things we e…
Yeah this isn’t high school. We are (supposedly) over 40. My gf and I work together as well as we do because we both want the same thing. We are quite busy when we hang out. I was in a prior major …
I second this. D-Day number 1 was 8/22/2025. Number 2 was 8/24. Number 3 was 12/24. Yes, Christmas Eve. Number 4 was 1/15/2026. Number 5 was about 1/20/2026 through 2/1/2026. Just thinking about any …
My ex and I had troubles with back to back miscarriages followed by the successful birth of our child. But let me tell you, the horomone swings did something to her and changed her. Her personality ch…
As soon as my RMT learned I have CPTSD she took what she called the kid gloves off. I was in a car accident in March 2023, I hit my head off the roof of my car at an angle, and did a tremendous amou…
The point of observing the breath in meditation is to give you the smallest possible task that you can fix you awareness on when meditating, and is why it is often the most recommended meditation tech…
I had a spiritual awakening, for lack of a better term. The closest framework is a spontaneous crown-led Kundalini awakening. It started as a massive pleasurable white energy burst over several hours…
In my past and actual experience (she broke up with me 49 days ago) sending messages to a girl that ended things with you will bring nothing but a temporary high followed by true freaking pain. I have…
Tempting but not worth getting wrapped back up in her web and the constant cycle of crying and victimhood followed by periods of 'normalcy' (gaslighting) to make me feel completely unhinged and perpet…
Such a beautifully iconic performance followed by a historic Oscar win, their acceptance speech should have the one they let go as long as they wanted. They were so emotional and honored just to be cu…
Yeah….I remember that realization: I don’t think hot women need to scour the entire United States to find middle aged divorced Dads (and then ask for money for a plane ticket or to fix their car). Bu…
You're right, you can't move forward and you can't trust her. It ended just before the two of you really put in the work or actually before she put in the work. You can forgive her and most likely y…
>>I also suggest reviewing the responses you get on this post with her. See how she reacts to the objective prospective of strangers-her rection to the ‘ugly truth’ of her actions will tell you everyt…
I posted something similar recently: Is “Capacity for Repair” the ultimate green flag we should be vetting for? I’ve been reflecting on the fundamental difference between a past relationship that e…
Exactly, my ex did that break up then came back and it keeps going like revolving door. I decided no more and it’s the best decision. Now I get to focus on me and other things.The person called last w…
OK so this is timely. My ex broke up with me 4 months ago after what was our best date so far. I met his friends and we got on well (i thought). We were in a long distance relationship so only seeing …
You end the engagement/relationship. You then figure out the logistics. Then you tell people you *need* to tell (ie anyone you’ve invited to the wedding) followed by whoever you *want* to tell.
Mine keeps changing. Started off like a treasure box, wooden with metal supports and lashings. Later evolved to a metal trunk, very strong and secure, shutting with a clanging sound. In between, it …