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Bare Minimum Barry

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Why do people not do walking/park dates

Wow, I feel a lot of judgement towards men with "Bare Minimum Barry" here. Would you really expect flowers on a first date? Flowers that early feels pretty creepy to me in a different way. Many peopl…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/7/2026
42M. Do these things basically disqualify me entirely?

Womens expectations are not unrealistic. We’re just not interested in pouring everything into Bare Minimum Barry

r/datingoverfortycomment3/9/2026
Am I expecting too much after the worst time of my life?

Not sure what you see in Bare Minimum Barry. He’s shown you who he is and has caused you to nearly die. Personally I wouldn’t bother with him he’s the textbook definition of a mediocre man. It’s not g…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/21/2026
What Standards to Reduce?

None of those. Someone else said intellect instead of education which is a good point but it doesn’t stop people who don’t have a degree from getting upset with you if you do have a degree, in my expe…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/27/2026
Chemistry on first date but no energy

No one is looking for Bare Minimum Barry. It’s not this woman’s problem that you’re tired after divorce. Don’t make your problems hers. You’re not ready to date. Take some time to recover from the d…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/2/2026
Why do people not do walking/park dates

A walking date with a man I don’t know sounds like a great way to get raped and murdered. Neither of which are appealing prospects. There is a definite safety issue for women especially in isolated ar…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/7/2026