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I can't say that I've heard of therapy helping with this specific "problem". I think it's largely orthogonal to the whole "work" thing. Therapy may just modify who your "someone" is, but pretty much e…
How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …
This is a support sub. Be kind to each other. — Almost everyone who comes here is here because they are going through a very painful and difficult time. We're not all at our best. If you go into someone's topic, remember that they came here askin…
Posting anonymously is now possible! — Considering the topic of this subreddit, we acknowledge that in some cases users may feel posting through their own accounts may be possibly problematic and obstructs safety to an extent. For those wh…
Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means) — I last posted a variation of this a little over 5 years ago. We're a little overdue for a repost. --- You know how every Uber rating is right on the verge of 5 stars unless something's particularly …
Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading — # 6th Kill: $20,000 Money Mission **Mission**: To make $20,000 from futures trading **What I achieved:** I made $20,000 from futures trading **How long did it take:** 5 and a half months **Backgro…
My arguments against manifestation — 1. **Maladaptive daydreaming proves that manifestation isn't real**; Manifestation doctrine teaches that what you focus on expands and manifests in your physical reality. Do not split hairs and try to…
A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse. We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon. W…
How Can I Manifest Someone I Don’t Even Know? — Hey everyone, I need some advice. I recently saw a really handsome guy at my university fest, but he was an outsider. We didn’t talk, didn’t exchange contacts, and I have no idea where he came from o…
Share your startup - quarterly post — Share Your Startup - Q4 2023 [**r/startups**](https://www.reddit.com/r/startups/) **wants to hear what you're working on!** Tell us about your startup in a comment within this submission. Follow thi…
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[Showoff Saturday] Indoor football arena website made in html and css and 11ty static site generator. No frameworks. Nearly perfect page speed scores. Just showing what’s possible with only the fundamentals. — Here’s the site https://thefootballfactorynj.com The biggest problem we had to solve was consolidating all the dozens of pages they had for each age group and camp or league to sign up. We made the…
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My game has 50k downloads but only brings in coffee money — I released a little trivia game on Android about 6 months ago. It’s super simple — just daily quiz questions with leaderboards. Got about 50k downloads now, mostly from Southeast Asia and India. The …
Pouncemonial: 7th Kill - Disciplined Trader — # Here's how I achieved my 7th mission! **Mission**: To become a disciplined trader **What I achieved**: Mastered stop loss and trading discipline **Background**: After my 6th kill, I was eager t…
Is there a better way to create posts that actually match your brand? — As a solo builder, I’ve been working on a small idea I think might be useful — especially for startups and B2B teams trying to stay consistent with branded content on instagram. The problem: Creatin…
Sharing my learnings as a mid-seniority job seeker — I started job-hunting in April. After two weeks of sending applications and receiving zero feedback (only ghosting), I scheduled a few calls with my mentor. Based in Eastern Europe and looking for a f…
Why am I losing keywords? — I'm a bit lost. For the past 6 months I have been working on improving the rank of my website. When I first started, I just left an agency that wasn't doing a great job. When I switch from them, they …
Feeling stuck between a promo and burnout - advice? — I'm approaching 5 years at my current company (2 years as junior, 3 as mid-level) and am submitting a promotion case for Senior. I won't hear back for a couple months - my director feels optimistic, b…
Does this SEO strategy make sense ? — Hello experts ! Recently, I came across an SEO expert (have some good proof) that talked about the seo strategy that she used, but I'm not sure if I understand it correctly. The strategy goes as fol…
Business scaling up - what cloud provider should we use? — Our business is scaling rapidly — we’re currently handling millions of unique requests per week, and this number continues to grow. At the moment, we’re hosted on DigitalOcean, paying approximately €4…
Feedback Thread — Our weekly thread is the place to solicit feedback for your creations. Requests for critiques or feedback outside of this thread are against our community guidelines. Additionally, please be sure that…
Building My First B2C SaaS Product – Learning, Struggling, and Still Going — I’ve been working on my B2C SaaS app **Gamify** for a little over a week now. It’s a habit-tracking, gamified to-do list app — a mix of fun and structure I’ve always felt was missing in other tools. …
Freelancers – the only person that can evaluate your pricing is the buyer (not Reddit) — *(TL;DR at bottom)* Questions like this pop up on this subreddit every few weeks: > How much should I charge for a basic website? Or: > Is $500 for a single-page Figma design a good price? ...and…
Is there a UX role in existence that doesn't involve so much documentation? — So I come from a background in design. I was a bit of a generalist before—branding, logos, layouts, art direction—and while that was fun, it started to feel fragile. Like I was always one trend away f…
The best way to differentiate yourself? — What I have found works is this: Step no.1: Research yourself and your competitors If you're the founder or in a C-level position, you might say: "I already know everything about my business." WRONG…
Inappropriate Design Task — I recently did well in an interview and have been given the most wild design task to date that I was made to feel stupid for pushing back on and would like some opinions. I was presented with a 9 pag…
AWS network automation — I find myself in a funny position to redo part of the network in AWS. We have two parts: one is newer and uses transit gateways that are centralized in a single account, the other is older and vpc pee…
Investors? I will not promote — So who here has got investment specifically for a mobile app, I built one and it's fully working the only problem is that it's a social app and people only trickle in, around 10 per day, they arrive a…
Micro investors, where to find them? (i will not promote anything in this post) — I am trying to get an e-commerce store without a bugdet, originally that would be hard, but i thought about getting people together to invest in micro amounts and pay them with a % and 3x there invest…
ROAST my design before I end up in the streets — Hey everyone, I recently launched a small SaaS project and while I’m getting some traffic, the conversion rate is sooo low. I’m trying to figure out if the design is part of the problem — or the prob…
Thoughts on an image sharing tool with link permissions? (i will not promote) — **Looking for feedback: Tool for sharing images securely with permissioned domains (like DocSend, but mainly for images)** Hey r/startups, I’m working on validating an idea and would love your thoug…
From Rejection to Redemption: How I Broke Into DevOps — Guys, I'm here sitting on my back yard on a beautiful Saturday and I am about to sign an offer letter with a Fortune 500 company — with a 25% salary increase. But just a few months ago, I was getting…
Thoughts on a platform that can give AI suggestions layered on top of product documentation (i will not promote) — **AI suggestions layered on top of product documentation** Hey r/startups, I’m exploring a product idea and would love to hear your thoughts. **The problem:** Many users land in product documenta…
To all e-commerce store owners: What tool do you wish existed to make managing your store easier? — Hello to all e-commerce entrepreneurs! 👋 In the fast-paced world of digital commerce, we know there are many daily challenges — whether it's managing orders, handling customers, shipping, analyti…
Do I really need to fully design and engineer my own product to succeed in e-commerce? — Hey everyone, I’m planning to start my own e-commerce brand, but I don’t have a big budget or deep technical knowledge. Right now, I can only afford to take an existing product, put my brands logo on …
How to use tools like createfy or vidnoz in other languages without causing problems — Hello! I was trying to leverage AI tools that allow for mass content creation, such as Creatify or Vidnoz, but the problem is that I want to do it in Spanish, and the default Spanish voices are very r…
Thought experiment – What if OpenAI had followed classic startup advice? I will not promote — Let’s have some fun with a thought experiment. What would OpenAI’s journey have looked like if it had followed all the usual startup advice from the Paul Graham / YC / generic playbook? Things like:…
Discount bundle — Let’s say i sell posters (A3 and A4) and i wanna make a bundle 10 posters of each size at a certain price for better revenue margin. I sell 10 A3 for 200$ and i want a bundle to state 120$, and for t…
Canary like deployments for Custom Resources? — Why is there no Canary-like deployment orchestrator for Custom Resources with quality gateway analysis? AFAIK, Flagger, Keptn ( have some maintenance problems ), Argo Rollouts, these are tightly boun…
Different Businesses Need Different Content Formats – Here's Why (i will not promote) — Hey everyone! One thing I see often overlooked is the fact that **not all businesses need the same type of content formats**. Depending on your target audience and the type of business you run, the …
Why do people in LOA communities ALWAYS go to Reddit for their problems when JM advised against that? — Hello everyone. I've been into JM's (and NG's) teaching for quite some time. I enjoy it thoroughly and dipped my toes into the subreddits, so hence why I'm here instead of the NG subreddit since I wo…
Discount bundle help — Hey guys, Let’s say i sell posters (A3 and A4) and i wanna make a bundle 10 posters of each size at a certain price for better revenue margin. I sell 10 A3 for 200$ and i want a bundle to state 120$…
I have a question about google search consoles "page with redirect" and removals — I have about 20 something pages in GSC that are listed under "page with redirect." These pages exist on my website, and when I copy the URL and search it, the correct page shows up. Some of the pages …
Things to do with my non technical cofounder "i will not promote" — Hi all i will not promote So i have a startup / side business im working on, I bought a friend in as a cofounder as he's generally useful in going out making connections, someone to help with site …
Scaling from solo founder to teams of 3-5+ (I will not promote) — I will not promote! What leadership issues have you guys faced going from yourself to small teams, when scaling? Currently researching this transition phase for my own learning (former military, now…
What are good examples of “How will you acquire users?” i will not promote — From what I hear, YC advice kinda scoffs at paid ads — the logic of “you need to own your acquisition” makes sense to me, but I wonder what’s the answer they’d love to see? Offline events? Founder pe…
Why webapps didn’t become more popular after all? — Google had a dream where people turn on their computer and the only thing they are greeted with is the Chrome browser. People were sceptic at first but Google created a wonderful web platform called C…
Need Advice: 3x Salary Offer for Fullstack Role, But It’s a One-Man Show. Go for it? — Hi. Everyone. Please bear with me, I hope this is the right place to ask. I’m currently a jr web developer and have been working in my first proper dev job for almost a year. The pay is on the l…
Passive FTP into Kubernetes ? Sounds cursed. Works great. — “talk about forcing some ancient tech into some very new tech wow... surely there's a better way” said a VMware admin watching my counter FTP strategy😅 **Challenge accepted** I recently needed to r…
indexing problem — For some reason a website that Im indexing for a client, only indexed 4 pages out of many, all of these pages have content, they are "discovered to index" and they aren't indexed. ([picture for refere…
My big problem with WILD 1- i do WBTB 2-i stay up for 30 minuites 3-i lay on my side and relax saying my head "i am lucid dreaming " 4-i get the visuals , soon they evolve into visual , tactile and a…
I have this problem I realize I'm dream but if I try to control it to just becomes a nightmare.
Reality transurfing is a bunch of balls. Some idiot says stuff using complex modern language and people believe it without thinking because they are addicted to things being complex. Posm is very s…
Do you have a suggestion for how I can use this for appearance change? I have a basic idea what to do but your expert opinion would be helpful. For example, what specifically would you implement into …
I had the same problem after my first experience and gave a bit of advice here: https://youtu.be/vYpT0C2wYBw In short, don't seek it again too much and just carry on doing what you were doing! Be pat…
Hey there’s a Z code in the DSM 5 for emotional neglect, I’m sure. I haven’t looked but there’s a lot of different Z codes to help identify life circumstances, to give a bigger picture to the F code d…
Another update: My ex did want me back, but I rejected it since I know she doesn't want to work yet on her issues, which meant that we're only going to go back to the same situation as we were before.…
I haven't recalled my dreams for a long time, but when I did I could easily tell I was dreaming. The problem I had was that as soon as I realised I was in a dream, it would start to end and I would wa…
I honestly am indifferent, but I would never want him back. He's someone else's problem now. I can breathe!!
So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…
PLEASE READ IF YOUR LOOKING INTO ASTRAL PROJECTING. About 2 months ago I was looking extremely deep into astral projecting, once I seen what it was I was instantly drawn to it and thought it was inter…
Try therapy. Just remember that therapy can take a long time and be expensive. If you haven't already in the meantime, try looking for parenting classes. Or try parenting forums, if a specific p…
Also there seems to be an overreliance on arbitrary "rules" like "age gap bad" (obviously some age gaps really are bad but five years in your 20s shouldn't be such a big deal IMO) or "high school swee…
I'd just tag on that posters pay attention to all advice posted, regardless of the upvotes/downvotes. The hivemind here can be brutal. This is PARTICULARLY problematic when advice gets legal advice …
Please report any problematic comments you feel are egregious. I don't see anything reported. We are not going to pore through every comment on every thread. Messaging us with an analysis of comments …
its very tiring for me and i would feel like i havent slept at all bc im living in my dream so intensely that its like my body is asleep but my mind is awake consiously dreaming and doing stuff in my …
Hey, Joseph Murphy wrote in his book 'The power of your subconscious mind.' Translated from slovak language (so maybe I don't use the exact same words but the main idea is the same) "Our subconsc…
I can tell u from my own experience, gilrs do come back. I had 2 girls coming back to me years after. Though the problem is, and that u have to aks for urself. Is it really worth to give them again ur…
because I did something similar to as described and worked? but I agree with much of your points, as to me is annoyingly frustrating. and certainly read of NO LIMITS, yet my sister has cancer, can I c…
If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, LO…
>So the formula that always works is: Getting to know yourself well + analyzing and understanding where your issues come from + realizing your weaknesses and what you need to change in your life + sta…
This is a bad 'technique' if you want to call it that. It turns the LOB's practice into a value system. That will distort and ultimately destroy you. The LOB is a law of physics and does not depend …
I'm FA and I identify with this. I value my alone time, and generally speaking, consider myself an introvert. A recharge period is definitely necessary, not just after a social interaction but at the …
Yeah, that's the same for me as well. For a bit I thought I would be happier being poly, because then I could have several relationships at an arms length, before realizing that's the problem.
Fearful avoidant is much harder to fix than dismissive avoidant, because you have the problems of the anxious and the avoidant. To fix the anxious - I only know about this in theory/hypothetically si…
i’m an anxious person. i honestly think that if the majority of anxious people stopped blaming their exes, externalizing their looks, and focused on THEIR problems and therapies (because yes anxious a…
I think that problem equally applies to everyone with an insecure attachment style. Avoidant people don’t become less avoidant by naming their behavior either. A lot of people are able to identify th…
The problem with DA people in the end of a relationship is that they cause the other persons wounds to be activated. The feelings of not good enough kick in and people are desperate to find a reason t…
If you can’t read between the lines that’s your problem
I let my intentions be known. I tell the im dating with the intention of finding a GF. If I do not hear from them for a week or they dont text back for days I set the boundary that if this continues…
If you're talking stalking, that 'anxious' person has more problems than just being anxious. On the extreme end, some anxious people are more prone to have BPD. But that doesn't mean anxious people ar…
I do understand and I can agree it’s not a behavior that can cultivate a long standing relationship with someone who is secure or anxious. But the same can be said about other attachments aswell (no…
I get why this sub advocates for SM methods over CM methods, and I absolutely agree that it’s better for beginners, but the problem with exclusively doing this is that you can do all of the work laid …
>I get why this sub advocates for SM methods over CM methods, and I absolutely agree that it’s better for beginners, but the problem with exclusively doing this is that you can do all of the work laid…
I am in the same boat. Had my FA (maybe DA? I never knew about attachment theory until her. She was extremely committed and IN. LOVE. for 2 years and was much more anxious and attached. Then she was j…
I’ve felt mine hated me. When I finally let go I realized it was more likely something I came up with on my own. The silence leaves us with so much space to make assumptions. For my situation, I thoug…
No problem, being vulnerable on here makes me feel uncomfortable, but I'm trying to expose myself to these feelings, so I can get over the unease. Just know you’re not in the struggle alone.
What do you suggest people should do instead? Let someone who is not addressing their psychological problems keep hanging on at their expense, only delaying the necessary work further? This is hugely…
I'm pretty sure my ex bf was FA. He claimed he was anxious but the trauma he experienced and his behaviors leading up to our breakup kind of point to FA. He broke up with me for just shutting down. Li…
You are correct. Your perception of love is warped. And thus it can be really hard finding it without accidentally finding yourself in shit relationships. As many have commented, avoidants typically …
The problem is FA flips from hot to cold. When I was finally at peace with things and about to leave her alone. She came up to me at a party and danced with me and said she appropriated me. I asked …
Oh, this is a cool topic, there is nothing cooler than the fucking time that is chasing us. I was just in the middle of my first mission related to a new job. At that time I was already quite burnt…
I know this is difficult to do, but my advice, as an anxious who's moving towards secure, would be to stop texting and calling. It's only been a few days and you know that he was having phone problems…
Frankly the fact that you got so invested and attached, idealising someone whom you met for a whopping WEEK, tells me that your attachment issues are the problem here.
The mire you deny your emotions and feel they are wrong the worse it gets. Once I just started telling my partner how I feel without making it their problem to solve, the less I felt those ways. I got…
He sounds very dismissive avoidant, and breaking up every 2 weeks with only 9 months in makes me kinda feel like you may be slipping into a p toxic trap. If you want to go forward, I would suggest cou…
That’s pretty invalidating. Sure, a person can always choose what they want to do (unless they’re being literally abused), but it’s pretty hard act autonomously when you know another person will have …
No, my statement has nothing to do with validation. I find when someone says 'that's invalidating', they haven't sat down and thought about what they're saying. And why would I need to constantly vali…
[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strange\_situation](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strange_situation) You can have a look hear, especially regarding Disorganized. "Ainsworth put in print her blessing…
I can relate to this. For myself I have been wondering why I think I need to be in a relation to have more intimacy and a deeper understanding. I think it's better to get those things from myself, fri…