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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 23, 2026

Its been so disappointing lately, and even humiliating at times now. I'm sad and getting tired. Long stream of consciousness rant incoming. I'm giving myself 2 weeks from today for...idk SOMETHING t…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/23/2026
Women who had a glow up

Women who had a glow up — Resources? I'm going to the gym, started coloring my hair and nails...inner work started long before the divorce with all the things: church, community , journaling, therapy. Wondering what are the b…

r/datingoverfortypost3/23/2026
Weird question! Can astrology determine your looks or when will you get a glow up?

Weird question! Can astrology determine your looks or when will you get a glow up? — Like Im doneee being ugly af

r/vedicastrologypost3/29/2026
I’m starting to heal all by myself

I’m starting to heal all by myself — I went no contact after a very toxic situation a couple of days back. I’ve started following a couple of YouTubers who preach self-love and healing. I’ve started aggressively trying to glow up these …

r/DecidingToBeBetterpost3/30/2026
I realized most people don’t glow up because of this…

I realized most people don’t glow up because of this… — I’ve been thinking a lot about why people struggle with self-improvement. It’s not that we don’t know what to do. We all know the basics: \- drink water \- workout \- fix skincare \- be c…

r/selfhelppost3/31/2026
Was this an avoidant discard?

Was this an avoidant discard? — Was this an avoidant discard or genuine loss of feelings? I (F) was in a short but very intense relationship with a guy. In the beginning, he pursued me really hard — put in a lot of effort, consiste…

r/BreakUpspost3/31/2026
How do you “win” the breakup?

How do you “win” the breakup? — I need genuine tips for how to glow up after a breakup. Not only physically but also mentally. Long story short: Me and my ex were together for almost 8 years. He is an avoidant and discarded me on a…

r/ExNoContactpost4/2/2026
How do you “win” the breakup?

How do you “win” the breakup? — I need genuine tips for how to glow up after a breakup. Not only physically but also mentally. Long story short: Me and my ex were together for almost 8 years. He is an avoidant and discarded me on a…

r/BreakUpspost4/2/2026
dealing with FOMO and feeling like you’re behind

dealing with FOMO and feeling like you’re behind — I graduated high school in 2025 and I’m currently at home taking online classes. Because university isn’t financially an option for my family right now, I’m still living with my parents while my old f…

r/DecidingToBeBetterpost4/4/2026
Still works!!! Every once in a while I test myself and abilities with random objects/animals

Still works!!! Every once in a while I test myself and abilities with random objects/animals — My main technique to test my abilities is "butterfly technique" every once in a while I test myself with this technique. I developed this first in 2023 when I started read about Neville. Next day I w…

r/nevillegoddardpost4/7/2026
Is there someone who suffer jealousy from relatives family more than friends like you are the normal and simple child in past but later you glow up yourself from looks , behaviour, job, education (my relatives not even like my achievements)🤣

Is there someone who suffer jealousy from relatives family more than friends like you are the normal and simple child in past but later you glow up yourself from looks , behaviour, job, education (my relatives not even like my achievements)🤣 — Yes

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/11/2026
Those that went through the glow up- Are you approached more now?

Those that went through the glow up- Are you approached more now? — 42m. Nashville. You went through the last straw and decided to end things and moved towards making yourself better. I did that and found the gym, lost a few lbs and noticed a little more interaction i…

r/datingoverfortypost4/12/2026
Should I meet up with my ex?

I wouldn’t. Are you only interested because of the glow up? He seemed rude to you so what benefit is there to meeting an ex when you are with someone else.

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/15/2026
Should I meet up with my ex?

Nope ✨️ Why are you concerned about being rude to someone who was rude to you? And who's reaching out for coffee or walk without acknowledging that they were rude to you or apologizing. If I were …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/15/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

one week is no time at all! If I was you, I'd bed rot and watch chick flicks for another week, then step into the "glow up" phase of break ups (gym, haircut, eat healthy again) and then I'd start thi…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/18/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

I love this sub. The glow ups are amazing. The encouragement and compliments are amazing! Everyone just hypes everyone up. It’s very uplifting

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/20/2026
Am I invisible to men as a woman in mid 40s? I'm not dealing with aging well.

Dating in your forties can be so much fun ! Maybe have a “glow up” to make yourself not feel invisible

r/datingoverfortycomment3/9/2026
You can be pretty and still fucked up. Attractiveness will not save you from this disease.

I do really understand where you're coming from. I agree with a lot of what you're saying. Being attractive doesn't fix everything. Being attractive also comes with it's own set of struggles, traumas.…

r/CPTSDcomment3/9/2026
You can be pretty and still fucked up. Attractiveness will not save you from this disease.

I think the issue is, "If only I were in their shoes." Because if I was attractive in OPs shoes, I probably wouldn't want to be attractive. But in my own personal experience, I know the better phrase …

r/CPTSDcomment3/9/2026
Be honest ladies, how much does being bald impact your interest in a man?

Oh yes so many amazing transformations in there with usually very scarce mangy few bits and then massive glow up when they embrace the bald by shaving it off I don’t know why on earth I see those pos…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/10/2026
Fed up with this

whether you realise this or later.. heres a thought. whatever you acknowledge to self happens and you will experience. wake up feeling down and your subconscious will find evidence for you. wake u…

r/Manifestationcomment3/11/2026
If you're reading this, you're gonna make it.

It’s not even been a month yet. I’m lowkey dying but on a vengeance glow up. Thank you for the kind words.

r/BreakUpscomment3/12/2026
Ladies: What makes you swipe RIGHT? (inspired by today's recent post)

Not sure how this happened but I am not a regular in the band subreddit 😆 glow ups left and right in that subreddit !

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
She snuck out with a "friend" while we were at a party

Forgive her ? Never Get a gym membership they are cheap Work your stress out there Glow up and leave that life behind Good luck

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/14/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 14, 2026

It's exactly the other thing I think, everyone can glow up or down but we have to deal with the present situation. Thanks for commenting. Definitely not going to ghost and I'm sorry that guy did! What…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/14/2026
My wife of 11 years cheated

Been there, done that. Put the substances down, you'll not begin to recover until you sit with your pain. Also, hit the gym, manage your diet. Not only will you feel better, but you'll glow up. In a y…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/16/2026
Did anyone else feel like their nervous system was completely out of whack after a breakup?

You’re purging. This is normal. You need this in order to heal from the relationship. But the glow up afterwards ✨❤️ put yourself first.

r/BreakUpscomment3/17/2026
Can I be honest? Scrolling through this subreddit is really depressing.

Mine’s more warrior than glow up. Not money or a flashy house, but it still counts.

r/CPTSDcomment3/17/2026
Lost my mom, not sure where to go from here and looking for guidance

Sorry for your loss brother. I had something similar happen. I lost my mother at 30. I was also fat, receded hair, and lowkey undiagnosed depressed. My girlfriend of 6 years at the time also left me t…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/19/2026
I saw my ex after 3 months of no contact, everything looks different.

I’m so sorry you had this experience. I haven’t seen my ex in almost a year but I caught a pic of him in the background of a social media pic of his new person; she was receiving acclaim for a project…

r/BreakUpscomment3/21/2026
My (26M) brother (35M) has impregnated my ex wife(F27) and is engaged to marry her. How do I move on going forward?

get away from these cretins. you’re going to glow up so hard in another more sparkling city 🌃

r/relationship_advicecomment3/21/2026
Ive decided

so powerful like choosing urself and ur peace is the best glow up u can give urself. u deserve someone who doesn't make u question ur worth so i'm really rooting for this new chapter of urs

r/BreakUpscomment3/22/2026
I think my friendship with my best friend might be ending after her wedding and I don’t know how to handle it

“Outshining” bride Acting smart Interacting with groom & his family Complimented MIL Reading through the post and a couple of comments, I’m going to guess that some tension built up between the br…

r/relationshipscomment3/23/2026
Women who had a glow up

I definitely went through the glow up with divorce, lost 20lbs (I'm a shortie so that's a lot for my frame), nails done, hair done. I enjoy all the girlie parts of being a woman so all that is pretty …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/23/2026
Women who had a glow up

You need to figure out the person YOU want YOU to be and invest in that person. Not an image of what some random guy might want to stick his dick in. People like people who are authentically themselv…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/24/2026
Women who had a glow up

Oooh fun topic! I had a big glow up after my divorce. I lost 20 lbs and weight train at least four times a week. Then I got myself a new wardrobe for my new hot bod. 😁 I used to be afraid to be sexy …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/24/2026
Women who had a glow up

I think it's pretty standard to go through some kind of glow up phase right after divorce. But then there's some of us who don't stay in that phase. Lol! I know with myself I hit perimenopause so I re…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/24/2026
Spent money on clothes, grooming, and a Miami photoshoot for dating apps. Still getting weak matches. What am I missing?

Let’s give the guy some hope, he’s young and absolutely still has time for a glow up where women approach him.

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/24/2026
Women who had a glow up

Losing the man was all the glow up I needed.

r/datingoverfortycomment3/24/2026
Women who had a glow up

Ageing will happen. You can either embrace it or spend the rest of your life trying to fight it. I keep my body and mind healthy and in shape. Not because I need to impress anyone, but because I want …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/24/2026
Women who had a glow up

When it comes to male gaze, the 20 or 30 something year old female is the pinnacle for males, even if the gazing man is a 1 on a scale of 10 with his buck teeth and stinky breath. Best to glow up inte…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/24/2026
Women who had a glow up

I had a major glow up last THREE years and transformed myself (I'm now a signed agency model which I never in my dreams thought possible). The impetus was my ex leaving me and also because I was suffe…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/24/2026
Women who had a glow up

Girlie doesn’t need a lecture. She just wants some fun tips for a glow up. Let her live.

r/datingoverfortycomment3/24/2026
My wife left a year ago

Listen to me. Life gets better. You will be okay. It’s gonna take some time; some years. But you will come out of this. Trust me. Now it’s glow up time. Work on becoming your best self. It’s actually …

r/Divorcecomment3/24/2026
Women who had a glow up

tl;dr: nourishing, balanced diet that is psychologically beneficial to me, movement that is pleasurable, SLEEP omg I need at least 7 hrs, 80-100 oz daily water, skincare (just the basics, I use a lot …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/24/2026
Women who had a glow up

HRT!! Major glow up!! I just started Orilissa too which has made a world of a difference for me (I have endometriosis too) and also started NAD supplements which finally gave me my energy back. Vitami…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/24/2026
do the narc and new supply ever break up

I hate to be the one to deflate the mood, but sometimes they do remain together with the person they left us for. I'm a firm believer some treat us poorly because they could never fully idealize us. …

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/28/2026
My boyfriend (M25) saw an old video of me(F24) and was disgusted. How can I get over this?

He showed his true colours in that moment. He was rude and made fun of the woman in the video, not realising it was you. That's how he feels about overweight people. What would happen if you have a me…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/29/2026
My boyfriend (M25) saw an old video of me(F24) and was disgusted. How can I get over this?

This. I had a big glow up in my twenties and my first boyfriend after said ‘nothing above a size 12 should exist’. I was like ‘well I have been a 14 so in that case, I ceased existing a long time ago’…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/29/2026
Weird question! Can astrology determine your looks or when will you get a glow up?

Astrology can determine looks, especially if you mean their “base look” (as in how they originally look). For glow up, not that sure as I’m no professional but my astrologer did tell me I’m someone …

r/vedicastrologycomment3/29/2026
My boyfriend (M25) saw an old video of me(F24) and was disgusted. How can I get over this?

As a former big girl, who like you, decided to make healthy changes and had a massive glow up, this is always my one condition for people to be allowed access to my life: How would they have treate…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/29/2026
Weird question! Can astrology determine your looks or when will you get a glow up?

Absolutely! So, there are 2 aspects which takes shape: Your freewill and what's already in birth charts Ngl, it’s actually one of the easiest things to spot if you know how to read even the bas…

r/vedicastrologycomment3/29/2026
I just feel done with the world

I am completely the same as you. Broken and destroyed completely. Thinking I am maybe the actual narc as well since other people feel free and "glow up" after leaving. I am the opposite. I am spiralli…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/29/2026
transiting saturn conjunct natal saturn in aries (11th house, whole sign) — how does this relate to relationship endings and social/identity restructuring?

it has indeed been brutal my friend but you’re so right it’s been forcing a glow up i’m grateful for!!

r/AskAstrologerscomment3/29/2026
Weird question! Can astrology determine your looks or when will you get a glow up?

Don't know if this's going to help. But I had my glowup during Moon dasha Saturn bhukthi. I worked out a lot, fixed my skin and in mercury bhukti, I changed my dressing style. 3rd house must be seen f…

r/vedicastrologycomment3/29/2026
what are the signs that your ex is not coming back after no contact ?

My ex did this lol. He adopted all my hobbies. I said I wanted to travel.. I saw his ig recently that showed he'd been traveling everywhere, with other girls. It's a form of glow up by the hurt party.…

r/ExNoContactcomment3/30/2026
Weird question! Can astrology determine your looks or when will you get a glow up?

Jupiter periods for Aries/scorpio/cancer/Leo/sagitarius/pisces are excellent periods in principle. So is Venus periods for Taurus/Libra/Gemini/Virgo/Capricorn/Aquarius. These period for their friendly…

r/vedicastrologycomment3/30/2026
My boyfriend (M25) saw an old video of me(F24) and was disgusted. How can I get over this?

This line " He immediately looked devastated, and started apologizing profusely, saying he had no idea, and that he would never speak like that about me. I told him he just did," tells you all you nee…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
I wish someone would have warned me

Damn great job to move back into your own skin. Women call it the glow up. All your hormones are working in peek after getting healthier, no doubt eating better with that weight loss, good on you! a…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/30/2026
Does my chart say anything about me being taken advantage of by people in positions of power?

saturn ruling from the DC and trining that 11h sun screams authority figures testing your spine before the glow up. Love the tough love anglemakes those delays feel purposeful instead of just cursed.

r/AskAstrologerscomment3/31/2026
I just can’t believe my parents didn’t invest anything into my adulthood.

So sorry you've been struggling too 😓 I know what you mean about piecing things together. Btw I love twin peaks, I think David lynch has a deep understanding of trauma and cruelty. I do think you…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/31/2026