nerves

I'm sorry you are dealing with this. It must feel like you are living in a nightmare! I would look to see how it started. Did she manipulate him into carrying on and "nerves" were actually his micro-c…

Does anyone else find that exposure therapy and putting yourself in social situations literally fries your brain instead of making you stronger? — People often say things like "just work for a month and it'll get easier," "don't give in to your avoidance," "go where it scares you." I really tried to follow this advice, and it didn't get easier.…

My (19f) boyfriend (19m) keeps telling me I’m at high risk of diabetes. How do I address this? — I am a 19 year old woman. I am 5 foot 9 inches tall (177cm), my body weight is 67kg, my BMI is 21.4, body fat percentage is 15.8%, and body fat mass 10.6kg. I go to the gym 5 days a week and perform c…

I (22 male) slept with my colleague (30 female) and fell in love, but it was unrequited. — I apologize for possible errors in the text, translated by Google. I got a job as a loader at a store. And when we first met, we didn't really like each other. I just went to work; I didn't talk to h…

Can deactivation be permanent? — I’m in a year and a half long relationship and recently deactivated hard after a disagreement we had. Up until that point I was really happy and found the relationship quite easy, we’d had a few minor…

Fiancé ended our 12 year relationship after meeting a new guy — Caitlyn, I'm sorry, and I miss you and still love you. I can't function. I can't sleep. I don't know what to do, and I don't know how much of this was me, and how much of this was him. Everyone has to…

Can't stop thinking I have a tumor - seeking support — Hi everyone, A couple of weeks ago I had a routine trip to my local Opticians to update my prescription and by extention get some new glasses. I have pretty terrible eyesight which usually over a 2 …

My ex (M25) reached out me (F24) after a year and a half of no contact. — Long story short last week I got the text I never thought I’d get, my ex texted me to tell me he is going into the military and put me down as a reference. He then proceeded to say he’d like to see me…

loss of sensation feeling — i think this is related to anxiety but i'm honestly not sure. it's also a hard thing to explain so bear with me please. recently i've been having this feeling where i am losing sensation. it is not a…

My body was rejecting him from day 1 and I still chose to ignore the signs — I'm hoping someone who is in a similar relationship reads this and realizes they need to leave immediately. My body and just the universe as a whole gave me every sign to leave this man and I always t…

I stumbled on my husband’s reddit account. One of them, anyway. — I’ll probably delete this, but right now I need to get it out, to call my nerves and be there for my kids. My hands are a little shaky. I was certainly not expecting this today. Or any day. I was goi…

trying to figure life out , pretty much confused — F17. Lately, I’ve run away from home for a few days , came back covered in bruises due to violent sex that didn't stop for two days , which led to several arguments with my family—especially with my d…

Got banned from r/anxiety because I'm anxious about channel growth and wanted help. — won't make the same mistake I did there, but maybe people here are kinder? I'm autistic and have severe anxiety and I'm turning 30 this year. for the longest time I've felt useless to society because…

My husband (37M) pushed for kids, but now that I’m (35F) pregnant he’s completely disengaged and does nothing special for me. How do I get him to understand how I feel? — I (35F) am 22 weeks pregnant and honestly, I’m at my wit’s end. My husband (37M) was the one who pushed for us to have kids. He’s been talking about starting a family for years. A big part of me wante…

Want to reconcile after a year, girl dumpers (or dumpers in general) - any ideas? — 24M 20F She was my first ever girlfriend, and I was her first boyfriend. We were together for about 8-9 months, I think the best in love I've ever felt. Like, I could drive back home from her and…

Wife (29f) of 3 years has become increasingly anxious about my (29m) safety during her pregnancy. — My wife has become increasingly anxious about my safety during her pregnancy (5 months in). She essentially wants me to be at home with her as much as possible, to go out the least possible amount of …

Ex moved on in a week — Me and this girl recently ended things, literally just last wednesday. I sent her a goodbye paragraph and after that she just didn’t bother replying anymore. No answer is an answer after all. What’s …

My (32M) GF's (26F) BFF (24F) is cool but her boyfriend (26M) is a weird hyper-controlling PITA — I've enjoyed being with my girlfriend now for a few months and I enjoyed meeting her best friend and her best friend's boyfriend initially. We went out for dinner double dates and had some good jokes …

I think I’m (15f) really bad at being in a relationship — i genuinely dont know what to do. My boyfriend says i say sorry too much and the underlying subtext is that it gets on his nerves, he said i dont understand his jokes which was brutal, and honestly th…

I might have a half-brother, and I don't know what to do with that information. — I'm in my mid-30s. My mom is the narcissist, but my dad had his own issues. Alcoholism and neglect. He had his kind moments, too, though. He died when I was fourteen along with my brother. I got a me…

I might have a half-brother, and I don't know what to do with that information. — I'm in my mid-30s. My mom was my primary abuser, but my dad had his own issues. Alcoholism and neglect. He had his kind moments, too, though. He died when I was fourteen along with my brother. I got …

Ndad has gone half-silent and will only reply if I take the initiative. I am worried and I am done. — Hello everyone, I need to vent a bit and some advice is needed. For the last year my relationship with my Ndad has gone very badly. Everything went wrong since I was trying to help him think about hi…

My bf (42M) says I(32F) ruined our relationship by bringing up a small issue. — Hi all! Can you help me out with where this conversation went wrong? I’m hoping I could get some outside perspective on what happened this past evening because it truly left me feeling confused. TL;…

i want to plan a lovely day for my boyfriend’s birthday, but i’m getting overwhelmed — so my partner (25m) and i (25f) have been together for almost a year now (it’ll be a year in a few days). for his first birthday, i made him breakfast, took him out to a pasta making class + dinner a…

Can my fiance be a grandiose/covert narc? Is this behaviour normal? I need your opinions idk what to do anymore — Hi, me(25F) and my fiance (27m) of 4 years have been living together since December. He works in the sea industry and I am an accountant for a big firm. This is a long one . Thanks for the read and fo…

I don’t know how to talk to my mum! — I want to state first, that I love my mum. To an extent. I see her for the woman she is and the horrible childhood and trauma she had to go through. I see the Woman who was abused by father and strugg…

If it's not one thing it's always another. — it's just so draining. I sort one thing out that's causing me to spiral and something else comes along and it all starts up again. I have OCD and even medicated it's so draining. I'm currently extra …

Hi all :-) Does my chart show anything that would lead to my mother not trusting me to be a person, basically? Most people think I’m smart and accomplished but with my mother I seem to get on her nerves without trying. She’ll tell me to remember to save money but will never ever ask if I’m happy. — Many thanks for any insight :-)

Going to start actually journalling these down. My nice night in disturbed by her as soon as she gets home — I'm already filled to the brim with nerves and anxiety about tomorrow. Long story short, I (28F) booked the day off because she wanted to go to this different place for lunch. She always flips like a …

Honeymoon phase 19F 21M — I am in the honeymoon phase right now I think. And honestly? I’m pretty terrified. Everyone says it will end. And that’s okay I guess . I just hope it still is ok when it does. I don’t want to have …

Anyone else physically cannot say some of the things that happened to you? I don't mean nerves or dissociation, since that's different. — I mean your body physically shuts down your ability to speak in some way. You are still present, but you cannot voice the words. For me, it's like my throat freezes and cramps up. It's physically pain…

McKennaii Trip Report — I have taken mushrooms a bunch of times, and always had a positive experience, but recently not been able to find shrooms that would give me a nice visual trip, I got some that felt weak after taking …

First fight (28F, 28M, nearly 2 years, long distance) — My significant other (28M) and I (28F) have been in a long distance relationship since August 2024. We mostly have dates on teleparty twice a week, write letters to each other and occasionally text. R…

Yeah. Several people ended friendships with me for needing time and replying slowly. And I can’t really blame them. If it’s not okay with them, if my communication style is painful for them- then it’s…

Okay,just by that message- i would hear him out. I would be okay to just meet and hang out and see where it goes. But going forward, his actions need to indicate their differences this time. I'm assum…

I think a sandwich method. State the good, the things that need to be worked on, and end it with something positive. I’ve always used this method with everyone. Some people don’t get it despite how cl…

I think you can start by accepting that you won’t like everything about her I think this is one of the biggest relationship myths that we have in modern day relationships. Even people you love the mos…

I completely agree that we're not meant to be alone. I do still get a healthy amount of time spent with others. My friends do visit my town every now and then, and i still regularly spend time with th…

I get it. How much time have you been in this relationship with him ? I ask you this because I think one way to calm your emotions could be thinking something like "Ok, it's not the first time we have…

If someone makes me spiral, I feel like that its a sign of trauma bonding. I'm currently dating a very secure person and I feel completely at ease with her, no hot and cold, just always there regardl…

My brain always knows its not helpful, but my feelings or nerves need time to catchup. The healing takes time. Its important to feel, not suppress or run away, let it happen. It's like venom coursi…

Not necessarily a rant but... I've been heavily considering moving towards fwb situations. I'm wondering if that will be easier on the nerves. The lack of commitment seems enticing, but I do need some…

Nerves. I can't remember the last time i've rejected someone I dated, so I'm having a hard time deciphering how i'm feeling. I had a great first date with a girl last weekend and since then we've conn…

Yes!!! Even if texting isn't your favorite form of communication I think it's reasonable to want a little beforehand. I think it helps ease nerves. 

If Drew is medicated - maybe ask him to skip the adderall before dinner. Stimulants combined with nerves can cause excessive talking.

Interesting! It may be that as it's been awhile since he has been dating he's told me so Im sure nerves are playing a part. But he also says he feels so comfortable talking to me, so I think he also d…

Never try to modify! Waste of time and annoys the other person. I suspect it’s nerves, because I can be like that. I think I need to run the show… But if he doesn’t check the boxes… There’s always m…

How are you feeling about how the games night went?  I think it's a little chicken and egg, they need time to get to know him, you need time to get through the nerves of introducing him etc...

I invited a man over with the mutual intention of hooking up. We've met 3 times before and hooked up last time too. The first time we had sex(3rd meeting) it was disappointing but I thought it could b…

Had a "date" on VDay for the first time in ages. It was with a guy who I've been kinda sorta talking to for awhile now, but the more I talk/hang out with him I would much rather be friends but we didn…

Is sex the only thing that’s making you doubt compatibility? If you’re unsure of your compatibility and the sex is bad, peace out. If the only problem is the sex, I think it depends upon why the sex…

It might be okay especially if you struggle with conversation and nerves. But generally first dates are a great opportunity to talk to your date and figure out if they're a match with you, your values…

Went for coffee and a walk... walking calms my nerves and then you aren't starting each other down. A walk in a park is also free.

A walk is perfect first date! Bonus points for gardens. You’re moving so you can shake off any nerves. I am a high-energy person by nature though, so coffee or a meal as the first date just sounds aw…

I've been on dating apps for 3 years now. I have got a total of three matches on three apps combined and managed to go on just one date. I don't get what this means. The one date that I have been on w…

I'm... just disappointed. I met someone back in the fall and was very quickly head-over-heels. For background, I don't date often after getting out of a very long-term relationship a few years ago, an…

Thanks. The music does help with my social anxiety, but even then, it's still hard to calm my nerves and think straight when talking to a woman I'm attracted to. I don't really know if it's a good ide…

I think that's just part of putting yourself out there like that. The nerves, I mean. Like you can be a secure person and still have that feeling in the beginning stages of dating. I'm just saying it'…

Had an amazing first date. All those nerves for nothing. Everything was smooth and easy flowing. Immediate attraction, easy to talk to, easy to sit in silence with, kind, attentive, inquisitive, eas…

Ranting about how my fearful avoidant traits are always fighting each other 😞 Though I’d say I’m leaning more towards avoidant. But sometimes the thought of “hmm… maybe I’m missing the point” strike…

I don’t see how that could possibly eliminate the virus. It lives in the nerves, and only shows up on the skin when replicating.

Same! I love first dates for the exact same reasons, I always have a good time because I’m a good time! Second dates are when my nerves set in because they’ve already heard my whole standup comedy rou…

Usually I offer my number after a first date, if I want to meet again. Two women offered me their before we set up anything (one didn't translate to anything, the other still is on holiday). Follow…

Yep! Agreed!!!! I’ve only had one guy offer a coffee date as first date and it was so awkward I felt like I was at a business meeting. The atmosphere of a restaurant or bar matters a lot in first me…

Deep in my enneagram 4 feelings today and wanting to make a playlist with songs that capture those highs and lows of dating. What are some people's faves? A few I have so far: - Too Good To Be True b…

His drunk friend made a joke about him "facing the hairy ax wound tonight" and even though he told his friend to shut up, I couldn't date a man with lame friends. A man's obnoxious friends have actual…

For the chakra meditation I would visualize red first drawing energy in from all over with my breath, concentrating it to each corresponding region as I moved up. At each step I would try to visualize…

Went on two first dates this week. One with a tall,masculine, strong, quiet type... conversation was more difficult but he kissed me goodnight and the chemistry was off the charts. He asked if we coul…

Ugh! I know how you feel, and I feel awful for you!! My own brother used to do this to me all the time, and believe me, it gets old REALLY fast. I bet he does it because he knows it gets on your nerve…

There's something called irritable larynx or chronic cough that sounds like what you're describing. It's a diagnosis of exclusion, which means a doctor has to rule out any other medical causes (like l…

Yea I don’t know. I think everyone has something that bothers them. Some people are more tolerant than others. But everyone has that one thing that just grates on their nerves.

No. I got sick on the day of surgery and had to delay it for a month. Surgery was successful but I developed complications and ended up staying in the ICU for six months on a ventilator learning to …

My husband has had a chronic cough that started about 7 years ago. He tried everything- allergy meds and rounds of allergy shots, Zyrtec, Claritin, Flonase, albuterol, a chronic cough study… he recent…

I'm the exact same way. I am a complete ball of nerves in my daily life, but I'm totally fine with entities moving around my house. Even the nightmares malicious entities will send me. Meh. If anythi…

Thanks for the reply Mayascape. You gave good advice here. She is a bartender at a spot I play music at once a week, so I have to see her. I dont really know her at all, rarely ever get a chance to ta…

Right now, I mostly feel anger. I felt a lot better after messaging her though. He gave me the phone to message her but I did it from my own phone. She did not respond because she sounds kind of men…

The one who said ED, gay, or asexual? Yeah.  My experience with something like this: dated a guy for a few months. There WAS some physical affection, cuddling, hand holding, some kissing..... but ne…

Well, the eve is finally here! I (31m) have my first date of 2026 tomorrow afternoon… and it was set up by a matchmaker. For those who’ve been following along, last month I [signed up with a local sta…

An [update to this](https://old.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/1rauqa5/daily_sticky_thread_for_rants_raves_celebrations/o6ooj2v/?context=3): I'm cutting things off and moving on. I just can't …

I would highly recommend acupuncture sessions. I was in similar situation. Took 4-5 session spaced over 6 weeks and it calmed my nerves well enough to help me think about the situation and at least pr…

Ok I’ve never told anyone this but here it goes…The first time I had sex, I called my boyfriend my brothers name. That was 23ish years ago. My boyfriend and I are now married and he likes to remind me…

They’re the personification of “rules for thee but not for me.” I hate to armchair diagnose people, but I think I can be forgiven in here. I think on top of being a narc, my stepdad is autistic. He w…

Ditto. Been there. 20 year marriage. Finally separated and I can't believe I didn't sooner. The longer we're apart the more I see what a massive mistake I made. I was 23. I actually remember vividly s…