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I’ve noticed a pattern over the last year. I meet someone → we get along → good conversation, good chemistry And then 2–3 dates in, it comes up: Kids. Marriage. Lifestyle. Where we want to live. …

Bf of 14 months hasn’t said I love you — My bf (35M) and I (33F) met December 2024 on a dating app and became exclusive immediately after our first date. On our first few dates he asked what I was looking for and I said I was looking for som…

42M. Do these things basically disqualify me entirely? — I'm 42, Male, home owner almost half way paying off the mortgage, university post-graduate education, full time job in retail middle management that I actually enjoy doing, a bunch of mostly solitary …

tried dating sites at 41/42 and only get messages from 20 year olds — i'm a 42 year old female, never married, no kids, live alone. i'm chubby, have a shaved head, and am covered in tattoos... yes, its a look that tends to limit the kinds of responses i've gotten when t…

The quiet house is the hardest part and nobody warned me — Divorce has been final for about 3 months now and I think Im starting to realize what hits me the hardest. Its not the legal stuff. Its not even the arguments with my ex anymore. Its coming home to a …

Sister (29F) has not invited me (32F) to be a part of her wedding. Does she not want me to come? — My little sister is getting married this year. Backstory: we grew up with abusive parents. I spent my childhood shielding her from abuse. When I got older and moved out I made sure to take good care …

Great guy, but after 4 months, there's just no physical touch — I've been dating a great guy for about the last four months and we're a good fit in several different ways. We're both in our 40s, no kids, no previous marriages and have lived all over the world. We'…

***I m 40+ F.. Never married, no kids. — Never married, never lived with a man for no more than few days, like I haven't done budgeting for couples groceries, no plans where to live,what to eat or asked a man ' where did the salary go?? ' et…

My wife keeps helping her sister and husband — Hello, I need some advice, I'm a male of 45 yo, and my wife 44 yo, live a good life together with our dogs, no kids, because we got married at the end of our 30's and realized we didn't want kids. …

How to begin the “healing” — STBXW (33) and I (M33) had been having issues in our marriage since December. She eventually opened up and said she feels she doesn’t love me anymore. That broke me, but it felt like something we coul…

Divorce mad em realize how much of fatherhood I was taking for granted — A few months ago, I had a moment that hit me right in the gut. I just dropped off my kids to go back to their mom's house. I came home and the house was empty. Quiet. No noise. No yelling. No kids ru…

Which planet and/or aspect should I focus on and work with to remedy my inability to form lasting intimate relationships and friendships? — As you can see I have a T-square between Mars, Venus and Saturn and I have Pluto on the Ascendant opposite Chiron. I'm 56, not married, no kids, I only had one boyfriend in my early twenties for about…

I ran into someone who wronged me and almost lost my cool. How to handle this? — I am going to try to keep this brief. I had a hard time making friends as an adult. My best friend passed away in high school, and I know I romanticize a lot (as you will learn) but I swear I have ne…

Can you go back to a relationship after they cheated? — I’m assuming most people will say no, but right now i am trying to get over this by thinking maybe in the future if he gets himself together. It was a first time cheating scandal but he did it for ove…

Nervous system issue? — Hi all. I’m 42F married no kids and have a plethora of “issues.” I have had POI since I was 17, then thyroid issues, then anxiety and depression. I’ve recently suffered a loss of someone close to me. …

Where do you even begin? — Divorced. No kids. Thrown off my game. Trying to stay afloat. Wouldn’t mind some companionship again. I’m in a semi-rural area that I didn’t grow up in. The demographic skews old and the professional …

Is it OK to text someone months after things fizzled out? — 40f here, divorced finalized over the summer last year, no kids. I haven’t dated since I was 24, and never online dated. Boy, is it bad! Anyway. I met someone on Hinge back in November. Two dates,…

Dating at 25, no kids; checkers. Dating at 40, kids. Rubik’s Cube. — Am I right?

(F 33) w/ (F 31) been together for 4 years. Am I tripping for nothing or am I making sense? — I’m F33 and in 2023 (I had been with her for about a year already) I had a psychosis, the psychosis lasted 2 months in which I told her she should go back home because she lived in Utah and I couldn’t…

Don’t love husband and never have — using a burner for obvious reasons. I (F40) thought I would grow to love my husband (M37). I married him bc he was kind and had the means with which to take care of me and give me a secure life. I sti…

Dating someone recently divorced who still sees his ex monthly — reasonable or red flag? — I (33F) have been dating a guy (33M) for about 6 months now. Overall, things have been really good — it’s been easy, calm, and we’ve built a genuinely strong connection. He’s consistent, thoughtful, p…

Getting help at 18 — TW: mentions of abuse(physical, emotional), self harm sorry if I overshare but Ive recently gotten help at 18, ive recently turned 18 and I havent even gotten my highschool diploma yet but i graduat…

Dating over 40 in NYC, am I a unicorn or jackass? (Still deciding.) — I’ve reached the point in dating where I genuinely can’t tell if I’m doing something wrong, or if everyone is just collectively… exhausted. But here's the truth, I'm told that I am unicorn amongst the…

Fresh Start — My wife (28F) has told me (28M) that she wants a divorce. We have been co-existing in the same house since January and things haven’t gotten any better. Her issue stems from emotional connection. She …

40, divorced 3 years, but feel like I'll never find a partner again. What would you do if you were me? — Location: Hong Kong Age: 40 Status: divorced 3 years, no kids Money: net worth \~US$6M (no debt), few furniture stores and a rental property. High income but stress level is insane. I could retire…

40, single, and have never been married. I feel like I'll never find a partner again. What would you do if you were me? — I’m 40, female, live in San Jose, CA. Never been married, no kids. Net worth around $5M. I own my own business, have a house I live in, a couple rental properties, and drive a Mercedes E300 nothing to…

Putting in boundaries with my mother’s boyfriend … — So.. I’m in my late 30s and my mom has a boyfriend that has had rockiness in their relationship. I don’t live near them and I’ve never wanted to form a close relationship with either . I’m polite but …

How can I (25m) get feelings back for my girlfriend (23f) of 4 years? — On the weekend, I (25m) was distant to my partner (23f) and have been feeling like I dont want this anymore. Instead of holding my emotions in, I decided to explain how unhappy I was and lost all mot…

In desperate need of replies as distractions please, I can’t take the pain — **The affair / cheating:** * Affair Partner (AP) is a friend he knew before me through his ex-gf, they reconnected \~2019 * I’ve known they’ve been on phone calls together throughout end of 2020, som…

I feel like a divorce is going to happen. — First ever post, bear with me. 39 male, 2 kids. Its hard to put into words and feels embarrassing to type this out. But, I feel like a divorce is coming my way. We've spoken openly about things, feel…

How can you tell the difference between the honeymoon stage ending and the relationship ending 24F and 25M — I 24F have been with my boyfriend 25M for about a year and a half now. When we first started dating he was so very sweet and excited to be with me. Even people around him were describing him as being …

Confused about divorce timeline + mixed signals after traumatic relationship — I’ll try to keep this as concise as possible. • Married Oct 2023 after a ~3 years of dating (both from conservative families who weren’t privy to the history) • Lived together ~2.5 months after m…

40F. How do you answer “did you not want kids?” Question? It just didn’t happen for me but I find this so dumb and rude given I’m single. — I get asked this a lot at work, parties, etc. I get asked if I’m married or have kids and I say no to both with bewildered looks (I think bc I’m attractive and own my home and have a career) and they …

enough is enough — I'm sure many can relate. I'm at that all too familiar place of being angry with myself for getting to the place I currently find myself. I'm in the worst shape of my life.. embarrassed to even wear a…

Attorney only for division of assets - is it a good call? — Doing research before pulling the trigger and wondering if I could file the paperwork by myself and have an attorney only to do the alimony / division of property. Our situation is very basic, no ki…

My [32F] husband [37M] asked for naked pics from another woman [37F] — Reposted from 2022 to include update. I (f32) have been married to my husband (37) for 6 years, together for 7. The last year has been a rough patch for marital and life problems. About mid Aug 2022…

How often to help people and how often say no? — Hi! I try to watch if Im not becoming selfish. I rather dont need nothing from people I have no kids and learned to be independent. Only person that gave me a lot is my mother she not only gave me co…

Thoughts? Advice needed — Hey gang. 30MTF trans gal here and I know its the end of the road. My spouse and I have been married 5 years and one week, together for 7 years. Unfortunately I'm filling due to verbal and emotional a…

Does the length of time spent together matter a lot in a relationship? Is it possible to be together for over ten years but not love each other that much? — tldr: We’ve been together for a long time—over 10 years. She refused married, 30' but no kids yet. \---------- She lives with me and my family, everything is normal, and my family loves her. (My par…

Divorce post 2 years later. — \*\*\*\*\*NO KIDS\*\*\*\*\* It’s kinda wild where life can take you after a divorce. I remember posting in here two years ago about my life falling apart. I knew I had to sell the house, my truck, l…

Moving out = seperation? — So, my husband (m44) cheated on me (f30) at massage parlours multiple times (at least 4) and tried the typical trickle truth. We have been married for almost 2 years, dating for 5 years before marriag…

Should I get a divorce ? — Should I get a divorce? Need honest advice I’m trying to figure out if I’m overthinking or if these are real red flags. I’ve wanted to join the Air Force as an officer for a long time. I already hav…

We met in the orphanage as children and got married years later. We made it big in life. But something is very wrong? 42F and 43M? — My husband was left in the trash, I was taken by CPS, both babies of under-age S- workers. I was 8, he was 9 when we met. We became inseparable, bf, giving each other affection. Two years later, they…

I don’t know what to do — My husband and I have been separated since right before Christmas Eve. We need to get divorced so we can both move on with our lives. No kids, but we have a house we only owned for a year and a half …

Anyone go through a regression after feeling like they were starting to move on? — My life blew up summer 2024 when I found my (35F) husband was having an affair. We worked on it for a few months and he walked out with no notice or discussion. Things warmed up last summer and then h…

I M40 found out my wife F40 of 10yrs has been cheating on me. Do I tell her other man’s wife? — Recently found out my wife has been sleeping with an old high school bf. We’ve been married for 10yrs but have no kids. He lives in a different state, also married with two kids. They both were at a w…

Just found out my (33F) husband (33M) has another kid. Where do we go from here? — My husband & I (both 33) have been married for two years & have two children (2 & 4). Recently a past fling text him out of the blue & told him he’s most likely the father of her 7 year old son. She g…

Still learning my way in dating — Thought online dating for 40+ would be straight forward — oh boy was I wrong. Just ended a relationship with a 43M, doctor, never been married and no kids. Serial dater with the longest relationship …

I've been on the fence for a long time in the past. For a while I've felt like I was not ready emotionally for children being afraid that I might not fully understand the commitment it takes. Partly a…

im 29m and i am single with no kids and never been married and most people my age are married, recently divorced or are single parents and I don't want to date someone who's been recently divorced bec…

Dual income no kids!

I am married (no kids) but we are both very curious and active with many interests/hobbies and enjoy a LOT of time and space to do our own thing, travel independently, etc. We like spending time toge…

*up top I want to say that I know this is ethically wrong and I accept my share of responsibility in this* I started seeing a guy last fall, just a fun/casual thing. On new year he told me he is get…

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your standards stay the same, your dating pool just gets smaller so you end up getting more confirmation bias. from my point of view as a man, the no kids, don't want kids dating pool gets rapidly sm…

if there were no kids involved, there are absolutely no reasons to stay in contact.

Male, approaching 40, no kids, never been married. We out here.

It’s 100% worth having a conversation about it early on, that’s for sure. I’ve heard from female friends who are hardline childfree and from others who want kids that they’ve run into situations where…

32 no kids, never married. Although I wished that was different, it’s not been easy in the dating world

I've recently learned that that me never attending any wedding in my late 30s is weird. So yes, never married, no kids, strongly leaning into childfree concept.

Peeps with no kids - have you considered having kids later than 39? Have you considered adoption at all? One of my anxieties stems from the thought of having a child later in life and if that’s self…

I’m 39 with no kids but open to having them. Generally the women/people I’m attracted to don’t want kids though so we’ll see.

I've noticed Hinge will show 3-5 new people every now and again. Even my standouts that I can only send roses to are either empty or only have 1 person in them. 😂🤣 I know I'm fishing in a small pon…

I'm in the same boat, at the end of dating apps and I have the same filters, someone arou d my age, no kids or at least no young kids, that doesn't want any kids, and same political values. I've dated…

Here's the thing, I realize this may be old-school, but I do think putting effort into your appearance shows the person you're seeing that they are worth it. I've been with my partner now for almost …

I posted this in the other thread from yesterday but it got locked before I could respond to comments so I'm reposting here with my original post and follow up response: Im trying my best to be posit…

That's to start proceedings, not finish them. My divorce was about 3 years start to finish, including the required separation period. No kids, alimony, or home to split either. The process can be very…

6 months after separation is too soon. I couldn't even talk to other men until 1 year. Even though my separation was a clean cut, no communication except via lawyers, no kids, no properties, or common…

To add another anecdote to the "it's all relative and context matters" pile: My husband and I separated after only 2 years of being married (and another 5 together before that). We continued to cohabi…

I(m) went on a few dates with someone when I was separated about 6 months but not filed for divorce yet. No kids are shared properties. I was 100% not ready to see new people, but we met at a party,…

Original copy of post by u/Bastard_of_Brunswick: I'm 42, Male, home owner almost half way paying off the mortgage, university post-graduate education, full time job in retail middle management that I…

Brother, if you have no kids and no sort of religious convictions about marriage, I would get out if I was you

I was in Dr Laberge's forum way back. The group was small, the field not well known, so there were no kids. (BTW, kids are welcome here. A small group tends to stand out, but most are completely cool…

I’m in my early 30s, single, no kids and pretty social. I typically do 2/3 social activities during the week - a board game night, a video game night, and open gyms or league games for one of my favor…

I’m gonna be honest here brother - you are young, no kids. Leave this woman, keep going to therapy, and become the man that attracts women who value you. The only reason she even told you is because…

Original copy of post by u/Im_not_a_librarian: i'm a 42 year old female, never married, no kids, live alone. i'm chubby, have a shaved head, and am covered in tattoos... yes, its a look that tends to…

The no disposable income at all might be a bit of a downer. I don’t want a wallet- I can pay my own way for dates and things, but I do like to go to an occasional concert, meal or trip. The whole poin…

I felt the same way when I found out my ex husband is dating the woman he claimed was just a friend during our marriage. It took me a couple months to get back on track but I really spiraled for a min…

I'm guessing here, but I imagine that since your girls were best friend for such a long time, your partner must have known (and been friendly with?) your late husband? Is it possible he's dealing with…

When I went back in the stone age there was the Chinatown crowd that was poorer, mostly Cantonese speaker (That right there is a clue, there was one Chinatown). There were richer Taiwanese kids who li…

How slow everything was! Mine took 4 years. No kids, straightforward assets split, just achingly slow. If something was continued, it took months to get another hearing. I was beginning to think I w…

All the single men with no kids in my area are catholic or Christian. Unfortunately for me, I am Buddhist/agnostic. There was one guy I was interested in, but he ghosted me because he was looking fo…

Sorry this happened to you but if you have no kids with her that would keep you in contact with her then block her on everything (phone, social media, etc). Complete your divorce, move out and get on …

Thanks. Yeah no kids so its simplified. We do have pets which sucks cause they feel it and are going to get shafted but its still better than little humans. You are right about that cutting her off …

People (you included) can speculate about her motives forever, but she alone knows her reasons or desires, hell, sometimes not even her (your wife or anyone's partner for that matter). My wife, well e…

My first divorce was straightforward. No kids, no significant assets. Easy divorce. I fell in love again. He was in the military, and it was easiest for me to move with him if we were married. We ha…

I was with my ex for almost 8 years. Despite having no money, no property, and no kids, our divorce was terrible and took well over a year. That said, I think going forward my view was always wanting …

We are all On different squares in the game of Life. I said the same thing when I was getting separated. Never going to marry again. Had a very nice year focusing on me and my kids. For the first …

Nope! She was for about a year, but she lost her nerve. She was closer with him because until this incident he had never abused her like he did me. To my knowledge he didn't hit her again, but I belie…

Just let ppl know that. I tell the men I'm interest in there is no marriage, no moving in and no kids at here....no matter how long we're together that will not change.

No kids weddings are so fucking dumb.

I had a very similar situation and did the same thing! Destination wedding with no kids allowed (no babies, no exceptions) even though I was breastfeeding my small baby. The family member (groom) re…

Original copy of post by u/Greedy_Flamingo1571: I've been dating a great guy for about the last four months and we're a good fit in several different ways. We're both in our 40s, no kids, no previous…

Men who show authenticity, personal growth, self reflection, and emotional maturity. While that’s challenging on a profile, and actions speak louder than words, if that is conveyed through their write…

Dating shouldn’t be viewed in strictly black-and-white terms. One issue still a problem among people in their 40s and beyond is that many fail to recognize amber flags or even red flags early on, and …

Get remit sethi’s book “I will teach you to be rich” and get on the same page. Money isn’t everything, just because you’re the breadwinner now doesn’t mean you always will be, burdens shift over time.…

Honestly that makes A LOT of sense. In my case I was with my high school sweetheart for 12 years. Never in my life did I think he would cheat on me. To make long story short in December I caught him h…

He had a love marriage when he was 25-26 which lasted not even a year as the first wife started showing psychotic behaviour (seeing ghosts, dark energies whatsoever). Thankfully no kids in that marria…