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I'm so drawn to "difficult" people, people who are hard to get along with. My nervous system just...I want to say "loves" them, but years of therapy in, I know it's not that, it's just that they feel …

This is a support sub. Be kind to each other. — Almost everyone who comes here is here because they are going through a very painful and difficult time. We're not all at our best. If you go into someone's topic, remember that they came here askin…

Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means) — I last posted a variation of this a little over 5 years ago. We're a little overdue for a repost. --- You know how every Uber rating is right on the verge of 5 stars unless something's particularly …

Hello, I have just recently started with Joseph Murphy books, I have a question. — So I find it difficult to repeat certain affirmations while falling asleep, to keep repeating 'Subconscious Mind' feels off, just not comfortable for some reason, has anyone tried naming your subconsc…

The song “I love you, I’m sorry” by Gracie Abrams makes me think of the POV of a DA — I'm DA, and I just listened to this song. It feels like a DA talking about how they sabotaged a good relationship, and they regret it. This line particularly hits: "I like to slam doors closed, trust…

Can we talk about how bad the current Shopify Admin UI is? — How has this continued to be a thing, and how did this get approved internally? The Shopify Admin UI is a complete mess. It's genuinely hard to believe this shipped — and worse, that it's still the c…

How is the job market right now for jobs in web/product design, ui ux, front end development, etc? — Hi all, I work in digital marketing, but am getting burnt out and am trying to learn web design and build a portfolio. Long story short, what I enjoy most about my current job in digital marketing has…

How do you guys make content/creatives for your ad campaigns? — Spending an average of $800/day on meta ads for the past couple months. What’s increasingly getting harder for us is making creatives and testing it. We don’t test a lot currently. 2-3 of our ads have…

Freelancers – the only person that can evaluate your pricing is the buyer (not Reddit) — *(TL;DR at bottom)* Questions like this pop up on this subreddit every few weeks: > How much should I charge for a basic website? Or: > Is $500 for a single-page Figma design a good price? ...and…

My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote — Hey All, A few months ago, I shared my story here (original Reddit post in comments) about starting an IT consultancy business in the Netherlands with a friend right after graduation. At that time, w…

AWS network automation — I find myself in a funny position to redo part of the network in AWS. We have two parts: one is newer and uses transit gateways that are centralized in a single account, the other is older and vpc pee…

Offering Options to offshore engineer. I will not promote — I have a startup. obviously. anyhow, my company is in Canada. I have this developer in Vietnam, and he is pretty good! I pay him decently for his hours, but as a founder, I feel like i want to offer …

New to SEO and Trying to save my local business — Hi Everyone! I run a local companion care service for seniors and I’m staring down what feels like an impossible mountain with SEO. I’ve watched countless YouTube tutorials, learned a bit about on-si…

Google getting tricked by trash sites — There are two sites I've been seeing all over google news recently motorcyclesports .net and motociclismo .pt. both are owned by the same company and they are clearly using tools to steal other websit…

DevSecOps / AI CTF today - Ctf.punksecurity.co.uk — Our CTF runs today, with entry level and difficult challenges across DevSecOps and AI. No cost to play, some prizes for the best teams. CTFs are little competitive puzzle based games designed to exp…

SEO Basics Done But Not Ranking — I've been working on optimizing a page for a keyword with good search volume and low difficulty according to Keyword Planner, but it's nowhere in the top 100 results. I've done all the basics: * Met…

Why do people in LOA communities ALWAYS go to Reddit for their problems when JM advised against that? — Hello everyone. I've been into JM's (and NG's) teaching for quite some time. I enjoy it thoroughly and dipped my toes into the subreddits, so hence why I'm here instead of the NG subreddit since I wo…

Does cold email still works in 2025 ? — Hi there, I'm a beginner to freelancing, and I make landing page designs, currently I haven't landed any clients yet, I've tried cold DM for a while but got no results, that's why I thought to start m…

Ibm Event notification question — Hello everyone, I am having difficulties to configure my alerts with different templates. Maybe can someone help me? In Event-notifications i have created a Source. In this sources i have 2 …

Helm & Argo CD on EKS: Seeking Repo-Based YAML Lab Ideas and Training Recommendations — I am having difficulties untangling the connection between helm and argo cd when it comes to understanding their interconnection. I have a ready eks cluster for testing and i would like to make some l…

Business Idea — I'm thinking about selling airline tickets to people from different countries, comparing prices with mine. If mine is cheaper, they can buy from me. Currently, I'm having difficulty with marketing and…

Best low-effort analytics tools for Shopify optimization? I'm drowning in data... — I'm struggling to make sense of all the analytics data from my store. The native Shopify reports give me tons of information, but I'm finding it difficult to determine what metrics I should actually f…

How hard is it to build a dynamic web scrapper that scrapes hundreds of sites? — I've never done web scrapping so I'm really not sure how difficult it is to do this. I'm trying to scrape multiple web sites for job data, possibly hundreds. I'm just not sure how feasible this would …

I'm lucky enough to have turned my podcast into a full time job - here's what I wish I had known — Hey all! Love this community. I'm really blessed to have turned my podcast into a full time job, getting over 200k downloads across 15 episodes upon launch. I'm working on more seasons, but I have had…

If you are new to online stores, does having someone to guide you make things easier? — Has anyone here started an online store and learned everything while running it? I went through this myself. From domain and hosting to product listings and shipping, everything felt new and a little…

I created this cool game in react. It's called MystiCrafter — I created this cool game using React. If you know alchemistry or ever heard of the term, then you would love it. It's essential a puzzle game about combining base elements to create new ones. The ga…

Your tools and tips for better team alignement? (I will not promote) — Hi, Was reflecting of what worked and what did not in my previous ventures and I think team alignement was a major issue...no suprises here, to me it's normal as it's known to difficult but we alway…

Your tools and tips for better team alignement? — Hi, Was reflecting of what worked and what did not in my previous ventures and I think team alignement was a major issue...no suprises here, too me it's normal as it's difficult but we always struggl…

Pre launch marketing for gaming tool on Steam (I will not promote) — Hi all, i am building an AI notifications filter and creative visual display for gamers and streamers, to be launched on steam in 3 months time. I wanted to ask how folks do their pre-launch marketing…

Do push/pull dynamics happen even when you’re not participating in them? — I (F, 32, originally AP, now definitely more secure) have just gone through a very confusing dating experience. 3 months ago I started seeing this man (34 met on Hinge). He started off very interested…

Which Web builder should I use .. — Long Story. I wanted to have a website of my own sharing my experience(I am a VLSI Engineer). Started to learn basic html/css/js There was no motivation to learn felt very difficult to reproduce m…

Window + Door installation business — Does anyone have some experience or some insight on running a window and door installation business? - revenue per employee - revenue to SDE - top line / bottom profit - any difficulty surroundi…

Some guidance would be appreciated. Should I focus on a Linux certification first like RHCSA/LFCS first or the Kubernetes CKA. More details below. — Hi everyone. So recently i finished my a devops certification from a bootcamp and have since been spending time working on my own portfolio project. my project consists of: \- a frontend and backend…

Built Artificial Intelligence driven accounting prototype for small businesses — struggling to find beta users. Any advice?(Tried LinkedIn as well) — I’ve recently developed a prototype of an Artificial Intelligence powered accounting tool tailored specifically for small businesses — the kind that typically have just one in-house accountant or rely…

Attachment Theory & Free Will? — Dear all, I'm very intrigued by the relationship between attachment theory (&, I supposed, any psychological theory) & free-will. They seem to me to slightly conflict. Certainly, it is a difficult p…

antidepressants and avoidant attachment — i (22f, FA) came off venlafaxine (SNRI) about two months ago after being on it for 5+ years for depression and anxiety. predictably a lot of stuff is coming up, OCD and BDD symptoms, anxiety is a bit …

DAE feel like they want to be in a relationship but don’t really know how to? Intimacy problems? — I mean in terms of intimacy. When I think about being in a relationship, the concept of having someone in my corner that I can cuddle with, do things with, nurture and support and generally love—that …

Self-soothe tips during ruptures? — I am the anxious partner, and my husband is the avoidant partner. He is also an addict, which has been traumatic in our relationship and in my trust in him. He is currently sober and working recovery.…

Anxiety only triggered in romantic relationship, how to manage it? — Hi everyone, I’m a 26M and fairly new to relationships. I’ve noticed my anxious attachment only really shows up in my romantic relationship, not with friends, family, or colleagues. With them I feel …

A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic. — We are seeing an increase of activity from people outside of experiencer circles in threads as time has moved on and more and more people are starting to understand there really is a "there there" and…

How to deal with triggering situations — Life has been so rough lately when living with anxious attachment in a relationship. Everyday is a struggle. We had an explosive argument yesterday which left me even more on edge than normal. To put …

Global Policy Journal: “Don’t look up?“ – Why it is past time for serious holistic research into Unidentified Anomalous Phenomena — Karin Austin, Michael Bohlander and Kimberly S. Engels have contributed an excellent article to the Global Policy Journal. Two of these people I've met personally and they are experiencers who are doi…

Being DA but really wanting kids — Ever since I was 5, I’ve known I’ve wanted kids. I spent my teen years fantasising about having them, and felt like having kids was the best thing ever. I love the idea of caring for kids and helping …

Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…

AnxAtt healing group: Meeting #1! — **Thank you to everyone who joined our first Anxious Attachment Healing Group meeting just now.** I really appreciate it. It was a great conversation with a thoughtful group of people from around th…

FA breakup & prolonged limbo - does avoidance calcify over time or can it still reverse? — I’m hoping to hear from people who’ve been through something similar, FAs, or anyone who has opinions on this. I was in a 2 year relationship with someone I later realized is fearful avoidant (I didn…

Anxious Attachment Help — I'm a 44 M and feel like an emotionally secure relationship is impossible. What's helped you heal? I feel like everything in my life has been taken from me and have a difficult time finding motivation…

Trading book recommendation! For those trying to fix attachment issues. — “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” -by Lindsay C. Gibson, PHD This book helped me realize that, at my core, I struggle with dating and attachment because it’s hard for me to comprehend …

What is my core wound when I don't worry what others think about me, I'm not afraid of being alone, but still no boundaries with closest people — I want to heal my wounds and spot and correct the false truths that I have about myself and others, but I'm finding it quite difficult. It is because it seems to me that I lack some essential traits o…

"Love bombing" and anxious attachment — At tonight's Anxious Attachment Healing Group meeting, we read the following reading: **1. “Love bombing” and anxious attachment**  “Love bombing” is a pattern of excessive, intense affection and at…

A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…

Hello I just had the weirdest dream and I don't know how to look up my specific type of dream and was so shocked I decided to come here and write. I remember going to sleep around 12:30pm after wakin…

I actually like Neville for his psychological interpretations of the bible. Joseph Murphy is amazing too because his books are easy to understand and very practical. I do find most of Nevilles teachin…

>Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using sle…

I’ve read all Nevilles books several times over, but I’ll check out the lecture you’re referring to. About my successes, I manifested more money than I had ever seen before. Prior to that, I thought…

>About my successes, I manifested more money than I had ever seen before. Prior to that, I thought I’d always be broke. I even had to take a screenshot of my bank balance to remind myself of that amaz…

I can’t wait to read all of this information! I must sleep for work, but tomorrow I will read! I tried to AP last night and just ended up falling asleep.. I can fall asleep with in 30 seconds. So I…

I was neglected from birth till, well, now, and have CPTSD for 28479227392 reasons related to my parents and to other experiences. I don't think focusing on blame is useful. I can't blame my one paren…

a) law of assumption, not law of belief. And where did you get the other descriptions from? I've been on Neville sub for a while, literally noone describes the law in those words or speak in a spiritu…

This is so true!!!!!! Learned from a very difficult experience. The way is to drag yourself through the hurt and despair and rid them from your lives. They WILL COME BACK if they want to, but don’t ev…

sharing recent experience and soliciting feedback from the experienced people here... I live in Phoenix, AZ but have close friends in Richmond, VA. On this particular journey, I had a vivid experien…

It’s difficult when there is something you share with the person though, like children. You’re involved to some capacity and you can see how they are doing in all aspects of life - relationships, fina…

Is it possible that a lucid dream can become so real, its extremely difficult to get out?

Hi Ralumarian35 On Moonbeam's instructions, the mod team has decided to ban you for 4 months. From your post history, it is clear that you've read, thought about and understood the posts in the index…

Thanks for your reply! Roughly how long did it take for your eye colour to change? Seeing as it’s such a deep-seated belief you have to change, was it a difficult mission?

Ahh words! Jokes aside:TY for the response! Personally I am saddened at the new rules as I feel phone addiction (and by extension pron accessibility) is a prevalent issue, and one worthy of r/Decidin…

1. That doesnt disprove anything. It just means it may be more difficult. That's like saying mindfulness doesn't work because some people have ADHD.  2. Decent point but keep in mind some scientist …

Okay logic and science- so your RAS reticular activating system is basically the minds way of filtering and processing the insurmountable data that it takes in from the environment 24/7 as well as pro…

I have many, many personal anecdotes that prove our beliefs create reality. Some goals/desires achieved are beyond the realm of mere coincidence and far exceed a free cup of coffee. My response to th…

Just found this sub and consider it a safe place. My mother is a narcisist and my father is just there. I suffer from complex-ptsd from emotional neglect, and verbal,emotional abuse. I just recently…

I am in a similar position to you OP. I've been seeing my fiancée for over 2 years. We live separately due to circumstances at her end, and we see each other roughly once a week, usually at weekends…

It is extremely difficult to *start* the healing process while in a relationship as you would be required to balance other factors (is the other party willing to work too? What is their level of healt…

I am unsure why. It's quite a common topic in psychology. And yeah, even better that you're doing it during a difficult period, as well as observing yourself doing it. A breakup is still a loss, an…

It was difficult untill last summer when I joined a men’s group, and got some feedback to my story… at the same time I was deeply committed to learning about avoidant’s and how they manage (or more to…

It helped me to cut out some toxic family members. One of the elements that fed my anxious attachment was that I had low self esteem. I worked really hard to build that up, but it was difficult to m…

To answer: They will escalate negative behavior towards you if you’re not respecting their distance or wishes for disengagement. I once told an ex, “If you keep staying with me I will treat you worse …

As a female FA, I have felt when dating that many men expected me to lead the emotional parts of the relationship which is difficult for FAs. I worked through the shame I felt about that in therapy. T…

I agree with this. Even fearful avoidant men that lean a little more anxious will still put the lion's share of the emotional labor onto the women even if they tend to be slightly more vulnerable wi…

Even if passing your driving test wasn't strictly a manifestation, treat it as your success and remind yourself of it sometimes. In moments of doubt, I sometimes say "I know what I saw".  SP is diff…

I know this is difficult to do, but my advice, as an anxious who's moving towards secure, would be to stop texting and calling. It's only been a few days and you know that he was having phone problems…

You probably overwhelmed him. Even for someone secure (taking him at his word that that is what he was), it can happen. It's happened to me, and it was difficult to get across in any kind of wording t…

honestly, it's pretty situational and depends on the person and the relationship, but in general with interpersonal stuff that i have dobuts over, i try to not take any action immediately and instead …

It is different for me too. One is an apology, and the other one feels more just expressing guilt or absorbing responsibility to some degree. At least for my DA ex, I knew there was no ill intent in m…

I had something kinda similar happen recently, and I totally understand why you're hurt over it! I can't even imagine that situation, honestly. Mine was different (and still is) because we met online …

Fair play, I’m so happy for you. I’m also a sysadmin with decade of experience with Win, Mac and Linux, and have been helping out my company with devops stuff every opportunity I get (pipelines, ter…

With NixOs you can deploy all your services as systemd services. Systemd offers the same isolation options as docker (even more I think). The only annoyance that I experienced with NixOs is that it’s …

While terraform/opentofu isn't a crazy difficult skill to learn, I'd still prefer tools that are more generalised than just MS, mainly because: * it's easier to find people that have that skill * it'…

" I just see a completely different thing on Reddit but when I read the teachings it's so simple lol." Honeybunch, if it was SOOO simple, you and most everyone else on reddit would have their mill…

There is no such thing as “the smartest business to start today”. There are trends, opportunities, needs and problems to solve. It’s difficult to future-proof businesses these days with the constant v…

I was diagnosed three years ago with ADHD. My wife, who is a psychotherapist, speculated for a long time and then gave me an assessment, which was then confirmed with a psychiatrist. But I've been run…

200+ products, mostly hardware or hardware with software, and a dozen startups .. Great post.. so... Prove it. Make a sample, prove it works. I've been using 3D printing since they were fragile potat…

Hey thanks for posting this. I started my entrepreneurship journey around an year back and the struggle to focus and manage distractions is so real. I have not been diagnosed officially but have read …

Umm.. I think your % is off and there are way more lurkers here and some real people out there. I thought about doing posts, a podcast, or a book as an entrepreneur about how hard it was for years ru…

Helm. Kube manifests are already simple enough, I don't understand how abstracting them even further is a good idea. There are a ton of community chats and most of them that I came across were not gre…

Thank you for sharing your experience 💜 Although I am feeling frustrated and have some resentment towards this person and this probably comes across in my post, I also do have compassion for him. He…

You are such a sweetheart and I'm so proud of you for this. It will be hard. You will worry about them seeing as you have such a big heart but good on you for choosing yourself in a difficult situatio…

Setting boundaries is not easy technically you should have learned boundaries as a child. Therefore you are certainly neglected. That's a pretty difficult thing to deal with.

Exactly! No context. I know it's becoming more difficult to approach eachother in the wild. But things changed so fast for this generation , and how dating app works is so unnatural to me my brain can…

Yes my own experiences, but also if you read comments/posts not just from Reddit, you will find very common themes across the board with relationships with avoidants, the truth is it’s very difficult …

Working with dismissive avoidance is not difficult at the end of the road — I mean, it is but also isn’t — you just jump. That’s it. It takes courage, and will feel horrible until one day it doesn’t. …

I don’t think there’s any reason to leave if you’re happy. More just don’t expect things to be perfect. Recovery is a journey. I had anxious attachment and consider myself secure now, but not eating o…