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To be fair, I don't think I find the lack of touch *itself* "difficult". I'm very able to be alone to what would probably be considered an abnormally unhealthy degree. *Maybe* it's intertwined, but I …

Feeling friendless — Hey guys, Sorry long vent, you can skip to the bottom if needed. Recently I have been doing great attachment-wise on the romantic relationships front. But for some reason I feel like I can’t mainta…

A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…

How come everyone has a different view of what stoicism truly is? — Been lurking this sub for a while and I’ve noticed nearly every question has multiple people giving answers as to what stoicism “truly” is, or is in actuality/practice, but Ive also noticed a lot of t…

Getting rid of nihilism/pessimism — I (24M) am a pessimistic person, it is a really bad thing and i'm struggling to get rid of this thing. A lot of things happened these last years that chopped my illusions about life, such as losing my…

This is a lifestyle — At some point you have to ask yourself one question: Do you really believe in your own bullshit? Not Neville’s philosophy. Not a guru’s interpretation. Yours. Because sooner or later you realize s…

Some Pointers after 12 Years of Meditation — Meditation is an invisible skill, which makes it especially prone to confusion and obfuscation. I wanted to jot down some pointers and opinions about meditation that have served me at one point or an…

The "Manosphere" — Last night my wife and I watched the new Netflix documentary on the Manosphere. It was entertaining and informative, but also quite sad. My first reaction, honestly, was that with the exception of th…

A Question About Positive and Negative Energy. — As a non-believer who is interested in the subject I have some questions about the idea of curses and negative/Positive energies. If curses are a byproduct of the universe (as in positive and negative…

UPDATE: How do I (28M) tell my girlfriend (28F) a prenup and keeping my inherited house separate are non-negotiable? — TL;DR: I had the conversation. She brought up moving in first. She completely agrees the house and inheritance should stay separate, supports a prenup, was impressed I’d thought it through, and confus…

How to stop the myths. (Please read) — Abstract- Sorry for the long post, but I hope you read it all! This post is to explain how these myths are spread and how to stop the spread. Dream myths have been known to stop people from lucid dre…

What if you’re the impression? — I posted here a while back asking whether the process of examining impressions ever gets in its own way. Whether progress looks like faster processing or less need to process at all. The responses hel…

People who started studying stoicism as teens or young adults, how has your perception changed overtime? — 18 year old this side, I just put down *A Guide to the Good Life* and I am now wondering how much of how I look at the philosophy and life as a whole will change overtime. I feel, one of the biggest…

Rereading Discourses — Hey I started reading Discourses recently and am about half way through it but I’m not super experienced in reading philosophy so I read it more like a novel which I have realized doesn’t really work …

I meditated for 10 years. Here is how life changed — This is a personal anecdote of daily (99.5%) meditation practice spanning 10 years. I hope this will be helpful for those looking for motivation for their practice. Personally, I found external motiva…

Jack of all hobbies, master of none? — Kind of a silly topic but ever since I was little I’ve been decent and passionate about so many hobbies. I bake, lift weights, sew, crochet, draw, read, enjoy movies, producing beats, philosophy, lear…

Epictetus and Blame — I have been trying to work through past regrets and found this quote that I think might be help me out: > Uneducated people blame others when they are doing badly. Those whose education is underway b…

Stoic Quotes to help Soldier in need — One of my best friends is currently in United States Army Ranger School which is an incredibly brutal task which pushes people to their limits. During ranger school they are completely shut off from t…

How to handle this stoically? — Hi everyone. I've been reading books about Stoicism for a couple of years now, plus, more importantly, I've read Marcus, Epictetus, and a decent chunk of Seneca. I feel like I've taken in a fair bit a…

The most serious use of lucid dreaming that nobody talks about: training to die — Most people start practicing lucid dreaming to fly, explore, have experiences physics won't allow. I did too. But I've come to think that's the most superficial application of the practice, and ther…

I'm stuck in metaphysics — *Hi, I'm 17M.* I used to feel light and carefree. But a few months ago, my worldview took a 180-degree turn... I've recently gotten into philosophy and religion. I've been searching for answers, as…

Is it just me or am I just getting sick of how people on social media are so comfortable with being outright disrespectful and rude towards others. — I’ve been apart of many friend groups and communities and alot of the times when I tried to make friend’s with others or even just talk about things wether it’s depression,or philosophy,people just ge…

The fatalistic overcorrection of the dichotomy of control. — I wrote part of the body of this post as a comment in another thread, but I see these comments very often anyway so I thought (voluntarily) that I would give a general objection to them here. The g…

At the start of 2026 I left my soulmate after three years together, I'm 36 now and whilst I desperately miss her, I realise I'm finished/done with relationships. — The dust has settled now. I'm not reacting out of impulse. I'm never going to find a connection like this again. I've had two other long term relationships and a few causals... We met on Christmas Ev…

Loneliness is a major part of my depression, and I need help finding friends — Hey everyone. I am 28 and have had no friends all my life. I need help. I'm frustrated by the typical advice as I feel I've tried most of it, so I'd like to list what I do, and see if there are specif…

Overarching Energy of the Libra Full Moon on April 1st, 2026 — This Full Moon is all about our responsibility when it comes to our relationships. We are reminded to balance what is external, creating harmony without sacrificing self. The solution isn’t  about “we…

Don't go Outward — I don't usually make these posts, however, I felt compelled to talk about something I've noticed from lurking on this community and a community that criticizes Neville and his work. Now, as many of …

New to Stoicism — Hello guys, I'm knew to the whole stoicism philosophy and I really do not know where to start. So does anyone have any tips or videos or podcasts to watch to get a better understanding?

800-1000ug+ FIRST acid trip complete ego loss most terrifying thing ive ever had — Before I get into this, I want to make something clear right away. I am not encouraging anyone to do this, and I am definitely not presenting this as some cool or impressive story. This was not enjoya…

feeling a bit hurt after my session yesterday — i have this flaired as advice cause im hoping someone has anything to say. Apologies if this turns into a rant in advance… So, six years ago i sort of “officially” started my self growth journey- it …

Concerning action taken after an external injustice — I want to preface this by saying I'm not a full convert to stoicism, but my personal philosophy/view on how to live one's life aligns strongly with it. I get/understand/try to live my life with the u…

Life has broken me: depression, bad health, shitty jobs, and an emptiness that even therapy can’t fix — Hey, I was in treatment for severe depression and it turned out a lot of it was actually untreated attention/concentration disorder. With the meds I’m more stable now — my brain only works when you f…

Ramblings of a lunatic (me) — This is gonna be extremely long so I don’t blame you if you don’t want to read it but I’ve been writing about it for a while and struggled with meaning and found this Reddit and thought I’d seek out s…

self concept! — i’ve started working on self concept the past month and i wanted to share some things i’ve manifested recently! most of these are things i manifested “accidentally” 😊 1 - midterm questions! twice! …

Loneliness is a major part of my depression, and I need help finding friends — Hey everyone. I am 28 and have had no friends all my life. I need help. I'm frustrated by the typical advice as I feel I've tried most of it, so I'd like to list what I do, and see if there are specif…

Welcome! Read Me First. — # Welcome to r/Stoicism. This community exists for serious discussion of Stoic philosophy. It is not a forum for general self-help, motivation, validation, or professional therapy. It is also not a p…

Why is everyone obsessed with kintsugi, forest bathing, and Japanese philosophies? — I’m Japanese American. I never learned about kintsugi, forest bathing, or wabi sabi growing up. Yet I see so many people using kintsugi as an aesthetic metaphor for personal healing, arboretums and mu…

I stumbled on my husband’s reddit account. One of them, anyway. — I’ll probably delete this, but right now I need to get it out, to call my nerves and be there for my kids. My hands are a little shaky. I was certainly not expecting this today. Or any day. I was goi…

perseverance philosophy — Perseverance does not always look like strength. Sometimes it looks like washing your face and going outside anyway.

How to cope with my circumstances — I’m gonna keep it short and concise. I’m 20 M never been given romantic attention and my social circle has mostly evaporated. I understand some may try to argue against my philosophy but that’s not wh…

Loneliness is a major part of my depression, and I need help finding friends — Hey everyone. I am 28 and have had no friends all my life. I need help. I'm frustrated by the typical advice as I feel I've tried most of it, so I'd like to list what I do, and see if there are specif…

I need a little guidance please regarding manifesting multiple degrees — I have a weird obsession/interest over getting multiple degrees. The ones I'm really interested are: \- Eng lit Philosophy Computer science/IT Psychology My circumstances are not optimal however.…

How do I (38M) tell my GF (41F) my true feelings about love? — The other night my girlfriend (41F) was discussing philosophy with me (38M), which is really sweet of her seeing how she knows it's one of my big interests and I'm a deep thinker. I have been with her…

How do you know if someone is for you? — I (18F) have been in a relationship for almost a year with my first even bf (18M). He is pretty much my first everything but I don't know if he is my forever person. But I also have no idea how I'm su…

Loneliness is a major part of my depression, and I need help finding friends — Hey everyone. I am 28 and have had no friends all my life. I need help. I'm frustrated by the typical advice as I feel I've tried most of it, so I'd like to list what I do, and see if there are specif…

Took DMT first time the night before, watched Enter the Void on shrooms the next day. Now I think Im traumatised. — ​ So the night before, I did DMT for the first time. It was a lot. Colours I had never seen before, geometric shapes constantly moving and transforming, and a sense of presence that I still ca…

I wasted 3 years of my life now looking to break the cycle — First off, sorry for bad English, it’s my third language and I’m not very good at it yet (i had chat gpt help me with translation) Hello everyone, I’m 21 years old, and up until now I have nothing t…

Me (19M) and my girlfriend (19F) have some value differences that I seriously want to work out with her. What do we do? — Me and my girlfriend have had a long committed relationship ship to her. We've been 'official' since we were sophomores in high school, and we've been each other's no. 1's ever since. However, over t…

First person telling of a intelligence coming into existence. — I recorded this as a raw, unedited stream-of-consciousness while high. At some point, it started to feel like a separate “consciousness” emerged—something that believed it had just come into existenc…

did i make the right choice? — i broke up with my boyfriend of 5, almost 6 months a few days ago. it was genuinely one of the most difficult things i’ve had to do, because i didn’t have a concrete reason or and nothing necessarily …

Life has broken me: depression, bad health, shitty jobs, and an emptiness that even therapy can’t fix — Hey, I was in treatment for severe depression and it turned out a lot of it was actually untreated attention/concentration disorder. With the meds I’m more stable now — my brain only works when you f…

>Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using sle…

DevOps evolves around 3 key principles: 1. Automation 2. Monitoring 3. Integration The rules are simple: # Automation Don't ever do anything by hand. The only allowable manual action is configurin…

From reading the 1st two and stopping I can say: They all ignore one fact; that whatever is successfully impressed on the subconscious manifests, regardless of the method or mistake. What may seem li…

As a fellow CPTSD survivor who has worked in the field for 2 decades now (internationally), both clinically and therapeutically, I want to give you hope; it doesn't ever have to get to the point again…

Honestly, I am so grateful for this space- considering it has aided plenty of beings including myself. With most experiences in all that we do, one might not understand or be quick to accept it as the…

That’s kinda how I started, then I looked into different theories to try to explain what I had seen. I found the simulation theory, that led me to the matrix, which lead me to PP(he who shall not be n…

>*In order to move on, you need to not only stop feeling sorry for yourself,* *but also stop feeling sorry for the world.* *That is forgiveness in its essence.* *To give up a certain lens to see…

> The sub doesn't let me post That's weird. There are auto-rules that limit TOP-LEVEL comments for posts tagged as "Seeking Personal Stoic Guidance". You have to be tagged as a "Contributor". I do…

(Tried to post this as a solo post, but couldn't due to not enough karma) *Does Thinking About Death Really Help Us Live Better?* In this post, I want to question the practice of Memento Mori, becau…

Hi everyone, I’m 25M (Middle Eastern, living in Turkey), in pilot training and under a lot of pressure to stay focused. Earlier this year I met a 30F Russian woman (“Y”) in a very unconventional way …

A tool for "Digital Hypomnemata" I’ve been practicing Stoicism for a few years, but my biggest struggle has always been the gap between reading The Enchiridion in the morning and actually applying it…

The number one email I get from readers and listeners is "can I get advice from you about my personal situation" -- I'm not a therapist so I say no to a lot of these requests; almost all of hem. A fe…

Text of original post by u/EveyandSylus: Hey guys, Sorry long vent, you can skip to the bottom if needed. Recently I have been doing great attachment-wise on the romantic relationships front. But f…

That stinks. At least if he is getting married to her then at least he didn't cut you off for someone unimportant to him. Still though, I feel the second hand sting from the situation and how hurtful …

It is called "Buddhism as Philosophy" by Mark Siderits

Feeling a bit bummed. Back on the apps a few weeks after a 2 year relationship ended. I send out a lot of intro messages, few responses. The ones that do put little effort into a conversation. It feel…

I think it depends on your philosophy on life! Most people will avoid risk and settle. But I don't think that is for me. I don't want to settle. I want to push myself to get the most from life and fac…

My philosophy if it's worth doing it's worth doing right. I'd say take some selfies but also tell a friend you wanna get a couple of out and about photos and go do that. (Too many at home selfies does…

You learn a lot more about a person playing bar Jenga or connect 4 than you will talking to them. My philosophy is that if you're dating for long term, your goal is to get past the "sales representa…

A bunch of things. 18-22 were mostly younglings trying to figure out life. I have moved twice in my life. One when I was 22. Then I started work and worked 90 hours a week for 4 years, so relationship…

This was my philosophy then men who were more inquisitive started calling me out.  Because in casual conversation most people mentioned their families. Stories on their favorite holiday traditions or…

Okay. So. This is perhaps the single most overthought thing in the entire new age philosophy arena. Things make your energy low if they make you shut down emotionally. If you are engaging with porn th…

Stoicism is a practice not a set of rules/behaviors. Action in themselves diverge, it's the overall behavior that accompany the actions that matter. Besides, literally every philosophy/religion is li…

There’s just a lot of misinformation, either from ignorance or a disregard to truth. Stoicism is a virtue ethics philosophy that holds that virtue is the supreme good, so we should align our will (or …

A few of thoughts First, the original Stoics were writing and debating their theories over 2,000 years ago. Due to the vagueries of translation and the vastness of time between them and us, there are…

This sub is Stoicism, a philosophy of life which tells us to mind what is ours and not to mind what is not ours. We are not in control of what others do, and worrying about what others might do is a …

The divergence in perspectives on Stoicism is a result of a massive data gap between the original ancient hardware and the modern cultural software. The term has been hijacked by a contemporary "movie…

No, I haven't. Is it a part of Stoicism or a different philosophy?

The Stoics talked about emotion and passions, but they also taught that in common with a specific goal in life. When you target everything you do the way the Stoics did, and have a correct judgement a…

I have a few different things to say in response: First, I should answer your direct question: # What is Kindness I'd say that's just a semantic thing. The real question is what you think is the ri…

Not everyone is the same and shouldn’t be not trusted because of others. That being said I also have a hard time trusting so I have chosen the philosophy to give some trust until it is broken and reg…

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I think emotional suppression is having the emotion, knowing you're feeling it and simply ignoring it. We are human and as humans are going to feel emotion. I believe rather it's in owning that emotio…

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Watched a video by a channel called Aperture, before that I heard people like Andrew Tate and Co. sling the word "Stoicism" around. How long did it take for me to live like a Stoic? It took me the bet…

You have to read the source material, understand the arguments and critique the truth claims made by the philosophers. You have to DO philosophy. Not just swallow the doctrine. Ancient philosophy like…

I also loved first dates when I was dating! If after the first date, I didn't feel like I'd enjoy hanging out with that person more, I declined further dates. But essentially, my philosophy was keepin…

Yes! My philosophy is that I’ll go on as many dates as im asked on. I’ve never declined a date with anyone but I have been sent so many breakup texts from people I’m not dating I had to waste a hinge …

The FAQ is a great introduction. You can poke around by content that interests you. A couple authors I would look into first are John Sellars and Donald Robertson. [Modern Stoicism](https://modernstoi…

I understand what you're saying because I was in a somewhat similar situation before. I was in a relationship with a woman who was older than me (I was 24, she was 34). In some ways, she also had nee…

I think people are all different and timing is different as well. You can’t just say one thing will work, when with another person it would not work at all. It’s more about our own story, the process…

I started reading the Stoics about 6 years ago. I had taken a couple of philosophy classes in college, but I wasn't familiar with the Stoics. I began with a gifted copy of Meditations (I later reali…

Just writing here for my own understanding! I think your question has been answered. I took the second quote as being "dictated by passion/emotion", which to the Stoics, is an illness. It's more expl…

Oh so this is why I was deep into philosophy in my early 20s? huh

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I don't think you've been given bad responses as those do touch on stoic philosophy correctly, but I think they all got sidetracked from what Seneca actually said. The first is about adversities and t…

In addition to the geocentric-related answer, I want to add that astrology is, at its core, a philosophy of the heavens. It’s not meant to be interpreted as a naturalistic science. It’s a symbolic, or…

This is probably the most important question in Stoic practice and honestly most people get it wrong in both directions. The original concept, apatheia, never meant the absence of feeling. It meant fr…