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My arguments against manifestation — 1. **Maladaptive daydreaming proves that manifestation isn't real**; Manifestation doctrine teaches that what you focus on expands and manifests in your physical reality. Do not split hairs and try to…
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs? — My (FA) therapist and I (lol) may have noticed a pattern with my partner (DA); after an increased amount of quality time together (compared to our usual 1+ times per week), or increased amount of mess…
Share your startup - quarterly post — Share Your Startup - Q4 2023 [**r/startups**](https://www.reddit.com/r/startups/) **wants to hear what you're working on!** Tell us about your startup in a comment within this submission. Follow thi…
Need Guidance on Turning My Design Into a Functional Social Media Website — Hello everyone, I’ve been learning IT for the past few months, with the long-term goal of becoming a white-hat hacker. I also have a couple of years of experience in graphic design. However, when it …
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago. — I was reflecting and journaling on my past relationships, and taking full responsibility for past mistakes. I'm an FA so there were times when I thought I needed external validation to feel whole, and…
How does one go about creating these sorts of animations? — Sorry in advanced if this is a stupid question. I am such a noob when it comes to this sort of stuff. I came across this website ([https://animejs.com/](https://animejs.com/)) which has a really cool…
Old vs new client website, mine got rejected — So yeah, I recently created a new website for a client but it was rejected. Not sure why, they simply said they are "working on an update". I don't consider myself an expert by any regard, but w…
Old vs new client website, mine got rejected — So yeah, I recently created a new website for a client but it was rejected. Not sure why, they simply said they are "working on an update". I don't consider myself an expert by any regard, but with t…
Best Practice HTTP Status Code for Proxy-Level Content Validation Failure? — Working on an API gateway/proxy that sits in front of APIs. The proxy adds its own validation layer (toxicity, etc). I'm wrestling with an API design choice: when my **proxy's** validation rules bloc…
Bundle pricing and host suggestions — Sup y'all, I'll start by mentioning that I did read through the FAQs regarding pricing as a web developer. This post is regarding bundling and host selection. I recently worked with my brothe…
What web builders would you recommend in 2025 for simple websites? — **I**’m looking to build a few simple websites in and wanted to get recommendations on what the best web builders are at the moment. I’ve been working as a digital designer for over a decade but woul…
Cannot stay attracted to dating app matches — I've never been in a relationship but I've been working on myself a lot and trying to put myself out there to find love. And I've just noticed a pattern of mine. But I just keep losing interest or ge…
When does maximising space/reducing elements go too far? — I'm working on an eCommerce site at the moment, and when it comes to the product category pages, I've had some feedback from my senior to suggest that space needs to be used more efficiently. To name…
Is there a better way to create posts that actually match your brand? — As a solo builder, I’ve been working on a small idea I think might be useful — especially for startups and B2B teams trying to stay consistent with branded content on instagram. The problem: Creatin…
Meta won’t let you control impressions, so I trained an RL model to do it — One thing that always annoys me with Meta campaigns: you can’t just say “give me X impressions.” It’s all budget-based, and if you’re trying to hit specific visibility goals (like consistent daily del…
Why you should always schedule your job interviews in the early morning. — I got reminded today of a very important tip when you're setting up interviews. \>> Do not set up job interviews at the end of the work day. In short, there have been studies done on judges that sho…
Struggling to grow a small brand organically—what actually worked for you? — Hey everyone, I’ve been working on growing a small e-commerce brand for the past 8 months—nothing huge, just a niche lifestyle product I really believe in. I’ve been mostly focusing on Instagram and T…
How are unemployed designers managing financially right now? — I was laid off two months ago and have been in the job search grind since - applying, interviewing, and trying to stay hopeful. But I’ve also been feeling pretty stressed and anxious, especially as ti…
The algorithm doesn’t hate you — Started working with a TikTok shop client who thought they were ***shadowbanned*** and we reversed that in 60 days. Views were at less than 200 per video. Sales? Even worse. It dropped from 30k to be…
Best SEO Slack groups for networking? — Hey everyone — I’m looking for an active SEO-focused Slack community. Not just for learning, but mainly to connect with others in the industry and hopefully find remote work opportunities.If you're pa…
Best SEO Slack groups for networking? — Hey everyone — I’m looking for an active SEO-focused Slack community. Not just for learning, but mainly to connect with others in the industry and hopefully find remote work opportunities If you're …
Update on Our Journey to Export Pistachio Butter – Small Wins & Hard Lessons — Hey everyone, A few weeks ago I posted here about our family business in Gaziantep, Turkey — we produce high-quality pistachio butter and are looking to expand internationally. Just wanted to give a…
How to overcome lack of mobile experience? — I'm a mid-early senior product designer with over 5 years working on SaaS/Enterprise products. The issue is that they've all been for desktop. Quite a few roles i've been applying to have some need fo…
How do I put together a multi-product design system as a sole designer? — Hi all, my UX design journey has been chaotic but I suspect that’s normal. I was in visual/web design for about 8 years then 2 years ago I got my first UX role (after trying to pursue and study UX f…
Why am I losing keywords? — I'm a bit lost. For the past 6 months I have been working on improving the rank of my website. When I first started, I just left an agency that wasn't doing a great job. When I switch from them, they …
reddit seo tool for finding top-ranking posts to write better blogs based on popular keywords? — Would anyone be interested in a Reddit powered SEO tool that finds top ranking reddit posts that you can use to help you write blogs based on popular keywords? Currently working on it and seeing if t…
AI Generated Content - Is Anyone Still Using It? — Hi - I’m a Digital Marketing Manager at a marketing agency located in the UK. When ChatGPT came into play, we utilised it early on for generating SEO content and blogs - we hammered it, not really t…
Need an advise for my website — Hi there, I need your help because I’m struggling to get a higher ranking on Google for my website. I’m a Psychologist and Psychotherapist, and I have been working in a small city near Milan, Italy.si…
Is There A Way To Automated Internal Linking on Shopify (w/o having to pay a monthly fee for an app?) — As the title asks. I use an internal linking plugin on Wordpress that's free. However, I'm working on a friend's site for them and can't seem to find a free way to automate internal linking on Shopif…
Can you successfully use AI humanizers to improve SEO — When working with AI-generated content for SEO, it’s always a balancing act. On one hand, I want the content to be optimized with keywords and structure, but on the other, I don’t want it to come over…
Looking for Educational Resources — I have been getting into SEO recently and I consider myself a beginner. I have a basic understanding of keywords, and some front end SEO. Still working on backlinks. Where are your most recommended le…
Okay so marketing deadlines are just the worst right? — Okay so marketing deadlines are just the worst right? It's like you plan everything out, content calendar looking solid, then BAM design bottlenecks. Anyone else feel like waiting on graphics is alw…
Freelance in SEO or full-time remote job: Am I making a mistake by still applying? — Hey everyone, I’m at a bit of a crossroads and could really use your advice—even if it goes against what I’m currently thinking. Since I was 18 (I’m 20 now), I’ve been building websites just for fun…
Freelance in SEO or full-time remote job: Am I making a mistake by still applying? — Hey everyone, I’m at a bit of a crossroads and could really use your advice—even if it goes against what I’m currently thinking. Since I was 18 (I’m 20 now), I’ve been building websites just for fun…
Building My First B2C SaaS Product – Learning, Struggling, and Still Going — I’ve been working on my B2C SaaS app **Gamify** for a little over a week now. It’s a habit-tracking, gamified to-do list app — a mix of fun and structure I’ve always felt was missing in other tools. …
Memcached Docker Images (as small as 124 KB!) – Feedback Wanted — I wanted to share a project I’ve been working on: a **suite of Docker images for Memcached 1.6.38** that I’ve stripped down to the bare minimum—optimized specifically for **containerized environments*…
Looking for CAC/CPC benchmarks for a coffee e-commerce in the U.S. — Hi, I’m starting an online coffee e-commerce business in the U.S., selling both exotic and regular coffee bags. I’m trying to estimate how much I should invest to get started. Does anyone here know t…
We open-sourced internet’s largest incident response glossary with over 500+ terms — We just published a public glossary with **500+ terms** related to incident response, on-call, alerting, SLOs, postmortems, and more. I think this is perhaps the internet's largest glossary for incide…
AWS network automation — I find myself in a funny position to redo part of the network in AWS. We have two parts: one is newer and uses transit gateways that are centralized in a single account, the other is older and vpc pee…
Are you still using GBP posts as part of your local strategy? Curious how you approach content & competitor insights — I’ve been working on a side project around automating GBP content and understanding local competitor activity. I'm not here to promote anything, just to validate if the idea has legs. Curious how oth…
How did you find working in Avada? Would you charge more? — Im creating a site audit for a potential client about some SEO work. The last agency he was with builty a pretty site that doesnt and hasnt shown up anywhere in 4 years its been live. Were going to…
How to Wreck Your Career: a cautionary tale from someone who has 5 years of experience.. — Context:- I am a 31 year old UX designer with a masters degree in industrial design from one of the top design schools here in India. I have almost 6 years of experience on the paper of which I hav…
Should I redirect the sales? — This is not a rant/rave about my e-commerce journey as I expected a lot of turmoil and for e-commerce to not be all it was cracked up to be. This is actually witnessed by the shhear number of people …
Dreaming of Full Time Freelance Consulting in SaaS B2B (I will not promote) — Hi r/startups, I’m in the process of developing a consulting service designed specifically for startups, from Pre-Seed all the way to Series B. The idea is to offer a practical, hands-on partner for …
The "Perks" listed at the bottom of an ad for a *Senior* Product Design with 5 years of experience. — Stuff like this is why I read job ads throughly and I encourage all young job seekers to do the same. This tells me they are either hesitant to discuss benefits, or there are none to speak of and th…
As a DevOps Engineer, do I need to know databases? — The question pretty much. How important is it to know dbs to be a better DevOps Engineer? Mind you, I'm already a DevOps Engineer but there's barely anything I'm touching db related, or even networkin…
How do you deal with the spam? — I recently (4 weeks ago) started a shopify store in a niche market with my handmade products. Doing organic advertisement with product videos on tiktok, facebook, instagram and youtube. Generally spea…
What are the skills needed to manage a Shopify Plus account? — Some background: I've been a web designer/developer for 25 years. Spent 13 years as Senior Web Developer for a medium size corporation that manufactured consumer electronics, primarily working in the …
These links were super helpful in getting a bit of the basics down! I’m still working my way through them. Thanks!
Seems to be working fine! Have you joined before? Regardless, here's an alternative link: https://discord.gg/nzfZevtXMG
Just a few questions here - I'm new to lucid dreaming. I garden quite a bit, so I can grow Artemisia douglasiana and a few other helpful herbs and make a poultice or something. I usually don't rem…
a) law of assumption, not law of belief. And where did you get the other descriptions from? I've been on Neville sub for a while, literally noone describes the law in those words or speak in a spiritu…
I won’t lie, I’m working on improving myself strictly for myself, but there are those “what if” moments where I think that somehow me improving myself will win my ex back when that obviously isn’t the…
It's not my way unfortunately. I am still heartbroken 3 years on. I can't move on mentally. Physically I'm great going on dates, meeting new friends and working out 5 x a week.
Firstly congrats dude, that's awesome news. And secondly, sounds like both of you realized you had to do that deep work, and both were open AND available 6 months later... All these things have to ali…
It’s difficult when there is something you share with the person though, like children. You’re involved to some capacity and you can see how they are doing in all aspects of life - relationships, fina…
Any mentors out there willing to chat? I'm worried I'm digging myself into a hole working with a custom on-prem cloud solution. Anyone willing to chat, I'd be extremely grateful.
Anyone still posting on here? I drove my ex away with my insecure attachment style, looking back he kept putting in little effort and I felt as though I was trying very hard to change. I’m sure he wa…
Yeah, it's fucking hard. I don't think I'll ever get closure because she's never been the sort of person to really make an effort to give that to me. I obviously can't be inside her head and speak for…
Much better at dealing with my emotions. I think of her every hour and it's been 11 months. My birthday was 2 days back and she didn't wish me. Sucks how easily replaceable/forgettable iam ,did I not…
Fortunately I've taken my separation (and inevitable divorce) as an opportunity to quit drinking and make healthy lifestyle choices. I've been working really hard to practice mindfulness and radical …
Well I’m glad to see that it’s a lot easier than you thought it was going to be and that it will be easier than you expected to have to go through all the stuff that I was supposed to be working on to…
Honestly, I'm probably going to read and reread this comment all night long to try to get me through this. It seems like you are living my exact situation (but with the genders reversed), and you're w…
Unfortunately I find this reddit to be too toxic to have any kind of meaningful help to anyone without being trolled or attacked here for providing real legal advice. Most of the people here are just…
Omg I relate SO much to what you are saying. When my ex's affair was discovered he was remarkably cruel to me. He wasn't sure he wanted to continue in our marriage and refused to cut things off with h…
Wonderful information in the introduction. I would love to get some personal insight from people who are familiar with Astal Projection. I'll keep it as short as possible. I have recently discovered t…
I discovered that both statements work equally, it probably depends on how accustomed we are to the statement I think. Specifically how well we experience the meaning of the words we use. If we can us…
If that's how you want to look at it. I quit smoking this year after 15 years. It took constant "affirming" in my mind that I was no longer a smoker. Same with losing a ton of weight. I decided I was …
That was an instant example I was giving as of today. Well, on bigger stuff: getting into Harvard with shit gmat scores on a full ride scholarship (miraculously some rich dude donated to the school, a…
LOL I’m blocked from that sub but they miss the fact that manifestation is not working for them simply because they don’t believe it does. That proves it plenty. Why the incessant complaining-
Yup you’re the one I was trying to reply to on that post about the lottery. You think things should only look one way and can only be manifested in one way and that’s a fallacy and a limited belief. T…
You guys always say this😅😅. Didn’t I point out that there are many instances where your “assumptions” are not reflected in your reality? I don’t think manifestation is real whatsoever. I’m not compl…
It literally is, look at that essay you wrote. You’re overcomplicating things and applying 3D thinking to something that really has little to do with the 3D. The 3D is merely the result of all of this…
And you could have set goals, taken action and had every obstacle thrown your way to stop you even then. This has happened to many people, myself included. Covid is a great example of that unwelcome i…
You’re the only one I ever see mentioning coffee 😂I get you’re trying to be cute but I haven’t heard it once. I’m asking about *you*. Not anything thing in any sub. There are dozens of success storie…
I’ll take a crack at it Point 1: The answer is sm vs cm thought. Daydreaming is not focused with intent, the mind often wonders and you still feel it’s not true in the end or with emotions that are …
“If it’s isolating me, that would be my own doing” lol. You are brainwashed and in a cult. You sound exactly like the people in Jonestown did before they drank the kool aid. Cults have nothing to do w…
This has happened on two occasions now, where I would get premonitions of locations and I was in the setting. I remember in this quick premonition I saw red and green. Months later I realise the locat…
Thank you. I will ask the op to insert these links into her other post. They are a good addenda and are a beneficial part of the record. We may make her post a part of our index as well. It is a very…
Just found this sub and consider it a safe place. My mother is a narcisist and my father is just there. I suffer from complex-ptsd from emotional neglect, and verbal,emotional abuse. I just recently…
Even if you're doing the right steps and apply it the right way, and doing that daily, it will take more time if you're new and working on a tough first mission. The lion states 4 months. If you haven…
Thanks for all of the above. I can relate in that I may on occasion turn inward a bit when I’m super tapped out socially or like physically don’t have the reserves left, but I socially exhaust a lot l…
Thanks for the reply and guidance, which is welcomed. Yes, I'm actively working on my anxious behaviours as I'm fairly self-regulating. I'm just concerned that my DA partner isn't even self-aware 🫣
FA leaning more towards DA here, when I’m dating and we spend a lot of time together or talk/text a bunch I typically take time to myself after. It can be pretty overwhelming “dealing” w my partners i…
>I have had conversations with my partner over time about attachment styles, and they eventually determined that the descriptions of Avoidant Attachment sounds awfully familiar to them. They have star…
Agreed. The best and healthiest relationships to pursue as someone recovering from a disorganized attachment style is a slow burn. Recognizing everything you have in yourself is a tremendous accompl…
I’ve experienced all of the attachment styles in one way or another. What has been working for me is finding security in my friendships first. I’ve become so severely avoidant that im not pursuing a r…
For me a big part *is* (cause I’m still working on it)… not fearing losing myself in an attachment. Being able to establish clear boundaries early on, and keep to them even if I lose the other person…
I think it really depends on the partner and how willing they are to communicate. In my last relationship I was avoidant leaning secure and my partner was preoccupied. There were certain things I thou…
Also, not to be cheesy but working on self love and self confidence. Like, real confidence from doing shadow work and also awesome shit that you’re actually proud of (both take time but so worth it). …
I've been in therapy for over a year for various reasons, and for me the first thing I needed to work on was my self image. Understanding and accepting myself, building confidence and a stronger sense…
Or before going on a rant about an "avoidant discard" consider maybe someone just broke up with you because it wasn't working for them. People aren't obligated to stick around forever trying to for…
depends on who you're talking to. I recognize the part I play in my own suffering and I'm working on that, but I'm gonna bitch too.
Honestly it feels like gaslighting. The people who post here know the difference between a discard and things just not working out. there’s no reason to bring that up other than to make people feel gu…
What's the difference between rationalising a relationship into the ground and fleeing, and it 'just not working for them'? Because anyone can say 'it's just not working'. It's a catch all excuse. An…
Working on this :) Though unfortunately in my case, my avoidant ex was just a bad person and serial cheater. It's led to some passive blurring of the lines between him and avoidants in general in my h…
For me its making the same amount of money while spending less time working. I've found out i'm severely burned out by work and failed relationships are just symptoms of an unstable person. Besides …
'For one, if you’re saying he’s avoidant then there definitely was something you did that made him feel unsafe— you loved him and you wanted him to love you back.' No, no, no. Someone steps into a re…