going with the flow

I mean in terms of similar relationship goals, yes. But there's a lot of people who list looking for long-term because they are "open to it" but not necessarily really seeking it as they kind of know …

Does anyone else feel like they’re just repeating the same day? — Lately I feel like I’m just repeating the same day over and over． Nothing is really wrong. I just wake up, do what needs to be done, and then the day ends. But there’s this weird sense of emptiness …

Do you set "intentions"? — People often recommend going in with intentions/purposes for what you'd like to explore. I usually don't have expectations, my usual intent is to not go so hard as to make it completely unenjoyable.…

If we all got sent back to our "native" countries, how would you feel? — Asian American here. I often have these thoughts, or in my case "fantasies" of my family returning back to their native lands. I was born and raised in the US but my life has been a perpetual identity…

My (30M) girlfriend (29F) of 5 years confessed to a "minor drunken mistake" with a coworker. My brother just leaked her group chats, and the truth is making me sick. How do I move forward from this? — **Background:** My girlfriend "Amy" and I have been together for 5 years. Recently, I took a stressful promotion that requires long, unpredictable hours. I did this specifically to improve my financia…

Losing myself (21M) in this relationship (23F) — I wrote this down while just going with the flow. Sorry if it reads weird but I just need to get this out of my system. tl;dr Quick summary if you don't what to read every thing is that me and my Pa…

Single with no plans for Valentine’s Day. Broke AF and stretched my finances thin this paycheck til I get paid Wed, (bills and a spontaneous 3ish hr away concert), but should have enough for going out…

Going with the flow is just an excuse to not plan things. That makes me very anxious

So yeah I had a little bit of a freakout yesterday because I thought I had ruined things with my date[28F] because I mentioned that I was willing to delete my dating apps to focus only on her. I wasn…

Is this love or just the comfort of being chosen? I'm 23M working in Bangalore and have always been the type who never dated or had much experience with girls. To change that, I started attending soc…

I really enjoy talking to all different kinds of women, but man there's something really fun and relatable when talking to other divorced parents. I've been chatting with a VERY cute woman who lives i…

Oof I hope you can get some rest after all that. After I let a few guys absolutely destroy my life. My best friend turned me onto Shera seven and I let sprinkle sprinkle brainwash me for a few years…

I have no idea what they are, they don't identify themselves as anything. When it first started they said they are roughly "a collective thought form." When I asked if aliens exist they said, "sure, i…

Is this a new thing, or have I just not been paying attention? Every single profile Bumble has shown me in the past few days has "Open to seeing where things go" listed in their looking for. They sti…

We’re coming up in 3 months in a couple of weeks. 3 months of texting everyday, and seeing each other, and her profile is reads: just getting back into the dating pool after a ltr, going with the flow…

Some people have an avoidant attachment style. Some conversations also feel like they're too scripted or rigid, meaning the sender is almost outcome focused rather than just going with the flow. An…

I am not really sure it was just one sentence in her text but I think maybe it was too soon when she wasn’t quite ready for that kind of touching in the moment. There was nothing to indicate she didn’…

Matched with a guy (not a common thing for me but i am pan so it can happen ocasionally.) that liked me on a app. Cause he was a little cute. He was more uninteresting than people who only reply wit…

I relate to this more than I’d like to admit. Sometimes I can’t tell if it’s overthinking - or just pattern recognition I didn’t have before. At 25 it felt like “going with the flow.”Now it feels like…

Once I got my head clear I saw that people were using me and I was extremely people pleasing to the point of losing myself. Once I started standing up for myself and not going with the flow people fo…

I used to think it's I didn't feel human because I was treated like my basic human needs were unrealistic. I realize now it's more I feel separate because that was a huge part of the abuse for me. I w…

I wrote about this sorta the other day. I’m navigating this system as I go since this whole thing is new to me (using a matchmaker), and I want to be respectful of the matchmaker, “the process” and th…

How do you do that? I end up thinking about thinking, or making observations about objects around me just to acknowledge that I’m having a thought. What does it mean to observe your thoughts? I feel l…

I can't  agree with this approach more! I am interested in taoist wu wei which is basically what you have written above. Wu wei is about letting things unfold naturally, letting go and going with th…

I see. I bit like other ai's then I don't write my affirmation. I say them in my head. I only have one (for sc). It's 'all unfolds in my favour'. It's tied in with my interest in wu wei (the Taoist …

Oh I see. Wasn’t sure how that worked. I mean, one date a week is reasonable to me given that I’m a full-custody single parent, so it would be nice to find someone that feels once a week suffices. I m…

I feel this so deeply and you did such a good job stating what's happening with so many women. You are so correct that money is a factor and sometimes people might say it's not but we know and we feel…

Hi there, you sound like such an amazing woman. First and foremost always remember that and never let a partner make you feel any less than you are. I’m Asian. I’ve lived in Singapore, London, Melbo…

I'm in a similar situation. I'm almost 50 and started seeing a 40-year-old. I've mostly dated older too. So far, I noticed he's very energetic and fun. I like that. It feels like a change I needed. No…

I also agree as well! And, I don’t necessarily think he has hard expectations about it. He seems like he’s sort of going with the flow, but again men have brains I don’t quite understand. And to be fu…

Personally, I never, ever think anyone is obligated to have sex with me, regardless of what happened on the date, regardless of our history. It’s something that either both parties are super into doin…

I think at 5-6 dates in, you’re fine to keep it vague and say you just feel this is a fit for you. I totally understand why this isn’t working for you. I don’t do well with ambiguous plans. When I w…

So from my own experience, learning about all this definitely does cause some turbulence, and it comes from OVERTHINKING. I almost want to call it the "Free buffet effect"....or something lol. (And …

Let go and learn to have fun with it. Don't overthink it. That's my best advice for you. You two had sex, there was cuddles and pillow talk afterwards. That's a good thing. But expected typically a…

Yes exactly so much is coming to light as if just today. I’m just going with the flow 😮‍💨