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Relying on the narcissists' money while you are depressed from their abuse is the last circle of hell — tldr; if you can, be independent in any way without relying on the narcs. If your health isn't good, try to work in doable amounts but relying on them financially is really horrible. I've been unemp…
This is a support sub. Be kind to each other. — Almost everyone who comes here is here because they are going through a very painful and difficult time. We're not all at our best. If you go into someone's topic, remember that they came here askin…
Victim Blaming will not be tolerated — Hey all, Codependency can lead to a ton of behaviors and relationship styles that are less than healthy, but as we all strive to better ourselves and shed these old habits that no longer serve us, it…
Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …
Addressing Community Concerns: No Porn/Masturbation Addiction Posts and Self-Hate Posts + Revamped Subreddit Rules — Hello everyone. Over the past few months, I have noticed a significant number of you expressing dissatisfaction with the increasing frequency of posts related to NSFW/porn/masturbation addiction and …
Has anyone else gone from being dismissive avoidant to anxious preoccupied towards their therapist? — As I'm sitting here on a Friday night, missing my therapist despite literally meeting with her today, I'm reflecting on how 5 years ago, and really for the first 2/3 years of therapy I was a closed bo…
Bundle pricing and host suggestions — Sup y'all, I'll start by mentioning that I did read through the FAQs regarding pricing as a web developer. This post is regarding bundling and host selection. I recently worked with my brothe…
What web builders would you recommend in 2025 for simple websites? — **I**’m looking to build a few simple websites in and wanted to get recommendations on what the best web builders are at the moment. I’ve been working as a digital designer for over a decade but woul…
Announcement Regarding Community Safety — Dear SEO Members, We are reaching out to address a serious issue that affects the safety and well-being of our moderation team and our community as a whole. It has come to our attention that the CEO …
Memcached Docker Images (as small as 124 KB!) – Feedback Wanted — I wanted to share a project I’ve been working on: a **suite of Docker images for Memcached 1.6.38** that I’ve stripped down to the bare minimum—optimized specifically for **containerized environments*…
My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote — Hey All, A few months ago, I shared my story here (original Reddit post in comments) about starting an IT consultancy business in the Netherlands with a friend right after graduation. At that time, w…
How can I get credible backlinks for my mental health startup website? — Hey everyone, I'm building a mental health awareness and support platform called *Trusme*, and I'm trying to improve its SEO through quality backlinks. I'm not looking for spammy directories or paid…
Dreaming of Full Time Freelance Consulting in SaaS B2B (I will not promote) — Hi r/startups, I’m in the process of developing a consulting service designed specifically for startups, from Pre-Seed all the way to Series B. The idea is to offer a practical, hands-on partner for …
Is it a good idea to start an India-based agency offering social media services (graphic design, video editing, creative work) exclusively for foreign clients due to better dollar parity? — I’ve been thinking of starting a social media service agency based in India, focusing only on international clients (especially from the US/UK). The idea is to offer services like graphic designing, v…
Thoughts on an image sharing tool with link permissions? (i will not promote) — **Looking for feedback: Tool for sharing images securely with permissioned domains (like DocSend, but mainly for images)** Hey r/startups, I’m working on validating an idea and would love your thoug…
From Rejection to Redemption: How I Broke Into DevOps — Guys, I'm here sitting on my back yard on a beautiful Saturday and I am about to sign an offer letter with a Fortune 500 company — with a 25% salary increase. But just a few months ago, I was getting…
Thoughts on a platform that can give AI suggestions layered on top of product documentation (i will not promote) — **AI suggestions layered on top of product documentation** Hey r/startups, I’m exploring a product idea and would love to hear your thoughts. **The problem:** Many users land in product documenta…
Need Guidance for Amazon Systems/DevOps Engineer Interview (Cloud Support Background) — Hope you're all doing well. I'm currently working as a Cloud Support Engineer and have managed to land an interview with Amazon for a Systems/DevOps Engineer role. While I’m excited, I’m also feelin…
I designed an AI-powered path planner, but users lean toward heavy learning goals — need help rethinking the UX direction — Hi UXer! I’m a solo founder & designer, currently building a lightweight learning platform that uses AI to generate custom learning paths and micro flashcards. I designed it to support curious, self-…
Marketplace Connect changed 12000 Amazon inventory items to 0 ! Has this happened to anyone? I can't get help uploading a product list I downloaded. — What a nightmare! This experience has been devastating! The software is supposed to be safe... how on earth does it change all my inventory to 0 and no one is willing to help me fix it?? I have gone a…
How ENIs Work in AWS EKS — In AWS EKS, Elastic Network Interfaces (ENIs) play a critical role in how Pods get IP addresses and communicate over the network. So, what is an ENI? An ENI (Elastic Network Interface) is a virtual …
What would you be willing to pay for at your company? — Over the years, we’ve seen several licensing dramas and ongoing debates even on this sub — the latest being Redis becoming open source again. Someone once said: “I'm fine with companies making money …
I created a free WhatsApp chat for your site — After about a year, I finished my first service which I decided to make free. It's a chat widget — https://supportiko.com — that you can install on your website in 5 minutes using copy-paste. Visitors…
From IT Support to DevOps: How Can I Be Production-Ready? — Hey all, I've been working in IT support for 6 months and recently got into automation, which led me to explore DevOps. I've started building personal projects and put them up on nishdevops.org—would …
Can’t Access My Shopify Store Created with Google Login – Stuck in Login Loop, No Password Option — Hey everyone, I’m having a frustrating issue and hoping someone here can help. I created my Shopify store using the “Continue with Google” option with my Gmail so I didn’t set a password because Goog…
Jobsites to lookout for as a Product Designer. Need help. — I'm currently in the lookout for a job change and I would like to know if there are any specific sites/channels/spaces/groups to get a job alerts. I'm aware of fee and actively on top of it, but I cou…
I need you advise am i a UX Jnr Midwieght or more? — **Hi everyone, I need some advice.** I’m currently a Junior UX Designer (30years old) in the UK at one of the top for new broadcasting companies such a Sky BBC ITV etc. **A bit about my background:*…
I built a VSCode extension that shows array sizes directly in your code—would love feedback from other devs! — Hey everyone! I’ve been working on a VSCode extension called **Array Size Extension**, and I wanted to share it with you all to get some feedback or maybe help out others who run into the same proble…
How do you handle tracking updates + international shipping transparency in Shopify? — One challenge we’ve been facing is managing customer expectations when it comes to international shipping, especially when multiple carriers are involved (like packages moving from 4PX → USPS, or YunE…
Looking for theme suggestions for an online bookstore — I’m looking for themes that can help support the expansion of my store. At the moment, I’m using Dawn which has worked over the past 2 years. For context, I run an online bookstore. At the moment, I h…
[Terraform vs. Bicep] — Is Terraform Still a Safe Bet Post-IBM? — **TL;DR:** We're 99% Azure and choosing between Bicep and Terraform for IaC. Bicep fits the stack, but Terraform offers flexibility (especially if we acquire orgs using AWS). With IBM buying HashiCorp…
Do I upgrade WP or PHP first? — Hello, I’m helping someone who has an out of date site: Wordpress 5.3.18 PHP: 7.2 It’s using a very simple theme (also outdated and no longer supported.) The site owner has full access to their host…
Payment Processing to use for my online storefront, USA — Located in the USA trying to add a payment processing on my *online* storefront. I can't use shopify payments, and I don't see stripe under the listing I signed up for "Airwallex" but just received…
SEO Optimized Posts — Greetings fellow members, Hope you're doing well. What are the best practices and key methods to follow and incorporate in a WordPress post that is fully or nearly SEO optimized? Your support is gre…
Is this a new-ish policy: Payouts released when orders fulfilled? — Hi all. I noticed a stack of money in my 'to be paid' payouts section. It ought to have been scheduled for Wednesday, but hasn't been as yet. I spoke to Shopify support and asked what was going on.…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
TransferForge – Convert Oxygen Classic to Oxygen 6 Without Rebuilding — Hey builders, We've been working on a tool called **TransferForge** to solve one of the biggest headaches in our community: migrating from **Oxygen Classic (4.x)** to **Oxygen 6**. As you know, O6 …
Shopify Support is the absolute WORST — I have had issues with payouts- as in first they disable my payouts for verifaction then I get an email saying everything is okay and then within hours without no communication or email, I´ve checked …
How to actually contact support? Phone number is dead, Chatbot is...dead? — I'm trying to contact support on behalf of a fortune 500 company to regain access to some of our shops that because of turnover and neglect (thanks Covid) we've lost admin access to. Yes, we should h…
My shipping options are all sorts of messed up — I have the shipstation for woocommerce plugin activated and setup for my website. On my shipstation account, I have selected that I only want to use USPS as my carrier. On my website however, it shows…
Warning: Aggressive Tactics from Paperstack – A Cautionary Tale for Store owners seeking funding — Hey fellow builders, I want to share our recent experience with [Paperstack](https://paperstack.ai/), an e-commerce financing provider, to caution others who might be considering their services. We …
LogWhisperer – AI-powered log summarizer that runs locally (no OpenAI keys, no cloud) — I built an open-source CLI tool called **LogWhisperer** that uses a local LLM to summarize Linux system logs into human-readable summaries. It’s useful for triaging noisy logs, quick postmortems, or j…
Do you run specific Creatives for prespecting vs. Retention vs. Retargetting — I am about to create different campaigns to target different cohorts or audiences based on past purchases or Ad to carts... etc and i am wondering if I should make different ads creatives for each gro…
How hard is it really to raise money as a startup in Italy? Looking for real stories & insights - I will not promote — I’ve been working in the Italian startup ecosystem for several years — supporting early-stage founders and helping navigate the (often messy) fundraising landscape. From what I see, there’s a mix of …
Freemium from day one, free trial, or free for first N users? — Hi all, I am building a productivity app where you can track anything from habits (e.g. Meditate on frequency basis) to events (e.g. Social Dance/Clubbing) to build routines and track what matters to…
2.5 million in fraudulent orders — I have a huge problem and Shopify has mentioned they cannot help and do not give refunds once processed. They insist there is no support phone number and can only discuss the matter via chat. My orde…
Theme Suggestions- simple, visual oriented, for events/non-profit — Hello! I run a small nonprofit that produces low or no cost music shows for the community. Part of our mission is to be as supportive as possible to the creatives "on both sides of the stage"... So w…
Seeking a low-maintenance frontend/CMS stack for modernizing 10+ year old sites — Hi all, I’m looking for advice on a conservative, low-maintenance frontend and CMS stack for modernizing a couple of old but still functional client sites. **Background:** I’ve got two long-lived s…
MySQL Database Quota Reached - Clean database — Hey everyone, I’m currently hosting several websites on SiteGround’s GoGeek plan which comes with 40 GB of web space. Most of my websites use between 1–3 GB, with one around 5.3 GB. However, one of m…
Need recommendations : TMS or similar solution for a GatsbyJS site — Our GatsbyJS website (in the works to be migrated soon-ish) is partially translated into 5 languages (French, Spanish, German, Japanese, Mandarin) with just a few pages being translated into 5 other l…
>Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using sle…
This was so helpful to me. I’d be interested to learn more about the potential effects of a parent who was always physically present, but whose emotional availability varied to extremes for the first …
I feel that. Torn away from the ex after two years? Fine. Not having the kids as constants in my life? JFC shoot me. Blessedly they still want to stay close and their dad fully supports that. I canno…
I'm curious reading through your last link. It says that the 5th dimension is likely a micro dimension that we cannot perceive or interact with, and even then its existence is not even proven. So how …
Hey, I am an overconfident twat that lacks any real creativity. I tend to just jump in on anything to feel included . Sometimes it's confusing cause I don't even understand what I'm trying to shit on.…
Because thats not how relationships work. You can’t solely be thinking of whats best for you. If I date someone yet kept myself before them all the time, that relationship would probably not last very…
I am a 40yo male with a partner who experienced emotional neglect. How can I be a better support person for her without sacrificing my own mental health? We have been together 5 years and we still br…
Early stages right now myself. My wife just asked me to fill out divorce paperwork in the end text she said that the mortgage went up. I still have s string urge to try to financially support her ev…
Oof. I feel that... I think what's worse is I know I *could* have, and it would have helped save my marriage. But to do it now, without the support of the one person I thought I could rely on to help…
I have not been public-facing but generally when people come to me with issues I take care of them. This was due to complaints about a certain comment that made people feel unsafe. It's important a co…
So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…
Thank you for sharing this 🙏 I have a follow up question if anyone could help answer. I've been trying to heal from this, and I want to be able to share my journey with friends and extended support n…
Try to find therapy for yourself and also if you can for your child, try to reach out for support yourself with all this, you don't have to go it alone.
From my experience the way he described it was the confusing part, especially considering the dozen translations there are of this book. Personally I think that a few things he is not right about w…
I did notice there are occasional “I am an abuser/racist/sexist” posts nowadays, although more time will be needed to observe and decide whether a rule about that will be necessary because as of now, …
1. That doesnt disprove anything. It just means it may be more difficult. That's like saying mindfulness doesn't work because some people have ADHD. 2. Decent point but keep in mind some scientist …
I think this might be part of the process of healing, and as such support the OP in that regard to move them onto the next phase. However, I also agree that nobody is qualified to give you the advice …
I believe there might be a sixth sense of sorts. Gut feeling or whatever you want to call it. I've had it too. If anything it's further proof supporting this sub. The SM is maybe operating on a qua…
\>Daydreams and dreams serve a similar function. Neither involve looping a specific scene. Both involve a sort of mind wandering. Except one you are unconscious and the other you are awake. So I disag…
Fair question - the way I see it, victim blaming = "this is actually your fault" but victim mentality = "the way you are approaching this/life is hurting you/holding you back" ~~~as long as the commen…
I think taking personal time can come from different motivations. Securely attached people love their own time too, especially if they’re more introverted and have hobbies that require undivided atten…
Now THIS is the kind of conversation we need to be having. As a fearful avoidant who leans both anxious and dismissive avoidant I have to say I love this sub but I’m getting tired of the victimhood co…
Right. It’s starting to feel like a circle jerk (that I am definitely a part of). I think people get confused because of the cognitive dissonance of them being caring and love bombing and then neglect…
You don't go up to a mountain and meditate to heal your attachment wounds, then come down and jump into a healthy relationship. That isn't how the human nervous system works. Healing happens in relat…
Love the question!! You don’t need a relationship to grow, that’s the beauty of it (you can but it will be slower, depending on what kind of partner you end up with) You could try to explore being mo…
ChatGPT has been my T lately haha, so I don't have attachment to it. And reddit and other communities are my support system I guess. I am a DA-leaning FA who has always felt a lot of self hatred and s…
I feel so seen. I had to take breaks from dating due to that built up resentment but also from sensitivity to rejection that I projected onto my worthiness. I’ve mostly dated FA in the past I felt l…
Rejection is the absolute worst. I also have rsd as well because of my ADHD and any lack of interest from my partner just sends me into deep panic. I've worked fairly hard myself in regulating these …
I understand. Glad you are working through those feelings. I hope I did not come off judgemental. I definitely don't think that your feelings are irrational (I might agree with the inappropriate part …
What you are describing is punishment. And while it’s understandable to a degree, it can also cross into territory that is incredibly toxic. For example, one situation that caused this “escalation” w…
It's very, very painful. I'm so sorry. I went through something similar 2 yrs ago. Couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, felt incredible low self-esteem and rejected. I never pegged him to ghost me, and we ha…
I've been in this exact situation when I was an FA in a LDR with another FA in another country. And our f2f time was very little like yours but we spoke daily, intensely and talked and had plans. I kn…
honestly, it's pretty situational and depends on the person and the relationship, but in general with interpersonal stuff that i have dobuts over, i try to not take any action immediately and instead …
He’s going to leave you. I’m sorry. I can guarantee this. He’s extremely immature, and you are trying to be his mother and his therapist. It will backfire on you spectacularly. He needs professional h…
So, you WANT them to hurt like you are? I understand people upset us, hurt, and disappoint us but seemingly wanting to see them in pain sends up a red flag for me. Are you getting help and support thr…
Being told or assumed that we don't have feelings. DAs do but we likely never had emotional support or it was inconsistent, our feelings were dismissed ("men don't show emotion) or when we did show …
My secure attachment style hasn't been enough to save me from the anxiety of meeting guys via dating apps since I had near-assaults with the last 3 I met (one picked me up and didn't put me down again…
It's actually not uncommon for stalkers to follow their targets when they move. It's advised to stay/move near support systems. This all happened to me 20 years ago and I did 13 years of therapy, whic…
Work on an observability team. I stood up grafana with influx, ran that for a few years, then we moved to a vendor. Grafana itself is pretty simple to run, it’s the backend data sources that are not…
Try mise https://mise.jdx.dev/ it's pretty good to keep tools and deps at a project level In theory it supports setting up variables and stuff like that, but I've found it lacking in that area.
Focus on showcasing your cloud support experience and how it relates to DevOps principles. Your background gives you a solid foundation in understanding cloud infrastructure, troubleshooting, and work…
My company is ready to pay reasonable price for the software we use and that provides value over FOSS ones. Unfortunately many companies go for crazy unrealistic pricing models and then complain that …
We pay for stability and support. If something breaks at 3 AM, I want to be able to call an actual human being, not search Stack Overflow
For my org, it’s basic economics at the end of the day. The cost of build (or rebuild) vs buy. Optimize for the lowest cost to meet the business need. When Elastic changed their licensing, our genera…
Not a direct solution to your issue, but we recently added Composer support to [RepoFlow](https://www.repoflow.io). If you're open to trying an alternative, we offer free plans for both self-hosted an…
argo's support on helm is more of a hack. i think flux does it better with helm support.
OpenTofu is a production ready fork of Terraform, supported by the Linux foundation. I’d probably just use that.
I've not used vitness, but it is intriguing and looks like it solves a lot of problems. What I've done in the past is move heavy usage tables to their own database instance/cluster. You need your app …
A lot of nearby cafes seem to use Square. I’ve personally used it for about 15 years, for a service company and separately for a retail company. I do all my own bookkeeping using Quickbooks Desktop …
Any large change can be broken down into a series of small changes. I’d spend more time at first supporting current practices and understanding why they work for the team, then you can start to come u…