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I hope this reframing makes it less frustrating to hear those kinds of "compliments". I think it makes sense to treat "you're a catch" or "you? Still single?" from friends, family, etc. as a social …
Pouncemonial: 7th Kill - Disciplined Trader — # Here's how I achieved my 7th mission! **Mission**: To become a disciplined trader **What I achieved**: Mastered stop loss and trading discipline **Background**: After my 6th kill, I was eager t…
The market is bad but employers really shouldn't do this — Within 6 months of time frame I've experienced: - An employer who preferred to go for an offshore option for cheaper salary after showering me with compliments. - An employer that had 6 stage interv…
"Love bombing" and anxious attachment — At tonight's Anxious Attachment Healing Group meeting, we read the following reading: **1. “Love bombing” and anxious attachment** “Love bombing” is a pattern of excessive, intense affection and at…
3 years in. Bro, it gets wild. — Okay, so a large part of this community seems to use SATS as a high-preparation, ritual method and yes it’s very powerful in that way. But you’re literally God. Why keep yourself so limited? Nevill…
Imposter syndrome? — I went to the therapist last Tuesday, and I have another session tomorrow. When I went, she asked me to tell her about myself and my family from ages 0 to 5 up until I turned 24. When I first started …
Pretty privilege success manifestation — I’m like one month into manifesting and I have multiple success stories already but the one that I love the most is about my self concept. JUST KEEP IN MIND, you absolutely DONT need to be like 100% …
Is my relationship doomed? I love him, but I’m so alone. — Hey everyone, I’m Lucy (F, late 20s) and I’ve been with my husband, Rick (M, late 20s) for about 8 years, married for 2. I know he cares about me and our family, and I see that he loves us. But latel…
Exercise for you! (Strength your manifestations + my success story) — You can use this exercise to strengthen your trust in yourself and your manifesting abilities. The goal of these small exercises is to give your mind the proof it needs… to show that you can manifest…
Idealization vs Devaluation: how it looked like for me — Tldr: Just read the Idealization and devaluation parts. ## Idealization * You're a king! * You sexy tiger, handsome god of a man * You're the best! * Gives gifts early on in the relationship * On…
She cheated after 14 years — This is my first ever post on Reddit and it’s a long one so apologies in advance for any formatting errors. I have been with my fiancé for 14 years, we have been engaged for the last 4. Our relations…
In love with my (26F) best friend (27M) and it’s killing me — Me and my best friend have only been besties for about 3-4 years, but we grew close extremely quickly. I initially didn’t find him attractive at all, and we were also not single at the time, but aft…
New relationship, slipping — I have started a new relationship with a guy and things are going really well. He’s sober and has worked the steps a couple of times which is really attractive to me since I’m also sober and a member …
New Manifestation Technique That Works TOO Well!!!! — Ever since I got my manifestation (I manifested my partner's parents to approve of our marriage), I kind of drifted away from consciously manifesting and only focusing on appearance changes (which are…
My boyfriend (23M) keeps asking me (23F) to change how I dress because of other men, and I don’t know how to handle it. — So me (23F) and my boyfriend (23M) have been together for about two years. When we first met, he actually liked the way I dressed and would compliment me. But once he started taking me more seriously,…
the therapist friend — Hi! I’ve always loved helping people and listening. I’ve always been told I’d be a good counselor or therapist and it’s one of my favorite compliments. But that being said, I’m dealing with some frien…
How I’ve helped myself the last 2 months — So after 5 years together, me (29M) and my now ex gf (28F) split up and it went very cordial and respectful to one another. I will say that she was the person in my life for the period we shared toget…
How to accept compliments? — I've been insecure my entire life and literally cannot take any sorts of compliments I've always been the quiet socially awkward kid in class that some treat nicely while some just make fun of and di…
I need advice about if I should stay or go. — I’ve been with my partner for 3 years. We have two kids and I’m currently post partum. He has cheated on me physically the whole first year of being together with a girl he made me be friends with an…
Comparing myself in my relationship 26F — My boyfriend and I are 27-M and 26-F and we have been together for 10 months now. At the start and maybe for the first 4-5 months, compliments were given tons and sex was had probably 2-3 times a week…
My (24F) boyfriend (26M) of 3 years is making me rethink the relationship. How do I navigate this? — My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We had 1 break up but found eachother back and been trying to make things work. Recently got into a fight where he commented a compliment on a next g…
Finally got the motivation to improve myself — I used to drag myself into a deep hole, full of self criticizm and avoidance. Due to a harsh childhood and several health problems and stress in university, I have made myself feel like the problem, w…
How do I F 23 go about ending a relationship with my boyfriend M 24 ? — TL: DR \- boyfriend used to be nice \- now he is lazy and cold \- doesn’t call me or update me on his day \- doesn’t try and make conversation with me \- won’t compliment me incase it gives me a …
The early signs and red-flags to look out for with a covert narcissist. — Hi all, I'm making a list of signs/traits of covert narcissism to be aware of, feel free to add to this. When the covert narcissist entered my life, I had no idea what I was looking at. I noticed …
Guys idk what to do — this might seem silly or stupid but I'm literally pouring out half of my thoughts.. I can't take this anymore.. where did i go wrong?.. after Covid struck I got fat like really fat.. I was 80 kgs then…
IDk what situation is this and what should I do about it. — Idk wtf m i doing. Joined my derma residency in a place 2500kms away from home didn't understand language. Had break-up in 2024 , was single since then, didn't even talk to any guy. Healing, crying …
I feel like an afterthought in my (26F) relationship with (34M) — I (26F) began seeing this guy (34M) about 2 months ago, but we met through work about 3 years ago. He invited me out with his friends one night and we've been hanging out ever since. Things have been…
Partner wouldn't stop asking for nudes then I sent one and lackluster response 50f and 58m — LDR for over a year. I've sent many spicy photos during that time and we are in a committed relationship though we won't meet in person until this year (different continents). After many times of h…
Why can't I manifest a boyfriend? It’s been 2 years of nothing — I’m honestly so stuck. I’ve been trying to manifest a relationship, but it feels like the opposite is happening. No guys have approached me in over 2 years.the frustrating part is that I’m pretty an…
Thought on boyfriend watching POV porn? — My boyfriend (25M) and I (24F) have a good sex life and a good relationship. I never have to doubt that he loves me and finds me sexy as he is constantly showering me with compliments and physical aff…
Anything in my chart that would point towards going into law for children’s rights? I’ve always felt I’ve needed to do something “bigger” — I know sun on mc is a big reason I feel pulled to have a bigger purpose for example. But when I was a kid I thought writing and film would be enough. As I’ve gotten older I’ve kinda realized that that…
My girlfriend (28F) and I (30F) started TikTok lives for money and it completely messed everything up — So this is messy and I feel like I’m losing perspective on what’s normal, so I need outside opinions. I’m a 30F and I’ve been with my girlfriend 28F for 3 years. Over a month ago, my girlfriend want…
my (f22) boyfriend (m25) tries to make me feel stupid any chance he gets — TL;DR I posted abt this before, my bf always tries to humble me, make me feel ugly or stupid it feels like. we have been dating for a year and a half and I remember when I met his friends and family…
How do I detach from a very complicated relationship with a person that has been in my life for 8 years? 19M and 18F — Me and this girl met in school and our history is very very complicated. We’ve been everything from best friends for three years, to then hating each other for a year. She told me she loved me when sh…
My GF (24F) of 2 years is a hopeless romantic and I (23M) am hopeless at being romantic. Please help save my relationship! — \*\*TL;DR; My partner says we are over unless I become more romantic, please help save us?:\*\*. I have been with my GF (24F) for just under 2 years now, both very in love, both desperate to stick it…
Partner cheated during pregnancy — So I’ve never posted on here before but have read so many stories and the support and advice on here is something I feel I need right now. So please help. Sorry it’s long.. I have been with my partn…
Talking with my mom who is extremely conventionally beautiful about looks — Hi, I’m 21F, Bengali American. Maybe not the right subreddit, but ever since I was a kid, whenever I expressed hatred about my appearance, my mom would just flat out ignore me and not acknowledge what…
I [M30] have lost my desire to have sex with my girlfriend [F21], why is this? — Well for starters, she is fairly innocent. She hasn't had that many partners. I have had many. I'm a lot older, and I've gone through phases of high sexual activity. I ended up going down that road an…
(26M) Not sure if a coworker (28F) sees me as just a friend or something more — (26M) Not sure if a coworker (28F) sees me as just a friend or something more I’m in a situation where I’ve built really high comfort with a girl, but I’m not sure how to move things forward. We tal…
Update after 1st date and loose communication styles...? — \---Updates--- So a moment ago, I checked Bumble and his account is now deleted....should I just assume this is a goner now? \----------------------- A couple days ago I posted the no response befo…
What is love bombing? — Im 23M and my partner is 26M. I had a talk with someone today and they said that what I was experiencing from him was considered "love bombing" but I dont really know what that is besides that it's co…
My (18F) boyfriend (18M) has no curiosity towards me, any advice? — I (18F) have been dating my boyfriend (18M) for almost 3 months. He has so many great qualities and shows his affection in many ways. He loves physical touch, hugs me, cuddles me, kisses me, he comp…
What should I do? — I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years. In the beginning, he was very affectionate, he gave me lots of compliments and had that look when he looked at me. Fast forward to now, he s…
When the fuck does it stop? Why do I do nothing but ruminate when I made the choice to leave the person I was in love with. — I was with my ex for 3 years and were very close friends for 6 prior to the relationship. I helped her with so many things in her life and was there for pretty much every big decision of her life for …
[18F] ending talking stage friend [18M] — I (18F) work a part time job while I’m in college and I have a coworker (18M) who is my coworker and is a senior in highschool. he’s worked there for almost a year, but a lil over a month ago added me…
I (20F) am mentally checked out of my relationship with my boyfriend (20M) and I’m not sure what to do. — Me (20F) and my boyfriend “David” (20M) have been together for almost a year now. When we met I had thought he was everything I wanted. I was used to very toxic relationships, and with him everything …
Trading my "Insecurity Armor" for a real connection with a guy (26M) who actually sees me (21/F) — I (**21/F**) have my first date this weekend with a guy (**26/M**) I met on TikTok about three weeks ago. He’s a professional chef, and honestly, the way he speaks to me feels like a foreign language …
I make my life worst — Im 17. I am dumb, no early childhood achievements, no achievements at all that are important, probably not any at all. Im a complete idiot, I can’t reason, analyze, follow instructions, common sense a…
Former “hot girl” that was used and coerced to the point of trauma - how do I fully heal? — This might come off as self absorbed or privileged to some people, but it has been a struggle for most of my life since I can remember. I am now a woman about to start my mid 20s, and up until this ve…
Former “hot girl” that was used and coerced to the point of trauma - how do I fully heal? — This might come off as self absorbed or privileged to some people, but it has been a struggle for most of my life since I can remember. I am now a woman about to start my mid 20s, and up until this ve…
Controlling parents — TW maybe abuse warning, SA mention, Self harm, what i consider as animal abuse, more of a vent.. Unfortunately, I'm a 24yr old stuck at her family's home because I can't afford to move out. I've be…
The depth of their reflections if you ask them about previous relationships, how they healed, what they want from a partner, relationship with parents… etc How they feel around children: if they’re …
This is truly the master list I've been recently confused by the "don't give compliments to you" part – why?? I've never experienced this prior to my recent relationship which I have now thankfully l…
Love bombing and future faking ( talking about moving in and marriage in the first weeks, gifts/ compliments upfront before they even know you if a big red flag 🚩secure people take their time and don…
Me (24F) and my boyfriend (24M) have been together for over five years, these last two long distance. We see each other once a month and I asked early on if we could text each other everyday - nothing…
I am in a long distance relationship with the most secure man I’ve ever met in my life, and he is soooo attractive because of it. I have felt the *calm* excited for the first time in my life and I am …
> The faux-closeness besides trauma dumping has been cuddly roleplay, because my autistic brain interprets that as ”real” because of the distance (and I’m starved for cuddling, in an innocent way, wit…
For me, awareness came first, repair later. I actually know the exact dates. I'm not sure what the exact trigger was though. Our situation has been stabilizing, as the youngest has gotten settled into…
Does anyone else compare their relationship now to the beginning — like the constant texting, the excitement, always wanting to be together, the compliments and reassurance? I have an anxious attachme…
I don't understand any of what helped you or you learned? Congratulations you walked away from someone who didn't want you. You also ignored 300 warming signs, you can tell someone's attachment style…
Text of original post by u/TheOceanTheSun: At tonight's Anxious Attachment Healing Group meeting, we read the following reading: **1. “Love bombing” and anxious attachment** “Love bombing” is a pat…
Over time, it does seem that the guy I am seeing is operating very differently from how I am used to. He is not really talkative but seems more to be about solution orientation. If there is something …
Im so confused. After our first date she agreed to a second but just wants to keep things friendly, no terms of endearment or things like that. Ok, I can try my best to keep things strictly friends. …
I am not the guy you're dating and I don't know the guy you're dating. However, I am a guy that doesn't usually give out physical compliments like the ones you mentioned. Even when I am attracted to…
The guy I’m seeing never compliments me either. One time I told him he was handsome and he responded: “and you are… handsy” 🤣 We both laughed pretty hard at that. But he has let me know on several …
There is definitely a way to unintentionally overdo the compliments where it can come off a bit weird. But you situation is quite the opposite. And you used the word "never" even after 5 dates AND aft…
I think you might be jumping to too many conclusions about being "personality pick" and not being attracted etc. >He has complimented my outfit and nail color, so it's not like he's immune to complim…
I think some people have a hard time giving compliments especially if they didn’t receive words of affirmation growing up.
At what point in the relationship do compliments on physical appearance start? Like when would you be okay with being called beautiful/handsome?
For me, immediately, because it’s true. 💅🏾 I’m also pretty heavy-handed with compliments since I like being sweet to/with whomever I’m dating.
Pretty immediately after we started dating, and he got more specific and open with his compliments over time.
My brother in Christ - >After our first date she agreed to a second but just wants to keep things friendly > sent a photo of myself from work today and got accused of fishing for compliments and t…
hi, I'm new here looking for advice. I haven't dated in a while but I started going to timeleft dinners to explore making new friends and maybe eventually look into dating by meeting friends of fri…
Update: A few days ago, I posted in the daily thread about the guy I’m seeing never complimenting my physical appearance. Users encouraged me to express my needs for more affirmation, so I brought it …
I didn’t give him an ultimatum. I told him that I noticed he doesn’t give me compliments on my looks, and that made me feel he wasn’t attracted to me. He replied “that’s not entirely true,” which isn’…
Hm yeah none of that really applies to this guy. Those signs weren’t there. Literally the only hunch I had was lack of compliments and a knowing that he’s more slow paced than me. But all of the physi…
It's a lie by omission. He knew how he felt and neglected to bring it up, preferring to let her say it first so he didn't have to feel bad/"be the bad guy." I think it's fine for OP to make that con…
It's hard to imagine it's looked based if you look like Lana del Ray. But another possibility could just be that he saw that as an out. You gave him something that he could use an excuse and just wen…
Hey fellow expressive girlies, this is just a reminder (to me as well 😜) to never let a man dim your shine! I am a talker! I’m a verbal processor with a good attitude, I’m gonna give people complimen…
Something to look forward to tomorrow. Go out, be around people - give compliments to strangers who need them. Buy yourself something special
Agree with this one! I appreciate a guy that compliments my sense of humor a lot more than a guy that compliments something about my appearance.
As a woman, not gonna give you the list. Just decide what you like about her and then mention it. Women much more enjoy personal compliments than ones that come out of your pocket as general things.
He counters it with compliments of how pretty, smart, sexy, and funny I am. But yeah. Agreed.
Holy shit! This post definitely resonates with me! I just learned today that I dissociate, particularly derealization, where my surroundings don't seem real, like I'm in a dream. I wonder if your link…
re love bombing- idk he seems to be saying normal sweet compliments here and there (youre beautiful, missed you, etc) , cuddling, good morning texts, flowers one day for no reason. he’s not saying any…
I'm so glad I don't fall for love bombing anymore. Anytime someone spends 3 hours on a video call with me or showers me with compliments before a 1st or even 3rd meeting, I externally smile and my int…
I agree with you Sammy. I send 5 comments a day on hinge, and have never once gotten a reply back. I do it on bumble as well. When my friend who is a girl made her bumble and got 50 likes in 1 hour, I…
Heartbreak usually consumes me and I count the days until one day I wake up and I've basically forgotten about it. Usually around three months (I haven't had a long relationship in almost a decade). I…
I gotta say, Ive never received more attention from women where I live before I shaved my beard and left the mustache lol I’ve gotten lots of compliments even from women I work with, and the amount of…
Single guy, early 40s , have had both committed and casual encounters ( no , not simultaneously). Tend to be asked these things by friends so chiming in. In respect of the term " emotional affair "…
I love this sub. The glow ups are amazing. The encouragement and compliments are amazing! Everyone just hypes everyone up. It’s very uplifting
Thanks for putting it this clearly. I thinks was a bit of a challenge in my last relationship. She once mentioned that I gave her compliments but would appreciate more. And I tried to increase it, and…
Hey OP! Judging from your OG post and many of your comments… I absolutely think this is a love language thing. You (like myself) are a words of affirmation (WOA) girly. And there’s nothing wrong with …
Thats a good way to start, I agree w your last line so much! I have no issues making new friends or approaching new people -- but if I find myself shooting my shot, I get tongue tied. Ill start with c…
I told this guy that he compliments his ex too much. He's not black. I'm not black. She is a black woman with beautiful hair, apparently. Some beautiful woman that made him The Affair Partner three ye…
This is the best advice!!!! Talk to everyone, everywhere. Many of us have social anxiety. You need to practice overcoming it. I am not saying strike up long conversations - just give compliments, comm…
1000% this. Ok I will admit I do not “approach” anyone. It is so rare I see someone out that I am into. But I basically talk to everyone out and about. This works well for a lot of reasons. I get f…
It’s still very, VERY early in my new relationship but I’m finding out that I really like doing the cutesy-wootsy thing with my boyfriend. It’s so nice being with someone who has compliments to spare,…
I get compliments on the way I dress all the time - just rarely by men my age/straight men. That said, this is definitely not a dress you put on just to go to target LOL
Approach Anxiety is a 100% fixable. I know this 'cause I personally fixed mine. But first, you need to understand **why you get it:** Your AA is a by-product of your conditioning growing up. As you r…