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Anxious attachment and "cooling off" read very differently in behavior — the tell is usually what happens when you reach out and get a slow response. With genuine cooling off: the energy comes back a…
How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …
Posting anonymously is now possible! — Considering the topic of this subreddit, we acknowledge that in some cases users may feel posting through their own accounts may be possibly problematic and obstructs safety to an extent. For those wh…
Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means) — I last posted a variation of this a little over 5 years ago. We're a little overdue for a repost. --- You know how every Uber rating is right on the verge of 5 stars unless something's particularly …
Donald Trump & the LOB — JM sub, It has been talked about Trump and the LOB a few times on this sub, and I wanted to remind you about how Donald Trump has used, and still uses the LOB in his favor. Recently, I've seen an in…
To the former LOAPorn folks here — Hi everyone! It's been about 3 months since me and my SP have been NC. It's quite a long story to retell it there, but we two got really close, and we were very happy with each other. However, due to…
Too Long on First Mission And Moving On — Hello Everyone I know I'll probably be banned for this so let me explain my story. I have been on my first mission for the last 8 months using the index training guide fully and it has been a massive …
Long road to dream job and instant healing. — Bestcub called me to write this, I hope it will be helpful to someone. A story like many others. After years of wandering around shitty loa and other stupid spheres, books and forums I finally start…
How is the job market right now for jobs in web/product design, ui ux, front end development, etc? — Hi all, I work in digital marketing, but am getting burnt out and am trying to learn web design and build a portfolio. Long story short, what I enjoy most about my current job in digital marketing has…
Sharing my learnings as a mid-seniority job seeker — I started job-hunting in April. After two weeks of sending applications and receiving zero feedback (only ghosting), I scheduled a few calls with my mentor. Based in Eastern Europe and looking for a f…
My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote — Hey All, A few months ago, I shared my story here (original Reddit post in comments) about starting an IT consultancy business in the Netherlands with a friend right after graduation. At that time, w…
How to Wreck Your Career: a cautionary tale from someone who has 5 years of experience.. — Context:- I am a 31 year old UX designer with a masters degree in industrial design from one of the top design schools here in India. I have almost 6 years of experience on the paper of which I hav…
Don't get distracted by lack of experience (I will not promote) — You know the biggest myth people buy into? That you need experience to succeed. It’s a trap - a story we tell ourselves to stay comfortable. Don’t get me wrong, experience is nice, but it’s not the…
To all the scrum masters/PMs: Would you use an AI that joins meetings, takes notes, and assigns tasks to the right teammate automatically? I will not promote — Hi! I’ve been thinking about a recurring pain I see in most teams — meetings generate lots of discussion and action items, but someone still has to take notes, track tasks, and figure out who shoul…
Take the leap - The average business is really bad at doing business. (I will not promote) — The bar for doing business, in my opinion, has never been lower. The average business is barely capable of functioning. About 3 weeks ago I put out an request to multiple suppliers. I needed large qua…
APPLYING FOR MERCHANT ID — Hey guys, just thought i’d drop in here to quickly as a question for the experienced folks here. I am looking to apply for MIDs but i am kind of stuck on what banks/ Mid providers will look at on my…
My experience winning a chargeback — Sharing my experience winning a chargeback recently. We specialize in gaming collectibles, and our store has been running online for 3ish years. We have had 2 chargebacks in that timeframe, and won bo…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
I have had enough for Klaviyo. Planning to switch to Omnisend — I have done my math: using Ominisend could save me $50 a month + SMS marketing. Does anyone have experience with Omnisend? A backstory: Klaviyo overcharged me and refused a refund. Their service is …
{Weekly Discussion} Google seems to be giving the thumbs up to Reddit's AI Scaled Machine Translations — Background - during an earnings call, Reddit said that google said thumbs up to the idea of publishing AI machine translated content - apparently something they've penalized others before. [Gagan Gho…
How do you inspect what actually changed in container images? (My Git-based approach) — Hey everyone, When working with CI images or debugging build issues, I often need to understand *exactly* what changed in a container layer - not just which files were added or removed, but what was …
High Margin Whitelabeled Stevia Product - looking for someone to take over — Hi all. Long story short I came in contact with a manufacturer in South America for a very, very good Stevia product that I use by myself and decided I wanted to try to sell in the states which I’ve w…
using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads — I recently led a Reddit content repurposing campaign that got over **4 million impressions** and **hundreds of new user signups** for my client. Here's exactly how I did it. # Why Reddit, and why use…
Marketing Digest: Google tests new AI mode outside Labs along with more features, ChatGPT introduces shopping features with personalized product recommendations, Google confirms search signals used to train Gemini AI — Hey guys! A new week means a fresh batch of marketing insights. Google’s keeping us on our toes as usual, and AI is busy finding new ways to take over the digital space. Let’s read: **SERP features /…
Manager vs. IC when recruiting soon? — Hi all! I have the opportunity and flexibility at my job right now to move up into a managerial role, and I get a lot of freedom in deciding what it looks like. E.g. I could oversee and manage designe…
Error: Chrome persistently redirecting to HTTPS for HTTP site, code 400, message Bad request version. Need proper solution please. — **code 400, message Bad request version ('...') You're accessing the development server over HTTPS, but it only supports HTTP.** student project with django backend, running on local development. …
Considering a move from big tech to a small company. Worth the risk? — I know this sub leans junior, but hoping to get some advice from senior folks. Especially people in Bay Area, NYC, or Seattle-type tech scenes. Tagging this as Job Search and not Senior Only because I…
Got hacked and now stuck in the verification process — So long story I got hacked due to a data breach. Which resulted in my sites password being taken down and about $6000 in fraudulent charges were purchased. I successfully refunded and cancelled those …
People who are making real money on Roblox, what do you do? — I watched a recent Starter Story video and saw these young guys are raking in MILLIONS developing games for Roblox. I had no idea this was happening. Has anyone else built a business on the platform…
Microsoft's interpretation of Journey Map vs Storyboard — Hey all I'm doing some Microsoft UX certification coursework and am puzzled on something that they don't seem to be clarifying very well. I know large companies may define parts / components of user c…
Finding Like Minded Business People — **TL/DR :** Looking for people who are stuck with unsure with what business they want to pursue and end up learning a little bit about all of them; that want to partner up to stay focused with each …
WooCommerce PayPal Payments Plugin issue — Hey I have a webshop with the Zephyr theme (version 8.35.2) and have installed WooCommerce (version 9.8.3) including some plugins. Now I would like to process my payments via PayPal (also with credi…
How can I profit from my endless rotating hobbies? — Hey all! I’m a 24 year old who works full time and has five million hobbies. Such as… physical art in most mediums, digital art, animation, multiple instruments, theater, crochet, story writing, singi…
Small Business Case Study: How We Grew Our Instagram & TikTok with an AI Social Media Assistant (No Ad Spend!) — **Post Body:** Hi everyone! I co-own a small business (a boutique cafe + online store) and wanted to share our experience using an **AI “social media assistant”** to grow our Instagram and TikTok. W…
Which Web builder should I use .. — Long Story. I wanted to have a website of my own sharing my experience(I am a VLSI Engineer). Started to learn basic html/css/js There was no motivation to learn felt very difficult to reproduce m…
Semrush 7 days free trial: how hard is it to avoid payment? — Hi, long story short: I'm applying for a new job and I really need to use some SEO tool to perform a case study. I will need to use it only for a week max, since I have to complete the case study in a…
CKA? Or EKS project? — Here's a bit of context as to why I feel like I need to get out of dodge ASAP... IT Management: "We need **more automation**! Nobody should be using User Data scripts." Me: \*Writes several Ansible…
My impressions of Lovable 2.0 — # My impressions of Lovable 2.0 with key features and upgrades I always had mixed feelings about Lovable. But given the amount of attention Lovable 2.0 has received over the past few weeks, I decided…
How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation? — Brief context: I've studied the law on and off for 6 years. Tried to manifest 2 old SP's with varying success, then eventually having them both try to contact me, but I realized that I was shooting so…
Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…
Attachment Theory & Free Will? — Dear all, I'm very intrigued by the relationship between attachment theory (&, I supposed, any psychological theory) & free-will. They seem to me to slightly conflict. Certainly, it is a difficult p…
New Rule. No grifting — To protect the community from scammers and grifters we have modified rule 1. To the “coaches”: 1. No posting from new accounts (little/no history or accounts created recently). 2. No talking about…
I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …
Feeling bad after dates? — I asked my friends for some advice regarding how to attempt to move my attachment style in a more secure direction, and one of them said that for them, going out on dates really helped them, especiall…
The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…
Detachment or deactivation? — Me (23M) and my ex (22F) broke up one month ago because she was feeling overwhelmed by some arguments we had due to changes in our lives (new place to live, new work). She's FA. I was secure for almos…
I had a breakthrough tonight! — Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another anxiously attached person. It didn't w…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations
Physical Reaction — I will try to keep the backstory short. I had not known anxious attachment was a thing or that one of my coworkers had become one of only a couple people I really felt a deep connection to, until a f…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
This is awesome. It'll be a good link in the sidebar when you get it how you want it. I don't know if this would be useful for everyone. I found it helpful to learn about early brain development …
Early brain development is such an important topic. I'll be sure to look through more of your post history especially because it's an area I haven't delved into very much. What would you want someone …
Okay, I'm making this my next project. Can someone who's an experienced AP share their coolest AP story? Did you go to another planet, move through time, or meet others on the astral plain? I really w…
I don't understand something, if that is a real thing and you are actually doing it, what prevents multiple people from meeting each other in "planes". Else it might just be the Brain telling itself a…
Astral projection was always a part of me even in my youngest of days. Falling asleep trying to wake myself up. With time and I must confess it Keeps perfecting in me..Decades ago I died and was defi…
I really like the Gene Kim's material, such as the Phoenix Project. I so enjoyed the entertaining story. It is interesting though, careful to navigate misinformation out there. DevOps is about acce…
Does anyone know where i can find this one story where a woman said she had a astral projection that lasted years and travelled(?) with her spirit guide? I remember that it was posted somewhere on red…
Reddit has been very clear that commercial apps like Apollo, RIF, etc will not be whitelisted on accessibility grounds. Seems like you’re the one not telling the whole story > “We’ve connected with …
This is so hard to do for me. It’s only been a week or so now but I would end my life if not for my 3 little kids. I can’t believe the woman I’m still in love with thinks so poorly of me she wanted to…
So my long story short.. yes I reached out after almost a year and not with any love or dating intentions. We started to reconnect and things started to happen for us again. We’ve been back to togethe…
Wonderful information in the introduction. I would love to get some personal insight from people who are familiar with Astal Projection. I'll keep it as short as possible. I have recently discovered t…
I totally agree that there is a general trend to project personal issues and give drastic advice, especially since... well, it's not your life. I particularly notice it when it comes to fear of a par…
Hi Ralumarian35 On Moonbeam's instructions, the mod team has decided to ban you for 4 months. From your post history, it is clear that you've read, thought about and understood the posts in the index…
How do we know "they" don't have any LOB success worth a damn ? (Grammar much ? ) Might have a little something to do with his lack of pouncemonials here for the past 4 years, and the little phras…
I've always liked that story. Thanks for posting it.
Read the OP’s story as well as MC’s response. https://www.reddit.com/r/JosephMurphy/s/BImBpJsUsd
Could you tell that story (what the situation was and how you did it)? It sounds interesting!
Hi, sorry for the long response but please bear with me. TLDR at the bottom. You are slightly correct, but drug addiction posts will also more than likely be removed. 1- There is actually another…
Congratulations, such an inspiring story!
You're on Year 10 of "building up", enough with bullshitting yourself. You have manifested anything real and never will. And you know it. For every balloon story you experience, you casually ignore 90…
It’s so funny how you act like you are an expert at this, but your profile tells a complete other story. A quick look at your profile shows someone who constantly asks for reassurance, needs help unde…
Thanks for pointing this out, really. I recently posted my recent success story on the LOA sub, you can check it out, I specifically mention that I do not know what made it happen (god ? My subconscio…
I had a quick glance at this on my break and will chip in more later, just by point 1 alone I see you haven’t grasped it, feeling is the secret indeed. But the feeling isn’t emotions. 2 That knowing…
Love these arguments. Point 1: There is a difference between hypnosis (true authentic feelings of experience of here and now of the desired outcome) and daydreaming. When you give your mind and your…
1. That doesnt disprove anything. It just means it may be more difficult. That's like saying mindfulness doesn't work because some people have ADHD. 2. Decent point but keep in mind some scientist …
You put yourself in the mindset to take inspired action and you achieved your goals. Sounds like manifestation to me. This sub encourages action. As for SP...I might get banned for saying this b…
[https://youtu.be/j0REex781ZU?si=xyY07PlK4drZFrUe](https://youtu.be/j0REex781ZU?si=xyY07PlK4drZFrUe) Skip to 12:15. I think this can help you. It's not an answer to your 1-6, there are some really gr…
Because none of this is real and your post history shows that you doubt all of this stuff
If you want to talk, I invite DMs but I'm only here sporadically. I'm a healed avoidant. I say that, but it's not black and white. I measure now for mostly secure. I still experience the initial resp…
Well you're right that something has changed for her, but who knows what it is, it's probably nothing you did. She is being a little disrespectful to you with that response, but you should give her th…
It was difficult untill last summer when I joined a men’s group, and got some feedback to my story… at the same time I was deeply committed to learning about avoidant’s and how they manage (or more to…
There are many factors to consider with regards to attachment styles, especially towards different people / situations a specific style might be more prominant. There is also a spectrum - mild, modera…
Exactly. OP is the one (yet another man) who hates women bc mommy didn't love him. This whole post is projection deluxe. Yet refuses to actually work on that (when so many of us do this SUPER painf…
So he's great when he's not triggered, but he gets triggered every couple of weeks. That's not a rare occurrence, it's very often. Replace this with any other issue whether attachment related or not…
Wow thank you for sharing your story, sorry you went through all that.
Thank you so much for sharing a success story. It reminds me why I am here and trying so hard in the first place. All I want is to feel safe and wanted when I'm with someone!
You have to give more time to build a rapport with people from the apps. People in the wild, you instantly see them in person without any competing preconceived notions, then you gradually get to k…
My secure attachment style hasn't been enough to save me from the anxiety of meeting guys via dating apps since I had near-assaults with the last 3 I met (one picked me up and didn't put me down again…
I had something kinda similar happen recently, and I totally understand why you're hurt over it! I can't even imagine that situation, honestly. Mine was different (and still is) because we met online …
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Fair play, I’m so happy for you. I’m also a sysadmin with decade of experience with Win, Mac and Linux, and have been helping out my company with devops stuff every opportunity I get (pipelines, ter…
I inflate the story point values of every task by about double usually, and don't do anything with those tasks that produce timestamps that contradict those story points. I also break projects down to…
Congrats, my guy. i have a similar story. I can attest to grit and putting into he work to learn the technologies and terms. To learn the DSO isn't a single technical stack. It's a locus where culture…
You need k8s and everything that implies (Docker), IAC via either Terraform or Pulumi, and a modern CI/CD system. Add on a coding language for Leetcode. Don't spend any time on Leetcode hards thou…
It's an interesting question with an interesting answer from someone more in the know than me. The main thing to point out is that during the rollback they are still delivering services on a signific…
There's all sorts of reasons why it might take that long, though I'd echo that 24 hours doesn't seem that long to me considering their scale of operations. Ignoring all of the technical side of thin…
Yep, Redshift observability is one of those things that should be easier, but ends up buried in system tables and tribal knowledge. Some practical tips that might help: 1. Build a lightweight monito…
Hey, Your future employer knows that you are fresh out of university, they know your work experience and should have set their expectations accordingly. Breathe, take your time relax and learn. That…
OP is a developer advocate for Spacelift FYI. You can see it littered in post history.
Brush up on the company, what they do, their market, etc. Why do you want to be there specifically. Have that answer solid. It’s really important to convince them you’ll like it and therefore try hard…