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I recently moved to a new country for work. I (30) have just started my career, and I matched with a man (38) who works at a local bank and has a very established career. We met 5 times over about 20 …
Why do I get upset when bad stuff happens to my partner and it doesn't even impact me? — I'm struggling to understand my pretty intense reactions to certain things. I don't know if attachment theory can help explain this part of my brain. For context: Me (38 F) and partner (44 M) have b…
What is this hair style called and how to mantain it? — [https://www.tiktok.com/@12pell/video/7275444596438584619?lang=en](https://www.tiktok.com/@12pell/video/7275444596438584619?lang=en) Is this style called side-swept? How do I tell the barber? Do I ne…
Quit therapy after 3 sessions—was I wrong? — I started going to therapy, and I had three sessions with her. I felt unvalidated. She kept nitpicking my reactions—the way I smile when I talk about something that is uncomfortable for me. So she sa…
anyone else have one panic attack and it changed you — six months later I am not out of it , most of my symptoms have gone away. Except maybe two or three remaining ones, a stiff neck, some nausea, and this constant act of recalling thoughts and constantl…
I wish someone would have warned me — I guess this could be tagged as progress, not really sure though… I’ve got a longer follow-up coming, but the TLDR is that I’ve suspected for months about my wife stepping out, but really confirmed i…
intimacy and being seen by boys makes me feel unsafe, ashamed, and out of control. Alcohol feels like the only way I can access connection, but it also leaves me feeling disgusted with myself afterwards. — I have a complicated relationship with boys and intimacy. I crave connection, attention, being desired, and feeling close to someone, but at the same time it makes me feel physically unsafe. Even the …
I feel overwhelmed at home and like I’m not improving, even though I’m trying — Lately I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed at home. The environment here feels chaotic, tense, and sometimes toxic. People are often impatient, and it feels like there’s no space to breathe. Yesterd…
I (36F) like this guy (42M) and think I messed up my chance, if I had one to begin with. — I've been going to this bar for a while with my best friend. Over the last several months, the bartender and I have developed this flirty dynamic that is giving me so much happiness. coming out of a r…
What are your thoughts on the Victorian ideal of masculinity? — Perhaps best captured by Rudyard Kipling’s If- and William Ernest Henley’s Invictus, the Victorian era’s ideal of masculinity was heavily inspired by stoicism, promoting self-discipline, self-reliance…
Has anyone ever had serotonin syndrome happen to them from mixing LSD and shrooms? — Hi there, this is my first post and it might a long one so I do apologise. I had a very strange experience a few nights ago with my sister, to give some context this was not my first time taking lsd…
Recently divorced M (44) not sure what I feel about a F friend (48) — Ok, so I divorced three months ago after a 25 year marriage. My ex-wife loved me, I loved her, no third person, but we're neurodivergent and had different love languages .. Shee neglected the couple r…
Shared flat I live in has horrible energy but I can’t get out. Any tips? — Hello everyone. I am a very spiritual and energy sensitive person. A few weeks ago I moved into a new shared flat, the old one had many maintenance issues and was unlivable despite the energy being go…
I couldn’t find a way out of it. Just time. For a while I made myself do 10 push ups every time I got thinking about them. Then tried a stiff slap. I just thought about them a little less each month. …
For real, it's like a never ending doctor's exam. Constant poking, prodding, and analysis that doesn't go anywhere and yet they think you're the odd one if you get irritated lmfao. >It feels like a c…
Physically the feeling is full body stiffness
When women have hinted to me on the apps that it’s time for me to take some initiative they’ve said things like ‘this is fun, let’s make a plan’, ‘that’s more of a first date conversation 🙈’, ‘I’m ha…
I’m sorry about the let down. Just curious what about the kiss made it not great? I dated a girl recently that had the stiffest lips while kissing and opened her eyes.
Sigh... I'm stupid. Delusional even. I guess with my 33rd birthday fast approaching, I'm naturally in a morose state thinking about my utter lack of success with romance. And somehow mulling about mis…
They hate kissing AND they're bad at it! My long-term (about 10 years), mid term (year and a half), and short term (few hooks ups) nex's all kissed the same way; stiff lips, mouth wide open, aggressi…
The way you described the flat matched very closely to 2 narcs I knew. Getting inside their heads a bit they in some way were wanting to get ahead in life. The apt represents a transition because th…
After two year their towels where stiff and crusty like.
I (34M) have been single (and touchless) my whole life and have no interest in anything casual (and never have - meaning, effectively, my entire life has been devoid of meaningful physical contact.) M…
My sleeping body feels stiff and a bit restricted? I easily feel vibrations, and fear pops up if I allow myself to keep relaxing. So it’s quite a conscious effort to not suddenly turn off the audio w…
oh my god, i never made the connection between the two but this makes so much sense. i experience the exact same thing, my upper body is so stiff and recently it has been causing me some pain. i also …
I had a chiropractor tell me my muscles in my neck and shoulders were unnaturally stiff. He recommended I see a sports therapist for a massage because that’s the only way I’ll find relief. I never wen…
I'm sorry, this is hard. Healing from burnout can take years. You are on the right path. All you need is to feel a little better about your choices. I am going to try to help you with that. Ok. Fi…
Get a [shiatsu butterfly massager pillow with heat](https://share.google/vysYV1vSpk8iAZOYr), I have linked the one I have. This is the only thing that finally got rid of the extreme tightness in my up…
do they have health issue like arthritis, knee/leg pain, joint stiffness, or chronic fatigue?
Japanese are indeed white adjacent which is why white people love them so much. Lots of narrow faced Japanese who are incels so they get into those capitalist fields to cope and push a lot of racist i…
And if you have to ask and he doesnt want to do it the next best thing is to stop the festivities, get dressed and say “this is disqualifying toots!” I actually have told them pretty much mid action o…
Just to do a D&C because I couldn’t stop bleeding they asked for 2k in addition to my 5k deductible and months later the anesthesiologist came for $600, doc said she’d save my IUD which she either di…
I'd say for normal people it's not conventional. I've never specifically heard of anyone I know paying their wife money for giving them a child. I think it's a fantastic idea though. So many women get…
So you can't forego child support, its a legal obligation to your child. You're financially obligated to feed clothe and care for your kids. You can't opt out of that without breaking the law and hone…
Four weeks ago, I got hit with that awful virus going around; coughing, severe congestion, body aches, a stiff neck, the works. And, got broken up with while I was going through that. Tomorro…
I tested this out with some "New Balance" shoes...I'm managing the pain of walking with severe hip arthritis. I get cortizone shots but sometimes the shots wear off before they will give me another o…
>We do not have to talk about the few cases of men being victimized According to [the paper](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10135558/) I linked earlier, "27% of men and over 32% of women ha…
Much was unintentional. When I turned 30 I actually wanted to kill myself because I couldn't live like that anymore. I also wrote a farewell letter to myself because I thought that no one else would b…
I'd say it depends on the situation, but it's something that's hard to accept to some. I've dumped someone once like that. I've tried to communicate, but everytime i've tried to talk about my feeling…
For me I think daily yoga, botox really helped my facial muscles from repeatedly frowning, or tensing up daily so I dont need to get it often anymore, like it trains your facial muscles to relax, and …
One time I AP'd and saw a man I didn't know but I felt a lot of love for him. So I went down to give him a hug and he just froze and stiffened up. Maybe a similar situation and he felt me and didn't s…
I agree - if it's the traditional kind of posed/staged/headshot style pro photography. In addition to the scam thing, it also just doesn't help me get any sense of who they are as a person. Those kind…
I'm going to be very blunt. DO NOT reach out. She cheated. Period. You need to accept the fact that the person you loved didn't exist because she's a CHEATER. People who love you don't cheat. SO…
I found i rarely get annoyed without reason. Usually there is a reason, it's just subconscious. Could be a few things going on, so context and some digging are important. For me, i think some people t…
Yes. I clench at night but somehow, don't grind. My orthodontist told me to wear my Invisalign less because of it. I don't know how I'd describe it. It seems to be a part of generally being tense an…
When I started I wasn't really sure if I believed it or not. After having had a full-blown (yet short) experience it completely changed my entire perspective. I know this is anecdotal and doesn't do m…
I'm struggling romantically with a girl I've seen a few times. She is a very sweet and thoughtful person, but to put it bluntly, she is very stale in bed/kissing. When we kiss, she has very stiff lips…
Alright, well- you have moon saturn conj- that is sadhe sati. Meaning you are born in permanent sadness so to speak. You are still rather young. Saturn matures with 29-30 woth its return. From that po…
If the entire mission is live streamed, the grays could do the funniest thing ever. But then again, they could just reveal themselves anytime, anywhere, but... It doesn't serve much purpose for the…
In my case, it’s very noticeable when I’m no longer in the physical body. While I’m trying to exit with awareness, I stay there relaxing and sensing the environment around me, like the air and the pla…
I’ve looked at myself in mirrors in lucid dreams many times, and mirrors show up pretty regularly for me. In very deep and dense dreams, I usually just look like myself. In some recurring dreams I’ve …
It goes from being difficult or impossible to bend, depending on the material, to having the firmness of a paper clip, or even less firm, that you can easily bend, twist and wrap before the 'window' c…
This. People in the spoon bending workshops are not using butane torches, nor are they being given gimmicked spoons or bendable pure silver spoons by the hundreds, nor using hand tools, these claims a…
My rem is very short and rythmic through the night. I wear a Hume band. I get tons of sleep disturbances from muscle spasms created by my neuro illness. Depending on their strength, i can sleep throug…
My physical body is stiff and i can't move and then I try to roll out and I should come out but then my body gets awake
Hello, friend. I have already posted twice... got side-tracked you might say on the way to writing this one, which is the stuff I initially thought I would post. Two parts... some anatomy/physiology r…
Disadvantages is having stressful dreams because for some reason I can’t always say “this is a dream it’s not that serious” I sometimes get angry sad cry for hours in my dreams and I wake up with ever…
The first "NC" my nmom actually started, because I "stressed her out too much"(Because I told her what day worked best for me to visit with my work schedule) Then she showed up at my house randomly a…
We have a new AI haircut feature on the discord, for this example style it says: Textured K-drama “comma” cut. Keep top \~3–4 inches with heavy layering (shorter inside, longer outside) to get that c…
A few people have also mentioned age regression and knowing his childhood it's on the list of possible explanations although it would not fully surprise me if it was just a texture thing because he do…
It could be a combination of his technique, the sex position, his mental state and/or personal health. This sounds weird but some people are too stiff/rigid during sex which can cause PE. For exampl…